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  1. I am entering the When I am an Old Woman I Shall Wear Purple stage; and, I'll tell you, the freedom of not-much-caring what folks think of me more than outweighs the admitted irritations of aching joints and sagging parts.
    14 points
  2. That when I found my feet after my life was turned upside down, those feet would walk with a new determination towards things I never would have done before. Not because I didn't want to do them, but because I would have convinced myself I shouldn't or couldn't because kids or money or whatever other bs people/society managed to make me think. Now I'm all... screw them. I have hikes to go on every day. I have a 10 day girl friends only trip to Curacao to go to. I have waters to swim in and mountains to walk and damned if I'm going to let my kids think they should wait to enjoy life be
    10 points
  3. I can't say I'm surprised by these things, but I'm definitely bummed that they happened to me -- The immutable effect of gravity on the body. The inability to control weight creep, despite my absolute best efforts. The realization that decades (an adult lifetime) of healthy eating and exercising are no guarantees against chronic or serious disease. I mean of course all rational people know that on some level, but I'm guessing most of us delude ourselves, thinking it won't ever happen to us. (But it's not all bad--it's definitely made me more humble and more empathetic.) Rea
    8 points
  4. Where are my soft socks? Hamper? Washer? Dryer? Where? I guess I'll go look. My contribution to Laundry Haiku.
    8 points
  5. I didn't quote all the suggestions but the sheer breadth of the creative ideas here is staggering. I have a plan for the rest of the day. I'm going to drink some water and take my antidepressant, then I'm heading to my backyard to practice some nude yoga. Later, I'll relax with a low carb pot brownie and a good book on meditation. My kids won't recognize my sunburnt chill self when they get home. 👍
    8 points
  6. while I agree with your point here, I am even more concerned that when women--historical, contemporary, or fictional --are portrayed as having interesting and meaningful lives it is almost never in the context of doing the things that have occupied and continue to occupy significant roles in most women's lives, including especially caregiving, nurturing, and community building roles. Women's lives are most often seen as interesting when they take on more traditionally male roles.
    8 points
  7. I stumbled upon them reading War and Peace to each other and felt like such a superior mom. Then, I stumbled upon them about to stick the vacuum against the youngest's ear in order to suck the water out 🙄 Did I point out that they're in college?
    7 points
  8. Yes! I don't feel older emotionally. Maybe it's because life has mostly been very physically demanding of me, so there's always been aches and pains? Idk. Mentally and emotionally I'm like, "Let's go! Woohoo!" But then I have thoughts I NEVER would have had 5 years ago. Like we are going to Silver Dollar City later this summer and my husband is annoyed that I'm really not interested in the rides. I LOVED amusement parks. But now I look at those rides jerking bodies up and down and sideways and all I can think is, "That looks like 6 months of chiropractic work in the making and I have t
    7 points
  9. I'm surprised, sort of, by how relationships just seem to fall off and not be replaced. I read somewhere that as you age, you lose connections sort of systematically until you die. That the peak of connection is actually childhood or young adulthood. I had friends in HS of course, and to some extent in college. Since then my friends have dropped off and the friendships I do have are shallower; also my dad died. and I was closer to him than anyone but DH. So I guess I'm surprised by how lonely it can be.
    7 points
  10. I'm enjoying growing older, in general. There's a scene in the recent hit UK TV show Fleabag in which a post menopausal woman talks about how free she feels. That's me, most days. I'm 56. My mum lived independently until age 90. Fingers crossed. https://metro.co.uk/2019/03/19/kristin-scott-thomass-monologue-female-pain-fleabag-needs-watched-8939353/
    7 points
  11. As 50 is looming my friends and I are talking more and more about aches and pains and sleepless nights 😒. 40 was easy. Turning 50 just makes us seem old.
    7 points
  12. My point is that the so-called "feminists" who fought for the rights we are thankful for are not really comparable to those who fight for "rights" we don't believe in. The whole "then give back your right to vote if you don't support pro-choice feminists today" does not work IMO.
    7 points
  13. I pruned out some excess zucchini leaves and moved the potted lavender to the front yard, in hopes that more sun will make it happy enough to bloom. We had steak tacos for dinner with leftover steak. We have steak so rarely that the past couple dinners have seemed extra luxurious. I bought myself a new steno book for writing things down. My old one after several years, finally has been filled on every page, front and back. I don't use it for all my planning, but it seems mostly made up of basic school subject planning/book lists, freezer cooking, and trip planning/packing.
    7 points
  14. Or... it's frustrating to have to defend one's private opinions in a public manner. Granted, she opened that can of worms when she didn't just parrot what they wanted and expected to hear. But I've done both, been honest and just silent, and either way it's frustrating because quite frankly the vast majority of people, academics or otherwise, do not seem to want to have a reasoned discussion. Most of my frustration is not that I can't articulate myself, it's that everyone takes it as a personal insult instead of engaging in discussion.
    7 points
  15. I never call myself a feminist. It's bad enough that people assume I feel and vote a certain way because I am female. Of course I believe in equal respect etc., but the modern feminist movement still considers me a disgrace because of what I don't believe in. As for the "women in literature" comment, I think she's saying that the constant and intense focus on our differences just drives deeper wedges between groups. I do think it can be a fascinating study, but why doesn't anyone have the same interest in men in literature? As a lifelong reader, I can think of interesting observations
    7 points
  16. Oh thank God. Oh I am so glad you're okay, I'm in tears and so glad I posted my experience. It moves so, so, so fast and you're just thinking about the baby and not understanding.................... I am so sorry to you and your family for the loss of your precious baby. I pray that you are comforted by one another and a peace that passes all understanding and I am so, so grateful you are okay.
    6 points
  17. I’m 46 years old. I took up hapkido (like karate) two and a half months ago. Sometimes the instructor will say things like, “In order to get out of this hold, you can go under the person’s arm like this (he shows us), but if the person is ready for you to do that, they can make you lose your balance. So the best thing to do, is to go under their arm, but also drop to your knee and pivot on the knee.” And I’m like, “Uh uh. There’s no dropping to the knee and pivoting on it on this 46 yo mom body.” Fortunately, he has worked with older students before and when any of the older students pu
    6 points
  18. I visited another church today. It was interesting. I'm going to go back next week. Even if it turns out not to be for me, this is helping me nail down what I need in a church.
    6 points
  19. Mine isn't so much about the physical aspect of aging....but more the mental part. I am surprised sometimes about how truly resilient some people are, and how absolutely whiny and lazy others are. It seems to go hand in hand. The people who complain the most about life struggles, seem to be the ones who are the least willing to work to overcome or change their lives. Sometimes people are stuck in a situation and just need to vent, I get that, but I am talking about those who don't improve what they do have control over. Whiny, lazy people seem to live every moment with the mental sludge hold
    6 points
  20. Good Morning!!!!! COFFEE!!!!!!~D Sunday!!! It’s VBS Sunday. One service, then church picnic after. This afternoon we’re heading for the hills. Tomorrow we’re going white water rafting down the Kings River and we’re camping tonight at the place where we start. Well, DH and the kids are camping and rafting. I was going to and then I got hired at my job and tomorrow is our first training. I can’t say I’m broken up about not going. I’m going up with them this afternoon and I’l do burgers and s’mores and then come home. It’s an hour and a half drive from my house, so that’s not
    6 points
  21. I do also want to relax and go to the lake, read some books (I read Dark Matter by Crouch yesterday), maybe prepare my new bullet journal/notebook/commonplace book. ETA: A relaxing and reading booya. I like that better than a laundry booya!
    6 points
  22. Worked most of the night. Still not done. Kids need to get up, packed, and ready for sleep-away camp on a college campus. They should arrive by about noon. Then we register, move into the dorm room, eat, attend a meeting together, and say goodbye. Was hoping to do some "work" with them, but I think the weekend is shot. They partied with friends all day Friday and Saturday. Today they will be worrying about their music auditions etc. I don't see thoughtful work happening. Back home after dropping the kids off, I should be free to work with little interruption until midday F
    6 points
  23. I didn't mean to be mean to liberals 🙂 I should have clarified: I'm personally against abortion for myself and also against abortion for other women; I think abortion should be illegal in almost every context. I don't think of myself as a feminist
    6 points
  24. church lunch out for ds' birthday afterwards pay bills
    5 points
  25. I haven't had much time to work on vacation photos, but hope to in the next few weeks. I read Lilac Girls - 1 Star - I really wanted to like this book. I’m old enough to know not to judge a book by its cover, but boy, this cover is pretty for sure. The genre and glowing reviews appealed to me. It started off well and drew me in right away with good character development, but then it just fizzled out. I didn’t connect with any of the three main characters, nor did I care for the storytelling. It was a tedious book to get through, contrived and overdone; and yet it seemed full of promise a
    5 points
  26. Maybe reading snowy setting books when it’s hot and hot setting books when it’s cold would help for balance
    5 points
  27. Packing, moving, and more packing. #NeverEndingPacking Today: 1. pack up more kitchen, leaving only essentials ✅ 2. take rest of the living room furniture to storage ✅ 3. Take dressers and nightstands and bases of beds to storage- no room in storage 4. Take a load to Goodwill- didn't get done, only 2 things need to go, so we can wait 5. Get rid of basketball hoop in driveway ( I have offered it for free on a FB site, someone says he is coming) ✅ 6. Make a list/schedule for CLEANING up so we aren't overwhelmed next weekend when the house has to be spotles
    5 points
  28. Good morning! Another gray and rainy day here - this is getting very old! Our roofer just called and said he'll be starting our new roof in the next day or two, so I guess I'll enjoy the relative peace and quiet today. absolutely have to go through my Subscribe & Save list (have forgotten this for many days in a row) and order dog food make lunch food for the week - hummus, salad, salad dressing, quinoa, sweet potatoes plan my week vacuum go through piles of books before I put them back on newly painted bookshelves read, relax, take a sauna di
    5 points
  29. Good morning! It is cool today, but it has stopped raining. No idea about the tennis tournament. No times are posted yet. The kids went to the gym and then they were going to pick up donuts, I think. I am not sure what is going on today- probably rest for dd2, trip planning for dd1, not sure about the others. coffee/paper walk in the garden, moan over the ten rose buds I picked up from the ground with little bite marks in them. -Done Dump red pepper flakes all over- talked to a neighbor who uses a squirt gun on the squirrels. Little success reported-Done make some more
    5 points
  30. I am definitely non-confrontational and did not, in any circumstance, state any sociopolitical opinions that were outside of the mainstream in any college class, except maybe once in Caribbean lit (which was taught by a black lesbian woman and turned out to be about only (primarily black, fair enough as it was the Caribbean) women's Caribbean lit) when someone asked how many people in the class were feminists and I didn't raise my hand. The professor was personally very kind and stopped to talk to me once the semester after that, when I was 7 months pregnant and eating lunch alone in th
    5 points
  31. Say more things. Say less things.
    5 points
  32. Start my yoga/Tai-Chi/Kick-boxing habit. Take the kids fossil hunting. Go beach combing. Go kayaking/canoeing.
    5 points
  33. Dh and I always joke that in our 20s nine PM was the start of our evening. It was the time we and our friends were heading out to do things. Now, 9pm is time to start thinking about heading to bed. In our 30s we started having kids. We were sleep deprived, but we could manage. In our 40s, sleep became far more important, and we got to bed by 10pm. And we didn't function well without 7-8 hours.
    5 points
  34. Ok, so this is funny. I got a new dress that I love. https://www.graceandlace.com/collections/dresses-tunics/products/floral-convertible-skirt-dress except that it’s basically strapless. Last Sunday I wore it to church with a denim jacket over it and it was cute, but I wanted something a little dressier for this wedding reception. So, i’m Looking through my closet and find this old cardigan I got from Target 10 years ago. It’s very light (tissue weight) t-shirt knit and it’s flows and cute, but it’s longish and I just didn’t like the look with the dress. I kept thinking, “a black shr
    5 points
  35. Heroic efforts Stella! Feminism has always been controversial. 😉 Also, I'm a conservative-leaning centre, pro-life feminist. My pro-life thoughts are not so much about criminalization nor withdrawing access, but more of a cultural philosophy about the (current lack of) value of human life, children, motherhood... It's pretty disheartening that we can't be nuanced in these discussions. Tribalism and identity politics have a lot to answer for.
    5 points
  36. Drove to the fundraiser/ meeting. Met a new staff candidate. Very nice and well qualified. Welcomed her to the team. An issue that could have blown up into huge drama has been settled with nary a ripple. Phew! Answer to prayer.  Our fundraiser did very well.  Halfway home. Stopped for dinner. 
    5 points
  37. I have effectively planned out my new schedule, workout plans, and race day (which is 6 months from now, I just wanted to see on paper if it was too much of an inconvenience for the kids). I love writing things down. It's doing them that's the problem.
    5 points
  38. There may have once been a definition of feminism that was universal and meant "equality", but feminism now has so much political baggage that I absolutely understand someone wanting to separate herself from that group. I also do not identify as a feminist, despite having served in the military, gotten a STEM degree, etc. I have been held up as a "poster child" for feminism in the past, and I have always found it incredibly annoying that others would attempt to put me in that box. Many of the ideas I hold are completely anti-feminist, and certainly my political stances are as well. I
    5 points
  39. My main thought is, “Good for her!” That’s great that she has the courage to share her opinion, especially in a space where she knows it will not be popular.
    5 points
  40. Good morning or afternoon as the case may be. We watched Fellowship of the Rings last night which was excellent. Both my guys who are open nerves and talkative during most movies were quiet and enthralled for most of it, which meant I was able to totally enjoy it without distraction. I remember the first time I watched with John way back when it came out on DVD, he didn't know the movie was a one of three parts and his reaction at the ending was a hilarious rant. I'm immersed in the world of the Black Dagger Brotherhood and currently on Book 9 Lover Unleashed.
    4 points
  41. Yeah. I'm finally putting my health checks first and I'm kinda regretting it. I need ear surgery and eye surgery within the next 4 years. And I swear I'm reaching the point where I'd rather have dental implants than ever have a root canal again. It makes me cranky. I just want everything to function, don't even need optimum function, so I can do things and it's a real PITA that now that I'm finally of an age and wisdom and mental state to do those things my body is like, haha old lady - nope. 😒
    4 points
  42. Honestly? That's not as true as you think. Bottom line is any degree requires a not small amount of classes be taken that are not directly related to the main goal/interest subject. It's just optimism to think most of those students taking most of those non-related to degree classes think it is important. Truth is many, if not most, think it is a waste of their time. They take what they have to take that fits the criteria and can fit in their hectic schedule and finance limits. Given that very common scenario, professors are just going to have to get over their ego about how valued the c
    4 points
  43. From https://abc7news.com/health/bottled-water-showing-high-levels-of-arsenic-sold-at-major-retailers/5358671/ “Penafiel is owned by Keurig Dr Pepper, and is sold at Target and Walmart, along with vendors. Starkey water is owned by and sold at Whole Foods. The study corroborates consumer reporters' findings, which were released earlier this year. Consumer Reports found that Penafiel water and Strakey water contained nearly double the federal limit of arsenic. The chemical can cause reproductive harm, cancer, organ damage and hormone disruption. FDA has not yet recalled eith
    4 points
  44. I actually finished most of what I need to do for the coming week: I made up a presentation on Word for the Tech Tuesday people, and fixed the notes on my Excel. I prepared for my Escape Room that I'm doing this Tuesday. I'm going to submit the time for all of that and once I'm paid, I'm letting them know I won't be returning next year.. I have just one day of camp this week and it's one I've done before so that's pretty much all prepared. I decided the kids are on summer break until we come back from vacation, so not much there although I could get a jump on planning summer scho
    4 points
  45. I've been -only the clothes everyone is wearing- finished with laundry before. But I have a lot less people than some of you. The last load of regular clothes is in the washer right now, the dryer is empty because I did that before bed last night. Then I have the load of whites and it's all done. The kids already have their baskets in their rooms to fold and put away but I'm sure it hasn't been done yet. I'll remind them when I throw the ones from the current load on top. They'll need to be empty to hold the whites since they are small baskets. Dh is home and taking the kids to t
    4 points
  46. The aches and pains and how easy they come on, how long it takes to get over any little injury. Yeah, the incontinence. I've been wearing pads all week while I've had bronchitis because the alternative..... The insomnia even when exhausted. The foods I can't eat anymore without feeling crappy. I'll be 50 in 36 days.
    4 points
  47. I’m just as gifted as you guys! I feel special. Another gift that I have is that only I know if the Garmin really means to take that turn (or whatever). If I don’t repeat what Garmin says, dh just keeps on going.
    4 points
  48. All you dishwasher people - come on! Stop labeling yourselves as “gifted” or claiming you have “special talents.” Don’t you know it’s a magic cupboard?
    4 points
  49. Perhaps she finds the extreme focus on "identity" in the humanities to be counterproductive and annoying.
    4 points
  50. I missed the part where first husband died. My mom would kill us if we tagged my dad’s surname onto her gravestone. You really should include the last 20 years of her life. It seems wrong to drop it off just because the kids are more connected to the first marriage. She’s a whole person, not just their mother.
    4 points
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