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  1. 110 points
    Hi all, I have not been around much anymore, but I wanted to post an update because we had this looooong thread three years ago when I was trying to figure out what to do with my life and how to find a new calling (not just something to keep me busy). This one: You all had so many interesting suggestions, and several commented that they were in a similar situation. So, I figure I owe you an update on how it all turned out: As I had posted towards the end of that thread, about 8 months after the initial post, I have gone back to writing. I am still working in my regular job as a physics professor, but have focused the remaining time on poetry. I have - completely accidentally - found community in a very unlikely place. Remember me talking about how this is a small town with few opportunities? I found a cluster of people in an even smaller town near here! I am regularly participating in live events, have gotten work into a few journals, and my first book has just been published through a small independent press! I feel like I have found a new direction and calling, something that defines me and goes beyond merely filling time. I want you to know that life post empty nest can be wonderful and fulfilling, and also that it took me several years of deep searching to figure out my path. I hope this is encouraging to those of you who are starting on that journey and are facing the end of the active parenting years. Best wishes to you all. ETA: Because people asked further down the thread: if you are interested in my book, please pm me. I won't post an advertising link in the thread.
  2. 83 points
    We have a new little DD! Labor was fast and my blood pressure spiked but then dropped which made for some kinda hairy moments but we are both doing well and I'm so happy to not be pregnant anymore! Woo hoo! @RootAnn my age made it harder for me to push as effectively I think but that's all 😉
  3. 71 points
    If you remember I started the thread saying I was considering doing childcare to bring in extra money. Well, I wound up responding to a Craigslist ad about an 88 year-old man that needs help with cleaning and food prep 3 days a week and I got the job. This is a much better situation for my family and I am very happy with it. Thank you for your ideas, encouragement and prayers.
  4. 71 points
    DS8 has a placement!! For those who don’t know, DS8 is on the spectrum with some associated behavioral challenges. He’s been in a self contained, small classroom all along and done fairly well. This last year his teacher, psychologist and counselor all left over Thanksgiving break. This was deeply traumatic for him and it didn’t help the new teacher didn’t understand or know what to do with behavioral kids. The school has eliminated all but one self contained classroom so there was nowhere else for him to go. He’s been on homebound since February and is very, very lonely. I tried to make inroads in the homeschooling community, but it’s not very inclusive here. It was clear they weren’t overly welcoming toward a SN kid who flaps his hands and says things that sound mouthy and disrespectful(though it’s just his awkward way of communicating) and occasionally refuses to do anything. Poor kid of mine had struggled so much the last few months—but we have a new class in a school about 40 minutes away. We went and visited and it’s absolutely perfect for him. I have such complete peace and know it’s a great fit. He’s excited about going too. In other news, I’m packing three little kids in my car and going to Washington DC for a week. Two of my kids, including DS8, are in the middle of an obsession with American history, so I’m making the most of it. Wish me luck.
  5. 67 points
    “Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” Thomas Edison
  6. 59 points
    Sharing some of my excitement and a bit of my anxiety as I leave tomorrow with REI adventures for Kathmandu for 3 weeks including travel time to trek Everest Base Camp with a group of 8 others. Reaching 50 and Empty Nest is excitedly sending me out the door to see what life has to offer me and what I have to offer it:) Updates and pictures upon safe return-Lord willing! My adventure was incredible. I found my stillness (in yoga-ese) but more importantly God revealed Himself to me every step of the way as in Psalm 46:10-Be still and know that I am God. The Psalms came alive to me in so many aspects of my 19 day sabbath/sabbatical and I am definitely restored and revived. I have experienced much and have much to share, but mostly I was so encouraged by the sweet and complete care and love of the Sherpa people and the peace and contentment in the simplest of lifestyles. The joy of s hot water bottle in my sleeping bag when all my layers (3-4) of wool and fleece were still not enough. The assistance to reach Base Camp and then to achieve 18,400 feet for amazing views of Everest and the surrounding peaks. The refreshing rest of 10 hours of sleep a night and lots of food after a day of vigorous activity. Not showering for 14 days and very primitive facilities:) The sweet jingle of Yak bells to lull me into contentment and bliss and of course the awesomeness of God's majestic power and beauty. I only have some pictures to share as I was to absorbed in soaking up the experience than in recording it, but others in my group took copious amounts of pictures and will be sharing them and then I can share them with you-if desired. God has given me the vision of a children's book from the perspective of a Yak as he conquers Everest and more importantly fear. I am excited to have a creative work to share my experience-hoping other's hearts will be blessed and graced the way mine was. Always attempting to be featured in a yoga calendar someday😊 IMG_3292.HEIC IMG_3292 2.HEIC
  7. 58 points
    Last week my oldest ds's college called my dh and invited us to an awards ceremony at the school. They told him that ds would be receiving some kind of award but didn't tell dh what when he asked. I decided to drive the two hours and go to the ceremony and take ds out to dinner as we have not seen him this semester. The awards ceremony was mostly for graduating seniors and looking at the program we couldn't figure out what ds (a junior) would even be up for. Turns out they award a few scholarships to upcoming seniors that were not listed in the program. My ds won two of the four scholarships awarded! The first he was aware existed because he applied and interviewed for it. It was an endowed scholarship funded by the alumni association of the accounting department of the school. It is substantial and the letter he got explained that the alumni association stipulates the award be stacked and not reduce any other offers from the school. The other scholarship he didn't even know about and did not apply for. It was one of two endowed awards given to rising seniors who have demonstrated excellence in the classroom and in contributing to life on campus and in the community. He doesn't even know how much it is, but it seemed like a big deal! He has gotten smaller endowed scholarships from the school in the past without any notification or fanfare. They just showed up in his account. So, the assumption is this is substantial as well. He is anxious to get over to financial aid this morning and find out the details. Ds has paid for his own school. He got a good financial deal going in, then won a large scholarship from my dh's employer that the college allowed him to stack without reducing their aid. He has worked long hours at miserable jobs in the summers and taken a few loans (not even to the max of the federal limits) and taken pride in carrying the load of financing his education. He has scrimped and saved and lived in the oldest junkiest dorm to save money. Now, it looks like he has a full ride for his senior year. Tuition, housing, etc. everything should be covered. I am just so happy for him to get this sweet unexpected reward to go into his senior year for free. He already has a professional internship and a side hustle lined up for summer so he will make a good chunk of money and for once actually be able to keep it and not pay for his school. He has worked so hard and with such a great attitude. I am just so proud of him and happy for him. Ds introduced me to the husband/wife couple that presented the award. They are both accounting alumni and have worked in the "big four" accounting firms and are active in giving back to the school. The told me they are already working on getting him lined up for jobs and they both told me that he is graduating into a powerful alumni network and will always have a job. It was an obvious point of pride to them that they claim 100% job placement for accounting grads. My ds has already been to multiple recruiting events for one of the big four firms as well as smaller firms and banks in the city. Such a nice night for ds. He is bright and hard working but he isn't ever the smartest kid anywhere. He has never had a 4.0 and isn't even the top of his accounting class in GPA. But he works hard and is humble and a good leader. He's just a good kid. He could have gone to higher ranked schools or schools with more amenities but he went to tiny Oglethorpe University in Atlanta with a 76% admission rate. People in Atlanta usually have not even heard of it. LOL. He got a fantastic value, has had a nice experience, and it looks like he will actually have a job in the end. Another kid not ruined by homeschooling!
  8. 51 points
    I have been avoiding Worship after Sunday School because I feel self conscious sitting alone. I mentioned that here before and the general advice was to just ask if I can sit with my class at service. So today is Easter Sunday and my church had 3 services. The first two were contemporary which I don't care for, and the latest one is the traditional service. I decided early on that I wouldn't go even though it's a huge church holiday. The idea of sitting alone is bad. The idea of sitting alone in a HUGE crowd of people is even worse. I prayed about it and asked God if He thought I should be there to help me feel convicted to do so. Well, I woke up this morning feeling the need to attend. So I went. I sat down in the back. Alone. I was texting DH, not a church goer, to give me something to do until service began. After sitting there for about 5 minutes, I saw two of my Sunday School classmates come in and sit two rows ahead of me. I mustered the courage, got up, and went to them and asked if I could sit with them. They seemed genuinely pleased to see me. Then two more classmates came. One sat next to me and the other on the other end. So I talked with the one closest to me and learned her name was Sandra. So now I know 4 people's names. I explained to her my dilemma of avoiding Worship and she said she used to feel the same way and that's one reason a group of our class sits together for Worship. She told me to join them every Sunday and not feel a need for an invitation and that I was always welcome. So now I can start attending Worship every Sunday which brings me immense Joy. 🙂 Happy Easter!
  9. 49 points
    On his kindle google search I did find “can u win Nobel if xplled frum skol” and “Nobel winners homskol” so at least he’s got a plan. 😂
  10. 49 points
    My dd found this dress on clearance back in August-- pretty-- but the lace 'blobs' were tattered and just did not look right. We found some silk hydrangeas, pearl beads, gold ribbon and some tiny gold butterflies-- and she LOVED the result! I used the scraps to make a headpiece and her date's boutonniere too... Prom was this past Saturday-- my oldest dd is a professional photographer and took the prom picts! Not a bad dress for just under $100! First picture is trying it on at store... notice lace 'blobs'...
  11. 48 points
    Part of me would say to you, as I would to any parent, don’t do for them anything that they can do for themselves. But the other part of me thinks, just baby them. Brush their hair. Let them feel their mama’s hands against their scalp and her voice behind their ear. They will adapt as needed. They’ve already shown you that. So don’t worry about that part.
  12. 46 points
    Navy boy comes home Friday for the first time since he left for boot camp Oct 1. He'll be home 2 weeks!!
  13. 45 points
    funny story. DS17 took the ACT and got a great score. You can tell he is different from me because 17 yo me would have said 'woo-hoo I'm done w/ standardized testing for college entrance forever'. DS though 'well...it's good, but what if some college likes the SAT better so I should ALSO take the SAT.' Wishing to avoid hearing him be all stressed out for the next month while he preps for this exam I don't think he needs, I suggested he call the admissions board of a few colleges he's interested in and just ask them. So he did. Discission w/ CMU's admission person went something like: DS17: Hello. I'm very interested in attending CMU. I'll be applying this fall. I just took the ACT and got a 35, but I was wondering if you have a preference for SAT over ACT so maybe I should take that too. CMU Admissions: that's a very good score. congratulations. No, then don't care. Wait....what department are you interested in? DS17: Econ CMU Admissions: nope, they don't care. DS17: and Musical Theater. CMU Admissions: <pause> oh honey. They SO DON'T care. <snicker> He was honestly pretty insulted. 😛
  14. 45 points
    Back in 2017, I asked for help naming our boy Max. Unfortunately, we lost him suddenly this February to acute hemolytic anemia. I was devastated...he was my shadow. A couple weeks ago, I mentioned to dh that I was finally to a point where it didn’t hurt to think of losing Max, and occasionally I would glance at the shelter sites. Wednesday I saw this guy, and I fell in love. I showed dh, and it was the same. We brought him home Wednesday evening, and he’s made things interesting since. 😆 Meet Jukka...pronounced “you kuh”. Dh wanted a name that meant gift from God, and something about that name stood out. He’s a 9 week old Australian Shepherd.
  15. 43 points
    Y'all, this has been going on for months (which is nothing for most PANDAS people) and right now, I honestly can't believe we have a real diagnosis! We got up at 5am and drove 3 hours each way to the Rothman Center for Pediatric Neuropsycholoy yesterday and it was totally worth it. Such a difference! An ACTUAL neurological exam, huge history, multiple people working together (saw the resident who I loved, and the professor/lead researcher who I also liked, and a med student tagged along who was awesome as well). No one thought I was crazy. No one dismissed me. My questions were respected. We have a PLAN! No one just shrugged and said, "maybe he got late autism or something". You don't realize what not good care you are getting until you get good care. Makes me want to cry. Thank God for respectful medical staff. Thinking about it as I sit here and cry a bit, some of my most intensely grateful moments have been interacting with truly respectful medical staff. Ones you recognize how vulnerable you are when seeking career nd don't abuse that. I can remember several specific instances that are burned in my memory for the way I was treated: A nurse when my 19 year old was born. I was in pain and exhausted after 45 hours of unmedicated labor and then an emergency (I thought) c-section. I burn through pain meds fast (ultra rapid metabolizer) and earlier that day a bitch nurse wouldn't give me my meds so I'd gotten behind the pain and ended up crying and in tears and emotional. I got the meds, and shift changed, and that night in the middle of the night I woke up soaked in sweat from post partum sweats, and uncomfortable, etc. An angel of a nurse came in and offered to change my sheets. It was 2am. Changing sheets was not her job. But she saw me so uncomfortable and like it was nothing got me up and while I used the bathroom she put on cool fresh sheets and a fresh pillow case and got me tucked back in with a drink. Such a freaking simple thing but it is almost 20 years later and I still tear up at the sheer kindness of it. Another time when my daughter had a broken arm from me falling while carrying her. The doctor I am sure knew how guilty i felt over injuring my 9 month old, and told me that a broken elbow was fixable, a broken head wasn't. Id' held her in such a way to protect her head as we fell, and he flat out told me "good job mom". That simple sentence took away so much guilt. Again, such a tiny thing, and 9 years later I remember how it made me feel. When I had my first bariatric appointment and realized for once no one was blaming me for my obesity. In fact, EVERY time a doctor calls it a disease, not a moral failing, I want to kiss them. I spent my whole life blaming and hating myself for my fatness, and here was someone coming along side of me to help me, rather than shame me. Who saw ME, not my fat. And yesterday, when the resident told me that he can't see these kids and NOT believe in PANDAS. Respectful care that treats you as a valid human is so special. (also, they loved my binder of all my info - medical records, test results, insurance information, address and phone number of every doctor we have, pharmacy info, etc)
  16. 41 points
    So I'm back :) One child started homeschooling in Sept Another started several weeks ago Another this week Another is too young but we're hoping she can homeschool throughout One child is still in school. This is best for everyone. I feel "real" again. I was a homeschooling mom (first two homeschooled all but 8 weeks ever, graduating in 2009 and 2012) and I am a homeschool mom (hopefully for the next 16ish years). Missed y'all.
  17. 41 points
    My decorating styles over the years have Included Early Attic, Modern Poverty, Craigslist Chic, Contemporary Castoffs, and Delightful Dumpster Dives.
  18. 40 points
    Hi, Folks, I have been absent from this board so long that I had a notice on a post 3 years old! 😂 Today, however, I decided to pop back in and say thanks to my people who got me through the early years and on the right track. Next week we graduate our youngest. Homeschooling, despite its successes and stomach-pitting vertical drops, has been good to us. I won't go into the full story here, but with the youngest fully dual enrolled and now about to ship off to college, the dc have made the transition well. DS has a 4.0 and loves university, which is an amazing miracle to those who know our story. DD is headed to her dream school, a top ranked, small Christian college in the Midwest, fully funded for the first two years, with a hope to pursue a calling to use data analytics to help rescue victims of human trafficking. She is an overcomer. All those years spent in patient, sometimes frustrated, slogging away—accommodating learning "differences" and whatever else was going on—they all paid off. DD wound up with multiple scholarships and awards, and worked diligently, steadily, and determinedly for each and every one. 🎉🎉 (What happened to the party emoji?) I want to thank you all for my best homeschooling finds. It began by focusing on the true, the beautiful and the good and making liberal use of nature study and narration of all types in the younger years, thanks to Charlotte Mason and Classical Education. After good old Charlotte, you all introduced me to Don and Jenny Killgallon and Michael Clay Thompson (who collectively got my kids 35s or 36s on the English portion of the ACT), as well as Singapore Math, and Singapore Science, which landed me my career after active teaching wrapped up. I never would have been in a position to take the leap if not for you. I just got paid for writing the Math in Focus 2020 Edition teachers manual (grade 4). Rejoice with me! Thanks for being a community I could come to and find answers to questions I didn't even know I had. For those of you exhausted today from working with a seven-year-old you know is incredibly bright, but who has trouble holding a pencil and melts down occasionally from sensory overload, the successful end to all this is a lot closer than it feels. If sometimes a tear slips down your cheek from being overwhelmed, or the resistance you face is fierce and you're not sure you can make it, let me reassure you that you can, and the rewards that follow are that much sweeter. I've been a member here since before the board euphemisms teA and bOOks came into being, way back when Ree wasn't the Pioneer Woman and she would give stuff away from her junk drawer. It's been a long time, but not long at all. Thanks, SWB for making it all possible, and for hosting this community so we can set our kids up for success. I am so grateful for the space, and for all of you who spent the time making research and execution a bit easier for the rest of us. 💜
  19. 39 points
    Thank you for prayers. So far it seems like a best case scenario. Basically an overgrown cyst. She told my husband no signs of cancer. Left an ovary. Hopefully trauma doesn’t turn it off. I’ve walked 3-4 laps of the hospital block but still feel wonky and dizzy, probably from anesthesia. Pain is under control so far but may get worse as spinal wears off. Interestingly, surgery team was all women. Have to fart and/ or poop to go home. No bowel sounds yet. Prayers and thoughts still appreciated. Still very sad about loss of uterus. I know that is silly but it is what it is.
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  21. 39 points
    As some of you know, my oldest son has ASD and right now is on homebound. While I am a huge fan of homeschooling, this particular child needs more socialization than I can manage. With his rigidity, overall oddness and behaviors, we have not been welcomed with open arms to our local homeschool community, which has been swallowed whole by Classical conversations. Which is another post. In any case, our school has been diligently searching for a class for him. We thought he had one 45 minutes away, but it turned out to be an 8:1:1 and his team feels he very much needs a 6:1:1 class. His homebound teacher told me tonight that she is phone conferencing with the two teachers from the two classes they have found. One is a 6:1:1 emotionally disturbed class a 55 minute drive away in the opposite direction of where we work and where our families are. The other, amazingly, is a 6:1:1 autism program 35 minutes away, next door to where my husband and I work and only a few minutes from my mother in law. It’s also around the corner from his outside occupational therapy group, so a really easy pickup for OT. The teacher has a reputation for being amazing and there is usually a year long wait list for this program—and last week they got an opening and somehow my son has jumped to the top of the waitlist(probably because he’s been on homebound for over a month now). Would you pray the second school accepts him? We feel it’s a great place for him and close to us or Grandma if something were to happen instead of us driving an hour and a half from work. His homebound teacher knows the program very well and the teacher there and also feels it’s a great program for him. She doesn’t feel an emotionally disturbed class would be a good place for him(he has no psych diagnosis at this time). thank you!! It’s so hard to get into this particular program and I cried when I heard we had a chance.
  22. 39 points
    So we went to court (again) yesterday for a combined contempt hearing and status hearing. We were supposed to do a 4-way meeting for about an hour and then go before the judge. My STBX showed up with his newest (4th) lawyer. She was actually very nice and brought a nice energy to the proceedings. Finally he hired a lawyer who seems down to earth and not apt to play a lot of ridiculous power games. We start off the 4-way, and then the attorneys had to leave to room to confer. So, for the first time in 3 years I was alone with my STBX. I knew that if anything was going to be accomplished I would have to talk him down from Stubborn Mountain. Slowly but surely I got him to talk a bit, got him to back down from his arrogance (although it probably won't last.) We were in conference for over 2 hours. His position is that he has been covering all the expenses and cannot afford the alimony payments (he is 28 weeks behind). He actually wanted me to pay for half the utilities cost for the time he was living in our home by himself. I told him only if he paid half of my utilities during that time when I was living elsewhere. Stupid stuff like that. Most of the reason he is so far in debt is because he owes $70,000 to various prior lawyers. However, over the past year he has received almost $100K in bonuses on top of his salary going up by 25%. So it was a lot of round and round stupid stuff. But at least we were able to talk to each other. The interesting part was after it was over my lawyer complimented me on how I handled him. She asked if it was a special approach I had developed. Her comment surprised me because I never realized how much I had to "handle" him when having a conversation, it was just something I learned to do to try and keep the peace. When I told her that she said that it must have been exhausting to live that way. I guess I never realized it because it just happened but, yes, I had learned how to circle around and around him and it was exhausting! Hence the tattoo on my arm that says "She had not known the weight until she felt the freedom" from the Scarlet Letter. I always make sure that tattoo is visible to him when we go to court haha. My offer to him is the same as it has always been - straight alimony only. No percentage of his bonuses, etc. I don't want to have to chase him. He seemed ok with the idea so now it may just be a case of coming up with a good alimony number and figuring out the split of some marital debt we have. I just want to be free from him but I am not about to give in and short change myself. So I am asking for a good alimony amount. When we then went before the judge he did indicate that my STBX's bonuses would be considered part of the settlement. I hope that motivates my STBX. I am actually offering him a better deal but he is just too stupid to realize it. Now we are supposed to exchange a bunch more paperwork over the next two weeks and then see where we stand. I see maybe a tiny glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel -- let's hope it's not just the shine off my STBX's bald head!
  23. 38 points
    My longest friendships are roughly 20-25 years. 11 years ago, I made some new friends. (changing states/churches) 3 years ago, I made a few more. (changing churches) TODAY I MADE A NEW FRIEND ALL BY MYSELF! My son was playing with a kid at the trampoline park last week and today I went with him and totally hit it off with the parents, esp the mom. Brand new experience and I'm kinda excited. She seems really nice, and tattooed like me 🙂
  24. 37 points
    DS got an email yesterday that he has been appointed to the United States Air Force Academy. Needless to say, there was much cheering, dancing around and crying (with joy!) at my house. Attending a service academy has been his goal for the last 7+ years He is still waiting to hear from the Naval Academy, but is 99% sure he will accept and go to Air Force!
  25. 36 points
    So proud and excited for DS#2, who is now a certified EMT, with Wilderness First Aid certification as well! DS#2 used his AmeriCorp credit (earned in 2016) to pay for an intensive 3.5 week Wilderness & EMT course. It was 8 hours/day, 5 days/week, plus two 8-hour clinical shifts in a hospital, and the National EMT Registry exam on the last day. And he PASSED! This is an especially meaningful achievement, as due to mild LDs, DS#2 has always struggled with traditional "school" and textbook learning, and there was a very thick textbook of material with lots of medical terms to have to learn. Happy dancing here! (:D
  26. 36 points
    I've known for a while that my ability to read what I type is going really downhill - IOW, my brain will still read a sentence how I meant it to come out even if what I actually typed is completely wrong, especially if I read it again while the information is still fresh in my brain. Anyways, I went back and re-read a final report I wrote for a class (because I'm stalking the website for my final grade). For context, this document is going to be shared with every professor in the department because it's dictating my projects from now until I graduate. I meant to say Large Hadron Collider (the particle accelerator)....but what I wrote was Large Hardon...
  27. 36 points
    Can't keep this much cuteness to myself. Happy Easter or Happy Sunday all!
  28. 35 points
    I've graduated my 5th kid from home school high school. She has decided her college choice, gotten accepted and received an excellent FA package. She will be moving to campus in August. So excited for her. My husband is becoming Catholic this Easter! You could fit a small human in that man's first easter basket this year. And at some point after Easter, the husband and I are going to the Caribbean all by ourselves for 7 glorious days. I don't know what he is going to do. I'm going diving and snorkeling every day. LOL I'm one happy happy woman this week.🐠🏝💕😁
  29. 35 points
    So the update: It went way better then could be expected. My 3 yo napped through the whole thing. The big boys were great---vibrant, happy, obedient, and obviously smart. They nicely played mouse trap with my mother. We invited her right in she sat on our couch and talked to us for 1/2 an hour. Mostly she was satisfying her curiosity about homeschooling, and commiserating about how stupid the complaint was. She asked us a rapid fire list about risk factors: drugs, alcohol, spousal abuse etc. We talked briefly about rules & discipline. She never had any interest in leaving the living room. She only talked with the children when they initiated conversation. She was fascinated by homeschooling. This is the text of the complaint in red, to give you an idea of how truly stupid it was: Caller reports that dh (34) & Ananda (33) are parents of ds9, ds6 & ds3. According to the caller the children are homeschooled. The caller reported that ds9 wears a pull up (like this is a habitual thing). The caller stated that they believe ds3 also wears a pull up, but it is unknown if ds6 wears pull ups. The caller did not speak with the parents as to why ds9 wears a pull up. Why is this person so obsessed with pull ups? When the caller was asked if they had any other concerns, the caller stated that the children have difficulty listening to directions, which is typical for children who are homeschooled; (You guys are going to love that.) however, the children exhibit behaviors of not following directions beyond the norm. The caller stated that they didn't have any other concerns at this time. Then they provided mangled DOB's for the children. Based on the complaint, I am certain this is someone from the YMCA, probably an employee, but maybe another parent. So . . . that is a thing. I am just so flabbergasted at the stupidity. You can see why she wasn't at all concerned. Apparently, nothing about the call concerned CPS. She said they would have told off the caller. But they emailed the state department of education just to close out their file. The department of education replied, in blue: I do not have a filing under the last name (dh & dc's last name). Basics such as potty training would be considered child care and parenting responsibilities, not a curriculum choice. That is the best part. The department of education being like wtf! She said that she had to follow up & do the whole she-bang because the department of ed didn't have a record of us. This is because the YMCA mangled the DOB's and our homeschool is registered under my (different) last name. Apparently, though, most people cooperate with her. She seemed really taken aback when I told her that many people would have refused to talk to her, to allow her access to the children and to enter the home. She said that she couldn't get a court order, but it would raise her suspicions. Apparently the only people who have reacted that way have been horrifically abusive or drug addicts. She would have kept coming back until our case expired. Anyways, 5 days of torture because someone at the YMCA is weird about pull-ups. Thanks. Ananda
  30. 34 points
    After a lot of discussion and prayer, we decided to take our dog’s breeder up on her offer. DS8 has had an extremely difficult week with struggling at a new school(including being suspended on day 3) and losing his beloved emotional support dog unexpectedly. So meet Snoopy, the newest member of our zoo. As soon as DS8 said, “This is my Snoopy,” his whole body relaxed and he just held his puppy.
  31. 34 points
    Thanks everyone! I walked to the clinic down the road and they got me in right away. Thankfully I got the doctor who has been practicing for like forty years and has treated several bat bites. He said bat bites tend to be the same size as mine but look like two distinct punctures, whereas mine looks more like I was attacked by a baby bunny. 😂 His guess is that I scratched myself the day before, didn't notice, and it became irritated overnight and that's why I noticed it in the morning. He also said that with four cats, if a bat had gotten in it would have been mass chaos and there's no way none of the cats would have noticed, lol.
  32. 34 points
    DS accepted at Hamilton!!!! He's had 5 waitlists and 1 rejection over the past week, so we really needed this one to get him out of his funk. And one of his top choices, so even better!
  33. 34 points
    I can't believe our little rainbow baby is three months old already! He is the sweetest. He has recently started giggling at us, and he shoves burp cloths into his mouth. We adore him so, so much. Mr. Five cannot get enough of him. A thousand times a day, he comes up to say, "I love this baby too, too much. I need this baby. Let me hold the baby." A few weeks ago, he told me, "This is the baby I always wanted." Baby gets covered with a lot of kisses. (And in true Mr. Five fashion, he still very often reminds us out of the blue that he is a double big brother.) It is such a beautiful gift to have him and to be able to pick him up and cuddle him whenever I want. His little face smiling at me in the morning lights my world.
  34. 33 points
    I think they need to make a choice. If they want to transition from M to F and that is the most important thing for their happiness, fine. But then they are no longer eligible to compete athletically. It is not fair to let a small group of biological males completely dominate all women’s sports and I can’t believe it’s being allowed at all. I have listened to stories about men who have transitioned to women and how broken their hearts would be if they couldn’t continue to compete athletically, but that is basically what they are stealing from biological women — the ability to compete fairly. Obviously that is why men and women’s sports were split to begin with. Frankly, I don’t know how they are able to delude themselves into thinking they won in a fair competition. I would think it would be humiliating to know that you have such a great advantage and then use it to “win”.
  35. 33 points
    This is so hard. I have had RA for 12 years and I now have to make accommodations daily. 😞 I don't use a wheelchair, but I know I would have to for an amusement park or a trip to DC or whatever. I hope that your daughter decides to go with the accommodations and that she has a blast!! Dear Ravin's DD, Please do not let your illness rob one more thing from you. If you want to go, go! If you need accommodations, use them. You cannot control your physical disability, but you can control your attitude. Sometimes the mental part of a disability is harder to manage than the physical aspect. Be strong, sweetie. Learn your physical limitations and let your mental strength make up the difference. Love, Aunt Junie
  36. 33 points
    My DD will be going to The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill
  37. 33 points
    I'm not on social media other than this site, so I don't know the comments you are referring to. However, I've long said that people should not say that fathers are babysitting when they are caring for their own children. It really doesn't have anything to do with any of the things that you mention. Those things just need to be worked out by the couple. For me it is merely the term "babysitting." No one says that mothers babysit their own children, so we should not say that of fathers, either. When fathers are the sole caretakers of their children, they are just parenting, not babysitting. Even if they are not familiar with all of the routines and need instructions. Edited to add: I actually don't say this in real life, because it is not my concern to tell other people what words to use. But It's been my opinion for a long time -- since before I had children, so 20 years or more -- and is not based on any social media postings. I think words have power and that we should choose them carefully.
  38. 32 points
    When I was ages 7-11, my mom used to take us kids to Friendlys for ice cream. We rarely got food, just ice cream. When I was 11 we moved to Indiana and there are no Friendlys in Indiana. And all of my siblings and I were unimpressed lol. As we all grew older and became adults and parenting our own kids, and vacationing with them......eating at a Friendlys while on vacation was a thing. When planning a vacation, or any sort of trip really, we would research if there was a Friendlys in the area. Sometimes book the hotel closest....it's that much a part of my childhood. When DH and I were preparing to move, one of my FAVORITE things I was looking forward to was being near one. AND THEY CLOSED THEM ALL. Less than 6 months before we moved. All of the Friendlys in the state of Ohio. ( They can of course still be found along the east coast.) Today is DH's birthday. We do celebrate adult birthdays in our family but especially random adult birthdays (this is his 49th) tend to be really low key. We take the kids to buy gifts, special dinner (that he usually grills per his choice) and that's about it. I asked him weeks ago what he wanted to do for dinner, he chose to grill. I asked him for a list of gift ideas, he sent me two specific things exactly to walk into Cabelas with and tell them, "I need THIS." Ok, fine. In an effort to make it special and to have the kids more involved, I decided on a whim today to get him an ice cream cake. And I got some Happy Birthday candles to go with it, and had the kids help me set it all up to sing happy birthday to him and stuff, which I knew he would enjoy. So when I went looking for the ice cream cake I found the perfect one, a Reese's Peanut Butter Cup cake...Reese's Peanut Butter Cups are his favorite candy. Excellent. I put it in the cart. That's when I realized it was Friendlys brand. OMG. I actually took pictures of it to send to my mom lol. So anyway, we eat dinner, sing happy birthday, give DH his fishing pole, he's happy as a clam, the kids are so happy they made DH happy. And then there's me. Have you seen Ratatouille and the scene where the food critic eats the Ratatouille and it flashed back to when he was a kid. That was me sitting there eating my DH's birthday cake lol. I considered sneaking off in a corner and eating the rest of it all by myself. I felt 9yrs old again. It was absolutely awesome. It tasted EXACTLY the same as the sunday did some 30+ years ago. Yeah, probably simple things for simple minds lol. But I still had to share. lol
  39. 32 points
    I asked y'all's advice about scholarships a while back, and I just want to share a very nice update. Because our status has changed with the Episcopal church, from "clergy" to "missionary," dd qualified for help from the National church. She just got a $10,000 scholarship for next year! We told her that is more than what we require for her to contribute to her education (we ask for about a fourth of total cost), so she can keep everything she makes this summer (projected to be about 4.3K) and use it for her expenses next year (we continue to pay towards some food, medical and rent, and she pays car insurance, phone, and other things). Anyway...10K! Hurray!
  40. 32 points
    I was hoping to have it all done in one day, but unfortunately we have to go two days. So the next scheduled date is June 21st. The first day was all his testimony and June 21st will be all my testimony. He looks a lot better. Before he was super skinny and grey looking before. I guess he had some health problems for a while. I think you can't hold that much hate and resentment inside and not have it come out on you in some way. He wouldn't acknowledge me in any way. At one point he was walking into the courtroom in front of me and wouldn't hold open the door, he just let it swing in my face. Petty, childish stuff like that. According to my lawyer, his new lawyer (his 4th) hates him. He will not provide her with any paperwork, etc., and just made it really hard for her to put together a case and I think it showed. His testimony was just dry, boring stuff about his expenses, etc. Some highlights: My attorney: "So, are you planning on buying another car?" Him: "yes" My Attorney: "Another BMW?" Him: "Or better" ---> yet he has no money ..... ummmmmmmmmmmm........... Or this one: My attorney : "Where are you living now" Him: "An apartment right near a homeless shelter. I have to push my way through crowds of homeless people to get to work, and someone was beaten on the front stoop of my building." My attorney: "Do you know that the apartment you are renting is valued at $1.5 million?" Him: ...... crickets ..... Some other things that came out is that he borrowed money from his father to meet expenses, but also took a ski trip in March. When questioned if he used any of his $98,000 bonus on paying off any of his obligations, including sending me any money, his answer was no. The judge actually scowled at that one. The only time he really showed any emotion is when the subject of his bonuses came up. He became really animated and said that the bonuses should be "his and his alone" because of all the work he does to get them. I don't think that went over well. I am actually looking forward to testifying, and I think it will be good that is a whole new day, and only I will be testifying. I have all the juicy stuff like details about his affairs, his spending thousands on his girlfriends from our shared checking account, his complete lack of any support for me or our daughters, etc. I am betting that his new lawyer is not even aware of his affairs ... when they come up I think she will be shocked. All in all though it was a very hard day. I spent 3 years building a new life that is protected from him and then he invaded it for a day. All his nasty comments, his bad attitude, his complete disdain for me ...... it brought me back to when I was under his thumb and felt helpless. I took me a whole day to recover. When I got home I did not feel safe. I don't worry about my physical safety, but it brought up all the anxiety I had when he literally pulled the rug out from under me. I had to get back into the mindset that he cannot touch me where I live and that even if I receive nothing from him, I will still be okay.
  41. 32 points
    I think you should send him away for psychological evaluation and treatment. He is a threat to others. I would get rid of anything in the house of value. Turn off his cellphones, get rid of the computers, so there is no longer an outlet for such things from him under your roof. Give to friends to store for safe keeping. He will steal it for money or to feed his violence. Call your insurance and see what and how health will be covered to treat mental illness. He needs intensive in-patient evaluation. Your Dh needs to come home and as a united front, you need to do this. I wouldn't inform your son of this. I wouldn't negotiate what he can do to get what he wants back. When the police show up, tell them you don't know what to do about his violence. Ask them what they can do to assure he doesn't hurt anyone bc you cannot manage it. And let them do it. NONE of doing that means you don't love your son, tho he will claim it does. It means he has crossed into an area where you can't go. But you can refuse to let him drag others into it. You can set a boundary of love that if he can get his head straight he can return to as a safe haven. But you have one month to do it. Once he is 18 you can't make him do a damn thing with regard to seeking mental help and in many states he will be able to buy real guns. And if he isn't on a path to help, you need to kick him out. Make sure you have a plan to do so safely and a plan to handle if he tries to come back angry. Do not give him any resources that he can profit from or twist to violent ends and don't put your other kids at risk. I don't know if this is the right thing to do. But I know it will be near impossible to get help at 18 and statistically your family is at high risk of violence that his not being there could reduce. My momma heart breaks for you. I pray your family finds peace and healing.
  42. 32 points
    Mostly to write out my successes since I'm feeling kind of blue this evening. 1. It's been just over 3 weeks since I have weighed or tracked my food. I'm following the Intuitive Eating plan and praying ALOT. My manager at work is my accountability partner and prayer partner. She prayed over me just last week and yet today she busted me for counting calories. I'm gaining weight as I can tell my clothing is getting snug so I ordered the next size up in my favorite jeans. I also ordered new pants for church but when I washed one pair, they shrunk a little, so I just ordered the next size up and maybe that one will work. I've got two choices. I can either start tracking again and lose back down so I can stay in my clothes, or I can buy more comfortable clothing and continue trying to eat moderately. I've chosen the latter. I really don't want to get started tracking and weighing again. Except for today's mini setback, I've been doing so well! 2. I joined a church and am visiting a Sunday School class. The past two weeks I've only got to Sunday School and skipped Worship though. Class gets out at 10:30 am and Worship starts at 11:00 so I'd be sitting in the sanctuary by myself for nearly half an hour and that makes me feel awkward. My class invited me to sit with them the first Sunday I was there but haven't invited me again. Perhaps if they saw me sitting alone, they'd ask me over. I'm too shy to ask if I can sit with them. We're working on a Bible study called What Are You Afraid Of?. I figured I'd do that study with them then try another class to see if I can find a better fit but I like the ladies in my class even though they are all much older than me. I'm in a class for ladies of all ages but these women are at least 10 years older than me. So I think I'll just stay in this class. We're working our way through the Bible study very slowly so it may be another 6 weeks before we do something else. I don't want to be in their class for over 2 months and then leave to try something else. So how do I know I'm in the right class? 3. Work is going super well. I've gained more confidence and am being a more active management team member. They acknowledge my efforts and brush off my mistakes. Today was a funny day. I didn't want to go in at 12:00 noon. Monday is our slowest day. I figured I could be late by over an hour and it would be no problem. So I decided to keep napping until they called me which I figured would happen around 1:00 pm. Nope! Shelly called at 10 minutes after noon to ask where I was. I told her I was sleeping and she laughed and told me to come in as soon as I could. So I got up and was getting ready and she called back to say that since I was so late anyway, to stop at the store and buy them donuts. 😄 I couldn't handle working full time so I dropped down to 30 hours a week. To be honest, it still feels like too much but it's better than 40 so I'm just trying to deal with it. 4. I started learning Spanish on Duolingo. I don't know where this will lead but I'm doing fairly well. I'm going slowly through the lessons to make sure I'm solid before adding in new vocabulary. It's quite a challenge but I'm thoroughly enjoying it. 5. I'm reading some books I haven't read in years. They are what I call intense and it usually takes me a long time to get through the books since I can't read them consistently. I have to keep taking breaks and going to another book so I can calm down and return to the book. Once I read it slowly, I can reread it quickly and really enjoy it. 6. I'm using an app called You Vision that my church uses for sermons. It has devotionals, some just a few days long, some longer. I'm doing one devotional with my sister, 2 of her friends and my aunt. It's so cool to comment at the end of each day and talk about how the devotional affected us. Then we can comment on someone else's post. I've also got other devotionals I'm doing alone. It's a great way to sidle into God's Word. I've also gotten an app that reads the Bible in one year. I joined in late and was trying to do two a day, one old and the current day so I'd catch up, but I can't always do two a day. I think I'm being too silly and should just focus on where I am in the readings. Each day I read either Proverbs or Psalms, a New Testament part, and an Old Testament part and the host has comments on each so it's like being in a mini lecture while reading the Bible. Pretty cool. I'd love more partners so if you use this app and want a new friend, let me know and we'll figure out how to connect. And I think that covers everything. I won't go into my failures. I'm trying to be upbeat and positive. Be well!
  43. 32 points
    Okay, here goes for dd: Acceptances: Stanford (EA), UCLA, UC Berkeley, UCSD, Univ Southern California, Rutgers, Georgia Tech, U Michigan, Wash U St Louis. Rejections: MIT, Harvard, Princeton, Yale, Brown (boo, Ivy League!) Wait List: U Penn Will attend: Stanford
  44. 32 points
    "Friend, I've been working on planning the upcoming season and trying to make everything fit. I have come to the realization that our participation in the co-op is unfortunately not going to work out this year. I am so sorry that I did not realize this when I talked to you about this last ___. But it cannot be helped, and I need to let you know now so that you have time to adjust or find another person. I wish you all the best with the co-op next season."
  45. 32 points
    DD found out a few hours ago that she was accepted to Swarthmore College. She's waiting to hear from 1 more.
  46. 31 points
    2 days old... Daisy is the "yellow/golden" colored chick The dark and lighter colored chick is Olivia Underneath Olivia is Henrietta. The light brown colored chick is Arabella ...So you are all clear on that. 2 Americaunas, 1 Rhode Island Red and 1 Black Australorp. ☺️
  47. 31 points
    DD's final acceptance came in yesterday. She got a yes from Smith. Today, we are starting to strategize how to make the decision.
  48. 31 points
    Occidental notified DD of her acceptance this evening.
  49. 31 points
    Yup...and an attitude like that, regardless of whether or not said teen followed the law, would also ground the teen driver. That attitude shows me the teen is not ready to accept the heavy responsibility that comes with driving. Driving a car is not a right and it requires drivers to shoulder a high level of responsibility. No responsibility = no driving privileges Poor attitude = no driving privileges
  50. 31 points
    I say, "OK, bud." a hundred times a day to my kids. I had to explain that a few years ago because someone here told me that all along they'd thought I was a marijuana enthusiast from Oklahoma 🤣.
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