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  1. 128 points
    Bye, bye breast cancer. I had my last radiation treatment today. Let’s hope cancer’s butt is sufficiently kicked that we don’t meet again for many decades, if at all.
  2. 110 points
    Hi all, I have not been around much anymore, but I wanted to post an update because we had this looooong thread three years ago when I was trying to figure out what to do with my life and how to find a new calling (not just something to keep me busy). This one: You all had so many interesting suggestions, and several commented that they were in a similar situation. So, I figure I owe you an update on how it all turned out: As I had posted towards the end of that thread, about 8 months after the initial post, I have gone back to writing. I am still working in my regular job as a physics professor, but have focused the remaining time on poetry. I have - completely accidentally - found community in a very unlikely place. Remember me talking about how this is a small town with few opportunities? I found a cluster of people in an even smaller town near here! I am regularly participating in live events, have gotten work into a few journals, and my first book has just been published through a small independent press! I feel like I have found a new direction and calling, something that defines me and goes beyond merely filling time. I want you to know that life post empty nest can be wonderful and fulfilling, and also that it took me several years of deep searching to figure out my path. I hope this is encouraging to those of you who are starting on that journey and are facing the end of the active parenting years. Best wishes to you all. ETA: Because people asked further down the thread: if you are interested in my book, please pm me. I won't post an advertising link in the thread.
  3. 93 points
    My oldest dd is an aspie. She is the reason we homeschooled. I remember crying one day when she was in 8th grade after she asked me what a 'frak-T-on' was (she was finishing pre-algebra at the time-- she had a partial seizure and had completely forgotten what a fraction was). DH actually over heard the conversation and wondered if she would ever be able to support herself as an adult... DD is now 28 and has lived on her own (with a bit of parental support) for the past few years. Today she found out that she is now the official studio manager at the photography studio she has been working at since she graduated college (she did that with honors!). This is her DREAM JOB. She will be 100% financially independent-- has insurance benefits too! I'm so proud of her!!!
  4. 87 points
    I got to spend my morning today with a WTM member who lives not very far from me. She helped me restore order to my homeschool room. She is also terrific company! She didn’t even make fun of my disembodied manequin heads for displaying knitted baby hats, although I think she did agree they are more pleasant and less Stephen King when they actually have a knitted hat on. She didn’t criticize me for having 900 colored pencils and a lifetime supply of Sharpies. Everyone here should be so lucky as to get to know a Hiver IRL. I know she would not seek accolades, but I just want to thank @Garga publically. She’s a gem!
  5. 67 points
    DS8 has a placement!! For those who don’t know, DS8 is on the spectrum with some associated behavioral challenges. He’s been in a self contained, small classroom all along and done fairly well. This last year his teacher, psychologist and counselor all left over Thanksgiving break. This was deeply traumatic for him and it didn’t help the new teacher didn’t understand or know what to do with behavioral kids. The school has eliminated all but one self contained classroom so there was nowhere else for him to go. He’s been on homebound since February and is very, very lonely. I tried to make inroads in the homeschooling community, but it’s not very inclusive here. It was clear they weren’t overly welcoming toward a SN kid who flaps his hands and says things that sound mouthy and disrespectful(though it’s just his awkward way of communicating) and occasionally refuses to do anything. Poor kid of mine had struggled so much the last few months—but we have a new class in a school about 40 minutes away. We went and visited and it’s absolutely perfect for him. I have such complete peace and know it’s a great fit. He’s excited about going too. In other news, I’m packing three little kids in my car and going to Washington DC for a week. Two of my kids, including DS8, are in the middle of an obsession with American history, so I’m making the most of it. Wish me luck.
  6. 67 points
    “Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” Thomas Edison
  7. 67 points
    When I was into my homeschooling journey people told me over and over "You need another interest, you can't make your kids your whole life, what will you do when they are grown? How will you let them go after centering your whole life around them??" Years after homeschooling is over the answer is easy. Grandchildren. Grown children. I am blessed enough that our three boys live within 2 minutes or 20 minutes down the road, and our two daughters 90 minutes away. My "other interests" are things that include the kids. Horses, gardening, living on a farm. We have big family dinners once or twice a week for anyone who can make it. I have the grandkids as often as possible. I do things for the grown kids when they need me, whether it's help finding a lost kitty or cooking dinner for 20 people because you lost a poker game. I'm not trying to brag on myself, I just want to encourage young moms who center their lives around their family. Keep it up girls. There's nothing better. Relax and enjoy.
  8. 66 points
    I've been here a long time, and today, I just feel like calling out another long-time poster, Lori D. I go on a lot of the boards, but esp college and chat now. I frequently see these truly helpful, amazing posts by Lori D. She gives incredible lists of literature, movies and even games, tailored to people's requests for their children. She has a scholarship list and a list of schools that give 100% merit aid. She is, quite simply, one of the most useful sources of homeschooling info, and beyond. So I wanted to say, THANK YOU, LORI D, for all you do for us boardies. You bring light and cheer, information and peace, and you are just a wonderfully supportive member of this very special community.
  9. 58 points
    Last week my oldest ds's college called my dh and invited us to an awards ceremony at the school. They told him that ds would be receiving some kind of award but didn't tell dh what when he asked. I decided to drive the two hours and go to the ceremony and take ds out to dinner as we have not seen him this semester. The awards ceremony was mostly for graduating seniors and looking at the program we couldn't figure out what ds (a junior) would even be up for. Turns out they award a few scholarships to upcoming seniors that were not listed in the program. My ds won two of the four scholarships awarded! The first he was aware existed because he applied and interviewed for it. It was an endowed scholarship funded by the alumni association of the accounting department of the school. It is substantial and the letter he got explained that the alumni association stipulates the award be stacked and not reduce any other offers from the school. The other scholarship he didn't even know about and did not apply for. It was one of two endowed awards given to rising seniors who have demonstrated excellence in the classroom and in contributing to life on campus and in the community. He doesn't even know how much it is, but it seemed like a big deal! He has gotten smaller endowed scholarships from the school in the past without any notification or fanfare. They just showed up in his account. So, the assumption is this is substantial as well. He is anxious to get over to financial aid this morning and find out the details. Ds has paid for his own school. He got a good financial deal going in, then won a large scholarship from my dh's employer that the college allowed him to stack without reducing their aid. He has worked long hours at miserable jobs in the summers and taken a few loans (not even to the max of the federal limits) and taken pride in carrying the load of financing his education. He has scrimped and saved and lived in the oldest junkiest dorm to save money. Now, it looks like he has a full ride for his senior year. Tuition, housing, etc. everything should be covered. I am just so happy for him to get this sweet unexpected reward to go into his senior year for free. He already has a professional internship and a side hustle lined up for summer so he will make a good chunk of money and for once actually be able to keep it and not pay for his school. He has worked so hard and with such a great attitude. I am just so proud of him and happy for him. Ds introduced me to the husband/wife couple that presented the award. They are both accounting alumni and have worked in the "big four" accounting firms and are active in giving back to the school. The told me they are already working on getting him lined up for jobs and they both told me that he is graduating into a powerful alumni network and will always have a job. It was an obvious point of pride to them that they claim 100% job placement for accounting grads. My ds has already been to multiple recruiting events for one of the big four firms as well as smaller firms and banks in the city. Such a nice night for ds. He is bright and hard working but he isn't ever the smartest kid anywhere. He has never had a 4.0 and isn't even the top of his accounting class in GPA. But he works hard and is humble and a good leader. He's just a good kid. He could have gone to higher ranked schools or schools with more amenities but he went to tiny Oglethorpe University in Atlanta with a 76% admission rate. People in Atlanta usually have not even heard of it. LOL. He got a fantastic value, has had a nice experience, and it looks like he will actually have a job in the end. Another kid not ruined by homeschooling!
  10. 58 points
    Ds22 got his drivers license today. A huge step towards independence. He asked me to drive home though because he was still feeling anxious. 🙂
  11. 57 points
    Dh and I have spent most of yesterday and likely today rearranging and getting rid of crap. I’ve been slowly doing it all year but hitting it hard this weekend. Moving beds and furniture and going through every bit of clothing and toys and STUFF. Ugh. It’s frikken everywhere. Five black trash bags of boys clothing that isn’t used for whatever many reasons. If my youngest boy outgrew it, I’m no longer keeping it for any next kid. Same for baby girl. 42 pairs of boys shoes donated. Probably double those trash bags in stuff thrown away. Furniture I don’t want around anymore. I’m just tired of all the stuff that needs cleaned or put back or doesn’t quite work right so has that not really a big deal but always a minor irritation to deal with stuff. I’m not selling much, I just want it gone. So donations. A few things I might sell on FB. The children are disgruntled but not complaining too much. Dh is none too happy since he is tearing down beds and rearranging them in different rooms according to my requests. But whatever. It’s the first thing he’s done around the house in years bc normally I do literally everything house and kids and errand related. I’m going minimalist. Not because I care about being minimalist but because I’m just tired of dealing with it all and frankly I’d rather spend the money on a vacation. And because while I hope I live at least another 50 years, reality is I probably won’t and I for sure won’t take all this crap with me for most of it. It’s just stuff. It’s not important to me so I don’t want to spend energy and money and time on it. Anyone else spending this week jump starting new year goals and plans?
  12. 57 points
    It is so much fun! I had a lovely lunch today with @Penguin. She gets around and has met with other boardies on other continents, but I am privileged to have her living practically in my back yard. 😊 So here we are together today.
  13. 53 points
    Y'all. I'll never be able to look my mailman in the eyes again. If you read the stunt panty thread, you'll remember I ordered several items...one of which finally arrived today (a month later, courtesy China post). Honestly, I'd forgotten about it. So the (very tiny) package arrived today. Like literally a 6x6 square envelope. You can feel there's not much substance in there. And it required a SIGNATURE! And not realizing what it was, I was like "what is this?" and Mr. Postman said "Um...it says women's pajamas." Oh...ooooooohhh. So I sign. I get the tiny package inside, and no, what the package *actually* says on the customs line is "women's SEXY pajamas!" OMG, hahaha. With that teensy package, and I'm a bigger gal, haha. How deliciously awkward. 😄 I'm still giggling.
  14. 52 points
    I can't believe our little rainbow baby is three months old already! He is the sweetest. He has recently started giggling at us, and he shoves burp cloths into his mouth. We adore him so, so much. Mr. Five cannot get enough of him. A thousand times a day, he comes up to say, "I love this baby too, too much. I need this baby. Let me hold the baby." A few weeks ago, he told me, "This is the baby I always wanted." Baby gets covered with a lot of kisses. (And in true Mr. Five fashion, he still very often reminds us out of the blue that he is a double big brother.) It is such a beautiful gift to have him and to be able to pick him up and cuddle him whenever I want. His little face smiling at me in the morning lights my world.
  15. 52 points
    I got the writing gig 🙂 Just that little bit of stand-on-my-feet is helpful. I'll take all the other help though. It's just easier when I feel like I'm also doing something to help myself.
  16. 49 points
    My dd found this dress on clearance back in August-- pretty-- but the lace 'blobs' were tattered and just did not look right. We found some silk hydrangeas, pearl beads, gold ribbon and some tiny gold butterflies-- and she LOVED the result! I used the scraps to make a headpiece and her date's boutonniere too... Prom was this past Saturday-- my oldest dd is a professional photographer and took the prom picts! Not a bad dress for just under $100! First picture is trying it on at store... notice lace 'blobs'...
  17. 47 points
    Some good news. A friend got me some work over the next couple of days and the pay is good, and will provide a much needed bump to the account. I made a plan re ds. My dad went to the hospital for me so I don't have to go today. And my mum cooked me dinner. ~ I feel really ashamed to need so much help, but it's better than no help. I just want to get on my feet and independent again soon.
  18. 46 points
    Potentially, ya'all will think I'm crazy. However, I loved this. 😉 So, DH is taking this class. And it's often faster if, while he works, I read the text aloud. So, yesterday we're working through this grad course on logistics, quality, and capacity. The question is that if this line is supposed to produce only 1,000 widgets, but it's continuously maxing out at 700 widgets, what's wrong? Well, obviously there are ways to seek improvement. However, it is not realistic that the machines will ever consistently produce at maximum capacity. "The term capacity implies an attainable rate of output, for example, 480 cars per day, but says nothing about how long that rate can be sustained" (Jacobs, p.112). Further, "To avoid this problem, the concept of best operating level is used" (Jacobs, p.112). Definition of best operating level: The level of capacity for which the process was designed and the volume of output at which average cost is minimized. At which point I shouted, "Oh my gosh! This is motherhood in a nutshell!" We get so irritated with ourselves because we don't perform at maximum capacity. So, while on our best days, our output might be incredible, the fact is that it simply isn't sustainable in the long term. We need to learn to congratulate ourselves on a stellar day, but not raise our expectations that tomorrow will be a duplicate. Just simply revel in the day, then move on to accept the next day's mediocrity. Motherhood is not lean. Moreover, the capacity for which we are designed is not at maximum capacity. It's at best operating level - and the amount of output we produce has cost and while it would be lovely to minimize the costs (to ourselves and our families) while producing maximum output, it doesn't work like that and we aren't machines. Geek time over. But you get a pass at taking a day off and having mediocre days!
  19. 45 points
    We're back. Dh ended up seeing my GP, who is very good. He did a thorough check. Blood pressure was high, but on the low side of dh's high. Pulse and blood sugars OK. Lungs sounded clear, and the GP wasn't worried about heart either. He was concerned about general debility, which he explained was partly due to symptoms of long term high dose prednisone, some of which I didn't know about before, and also the not eating due to the ulcers, also due to steroids. He was able to prescribe various things for troublesome symptoms, and tweak some meds which will let dh eat (hopefully) and be generally more comfortable as he waits for his specialist appt. He also probed into mental state, and I was able to have a frank discussion with GP about that; he said the renal nurse will be able to link dh to psychology dealing in kidney disease. I felt much better being able to share all my concerns, ask questions, and get the GP to address everything I was worried about. Dh has agreed that I will come to the appt with the renal nurse. I have an if-then list to tide me over till dh sees the specialist again. So, goodish news. I am just about to ring around pharmacies; the mouth numbing liquid isn't on the PBS, and is $100 plus! Ouch.
  20. 45 points
    We had a kindness shown to us today I thought I would share. We went into Houston today to take MIL to lunch and braved the Galleria traffic to go to a restaurant dh loves. Everyone was more than ready to get out of the car and sit down after all of the crazy Christmas traffic, as if you're familiar with Houston, I know you can imagine. As we were waiting to be seated, an older woman my MIL's age, who was waiting ahead of us, turned and complimented my two youngest kids on how nicely they were waiting and asked them what grade they were in. This of course got the homeschool kids "deer in the headlights" look and "uuuuhhhhhh" response (even though I've told them both to say 1st/2nd- they forget) which is always a bit embarrassing for me. Dh told her we homeschooled so they were all over grade wise and she smiled and said oh but they look like such good students and told us she was a retired public school teacher who had taught 1st and then later 5th grade. We chit chatted a couple of minutes and then everyone was seated and went on our way. Later, as we were eating, she stopped back by our table and gave each of the kids a Christmas card with a fresh $2 bill in it. She told them a little about $2 bills and how money had changed over the years and some history stuff, then said they were doing great jobs as students and to be thankful they had such a good Mother to teach them so well at home, to keep working hard, and then wished us Merry Christmas and left. I was so surprised and so happy and the kids were thrilled! It was just such an awesome, unexpected blessing in our day. With all of the horrible news and so much hostility you see online, it's really awesome that there are people like her around and to experience just such a random bit of generosity in our day. Anyway, just wanted to share. Hope y'all had something blessed in your day as well.
  21. 43 points
    Y'all, this has been going on for months (which is nothing for most PANDAS people) and right now, I honestly can't believe we have a real diagnosis! We got up at 5am and drove 3 hours each way to the Rothman Center for Pediatric Neuropsycholoy yesterday and it was totally worth it. Such a difference! An ACTUAL neurological exam, huge history, multiple people working together (saw the resident who I loved, and the professor/lead researcher who I also liked, and a med student tagged along who was awesome as well). No one thought I was crazy. No one dismissed me. My questions were respected. We have a PLAN! No one just shrugged and said, "maybe he got late autism or something". You don't realize what not good care you are getting until you get good care. Makes me want to cry. Thank God for respectful medical staff. Thinking about it as I sit here and cry a bit, some of my most intensely grateful moments have been interacting with truly respectful medical staff. Ones you recognize how vulnerable you are when seeking career nd don't abuse that. I can remember several specific instances that are burned in my memory for the way I was treated: A nurse when my 19 year old was born. I was in pain and exhausted after 45 hours of unmedicated labor and then an emergency (I thought) c-section. I burn through pain meds fast (ultra rapid metabolizer) and earlier that day a bitch nurse wouldn't give me my meds so I'd gotten behind the pain and ended up crying and in tears and emotional. I got the meds, and shift changed, and that night in the middle of the night I woke up soaked in sweat from post partum sweats, and uncomfortable, etc. An angel of a nurse came in and offered to change my sheets. It was 2am. Changing sheets was not her job. But she saw me so uncomfortable and like it was nothing got me up and while I used the bathroom she put on cool fresh sheets and a fresh pillow case and got me tucked back in with a drink. Such a freaking simple thing but it is almost 20 years later and I still tear up at the sheer kindness of it. Another time when my daughter had a broken arm from me falling while carrying her. The doctor I am sure knew how guilty i felt over injuring my 9 month old, and told me that a broken elbow was fixable, a broken head wasn't. Id' held her in such a way to protect her head as we fell, and he flat out told me "good job mom". That simple sentence took away so much guilt. Again, such a tiny thing, and 9 years later I remember how it made me feel. When I had my first bariatric appointment and realized for once no one was blaming me for my obesity. In fact, EVERY time a doctor calls it a disease, not a moral failing, I want to kiss them. I spent my whole life blaming and hating myself for my fatness, and here was someone coming along side of me to help me, rather than shame me. Who saw ME, not my fat. And yesterday, when the resident told me that he can't see these kids and NOT believe in PANDAS. Respectful care that treats you as a valid human is so special. (also, they loved my binder of all my info - medical records, test results, insurance information, address and phone number of every doctor we have, pharmacy info, etc)
  22. 43 points
    I've been out of church since 2005 when we moved 45 minutes away. I was very involved in that church and I loved it there. Then we moved and I tried a new church and it didn't have the same feeling as my former church so I didn't go back. I also didn't try anymore churches. So I haven't stepped foot in a church in 14 years. I've been thinking about returning to church for months now but I'm so scared to go on my own. My DH isn't religious and has no desire to support me in this by going with me, but he does want me to be happy and understands God has a place in my Heart and in my Life despite my lack of religious activity in the past 14 years. So over the course of the past couple of months, I've felt like God wants me to go try that church again. He's telling me that's the next step in my Life. He answered my prayers to find something personally fulfilling and that was all my volunteering which led to a paying job. I work with good people and love my job. I'm grateful that God steered me in that direction, even despite my lack of daily prayer. Anyway, I'm going to church in the morning. DH helped me find my Bible and I dusted it off. I love my Bible. It's in a lovely leather case with an embroidered cross on the front. I have a pen in there to take notes. I want to be a part of a Sunday School class for women only and do Bible study and make friends. I also want to attend a traditional worship service and listen to the sermon and learn more about the Bible and God's message to me. But I'm nervous. I bet I won't be able to sleep tonight. I decided that for my first visit, I'm only going to go to the worship service at 11:00 am. If it goes well, then next Sunday I'll go to a Sunday School class at 9:30 am. I really wish I had someone going with me. I don't normally do things on my own because I suffer from anxiety. So I'd be grateful if you ask God to help me feel not alone tomorrow. Let me meet nice people who make me feel welcome. Thank you. UPDATE: I forgot what a good ole Southern Baptist Church is like. I really enjoyed myself. They played maybe a bit too much music. The service started with about 20-30 minutes of singing both by the congregation and the choir. They had a full band. And that was the Traditional Worship service. The earlier service is the Contemporary one that has a Praise Team and Band. I imagine that's more geared towards younger members like college age and young adults, although there was a mixture of ages in the Traditional Service. Dumb me forgot to bring in my glasses so I couldn't fill out the 'I'm New Here' card to drop in the offering plate. I had to go up to the help desk after service to get someone to help me write on it. I enjoyed myself enough to want to join a Sunday School class which they call Connect groups. Everyone that talked to me was extremely nice and welcoming. I got a hug and a personal prayer from one guy who is in charge of getting people connected in the church. I explained I hadn't been to church in 14 years and he thanked God that He led me back to church. So I'd say it was an extremely positive experience and I believe I'll feel at home at this church as much as I did the last church I belonged to before we moved to our present location. So thank you for all the prayers. They really worked. I wasn't anxious at all. I got dressed and DH helped me pick out the right outfit and shoes, then I drove myself there and parked. All the while I felt calm. As I got to the building, three men in red church jackets met me and welcomed me. One took me by the hand and let me inside to the help desk. He personally introduced me to the woman behind the desk. It felt so good that I wasn't alone. So thank you again!! Whoa! Giant smiley face. I was going to delete it but I don't know how! Oh well, I feel happy so why not a big happy?
  23. 43 points
  24. 43 points
    Aw, thank you, Quill! I had a lovely time hanging out with you. It was easy, as if we've been hanging out for years. The bald disembodied baby heads were hilarious. I was trying to figure out what educational value they had when Quill explained they were for knitting baby hats. 😄 (Here's an example of one.) Though, truth be told, I'm not sure that Quill and her son actually do any homeschooling. We collected about 50 billion Nerf darts from behind the furniture in the room, so I'm pretty sure the two of them have mighty Nerf battles all day long instead of working. 😁 Oh! And I got to see her yellow door and decorated porch in person! Looked even better than the pictures! I thought of everyone in the hive who'd posted about paint colors when I saw that door. The yellow looks so nice against the rest of the house.
  25. 43 points
    Update: She let out a gasp as she pulled it out of the packaging. My heart grew three sizes today. I'm posting this not because I'm proud of the quilt but because I am proud of how much I learned. There are so many mistakes but I learned from each one so now I will feel more confident making future quilts. I even got past my fear of machine quilting. Does it look like a seven year old did it? Sure, but it's a present for a seven year old so that's okay. The little girl is my newly adopted grand niece and she is Frozen crazy. So even though I have other gifts for her, I still wanted something to show how much she already means to us. Something she can wrap around herself and know we care.
  26. 42 points
    Support your dh. I agree with him that it is a deal breaker. The issue is not whether the pinkie was hurt or not (especially since the injury was a minor one anyway). The main issue is that the BIL was being a bully. He did not use his words for the controller. It doesn't matter if he surprised your son or not - BIL should not have just grabbed it out of his hands unless it was a safety issue. And when he did use his words, it was to get in a shouting match with a five year old.
  27. 41 points
    Sharing some of my excitement and a bit of my anxiety as I leave tomorrow with REI adventures for Kathmandu for 3 weeks including travel time to trek Everest Base Camp with a group of 8 others. Reaching 50 and Empty Nest is excitedly sending me out the door to see what life has to offer me and what I have to offer it:) Updates and pictures upon safe return-Lord willing!
  28. 41 points
    So I'm back :) One child started homeschooling in Sept Another started several weeks ago Another this week Another is too young but we're hoping she can homeschool throughout One child is still in school. This is best for everyone. I feel "real" again. I was a homeschooling mom (first two homeschooled all but 8 weeks ever, graduating in 2009 and 2012) and I am a homeschool mom (hopefully for the next 16ish years). Missed y'all.
  29. 41 points
    My decorating styles over the years have Included Early Attic, Modern Poverty, Craigslist Chic, Contemporary Castoffs, and Delightful Dumpster Dives.
  30. 40 points
    I just got a hilarious voicemail from my mother, saying that the people in her town are watching Marie Kondo's show on Netflix, and are purging their houses like crazy. She's on her way to Goodwill to snag all the cool things other people are ditching! 🤣
  31. 40 points
    Delighted to see a major public health issue addressed through a public facility on an opt-in basis. It's not like they're putting some in everybody's locker, right? One has to go to the nurse's office to get them. So it's still an opt-in, not an opt-out.
  32. 40 points
    Scully is 10 weeks old today.
  33. 39 points
    As some of you know, my oldest son has ASD and right now is on homebound. While I am a huge fan of homeschooling, this particular child needs more socialization than I can manage. With his rigidity, overall oddness and behaviors, we have not been welcomed with open arms to our local homeschool community, which has been swallowed whole by Classical conversations. Which is another post. In any case, our school has been diligently searching for a class for him. We thought he had one 45 minutes away, but it turned out to be an 8:1:1 and his team feels he very much needs a 6:1:1 class. His homebound teacher told me tonight that she is phone conferencing with the two teachers from the two classes they have found. One is a 6:1:1 emotionally disturbed class a 55 minute drive away in the opposite direction of where we work and where our families are. The other, amazingly, is a 6:1:1 autism program 35 minutes away, next door to where my husband and I work and only a few minutes from my mother in law. It’s also around the corner from his outside occupational therapy group, so a really easy pickup for OT. The teacher has a reputation for being amazing and there is usually a year long wait list for this program—and last week they got an opening and somehow my son has jumped to the top of the waitlist(probably because he’s been on homebound for over a month now). Would you pray the second school accepts him? We feel it’s a great place for him and close to us or Grandma if something were to happen instead of us driving an hour and a half from work. His homebound teacher knows the program very well and the teacher there and also feels it’s a great program for him. She doesn’t feel an emotionally disturbed class would be a good place for him(he has no psych diagnosis at this time). thank you!! It’s so hard to get into this particular program and I cried when I heard we had a chance.
  34. 39 points
    So we went to court (again) yesterday for a combined contempt hearing and status hearing. We were supposed to do a 4-way meeting for about an hour and then go before the judge. My STBX showed up with his newest (4th) lawyer. She was actually very nice and brought a nice energy to the proceedings. Finally he hired a lawyer who seems down to earth and not apt to play a lot of ridiculous power games. We start off the 4-way, and then the attorneys had to leave to room to confer. So, for the first time in 3 years I was alone with my STBX. I knew that if anything was going to be accomplished I would have to talk him down from Stubborn Mountain. Slowly but surely I got him to talk a bit, got him to back down from his arrogance (although it probably won't last.) We were in conference for over 2 hours. His position is that he has been covering all the expenses and cannot afford the alimony payments (he is 28 weeks behind). He actually wanted me to pay for half the utilities cost for the time he was living in our home by himself. I told him only if he paid half of my utilities during that time when I was living elsewhere. Stupid stuff like that. Most of the reason he is so far in debt is because he owes $70,000 to various prior lawyers. However, over the past year he has received almost $100K in bonuses on top of his salary going up by 25%. So it was a lot of round and round stupid stuff. But at least we were able to talk to each other. The interesting part was after it was over my lawyer complimented me on how I handled him. She asked if it was a special approach I had developed. Her comment surprised me because I never realized how much I had to "handle" him when having a conversation, it was just something I learned to do to try and keep the peace. When I told her that she said that it must have been exhausting to live that way. I guess I never realized it because it just happened but, yes, I had learned how to circle around and around him and it was exhausting! Hence the tattoo on my arm that says "She had not known the weight until she felt the freedom" from the Scarlet Letter. I always make sure that tattoo is visible to him when we go to court haha. My offer to him is the same as it has always been - straight alimony only. No percentage of his bonuses, etc. I don't want to have to chase him. He seemed ok with the idea so now it may just be a case of coming up with a good alimony number and figuring out the split of some marital debt we have. I just want to be free from him but I am not about to give in and short change myself. So I am asking for a good alimony amount. When we then went before the judge he did indicate that my STBX's bonuses would be considered part of the settlement. I hope that motivates my STBX. I am actually offering him a better deal but he is just too stupid to realize it. Now we are supposed to exchange a bunch more paperwork over the next two weeks and then see where we stand. I see maybe a tiny glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel -- let's hope it's not just the shine off my STBX's bald head!
  35. 39 points
    Mines has 2 career days a year where a number of companies come to campus to market/interview. Ds had several on campus interviews, several away from campus interviews (including one an airplane ride away), declined a few airplane rides away interviews (due to rural locations), and was rejected by a few companies he wanted. Two days ago, he was offered a job at a company that he likes that is local to him. He is happy to stay in the area. The salary is average for someone with his degree (mechanical engineering undergrad and engineering and technology management graduate) according to Mines salary outcome report. The offer comes with all the standard benefits. He accepted today. He will start in June after graduation in May. A terrific Xmas present for us all. I was a little worried because he never worked a summer internship, so I'm relieved it all worked out. For those who have followed the ups and downs of basketball over the years, he made it through to Xmas with no injuries. Yay! (2 of his 5 years, he did not) I really need to change my signature. I hate to give up my beach gal, though.
  36. 38 points
    My longest friendships are roughly 20-25 years. 11 years ago, I made some new friends. (changing states/churches) 3 years ago, I made a few more. (changing churches) TODAY I MADE A NEW FRIEND ALL BY MYSELF! My son was playing with a kid at the trampoline park last week and today I went with him and totally hit it off with the parents, esp the mom. Brand new experience and I'm kinda excited. She seems really nice, and tattooed like me 🙂
  37. 38 points
    Here's the thing though-- a lot of the most vocal and knowledgeable "anti-vaxxers" are actually "ex-vaxxers." People who trusted the CDC's schedule, vaccinated according to their guidelines, and ended up with seriously injured kids. One of the most knowledgeable people that I know regarding vaccines, who could run circles around most doctors with what she knows, lost her baby after his 2-month vaccines. He. DIED. Your Darwin comment is completely out of line. We need to be able to have serious conversations about vaccine safety and right now that's just not happening. People don't realize that babies today get as many vaccines by 6 months of age that we adults got DURING OUR ENTIRE CHILDHOOD. We need to be able to have real conversations about vaccine safety and, for the love, we need to be able to acknowledge vaccine injury. This is obviously not the thread for that conversation, so I'm going to politely bow out here.
  38. 38 points
    I have a small flock of Silkie chickens. Now that they are grown I had waaaay too many roosters so I put a "Free Silkie Roos" ad on craigslist. Tonight Pepper the silkie hen came out to my house with her "mom" to meet the roo of her dreams. Pepper lives inside, wears a diaper and a pink polka dot hair ribbon. (feather ribbon??) Anyhow, apparently the roosters were so appealing she could not decide, and ended up taking home seven. So, a chicken version of the Bacholerette?? You can't make this $h!t up.
  39. 37 points
    DS got an email yesterday that he has been appointed to the United States Air Force Academy. Needless to say, there was much cheering, dancing around and crying (with joy!) at my house. Attending a service academy has been his goal for the last 7+ years He is still waiting to hear from the Naval Academy, but is 99% sure he will accept and go to Air Force!
  40. 37 points
    If I were just observing the situation as a parent, I'd be far more concerned about a car pulling over to talk to my kids while they were walking home at night than I would be about my kids walking home at night or spending time alone in the house while I was down the street at a party. I have also told my kids not to answer the doorbell while they are home alone (for various reasons). Unless I had arranged in advance for a neighbor to check in on them I'd rather people not trying to get them to answer the door without me there. And I know you said this isn't the case with your relationship with your neighbor, but if I had a neighbor that felt compelled to come over and "let me know my kids were okay" (after I had gotten home from work and presumably seen them myself), I would be worried that the neighbor was making a veiled judgment at the very least about my decision to let them be home on their own. I can't figure out how that is not an extremely awkward conversation. "Hey, just letting you know your kids got home all right!" "Yes, I know I'm home with them right now." "Well, I saw them walking alone and you weren't waiting for them on the porch, so just thought I'd let you know they are okay because I stopped by to check on them." That would be really weird to me as the mom unless we knew each other really, really well. And even then I can't quite figure it out. I used to live in a state where the minimum age is 8yo for kids staying along by themselves. I personally can't imagine waiting until a kid is 12 to leave them alone for five minutes (I was baby-sitting at 12 for up to two hours at a time!) but I realize everyone has their own comfort level and each kid has their own maturity level.
  41. 37 points
    Every time a kid has complained today my husband has sighed and told them, “You kids don’t understand how grateful we should all be that any of us haven’t been booted so she can have a yarn room.”
  42. 37 points
    My 11 year old made presents for his siblings. He was so excited about giving them, he could barely sleep, and then woke the entire family up at 4:56! I sent them back to bed until 7. His excitement was contagious and so sweet.
  43. 37 points
    I would be extremely uncomfortable with this during puberty.
  44. 36 points
    Though it's doubtful anyone remembers, I have posted here numerous times that my father was making me a beautiful carousel horse cross-stitch years ago, but stopped work on it due to neuropathy in his hands and many, many eye surgeries. I had asked about it a couple times, but it’s hard to find things in their house and I wasn’t sure he might not have thrown it away in a fit of anger at some point. A couple of months ago, my mom did find the pattern for it, so I had some small hope it was still around somewhere. Well lo and behold, my mom and sister, who have been doing some de-hoarding, found it! I could die of joy! The pattern is actually much further along than I expected. At some point, though not right now, I will complete it, clean it, sign it for my dad and with my siggy added, and have it framed. Here it is:
  45. 36 points
    I am going in the middle of the night tonight. I am going to be kid-less and DH-less for 6 whole days 🙂 I am going to look after my grandmother for 6 days while her partner has surgery and is in hospital. I am so excited. I have only had in the last 25 years overnighters away from everyone (not including time in hospital) and that has only really been for specialized training for the twins My grandmother is pretty excited as well.
  46. 36 points
    Just thought I'd update: Dh is out of ICU as of yesterday, still in isolation though b/c of the legionella. On the renal ward. Very weak, very thin, but improving. He avoided emergency dialysis by the skin of his teeth, and kidney function since that low point has actually improved. I did not cope well with the IL's. I may have raised my voice to my MIL. I don't care. I have zero care to give other than paying the rent, feeding the kids, and getting dh back on his feet - literally. I laid down the law also - either dh takes responsibility for his health from now on, and that means abiding by his kidney disease guidelines re fluids, diet, seeking medical care and information as required and taking my concerns when I have them seriously, or he can move back wth his parents. I am totally fried by the whole experience and have nothing left in the tank other than helping someone who is helping himself. We'll see.
  47. 36 points
    I got a mug when I was in 3rd grade or so. I used it up until about 3 years ago when ds broke it. I'm 45, so it had a long, loved life. He found another one and gave it to me today. It was seriously the most thoughtful gift ever and I am so happy. I don't know how he found it as it seemed pretty hard to find. I'm pretty much a person who uses things rather than collect and display them so I'm torn on what to do. He put so much thought into this and I dont want it to break. Maybe it will be my "Christmas Day" mug.
  48. 35 points
    I've graduated my 5th kid from home school high school. She has decided her college choice, gotten accepted and received an excellent FA package. She will be moving to campus in August. So excited for her. My husband is becoming Catholic this Easter! You could fit a small human in that man's first easter basket this year. And at some point after Easter, the husband and I are going to the Caribbean all by ourselves for 7 glorious days. I don't know what he is going to do. I'm going diving and snorkeling every day. LOL I'm one happy happy woman this week.🐠🏝💕😁
  49. 35 points
    One thing that really bugs me along these lines is that women and girls have fought for years To be able to do traditionally male things Like sports, camping, outdoor stuff. But just because you enjoy these things and don’t want makeup and dresses doesn’t mean that you’re not female. I love working outdoors. While I like being cute from time to time it’s not something I think of every day. And yet...im definitely female and comfortable being an outdoorsy type. A girl can pursue traditionally “masculine” interests without having some sort of gender dysphoria. I think it would be easy for a middle schooler to believe that unless you want to be a girl who loves sparkles, guys, makeup and clothes that there’s something wrong with you because so many women are portraying themselves as sex objects and that’s what being female is about. i feel that I’m explaining this clumsily. I’m not trying to offend...
  50. 35 points
    Still in ICU, but stable. I can't handle ICU by myself; I've worked out that I have to take another person with me to stop from feeling sick with stress. In laws arrive tomorrow. I just keep falling asleep...it's not a helpful stress response...I've gotten nothing done this week other than visit and update other people and nap. In good news, my ds turns 15 tomorrow, and we're having tiramisu...I did go to the concert with my sister also, and it was fantastic, and once feeling guilty at being out and enjoying myself wore off, it was a good mental break. Thanks for the thoughts x
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