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  1. It's not hoarding if the books are clean and stored properly upright in bookshelves, and the math toys and spelling tiles are hermetically sealed into Rubbermaid totes. If you might have chalk and crayons (and little wooden slates, and six reams of newsprint) that you think you could use in a post-apocalyptic scenario, that's just being responsible.
    17 points
  2. Farrar, thank you! I worry about this every day when I compulsively read the Scary Mommy Facebook page. I read it because I do identify with a lot of it. My heart goes out to the young moms, I will always be that way...but there was literally an article this week that said, "Don't tell me how you did anything with your own kids, or what worked in the past (in schools or play groups), or what you ever learned. MYOB unless I ask you for very specific advice, and then only address that one thing, because it makes me feel outraged yet crushed that you might think I don't already know everything." What. OK, but don't then complain about your isolation and loneliness, if you put off vibes that say you are too fragile and hostile to talk to at all. I say this as a MIL who doesn't dole out advice and who assumes my DIL has things under control (seriously, she does, she's amazing)...and she meets me halfway by calmly tolerating my occasional stories. That's, like, social skills on both our parts. Kinda neat.
    17 points
  3. DD had a generous departmental scholarship last year. We understood when it was awarded that it was for a single year. She applied again the next year for departmental scholarships but never heard anything and assumed that they decided to "spread the wealth" and award different students. We paid her account balance due a week ago for fall semester and she just today was notified that she was again awarded the departmental scholarship and is now expecting a generous refund! The delay was due to a change in how the scholarships are administered within the department and somebody dropped the ball. As her younger sister also started college this year, this news will REALLY help us out. I had stashed away some AOTC refund that helped defray this semester's costs but wouldn't have that extra to help cover next semester. There would be much dancing around the house except that both college students have already picked up a virus and are feeling poorly. Argh!
    16 points
  4. When the teen answers the door and discovers two cops standing there, his first priority should be to alert the adult in the house.
    15 points
  5. In case your teen is like mine, and loves a loophole, you might want to expand that rule to include situations with one or three cops. Heck, you might even want to throw caution to the wind and make the rule “one or more emergency responders”.
    15 points
  6. Let's just say I probably fall into the "homeschooling prepper" category. ? If the internet dies tomorrow, I could still do K-12 with all books we have in the living room, kitchen, coat closet, both of my bedroom closets, upstairs hallway, downstairs hallway... I like options.
    12 points
  7. I hoard the old portfolios. The curricula are easy to part with. But you'll pry my big box of Cuisenaire rods out of my cold, dead hands, thank you very much.
    12 points
  8. I'm sorry that the receptionist didn't call the police. His behavior should have been documented. It would help in the event that a restraining order is needed for your lawyer or yourself.
    11 points
  9. Even if you could get a restraining order, I wouldn't count on that to protect you. I think you need to talk to your nephew ASAP about ways you can protect yourself at home, at work, and wherever you go.
    11 points
  10. Well, I’ll admit that I used Babywise for my 2nd baby. At the time, I didn’t know that the book was controversial. My oldest had had colic and cried for hours upon hours every day for months and I held him almost non-stop for about a year. He was fed on demand, which meant he literally wanted to eat every hour on the hour for a few months, and then moved to every 2 hours for another half year. He never slept more than 2 hours in a row for 18 months of his life.. He co-slept with me. He has ADHD which meant he was on the go more than any other kid his age that I knew. The other moms would look at me kinda funny chasing him around, because they thought I was doing things wrong to make him so hyper. No, I wasn’t. An adhd kid is just different. And hyper—adHd, after all. So, for a year and a half, I never slept more than an hour and a half in a row, I held the baby constantly because he almost never slept during the day and was colicky and needed to be held, I couldn’t leave him playing quietly on the floor (after the colic months) while I got things done because he was Demanding (capital D.) I sunk into a weird form of depression. The nursing set off happy hormones in me so part of me felt happy and content, but I wasn’t human anymore. I was just a walking food machine and was beyond seriously sleep deprived, so I also felt useless as a person and chained down. I knew that when I had the second one, I could never handle both—because I assumed the 2nd one would be exactly like the first (I knew nothing of kids until I had my own.) So, when I found Babywise, it seemed wonderful. Finally, there were tips on how to help baby fall asleep and how often to expect them to eat. So, yeah. Babywise. I fed the baby when they said to (I think it’s supposed to be when they first wake up, so that when it’s time to sleep they don’t need to use you as a human pacifier—which is why my oldest did.). I did let him cry in the crib to fall asleep, but he didn’t cry more than about 7 or 8 minutes or so. I had charts in place for how much sleep and food to expect Baby to need. And everything was fine. The second baby was like how I hear other people’s experiences are. Of course, he doesn’t have ADHD and wasn’t colicky, so maybe he’d have been fine no matter what. And I still held him practically non-stop when he was awake because I loved him to pieces and couldn’t get enough of him. (Still love him that much! Love them both that much!) So, I don’t know. I have heard that Babywise is bad and it probably is if taken too far. But I was grateful that it gave me guidelines on how much to feed babies and how much sleep they need. Because with the first, it was just out of control and not good for baby or me.. Oh, this is too long. Anyway, OP, tell them everything you know about parenting as long as they’re receptive—absolutely do that. Go ahead and tell them what you know about Babywise that’s bad—perhaps the cases where people take it too far—but also know that there’s a good chance their babies will be fine, even following Babywise.
    11 points
  11. I like to find out what ended up happening in a thread situation , or what curriculum was chosen, or what a mystery illness turned out to be. Do others also like follow up and update type posts, or am I unusual?
    10 points
  12. If I didn't like it, I ditch it. But if I liked it? The grandkids might need it in 20 years! What if there's a general societal meltdown and I've got to teach the neighborhood kids!! :-)
    10 points
  13. My oldest was walking out of a grocery store today when she heard a tiny cat meowing from a car. The windows were cracked but it was over 100 degrees outside so she went to get the store manager. When they got back to the car the manager said the kitten was not inside the car-- it was IN the car! After a frantic few minutes they were able to free the little guy. The lady who owned the car had just come from an 8 hour shift so the kitten must have crawled up into the wheel area at that time for shade... DD took the little fella home and gave him a good bath with Dawn-- and her middle sister claimed him immediately! Right now she is deciding on names-- Bently (because the car was an old Bently) or Hubcap-- called Hubby for short. She is leaning towards Hubby. Tomorrow morning I will take him to a vet for a check up. If he is healthy then I will officially have a new grand-kitty!
    9 points
  14. I have thought of her often, over the years, and wished for the same thing! She came to mind once, when I really felt like I was fooling myself and trying too hard, to introduce my blue collar family to the Great Conversation: My son bragged to a lady at church that we were all reading The Count of Monty Crisco, by Alexander Dumbass.
    9 points
  15. I think that's called...being a homeschooler!
    9 points
  16. I know... but once the "circles" are big enough, they're still more likely to do something. Of course, then other "circles" of people in the know arise. I was explaining this scandal to dh, who was like, I have a friend who works at the CB and says it's a wonderful place to work with lots of great people. And I snorted. I was like, "I have a friend who's helping design the Death Star. She says her team is really nice and she's got a great boss."
    9 points
  17. I exclusively bf'ed my twins. It can be done, but it's not always the right course. Mine were really terrible sleepers, but we were super attachment. Terabeth, I'm in DC... I want to run over and hug these babies. Gosh. I wonder when I read things like this... it's just so hard now. It's super important to respect new parents' ability to raise their own kids, make their own mistakes, and generally do it their way. And every new parent thinks they know everything. A friend and I laughed recently about her new nephew and how her sis knew *everything* and how funny that was from the perspective of having teens and these new parents trying to tell us everything they know. But sometimes it goes beyond that to something like this where a family really doesn't know anything. In literally every culture these things were handed down culturally through observations and practice - through listening to grandma and mom and older sisters and cousins about their children - how to bf, how to get them to sleep, how to play, etc. But now we're not "allowed" to share that information anymore even when families need it because it transgresses a boundary. It makes me really... worried for us. Of course lots of us get it and some people really do want to watch and learn. But for others... it feels like it's yet another way that we're coming apart as a society.
    9 points
  18. What's inexpensive to one person is still expensive to some others. In my area, we do have people who would not be able to keep their kids home without being enrolled in public cyber schools. The extra dollars just aren't there. I always justify my spending with "handing it down", but not everyone has multiple kids, either. I spend a good bit on science (and have since before high school grades) because I'm not comfortable with my skills in that area. I'm really good at following instructions, so I've paid a good deal for open-and-go as well as outsourcing. I do believe that, given enough available time, I could have improved my science skills to teach them directly, but it's been easier for me to manage 3 to 5 students by putting my time elsewhere and just paying for easier to implement sciences! Ironically, I consider math before Alg II, and even some of Alg II, to be my strong suit. Except math has been a disaster with 2 of my kids. I never saw that one coming. (My first kid and I exist on the same wavelength.) Putting dd in DE, even in a non-math class, now gives her access to unlimited, free math skills tutoring. ? So we found a possible solution that technically doesn't cost more, but we wouldn't have it without the cost of DE. Creative problem solving is another helpful tool when other tools are limited!
    8 points
  19. No, I plan for the future. It's different. You shush.
    8 points
  20. Awww, this is such sweet advice it almost brings tears to my eyes.
    8 points
  21. As soon as you mentioned they are going to hire people with a clue, I relaxed a bit. This situation would also upset me very much, but if it's formula and not bf'ing on schedule, and if some carers are hired, I don't think the survival chances are lessened. As far as Babywise, there is one thing that I do not refrain from saying, which is to ask people why they are taking parenting advice from people who have not enjoyed a good relationship with their own children and grandchildren! Do they want those results? If not, why are they following their philosophies and methods?
    8 points
  22. I hate seeing another friend get sucked into another scheme with such high hopes. This family works hard for their money and I hate knowing her work and cash will be going to build the bottom of the pyramid. Her time and relationships will be negatively affected. There will be a rush associated with an initial burst of sales as friends and family make obligatory purchases that won’t be repeated. Her venture might break even if she can pull a friend or to into the scheme and they manage to do the same. I hate seeing people step into this.
    7 points
  23. 7 points
  24. Hi guys, I'm back! I missed the Hive - though I did read many posts on my iphone. (I never log in from my iphone, I read as a stalker.) The trip to DC was a success (but exhausting). We drove home last night and got in about 1:30am. Done: Got the kids up & off to the school bus. Sent off the caregiver. Need to make sure she gets a check in the mail. Went back to bed. Woke again after 1pm! Fought with my computer. Internet is on and off today, so frustrating. I finally switched to my iphone hotspot. Caught up on emails, news, social media stuff. Sister called and chatted for maybe an hour. I could not believe it was past 3pm and school was out when we finished. To do: Work. Yoga. Check out Couch to 5K. Pay bills. Make a donation to sponsored kid's medical fund. Kids come home on the school bus; review whatever they have, papers, homework, make sure all is on track. 1 kid will go to horse riding, the other will do homework. Some sort of meal.... Make kids clean and practice their instruments since they have band tomorrow. Whatever else is needed for school; pack bags for tomorrow. Read-aloud. Kids to bed. Work.
    7 points
  25. Call a few places Go to craft workshop and work on pillowcases that I couldn't help with yesterday due to A/C issues make dinner plan directions and plans for trip that starts Thursday take care of myself since I am getting sick again (I have been in places where people were coughing a few times in the last few days and insomnia today because of painful postnasal drip) oh and Pink and Green, I was up since 3am unfortunately.
    7 points
  26. Good morning! Up since 4:30 am, thanks to an old dog who can't seem to go the whole night any more without having to be let outside. -coffee -DS17 off to school -school with DS13 (including orientation at 10 am for WTMA Expository Writing III and at 2 pm for WTMA Ancient Lit) -workout (kickboxing) -laundry DONE: 0 (goal: at least 2-3 loads) -straighten up living areas a bit -vaccuum living areas (dog is leaving tumbleweeds of hair all over the place) -go vote in primary election here in FL -maybe try to get some sun - nope. Darn FL afternoon thunderstorms -read Gilgamesh (prereading for DS13's lit class) -dinner (chicken of some sort) ETA: I completely forgot it is primary day here in FL. So need to add go vote to my to do list.
    7 points
  27. The car owner took off as soon as she could-- she wanted nothing to do with the kitten. No idea where she worked. Kitten obviously had a ride IN the car... he was extremely dirty and dehydrated. Updated photo below-- dd said he is eating and drinking and has snuggled into a towel for the night.
    7 points
  28. I did not die. The manuscript materials are submitted and now all I can do is wait, write, and recover from the intense editing I have been doing since July. Ice cream has been eaten, and I have a new project to play with in addition to writing the sequel. I have a novella from the history of my fantasy world already written. I am going to draw this book and watercolor it for fun. Never done a graphic novel before. Should be interesting!
    7 points
  29. The desired outcome? An opportunity for lament. For the church, the community and for all affected to openly acknowledge the damage done and to talk about it and grieve about it openly. An opportunity for those who were abused to tell their stories if they wish to and for them to be believed. An opportunity for repentance and meaningful restitution. An opportunity to understand the construction of a system that allowed all of this to happen and allowed it to be covered up. An opportunity to make sure that those systems are dismantled and that better, stronger systems are put in place that hold powerful people accountable. An opportunity to review the laws that you think are in place and determine if they are indeed, in place, if they are administered justly, if there are controls in place to make sure abusers aren't put in contact with children again. An opportunity to make sure we hold the gatekeepers accountable on multiple levels. An opportunity to understand history so that just maybe, we won't repeat it. So much opportunity.
    7 points
  30. 13 - 19 The numbers that end in "teen."
    7 points
  31. The fact that he stormed into your attorney’s office needs to make it into whatever papers are filed in connection with this next hearing. If I had to apply for a restraining order knowing that it would get denied but also knowing the judge would see it, I would. (Not legal advice, not a family law attorney.)
    6 points
  32. Welcome back, SKL! I'm home, early day today, picked up Chick Fil A for lunch. Doing some small tasks before dr. appt.
    6 points
  33. kitchen 90% of the way done (have to wait for the stove to cool off before I can finish wiping that off). one load in washing machine dd - cleaned bathroom sinks and 90 of the sink and counters (I have to do a touch up to my standards). took out bathroom trash. I took out kitchen trash and recycling. I cleaned off the coffee table. I am in the process of cleaning off the dining room table but needed to sit down for a minute.
    6 points
  34. Halfway through my goals (writing/exercise) cleared out bookcase, cleaned desk, pulled up some carpet-decided to wait for some muscle to help Showered, started a load of laundry sitting down for lunch and a little bit of reading. Next up: finish kitchen and rest of goals (art/handwork)
    6 points
  35. Morning, all! Today is ds's first day back at cc. Spent 1/2 hour tearing the house apart looking for his backpack. Not like he had all day yesterday to get ready... To do: School dr appt dd's music lesson probably stop at Costco for one of the chickens, salad work on some donation bags for charity pick up tomorrow Decide what to do with the curriculum that won't sell...I've listed here, craigslist, homeschooling forums. Should I just suck it up and drop it off at the library? It's 3 boxes taking up space in the living room. Have a great day!
    6 points
  36. The ACT is not removed from serious criticism. The number of kids adversely affected by the ACT's right to revoke a score without cause has become a growing issue. Kids who score high and then don't put effort into a school administered test b/c they don't need the score suddenly find their initial score revoked due to the discrepancy in scores. Or students who take the test "cold" and then study and increase their score, the increased score is denied. The ACT also has much tighter reading speed parameters so it is not a good fit for many test takers (and the ensuing results are meaningless in terms of college success or actual academic comparison amg peers.) FWIW, I hate both tests and their control over admissions. Jann's example is a perfect one. I have a niece who was only admitted spring term bc of her scores (spring admission scores don't impact rankings b/c only fall scores have to be reported......so all of the schools that offer "freshman fall abroad" to certain students are really playing the system by offering admission to full pay students and avoiding the lower score "ranking penalty.' ) It has nothing to do with the expectation of college success. It is all one big game. (And like Jann's dd, my niece ended up graduating from college with a 4.0. The SAT was a meaningless measure of her abilities.)
    6 points
  37. Good morning! Fairly regular day here-Everything I need to do is inside the house. coffee/paper kids off to school (ds3 has an away match) write jen things work on basement room (move out some furniture, rip up part of the carpet) shower read daily chores dd2 to practice watch ds3's match pick up ds3 when the bus gets back leftovers for dinner homework with ds3 Have a great day!
    6 points
  38. Good morning! ds18 doctor appt. at 7:45 to get booster shot pay tuition bills office work (bills, go through emails) send a kid to the post office get another copy of kids' health insurance cards order fly spray (cannot wait until fly season is over) hay delivery? dust & vacuum upstairs & clean two bathrooms laundry - wash blankets dinner: I have three heads of cauliflower in the fridge, so I'm making cauliflower buffalo wings. Probably a salad and maybe oven fries, too.
    6 points
  39. Good morning! Dd to tutorial. Make dinner (crock pot) School with Ds ✅ Ask Dh to pick up veggies. Give him the check for tomato cocktail. ✅ Walk? Maybe too hot. Ds to/from science class. Call mom Ask Dh to pick up Dd. ✅ Read.
    6 points
  40. Good morning! The usuals are done, dh's breakfast and lunch, the cats fed, and coffee. To Do: meals still need to do dinner school with ds (mostly independent work today) tutor 4 students take ds to swim work on some co-op class materials for the parents
    6 points
  41. We're in Austria. We went on a hike yesterday where there were some taxidermied animals along the route (some birds and some rodents), and a witch's cabin, and a little water playground. Celery is terribly behind on colonizing Mars in the meantime. ? Either way, things are going well.
    6 points
  42. I love follow-ups! I am still waiting to find out what really happened to that mysterious recorded sounds at night situation. Seriously, people. Update. ?
    6 points
  43. They have a larger number of trained reporters imbedded and reporters doing this sort of investigative journalism than a lot of other outlets these days. They've been moving toward serious journalism for awhile. They're liberal leaning, but in carefully sourced stories like this that are about broad issues, I don't know that it matters quite as much as their direct political reporting... just in case anyone missed it, they've been doing this sort of work for the last few years as a larger and larger part of their business.
    6 points
  44. Honest question. Did you read the entire article and see how the Catholic church basically hid evidence and kept the victims from getting justice? Or how they berated the victims and argued that the statue of limitations had run out?
    6 points
  45. I like it when people post updates, too!
    6 points
  46. Eh, I’m probably projecting, and I’m sorry I was rude to you, but it sounds too similar to not just my family, but other people I’ve been meeting lately in that same age/income bracket. “The nanny handles that.” “I don’t say hi to the kids until after I’ve had a glass of wine.” “Omg, 4-week old just wants so much attention.” Of course new parents aren’t perfect, but when they begin forcing their newborn babies to bend to their will, I get grumpy ?
    6 points
  47. kitchen is clean. living room is clean dining room is clean. I am hot and tired and sweaty and our guests haven't arrived yet. . .
    5 points
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