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  1. I would not consider us particularly frugal but I am quite strict about keeping track of your possessions. Unfortunately, this generally means that I have to do a lot of the keeping track myself -- as in going through a checklist every time we leave somewhere (or I pick someone up). "Do you have your towel? Do you have your bathing suit? Where is your hat? Let me see your water bottle. " If someone doesn't have something we go back right away and look for it. And I will not replace something lost until we have tried multiple times to retrieve it. It is a major hassle and annoys me no end that I have to stay on them about this but we ultimately don't lose a lot of stuff. Sandals seem hard to lose, though. Is your son spending the day somewhere where he has to change shoes multiple times?
    9 points
  2. It's an unfortunate fact that treatment doesn't always work. It's worth pursuing because it does work for some people, but it isn't a given, and there isn't one right treatment, so there can be a long trial and error. And the trial and error doesn't always end. Meds and therapies always need adjusting/adapting. Life circumstances are always changing. When it comes to older adults, I think I am beginning to switch my view from "How could you?" to "Thank you for hanging on as long as you did." Using AB as an example, we all know of his lifelong struggles. He not only survived them for much longer than could be expected, but he created works that were enjoyed by SO many people while also battling his $#*!. We've seen footage of him having periods of what I believe were genuine happiness and contentment, which is pretty awesome, considering. He managed to make the most of what he was dealing with and was gracious enough to share it with us, and he did so until he was SIXTY-ONE! That's a long flipping time to fight.
    9 points
  3. UPDATE!!!!! After Quill's advice to keep trying with the one group I found the admin's info and messaged her on facebook. She responded immediately and said that there must be a facebook glitch, as she couldn't see me listed as pending. She had me cancel my request and then request to join again, and then added me to the group ? It's an inclusive, secular group, which is just fine, but I know at least one other Catholic family goes there, so maybe we can be friends. I feel like I'm 12 saying that, lol. I've also considered starting a homeschool support group at my parish but just am not sure I'm up for running it right now. Maybe if the other woman is interested too we could do something at some point. Who knows. At least this is a start. And it's local, which is nice when most stuff around here is a 30 minute drive.
    9 points
  4. I'm sure KS and AB tried all the available treatments but the truth is that our treatment of depression isn't all that great. Just like we can't cure all cancers we can't cure all depression. But, just like we can cure more cancers, we can cure (or at least manage) more depression. I sincerely hope we'll find new treatments for depression and that will save more lives in the future. It's like saying because we couldn't save Charles Krauthammer or John McCain, we have failed to deal with cancer. That's not true, we've made a lot of progress and we'll make more. But for now, there are times when our best treatments fail. Our best treatments failed Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. But, we'll keep trying.
    8 points
  5. Happy Sunday and welcome to week twenty-four in our Open Roads Reading Adventure. Greetings to all our readers and everyone following our progress. Mister Linky is available weekly on 52 Books in 52 Weeks to share a link to your book reviews. One of our 52 Book's Bingo categories is the 17th Century. You may read a book written by an author or about the era or in which the story took place during the 17th Century. Dive into 17th Century Belgium, the Dutch Golden Age or Luxembourg, or take a look at Stuff You Missed in History Class as well as go back in time to England. Our Brit Trip is taking us to Essex this week, so dip into Wellcome Library's Local History: East Anglia and Essex for local family and individuals to read about. Also check out Goodread's Essex, England, Essex Life's Literary Inspirations and the Author who put Colchester on the Crime Writing Map The 17th Century began with the Jacobean era in England and led into the Caroline, Interregnum, and Restoration periods. We had the emergence of John Milton, John Dryen, and John Bunyan as well as Daniel Defoe plus metaphysical poets such as Englishmen John Donne, John Cleveland, Andrew Marvel, and Abraham Crowley. The female writers of the time were Anne Bradstreet, Aphra Behn, Lady Mary Wortley Montagu, Mary Astell, and Madame de La Fayette. While you are meandering through the 17th century, explore History of the Rise of the Novel in the 17th Century, Historical Survey of Children's literature, English Literature's reflection of 17th Century Society, as well as Goodread's Best Books of the 17th Century, and Popular Historical Fiction 17th Century. Essex is located between London and the North Sea and when it united with the other Anglian and Saxon Kingdoms it created the single country that is now England. It is home to the oldest recorded town in England, Colchester (Camulodunum). Rabbit trails: Hedingham Castle Audley End House Hylands House Chapel of St Peter-on-the-Wall Have fun armchair traveling as you travel through the 17th Century or follow rabbit trails on the Rebels bus or explore Essex on the Detective Bus. What are you reading? Link to week 23
    7 points
  6. Stop doing stuff! You all are making me look bad!!!
    7 points
  7. I suspect I will be saying this next Sunday too.......my current audiobook is Woman in White. It’s actually really good but also 25 hours long. I just haven’t had the listening time! I needed a light read so started Murder atBrightwell by Ashley Weaver. It’s one of those books that I have seen and passed over dozens of times. It’s actually pretty good at the 25% mark ? if you are looking for a nice easy cozy...... https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/19561924-murder-at-the-brightwell For Essex I am planning to read Death at Bishop’s Keep by Robin Paige. This is another series that I have planned to try for awhile and I hope to like this series because of other county potential. It will also put me back on the bus! https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/538396.Death_at_Bishop_s_Keep Technically I have already read two books for Brit Tripping set in Essex that happen to be the first books for a couple of really famous and prolific mystery authors. I believe both Cover Her Face by PD James and The Mysterious Affair at Styles are both set in Essex.
    7 points
  8. I'm about half way through Crossroads of Twilight in Robert Jordan's Wheel of Time series. It's complexity and character machinations are making it a slow read. Also reading Pietr the Latvian by Georges Simenon and Ashes Reborn which is #4 in Keri Arthur's Fire series. My 17th century and Tulip find is Rosalind Laker's The Golden Tulip set in Amsterdam. "Francesca’s father is a well-known painter in the bustling port city of Amsterdam; he is also a gambler. Though their household is in economic chaos, thankfully the lessons she learned in his studio have prepared her to study with Johannes Vermeer, the master of Delft. When she arrives to begin her apprenticeship, Francesca is stunned to find rules, written in her father’s hand, insisting that she give up the freedoms she once enjoyed at home- including her friendship with Pieter van Doorne, a tulip merchant. Unaware of a terrible bargain her father has made against her future, Francesca pursues her growing affection for Pieter even as she learns to paint like Vermeer, in layers of light. As her talent blooms, “tulip mania” sweeps the land, and fortunes are being made on a single bulb. What seems like a boon for Pieter instead reveals the extent of the betrayal of Francesca’s father. And as the two learn the true nature of the obstacles in their path, a patron of Francesca’s father determines to do anything in his power to ensure she stays within the limits that have been set for her."
    7 points
  9. I was so exhausted yesterday that if I didn't have such a long exercise streak going, I would have said "to heck with it". But the streak lives on.
    7 points
  10. The boys just left for their 10 day adventure. They were so excited. I think they'll have a great time. They ought to be at Palo Duro canyon later today. Then they get to go see Mt. Capulin, Garden of the Gods, Rocky Mountain National Park, Thermopolis in Wyoming, then Yellowstone, Then the Bighorn, then Mount Rushmore, the Bad Lands... I get to stay home, work, and take care of things here. On the plus side, as an introvert, I'm kind of having my own little vacation.
    7 points
  11. Hi! I've been up much of the night because I have to get info to our colleagues on the other side of the world. I think I'm done with that for now, so I can try to sneak a couple hours of sleep. My kids want to go to Sunday School and check out the youth group (they just aged into the Jr. High class). So I need to be up in a couple hours to take them to that. I should probably go to SS and church also, though I usually take the summer off ... meh, I'll probably just work in my car. Later my kids have a 2-hour reading class about a half hour away. I will get grief for this (being away from work for 3 hours), but it's only 3 Sundays and I'll take work with me. I also need to finalize our schedule, arrange driving, and do all the laundry for the coming week. And of course spend the remaining waking hours working.
    7 points
  12. I know it’s hard, I really do, but keep trying if you want to join an established group. 15 years ago, I moved to this area and it happened that a bible study for moms opened up at my new church right after I arrived. They would meet every other week and we took turns watching the kids. One of the women decided to open up her home for lunch after each bible study. So, every other week, a group of us would go to her house and eat soup from her crock pot. Everyone was always invited, but usually it was the same group who showed up. She’d say over and over that everyone was invited. When a new person showed up, we were always happy to see them. But, as is the nature of things, the same people kept coming for whatever reasons—they felt a connection, they had the time, whatever. We met every other week for about 7 years. I never missed a single lunch. Ever. During that time, we obviously got to know each other very well and feel completely comfortable with each other and there was a bond among us all. And that was well and good. And then I became friends with another woman from church. A very sensitive woman. She knew most of the other ladies in the group, but she ran a daycare and had never been able to be part of the bible study/lunches. She decided to come to the lunches whenever her schedule would allow it and everyone was very happy to have her there. They honestly were. We always were wishing more folks would join us. She showed up to one and it was great. But then it was about 6 months before she could go to the next one. And that was great, too. But she didn’t think so. She said that she didn’t feel part of the group. And I know what she meant. She felt like the newbie outsider. But, um...she was the newbie outsider. But we didn’t do that to her. We let her talk a lot. People asked her questions. There were no weird silences when she spoke, as if we didn’t want her there. It was just a lunch of women chit-chatting. But it was inevitable that the people who had had 180 lunches together were more at ease with each other, and the person who had had 2 lunches with us wasn’t as much at ease. I tried to tell her that she just needed to keep coming. That over time, relationships settle in. That with a few more visits from her, she would feel more and more at home. But she wanted an immediate strong connection with all 7 of the other ladies there. But it takes a lot of face time for relationships to grow. Two lunches six months apart means that you feel a little “outside” when you’re there, no matter how much the other people are trying to include you. ——— If you don’t want to join an established group, work on making your own. The lady in the above story is a sweet, sensitive person. I formed my own friendship with her outside of any group. I know another lady from my homeschool group. Whenever I see her at homeschool things, we hit it off. We can talk forever about everything under the sun. Easy to get along with and we enjoy each other’s company. And then I formed a friendship with yet a 3rd person who shares my photography passion. I liked her personality and made a point of inviting her to a few lunches out so we could get to know each other. And I realized that all three of these women would probably get along really well if they knew each other. Their paths only rarely crossed (they’ve all dabbled in homeschool at some point, two of them come to the same church, but irregularly, etc.) So I contacted all three and said, “I know all of you and you sort of know each other, but I think we’d all get along really well. Let’s all go out to dinner and spend time together.” So we did. And we all got along really well. And now we make a point to hang out with each other every few months for dinner. (Dinner lasts about 6 hours.) We’d meet more often, but we all have kids and responsibilities. ——- For established groups, do what you can to get to their meetings consistently. And if you don’t like that, see if you have any single friendships that might make a good group. ——- (I’m chatty today!) For forming one-on-one friendships, you have to sometimes force the issue a tiny bit. The first friend listed above, we’d consult our calendars and do our best to get together as a family twice a month on the weekends. It wasn’t always convenient or easy, but we committed to doing it to try to launch the friendship. For the photography friend, I just decided I’d keep contacting her and asking her to go to places until a bond was formed. And recently, someone has been becoming my friend without me realizing it. She’s the one who has decided to spend time with me ?. There’s an older couple that we’re friends with, somewhat. We go out to eat with them from time to time and chit chat with them for a few minutes before church. They live on my same street. The lady is trying to get in a bit of exercise (she’s in her mid sixties), so sometimes she walks up and down the street. When she does, she will ring my bell on a random day and then sit and chat with me for an hour. Yes, it interrupts my day. Sometimes it’s not the most convenient time (yesterday she rang the bell just after I’d pulled all the stuff out from under the kitchen sink because we have a MOUSE and there was mouse poop under the sink), but I can see that she’s trying to form a connection. So, I stop what I’m doing (the boys are old enough that I can do this), and I give her time, so we can make a connection. But you’re right that it’s hard. My take-away from what I’ve seen/done over the years: it takes time and a bit of gritty determination to make sure you have multiple, somewhat consistant, interactions. Until you’ve had mutliple, consistent interactions, the friendship will fizzle fast. Breaking into a group can feel daunting, but keep at it. For one-on-one friendships, just keep inviting the person to spend time with you. (Sorry for writing a book. And I do have examples where my attempts have failed, so I get it. I’ve been hurt by people that I desperately wanted to be friends with, but it Just Didn’t Click or my attempts weren’t enough.)
    7 points
  13. [Picture waving smiley guy here.] Hi, ITT. I need to do all the things. Without coffee, which I've decided to only buy for social occasions this summer. (It is possibly technically not ideal for somebody of my age and heritage to start the day with a beverage that entails 9 teaspoons of sugar as well as a cup of whole milk.) I'm gonna drink water. DS's first day camp of the summer is this week. I'm realizing how out of practice I am at packing lunches. In my defense, the lunches I've packed in the past just had to be free of food coloring, good with just an ice pack, and not need reheating. Now they also need to be free of gluten and coconut, and for this camp, peanuts. And I want DS to use the same outer container all week to improve the chances he'll keep track of it successfully. And he'll need snacks to fit in there, too, because camp is all day (while I am doing all the things). While he's gone during the week, I need to try out vegetable broth recipes to finally find a good one; mend three items; buy one thing at the mall; make four medical appointments, two of which will need to be during one specific week in August; hopefully schedule playdates with some public- and charter-school friends who will now be free on weekdays; clean the house; buy groceries; bake stuff to put in his lunch box the remaining days and put extras in the freezer; take care of church emails; get to the library and pet supply store; get the laundry and stuff done as usual; and get Father's Day gifts for DH and my dad. And post all my cookie cutters on my free stuff group. And ideally do some yard work. And read something. Oh, and buy festival tickets! But not.drink.coffee. Okay, I'll get started. We like Terra Chips, so I'm going to try to make some beet and sweet potato chips. And I'll take a picture of the cookie cutters.
    6 points
  14. I failed to get up to drive my kids to church, so there goes that. Also I am annoyed to find that one of the most time-sensitive things I asked my foreign colleagues to do did not get done because they claim to not understand what I wanted. Also one of the emails I thought I sent to them did not go through. Grr. Anyway, at least I got some sleep.
    6 points
  15. Good afternoon! Going for "Worst Mom of the Year" as I skipped DS17's 5 day long travel baseball tournament and just sent DH with him. It was just too much baseball for my DS13 to deal with, DS17 didn't mind (who wants to be stuck with talker stalker little brother in a hotel room 24/7), and it is just better all around. So DS13 and I are here by ourselves. Done: coffee, workout, straighten up, shower I have a friend whose DH is out of town this weekend coming over in about an hour to sit, gab, drink summery cocktails, and watch chick flicks with me. So my day will pretty much consist of nothing else except lounging, LOL. It is way too humid to do anything outside, although maybe we will lounge on pool floats while doing the above mentioned drinking and movie watching.
    6 points
  16. Good morning! We had another night of thunderstorms and heavy rain. I was up in the middle of night checking for tornado warnings because the wind was getting a little crazy, but all was well. clean up mucky paddocks maybe take apart automatic waterer and give it a good cleaning (I've been putting this off for awhile and should just hunker down and get it done) maybe a hay delivery make a menu plan for the week using up everything in my overstuffed produce drawers plan my schedule for the week do some birthday shopping for ds17 get some reading done dinner: roasted squash and snap pea bowls with quinoa and tahini sauce
    6 points
  17. Another day in the upper 90s here. dh and ds3 just left for a tournament. It might be a short day, as ds3 has a tough draw this morning. They left the French Open on, so I will watch that for a while as I have my coffee. I need to get a little more done today than yesterday! Laundry-started general pick up update my calendar quilt talk to dd1 check the plants in front-watered yesterday-but might need more handwork and finish watching "The Staircase" on Netflix- absolutely weirdly addictive get ds2 to go through one box in his room catch up with ds1 dinner? late airport pickup- 1 am Have a great day!
    6 points
  18. Good morning! Dh and ds have been in the Seattle airport all night. They arrive home late this afternoon. I've fed the cats, had my coffee, and finished a load of laundry. To Do: church lunch out more cleaning/tidying house go to a meeting at church to see if I want to learn tap dancing (It's for something in our church's Christmas musical.) Enjoy dh and ds being back home!
    6 points
  19. I woke to the sound of gentle rain, which we need. Of course it's raining, I watered my garden yesterday! At least I didn't was my car too. Today: Church Finish packing for the drive to camp - my overnight bag and kids' care packages/mail. Go to bed early since I have to be up at oh dark hundred on Monday to get a good start. Set alarm!
    6 points
  20. I’m back from the wedding. It was very nice, at a private park on the river. There were hecklers in the middle of the sermon. People were floating down the river and yelling all sorts of things. And the wedding coordinator was trying to get rid of them and they wouldn’t pay attention to her, it was funny. The dinner was delicious. We left early, though.
    6 points
  21. I was going to like this until you said you were planning a shindig. And then I shuddered. I'm going to need a few minutes by myself to recover from the whole idea of planning a shindig.
    5 points
  22. This week I finished Heinrich von Kleist's The Marquise of O and Other Stories (my plane book), and Sir Compton Mackenzie's Monarch of the Glen. Kleist was an early 19th-century German writer who wrote very odd short stories and plays for about a decade and then killed himself. Compton Mackenzie was one of the founders of the Scottish National Party, and Monarch of the Glen, a farce set on a modern Highland chief's estate, features a little group of young men who bear a striking resemblance to his fellow founders of the SNP, one being an especially endearing caricature of the modern Scots poet Hugh MacDiarmid. There's a charming scene where a young Canadian-American, whose great-grandfather was cleared out of the Highlands and who is sure she has a psychic affinity to her ancestral cottage, is trying to speak Gaelic to the Scottish Nationalist poet, who is gamely trying to answer her in Gaelic out of nationalist principle, and they only make any progress because they both have the same Guide to Gaelic. Also have read a chunk of Chaucer -- my Kentish Middle English is better than my medieval Scots, I can tell you that -- and have read the General Prologue and Group A (the Knight's, Miller's, Reeve's, and Cook's Tales). But mostly I've hopped off the Sassenach routes of the BritTrip bus and am tooling around Caledonia for the next few weeks with Iain Crichton Smith, Elspeth Davie, Susan Edmonstone Ferrier, John Buchan, J. M. Barrie, David Lyndsay, Muriel Spark, Robert Henryson, and whoever else I can find lurking in the crevices of the Edinburgh bookshops. Psst to Robin: Aphra Behn, not Bean. I think Aphra Bean was Rowan Atkinson's sister.
    5 points
  23. I read Beyond the Pasta - 5 Stars - I read this lovely read shortly before our recent trip to Italy, but I didn’t want to review it until I had tried out at least one of the recipes. This is my new rule when reviewing cookbooks. I can’t believe that I have reviewed cookbooks in the past without trying out a single recipe. What was I thinking? Anyway, now that we have returned from Italy, I started skimming the book once more and I’ve decided that I would love to reread it very soon, to relive the memories of our fabulous time there. The author spent a month living with an Italian family, learning the language, learning to cook, and simply immersing himself in Italian culture. This delightful book is part travel log and part cookbook. It was set up in a daily journal format, each day ending with a recipe. I love books like that! My only complaint is that I do wish that the book had more illustrations, and color ones at that. How can one publish a book on Italy with grainy, drab-looking black and white pictures? I’ve tried out five of the recipes so far and will be trying out more. Four out of the five recipes have been absolute hits and the other one was still pretty good. The Yogurt Cake was wonderful. I made some slight tweaks, as I sometimes do when cooking. Rather than using regular flour, I substituted with cake flour, to make the cake as light and spongy as possible. The Zucchini and Onion Frittata was absolutely delicious. The family couldn’t get enough of it and I will be doubling the recipe from now on. We loved the Spaghetti with Garlic and Anchovies. These recipes all reminded us of Italy! And don’t even get me started on the Bean and Onion Bruschetta! The Chicken with Tomatoes and Olives was packed with flavor and good, but not the best. I made a few mistakes, which I can remedy next time. I wasn’t sure if I should give this book four or five stars. At one point I was even going to give it 3.5. Yet the more that I’ve re-read some of the parts, the fact that the recipes are so good, and finally, there’s simply nothing like reliving all the memories of Italy that he shares so beautifully, well, I just had to give it 5 stars. Some of my favorite quotes: “La dolce vita celebrates the fact that life is not only about a paycheck ... Life is about savoring the sunset, taking a rejuvenating nap in the middle go the day, pausing to appreciate the beauty of a rose on the side of the road, having your children's laughter fill your soul - letting those moments inspire your life. That might be more of a romantic perception than the exact truth of the situation, but it is certainly the truth I have come to witness, embrace and appreciate while living in Viterbo.” “For me, the ‘Sweet Life’ is going into the kitchen, preparing food and serving it to the people I love and cherish. La Dolce Vita is found in those moments of life around a table where stories are told - old memories are relived and new memories are given life. It is where food ultimately unites us through the juxtaposition of laughter, tears, joy, sorrow, happiness, pain, and ecstasy.” “Walking along the bank of the Tiber, I headed into Trastevere, the original Jewish ghetto of ancient Rome. Trastevere means “to traverse or to cross over” and it is still very much a working class neighborhood. The streets are very narrow and the well-worn and aged buildings are very close to each other, providing a time-forgotten atmosphere. This is not the prettiest part of Rome, but it feels the most authentic and that makes it beautiful.” Here's a picture that we took when we visited the beautiful Trastevere neighborhood in Rome. If you're interested in dystopia, you may be interested in this Kindle book that's on sale today. MY RATING SYSTEM 5 Stars Fantastic, couldn't put it down 4 Stars Really Good 3 Stars Enjoyable 2 Stars Just Okay – nothing to write home about 1 Star Rubbish – waste of my money and time. Few books make it to this level, since I usually give up on them if they’re that bad.
    5 points
  24. Nothing finished but found at a National Trust secondhand bookshop a lot of Rebbecca Shaws 1£ / book (against 8€ per ebook) So I can read some fun this summer ? I almost finished ‘Landlopers’ and started a book about Iona, about Celtic-Christian Spirituality.
    5 points
  25. Robin, what a treasure trove of links this week! Going to be spending some time exploring those. I was surprised to see that the Goodreads Essex list did not include The Essex Serpent. That's my read for the county but I'm finding it slow going at first. It got great reviews when it came out, but I am not captivated so far. :-) I will stick with it, but will keep Death at Bishop's Keep in mind in case I have to bail. :-) My 20-year-old son - a booklover since infancy - has been in a reading slump for a while - during the school year he was overwhelmed with studies, and he jumped into full-time work for the first time once school was out. But I picked up Conn Iggulden's Birth of an Empire, the first in his Genghis Khan series, and the boy ate it up, then went to the library today to check out the next two books. This has nothing to do with Brit-tripping or my own reading, just feeling happy that he has been captivated by a book series again. And, to set up a question... does anyone have any recommendations for good historical fiction for a young man, low on romance and sexual content, high on historical accuracy? His birthday is coming up and we are short of ideas. He is particularly interested in Ancients, the Mongols, and World War II. Nonfiction would be good too!
    5 points
  26. I recently finished the sixth book in the Merchant Princes series which I enjoyed. I won't post the blurb as it gives away too many details. This is a series that is best read in order. The Trade of Queens: Book Six of the Merchant Princes by Charles Stross ** I also re-read Lucy Parker's contemporary romance Act Like It: A Slow-Burn Romance (London Celebrities) which I enjoyed once again. (Some adult content) "This just in: romance takes center stage as West End theatre's Richard Troy steps out with none other than castmate Elaine Graham Richard Troy used to be the hottest actor in London, but the only thing firing up lately is his temper. We all love to love a bad boy, but Richard's antics have made him Enemy Number One, breaking the hearts of fans across the city. Have the tides turned? Has English rose Lainie Graham made him into a new man? Sources say the mismatched pair has been spotted at multiple events, arm in arm and hip to hip. From fits of jealousy to longing looks and heated whispers, onlookers are stunned by this blooming romance. Could the rumors be right? Could this unlikely romance be the real thing? Or are these gifted stage actors playing us all?" Regards, Kareni
    5 points
  27. I keep thinking more about the biology of this...how so many people are never outdoors, never in the sunshine, and spend 8-10 hours a day sitting in one place staring at a screen. We know that is bad for kids, at least on this board, but it is still normal for adults. Go to work before the sun is all the way up, sit in an office building possibly without even access to a window let alone sunshine or fresh air. spend hours without moving more than your fingers to type, etc. Then drive to pick up the kids from aftercare, it's dark, you make dinner or eat processed food on the way and sit in front of another screen to "wind down", often while still fielding work emails and such. Biologically, we are NOT made for that. And you can't make up for it with a trip to an air conditioned gym a few times a week, I don't think.
    5 points
  28. They can be found pretty cheap. I've found water bottles and flip flops at Wal-Mart or discount stores for $1. So I will buy one and then make the kids replace it themselves, or do without, if they lose it. I don't usually shop for visors because my kids usually have some around the house, but I would guess you could get those cheap too - and also if the kids lose one, they can make another with cardboard & duct tape or whatever works, or use their own money to buy one. With kids who are not reliable about taking care of their stuff, I just wouldn't let them run around town with anything I'd hate to lose. When we went to Europe for 2.5 weeks (my kids were 7), they destroyed their expensive running shoes by getting them wet and then not following my directions to dry them out. We had bought them each a pair of flipflops which they wore for the rest of the trip. One of them broke the strap but still had to manage with it for the last few days. I also stopped buying expensive shoes for play. It's not worth the exasperation when they lose or misuse them. Swim goggles are another thing my kids have lost more than once. I got through my entire life without ever having swim goggles, so I have no sympathy. I bought them some junky $1 goggles and told them this was it - they could buy the next pair or do without. Decent swim goggles became a special gift vs. a "mommy I need." Funny thing, when kids know they are going to have to deal with their own losses, they do become a bit more careful.
    5 points
  29. Morning, all! It was so hot yesterday, more so today. Not ready for this heat! Dh and I looked at houses yesterday, might make the move. The goal is for my mom to move in with us, so we need something that has the right floor plan for her. We've been in our house for 23 years...we don't do a lot of change around here, but our current house would not work out. To do: church visit with my mom Start inputting school dates in planner. Everyone I work with is using the Erin Condren planner but I think it's too big/bulky. I found a Day Designer planner that Target had marked on clearance for $10.00 and it's for the 2018/19 school year. I think I will keep a separate bullet journal for my personal stuff. Have a great day, all!
    5 points
  30. Dodged a bullet in preschool Sunday school this morning! Last week there were 6 kids, so this week I only prepared enough crafts for 10. There were 12 in class today! Fortunately, 3 of the boys didn't want to do the craft at all, so I had one left over. Whew.
    5 points
  31. I think I'm literally the only one in the house who can smell a stinky diaper. Poor Baby- I'm pretty sure nobody is smelling, ignoring, and waiting for me, but I'm the only who who notices most of the time. It's my superpower.
    5 points
  32. Day 142 steps Day 13 hips
    5 points
  33. Hi! I LOVE Saturday this week. I needed it so bad. I had a hard time waking up and then I forgot stuff in my morning stupor. But we figured it out as we went along. Breakfast for kids & critters. Kid 1 to horse camp. Kid 2 to math tutor. Drove a 1 hour round trip because I forgot all about TKD (and gear) until we were already driving. Back to pick up kid 2 & kid 1 & deposited them at TKD for black belt prep class. While kids were in TKD, got caught up on emails etc., made car appt, emailed math tutor, had phone call about raccoon problem, and researched hair color streaks. Gourmet lunch at McDonalds. Kids to hair place to get their hair streaked (1 scarlet and 1 purple) for the summer. (I don't know the correct terminology.) This took like 2.5 hours! Should have brought the power cord for my computer. The kids love their first color job! Grocery shopping. Put away groceries, cleaned kitchen, made dinner, ate, cleaned kitchen again. Figured out summer camp and extracurricular details for this week. Need to text info to driver and see who is going to drive when. Supposed to be working ... but might sneak a nap! Or do some work so I can peacefully go to sleep after I tuck the kids in. Need to do kid's vision therapy. Want to do a read-aloud at bedtime.
    5 points
  34. Our graduation un-party was a success! Cupcakes (and a gf whoopie pie for me) and a new laptop for ds17.
    5 points
  35. I just finished listening to it so I know it was set just after WWI. The sleuth's husband went missing during the war and there's a good bit of talk in the book about the men who were lost in that war. Royal blue. Like this one. And now apparently you can buy them on Etsy and eBay because they're vintage. Only someone who never endured the torture of gym class and wearing those things would want one.
    5 points
  36. I have a very best friend, but she lives several hours away and we both have littles so we don't see each other. We do message almost daily, etc. I have a good group of friends locally, and we get together sometimes and communicate on social media a lot, and I love them, but they do not share my faith, which can be an issue sometimes. (not as in an issue with my friendship, but an issue in that I don't have anyone to talk to about spiritual or religious stuff. My family is not religious either.) So, I pushed past my nervousness and introvert tendencies and spoke with a mom in the pew behind me a Mass a few weeks ago. She had 5 children to my 4, and about the same ages, and was just lovely. So I spoke up and asked if she homeschooled and she did! She even is part of a local group I didn't know about, and told me the name of it so I could find it on facebook. I asked to join two weeks ago and have not been added. I even saw on the member list that I knew someone else in the group and asked her to mention me to the admin. Not sure if she did, but still nothing. Now, the group doesn't do much over the summer per the mom I spoke to at Mass, but still......feels kind of yucky to not be let in. Then, I pushed past even MORE nerves and went to a Mom's group meeting at my parish. I went during the week of VBS so my 8 and 5 yr old were there, and I just had the 1 yr old. They say "kids welcome" and I specifically asked while there if my kids, since they are school age and not toddlers, would be welcome. They said of course. I was heartened. I even volunteered to be co-chair of the service projects they do. Then a few days later I got an email saying they thought it over, and realized that they were not comfortable discussing the hardships of parenting with older kids there who might be listening. Which I get. But basically I put myself out there, pushed past my nerves, went, had a good time, and then got disinvited. Sigh. Feeling like it just wasn't worth it. UPDATE!!!!! After Quill's advice to keep trying with the one group I found the admin's info and messaged her on facebook. She responded immediately and said that there must be a facebook glitch, as she couldn't see me listed as pending. She had me cancel my request and then request to join again, and then added me to the group ? It's an inclusive, secular group, which is just fine, but I know at least one other Catholic family goes there, so maybe we can be friends. I feel like I'm 12 saying that, lol. I've also considered starting a homeschool support group at my parish but just am not sure I'm up for running it right now. Maybe if the other woman is interested too we could do something at some point. Who knows. At least this is a start. And it's local, which is nice when most stuff around here is a 30 minute drive.
    4 points
  37. I went for a walk. Alone. In the rain. With an umbrella. Actually, youngest dd went with me, but then she was grumpy and turned back. Then I was alone. In the rain. With an umbrella.
    4 points
  38. There's a difference in mindset. Out on the prairies a few hundred years ago, there was no one who ought to have been supporting you. Soul crushingly lonely, I'm sure, but a different kind of soul crushing loneliness to being alone in a crowd.
    4 points
  39. I’m not doing anything, Jeannie. That should make you feel better!! The most i’ve Accomplished today, besides going to church, is this multi-quote. Yay!! Get those creative juices flowing. Oh, Slashie, how horrible. my COFFEE~D is ready. It’s a beautiful day. I think I am going to take my COFFEE~D outside and plan my Father’s Day shindig.
    4 points
  40. I have zero ick factor about getting them from the thrift store. That's what washing machines and dishwashers on extra high are for. I don't understand how a kid loses a pair of sandals, at least not commonly. I guess you could misplace them at a sleepover or something, but generally speaking, how does that happen? One pair of shoes. Don't leave home or return home without them. We have lost flip flops, like at the pool or beach. Flip flops are cheap though.
    4 points
  41. My guys have landed. They are being brought to the church, so I didn't have to go to the airport. Not having to drive into Atlanta is always a good thing!
    4 points
  42. We have a one-time-buy rule in our house. That means the parents will buy anything necessary and will replace when worn out or outgrown. If a child loses the item or purposely breaks it, they are given a bill for the repurchase, and before they do anything else with their money they have to pay their debt. Some of it is just age. Over a period of two years my oldest went through 3 mess kits, several Boy Scout slides & neckerchiefs, and at least 2 lunch boxes. He started prebuying slides and neckerchiefs, lol, because those were the most constant things lost. Yes, we could have just replaced them but we couldn't make ourselves do it. And it's not because we're trying to be mean parents, but we want them to understand the value that they're losing. How many hours of work is it? What is it worth? How can you (the kid) put a plan in place to cut down on the lost items? It takes time, and effort for them to get it without getting punitive on them, but eventually it sinks in that they are capable humans. They don't like having that responsibility thrust on them, but oh, goodness, does it make them more careful in the long run! My oldest is now quite frugal and a lot more responsible than I thought he would be when he was 11.
    4 points
  43. Pink and Green, then you and I are part of an exclusive club! Ds1 was baseball as well, and it was difficult to bring ds2 every weekend. We stayed home and did our own thing. Much better in the long run.
    4 points
  44. I don't think it's necessarily rude. I've known a bunch of people who had really small or destination weddings or weddings that were really specific somehow - like I've now known two good friends who specifically did not allow family at their weddings - and people threw them showers that were sort of casual celebrations that were larger and more local. Seeing as you're not required to go and you could easily bring a very small gift, I don't think it's a big deal. If the wedding is huge and you're all in the same community and it's being held nearby, then it's maybe a bit rude then. Overall, I hate the way people put the label of rude on absolutely everything. I never knew people were so offended by every little thing or think that etiquette is so universal, which it's just demonstrably NOT, until I started reading this board.
    4 points
  45. For the situations I know of it's been young children. Knowing how it's likely to impact on them. The danger of course with that is that the switch can flick to "my children would be better off without me" and sometimes does. I do think relationships is the key for many people (not all). And maybe a sense of obligation that's traditional in more traditional than modern relationships. Parents have a duty to care for children, children for aging parents and spouses for each other. Modern life has definitely done a good job of reducing our dependence on each other. This is freeing in some ways but may have some repercussions.
    4 points
  46. EU citizenship is irrelevant for tuition fees at OxBridge. It’s residency that counts. My kids can claim British citizenship through my husband. Our oldest is British too and was even born there. They can also claim Spanish citizenship through me. You have to have residency in the U.K. to be entitled to the lower tuition fees. That means that you have to be a resident there for at least the last three years prior to college admission. I am assuming you are in the U.S. If you are in the U.K. or EU, please disregard.
    4 points
  47. I napped for an hour. A very deep nap. Susan, the big secret that you told me in my dream is safe with me because I forgot what it was as soon as I woke up! Krissi, I remember your secret....
    4 points
  48. It sounds like you already had an agreement about what would happen if he won. I would stick with that agreement.
    4 points
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