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  1. 101 points
    UPDATE: Greta has beat the odds and has had some reduction in the size of her tumors. She had her husband have had a wonderful second honeymoon to the most romantic of cities—Paris—and have found the way to love one another and life while squarely facing this serious illness. She’s connected at her parish with frequent gatherings, and, of course, connected with her medical community with frequent meetings. Greta calls herself most blessed to have this time with her husband, daughter, family and friends. Recently, she has developed really loud tinnitus, so she has joined me in the hearing-aid-brigade, which lets her play white noise into her ears that at least distracts from the tinnitus. And podcasts too. :0) It's not curative but it does help. Going into this diagnosis, 9 months ago, the "expectancy" was stated as 12 months. Without raising her hopes or projecting doom, her doctor told her that she is healthier now than she was 12 months ago, and recent tests revealed "nothing new." (That's called "good news" in this milieu.) Please keep praying for her. She is going to try to read the posts here, so if you want to chime in, feel free. (Just between us chickens, Greta has found and displayed amazing grace in a most unexpected place and experience. We should be so happy to call her one of "ours." )
  2. 68 points
    I have been sitting on this news since June, unable to announce on social media (though I'm terrible at secrets and some of you know, and I've been dropping hints all over the place)--We are moving to Jerusalem in October! Back in March, as I did share, my husband was sent an email detailing an available position as Dean of St. George's College in Jerusalem. He interviewed in late May but, although one of two candidates, did not get the job. We were saddened and a little stunned, because so much about it seemed to be right, but I was also a bit relieved. My husband told me he had a feeling things were not "finished," and just to stay tuned. He said he had a picture in his mind of a ball on a pool table, aimed for one pocket, missing, and rolling allllll the way down to the corner pocket and going in. lol We are big on metaphors and such here. That's exactly what happened. 2 weeks after the rejection for the Dean's job, the Archbishop sent an email to my husband offering him the position of Chaplain to the Archbishop. It is a job on the cathedral/clergy side of things instead of the academic side. (The cathedral close houses the church, the college and the accomodations for the pilgrims.) He accepted, and we are currently getting ready. We fly out on the 15th. It should be interesting! My feelings are mixed, but I do feel this is right. Thanks for letting me share!
  3. 66 points
    Your wish is my command! ? Initial pathology is very good. For those who like the technical details: Stage 1, Grade 1, ER+ and PR+, HER2-. For the layman: early, slow-growing, most common profile, 95% remission outlook. Still on the docket: sentinal lymph biopsy, MRI, genetic workup. Of these, the genetic workup is the slowest report and treatment partially hinges on that. That is a two-week-wait and it hasn’t been done yet. IF those workups don’t reveal unpleasant surprises, I can skate out of this with a lumpectomy and radiation. I’m hoping for this outcome; I do not want to go double mastectomy and reconstruction route unless the baddies lurking in my genes strongly suggest that route. Lots of appointments coming up! Feeling positive though and and SO relieved to hear the “slow-growing” and “early” parts of this report.
  4. 59 points
    It's been a long haul, with two extended periods of absence-on-leave due to illness. He will graduate in three weeks. He is job searching - he has found one part-time gig already and has been invited to interview for a full-time position. Onwards and upwards. Very relieved.
  5. 57 points
    Today was the first day of recitation for Intro Chem which is a required class. The instructor started pretty basic, and the kids behind ds in the class were making somewhat-loud, rude comments about the class being useless, and why did they bother to show up, etc. After class, two of them went up to the instructor and said to him "next time, why don't you just tell anyone who knows anything about chemistry to leave. This class just wasted my time. etc" He said it went on for at least a minute or two. DS waited for the kids to leave the class and went up to the instructor and said "Thanks so much for teaching this recitation. Looks like you have a pretty tough crowd here, but I appreciate you being here." The instructor then asks his name and they get to talking. DS has been working in a chemistry lab this summer and apparently they have been doing the same type of research in materials science and really hit it off. DS came home and called me to say not just how he couldn't believe how rude the kids were, but that he felt good about making the effort to fix it.
  6. 57 points
    It is so much fun! I had a lovely lunch today with @Penguin. She gets around and has met with other boardies on other continents, but I am privileged to have her living practically in my back yard. 😊 So here we are together today.
  7. 56 points
    DD was launched yesterday. She went from our home in Cali, Colombia; via a connection in Fort Lauderdale, to the Raleigh-Durham International airport and to her dorm at UNC in Chapel Hill. She was able to check into her dorm in advance of the normal check-in day and is OK. With the exception that she couldn't get the Red Pocket Mobile cell phone service activated while waiting in FLL for the second flight, everything went extremely well. She got the cell phone service to work this morning. I was very impressed with the Spirit Airlines Check-In process in the Cali airport. Their Check-In process was about as good as it can possibly be. When we made the reservation (early in April which is much farther in advance of when I usually book, which is 30-90 days ahead of departure) we paid for a Carry-On bag and also for one checked bag. About a week before the trip, she realized that the Carry-On bag was going to be an issue, during her very long layover (6 hours) in FLL. Like if she went into the restroom, where would she put her Carry-On bag, because she also had a personal item, which was her backpack, with 2 Tablets and lots of important things? The decision was made to check the Carry-On bag, as a 2nd checked suitcase. We had to pay $23.80 USD extra, which I believe was for excess weight. The 2 checked bags weighed 30 Kilos which is 66 pounds. We had also paid extra for "Big Front Seats" on both flights, which makes the experience of going on Spirit Airlines much more enjoyable than their normal seats. Thankfully, with the Internet, and the cell phone service, we can communicate with her and being "Empty Nesters" will be easier. WhatsApp, etc.
  8. 55 points
    So, in another thread, I babbled about fulfilling one of my personal goals for the year (having a couple of pieces of visual art I made accepted for an exhibition happening this weekend). Meanwhile, my daughter -- who has been juggling multiple part-time jobs since moving to Brooklyn almost four years ago in order to (more or less) make her rent and (come close to) paying (most of) her bills -- interviewed for a full-time job last week. Within just a couple of days, she got a message l(etting her know that they had gone with another candidate, but wanted her to come in and interview for a different, higher-level position doing the thing she had said during the first interview that she'd like to eventually grow into doing. She did the second interview on Thursday and got a call that same afternoon telling her she would receive an offer letter e-mail by close of business today. She received the official offer a couple of hours ago, and it involves almost doubling the combined income she has managed to scrape together in each of the previous few years, medical, dental and unlimited paid time off. They also have flexible hours and have already promised they will accommodate her schedule when she begins grad school this fall. It's not exactly the kind of work she hopes to do in the long term, but it has her working for a company that does work she appreciates, with people she likes and admires, and the salary and schedule should make the next three years of part-time school a whole lot more manageable and comfortable for her. It's a fantastic surprise, and I'm so grateful and happy for her I could just cry.
  9. 54 points
    Are you homeschooling or b&m schooling? I'll tell you my story and you can take it fwiw. Honestly, the "good time to fail" around 6th grade is the exact thing the PS told all of us parents and I can tell you that they were dead wrong. 6th graders are still very much children with a ton of other brain fog going on thanks to hormones. They aren't mini adults, or mini high schoolers. They told us if we didn't let them fail that they'd never be able to handle high school, much less college. It was so ridiculous in hindsight. Had I known then what i know now I would have taken the Failure Speaker to task on the spot. But we all sat around and let our kids fail because the school told us that's what we were supposed to do as good parents. Do you know what failure tends to do to 6th graders? It tends to roll into despair and apathy. Not, "let me pull myself up by my bootstraps and show them they're wrong! I'm not a failure!"(And that's NT kids that aren't dealing with ADHD on top of it.) In my experience, if you have a 6th grader who is failing school projects it means you aren't providing enough scaffolding. I'm not saying they don't need to take responsibility for some things, but a kid who is failing despite scaffolding clearly doesn't have enough of it. Yanking more away isn't going to solve anything.
  10. 53 points
    I posted awhile back about my decisions to stop being a grumpy Christmas lady. Umm. Something weird is happening. I bought a tree the Monday after Thanksgiving. In the past, I'd always waited because we do a real tree and that's a long time to keep it alive. That meant that in the two weeks before Christmas, when we have 2 birthdays, I was also trying to shop, celebrate birthdays, and buy and decorate a tree. So I thought if I get it done early, maybe it wouldn't be so bad. So I bought the tree and put it up in the sun room (this makes me happy because it's not hogging up major space in the corner of my living room. ) We took our time decorating the tree. It's a big tree and it took 3 days to finish but that's okay. We worked a little at a time. I found Christmas music that I didn't hate before Thanksgiving. This is big. It includes lots of Pentatonix, and Piano guys. Instrumental is good. I also prefer Christmas music about the religious aspects over other more cultural celebrations. No I do not want to Rock around the Christmas tree, nor do I want a Hippopotamus for Christmas. I figured out several nice gifts for my dh. I also found some simple gifts for my dad and brother. Each year, I stress out looking for the PERFECT gift when I just need to find something nice that says I thought of you. My kids are NOT IN THE HANDBELL CHOIR this year. I had no idea how running back and forth to rehearsals and performances was sapping my joy. I also declined to participate in our church Christmas program. The last few months have had some major stressors (not related to holidays) and I just don't have the energy for it. All that to say, I'm not dreading the holidays. At least not entirely. Yes, there are still aspects that I won't enjoy, but I'm digging deep to find joy in some stuff. So yesterday, it was icy and cold since we got some freezing rain. We were looking out the window at the ice and it began snowing, large fluffy flakes. I said. "Oh look! Snow. How pretty!" My dd looked at me and I clapped a hand over my mouth. I said. "What just came out of my mouth!" Dd said "You don't sound like yourself. What in the world? What's the matter with you?" So my Joyful Christmas Project is doing something. Strange things are happening around here.
  11. 53 points
    My sister completed a triathlon today. Her first. She places something like 275 out of 315. My BIL has a condition called polycyththemia. Basically, too many red blood cells. His is a rare form related to cancer that, as I understand it, has no cure, but can be chronically managed with treatments and healthy living (Basically, blood draws as needed and meds for vitamin deficincies as a basic healthy diet that includes healthy foods, little to no alkie and no smoking...) BIL was a smoker. It took years after he was diagnosed for her to get him to quit smoking. Beyond that, she started a garden. My mother and I have been gardening for years now, we have been encouraging her to do so but only in the last few years has she started. Before the diagnosis........she would NEVER garden. Now that he's stopped smoking....she's getting more and more into walking/running activities. And although it's good for her, the reality is that he WON'T exercise for himself. At all. BUT, she asked him to help her train for this triathlon. And he did. I could share all sorts of stories about "honest bob's personal training' and 'eagle attacks' and a bunch of other inside jokes. BUT...all those inside jokes aside, the ultimate result is that he was walking with her, biking with her, to "help her train" And the end result is, he is healthier. His condition requires less treatment. She completed the triathlon. He might have added another year or two or five.
  12. 52 points
    I can't believe our little rainbow baby is three months old already! He is the sweetest. He has recently started giggling at us, and he shoves burp cloths into his mouth. We adore him so, so much. Mr. Five cannot get enough of him. A thousand times a day, he comes up to say, "I love this baby too, too much. I need this baby. Let me hold the baby." A few weeks ago, he told me, "This is the baby I always wanted." Baby gets covered with a lot of kisses. (And in true Mr. Five fashion, he still very often reminds us out of the blue that he is a double big brother.) It is such a beautiful gift to have him and to be able to pick him up and cuddle him whenever I want. His little face smiling at me in the morning lights my world.
  13. 48 points
    UPDATE on genomic testing: NO GENETIC INVOLVEMENT! ? So “the girls” will be staying put although Lefty gets a penalty (lumpectomy). Also very happy that this will not be passed on to my kids!
  14. 46 points
    funny story. DS17 took the ACT and got a great score. You can tell he is different from me because 17 yo me would have said 'woo-hoo I'm done w/ standardized testing for college entrance forever'. DS though ''s good, but what if some college likes the SAT better so I should ALSO take the SAT.' Wishing to avoid hearing him be all stressed out for the next month while he preps for this exam I don't think he needs, I suggested he call the admissions board of a few colleges he's interested in and just ask them. So he did. Discission w/ CMU's admission person went something like: DS17: Hello. I'm very interested in attending CMU. I'll be applying this fall. I just took the ACT and got a 35, but I was wondering if you have a preference for SAT over ACT so maybe I should take that too. CMU Admissions: that's a very good score. congratulations. No, then don't care. Wait....what department are you interested in? DS17: Econ CMU Admissions: nope, they don't care. DS17: and Musical Theater. CMU Admissions: <pause> oh honey. They SO DON'T care. <snicker> He was honestly pretty insulted. 😛
  15. 45 points
    The wedding went very well. Since they hadn't thought about ushers or seating parents, dh and I started out the wedding procession by walking down the aisle and seating ourselves in the front and the oldest brother was grabbed to escort the bride's mother to her seat. My son asked the photographer to get a photo with all of our family including dh and I, grandparents, and all the siblings and their SO. It was interesting because my son and his new wife spent much of the evening having a good time hanging out with his brothers (instead of his groomsmen) and he even danced with his little sister. Overall, it was a very nice evening.
  16. 45 points
    Back in 2017, I asked for help naming our boy Max. Unfortunately, we lost him suddenly this February to acute hemolytic anemia. I was devastated...he was my shadow. A couple weeks ago, I mentioned to dh that I was finally to a point where it didn’t hurt to think of losing Max, and occasionally I would glance at the shelter sites. Wednesday I saw this guy, and I fell in love. I showed dh, and it was the same. We brought him home Wednesday evening, and he’s made things interesting since. 😆 Meet Jukka...pronounced “you kuh”. Dh wanted a name that meant gift from God, and something about that name stood out. He’s a 9 week old Australian Shepherd.
  17. 44 points
    I would tell sister to not come over until she was comfortable having her baby around your kids. It's her right to choose her holds her child, but it is not her right to scold your kids in their own home for just being kids.
  18. 43 points
  19. 43 points
    Oh, when I got back home FiL told me what a nice day he had had sitting quietly and reading. You would think I had offered him a nice vacation instead of taking him away from Thanksgiving with the family.
  20. 43 points
    My munchkin is almost 3 months. She barely missed being born on the 4th of July. She’s such a happy baby. So here she is at the golf course helping me caddy for her older siblings. Thea Lynnae ❤️
  21. 42 points
    My husband and sons are at a scout overnighter. My brother is at a PTA convention. My nieces are with their non-custodial parent. All at the exact same time. I couldn’t have planned it better and it just happened. There is no one here to take care of in any manner whatsoever. No need to cook anything I don’t want to eat. I am home alone, all of today and most of tomorrow. I don’t even have accounting work I have to do because I finished a huge project this week. And I am very rested because I went to bed early last night and slept like a log. It’s the holy grail of the busy moms everywhere. Home alone and not tired or sick. My loose plan: long walk, grab the groceries necessary for a steak, mushrooms and greens meal for one, make myself a great meal and then deep clean some stuff that’s been driving me nuts. Then I am free to do whatever I want. Which will probably be some combination of read and watch Netflix. Reccomendations? What would you do?
  22. 41 points
    She won!!!! It was a horrifying long afternoon, but the judge saw right through all the crap.
  23. 41 points
    I'm 34. And I agree with Debbi that a lot of people don't want to talk about their income publicly. It seems like people in the $70k to $150k per year range are happy to disclose their income, but people making outside that range- either less or more- aren't as likely to discuss it. This is just my own observation, not any kind of actual data. I'm guessing that a lot of people who make more than that per year probably come from money and so were taught as children that discussing money is crass, and that people under that range (like me! lol) don't want to discuss it because it's depressing. When it comes to this forum specifically, the demographics seem to skew much older and wealthier than they do elsewhere. In the large FB homeschool groups I'm in, people seem to be younger, poorer, and- to be blunt- less educated than the people who hang out around here. We're like the Upper East Side of the online homeschool community. You all are a bunch of snooty homeschool elitists. :P
  24. 40 points
    Feeling okay. I am so rich in wonderful friends, I cannot begin to tell you how lucky I am. I have food out the wazoo; my bunco friends put together a big basket-overflowing-to-gift-bag of treats, books, magazines, lip balm, lotion, fuzzy socks - just everything! I have a terrific little cushion thay goes under the arm and keeps the left side comfy. It helped me sleep. Just hanging around here reading and eating a bagel and apple my friends brought by. Try to take a little lap around the kitchen whenever my Fitbit buzzes me on the hour. ?
  25. 40 points
    Thank you again for the good wishes. It actually worked. I've always done a variety of crafty things as hobbies, but in the last year or so I've been more intentional about it. I'm not trying to become a professional artist, but I did promise myself that I would try to put at least one piece of the visual art I've been working on "out there" this year. I left the specifics of what "out there" would mean very open and flexible, considering everything from putting some stuff up on Etsy to renting a table at a craft fair, but the concept that has most attracted me is to have work shown in some kind of public exhibit. One of my favorite events every fall is the Day of the Dead exhibit at one of the large downtown galleries, which sounds more impressive, perhaps, than it is; the submission process is completely open, and they accept massive amounts of stuff. But they draw a huge crowd, and it's a ton of fun to browse. I had planned to submit for the show this past October and had started working on some stuff to fit the theme, but that was at about the same time that my son's car broke down (meaning I was driving him all over town for a couple of weeks) and the ongoing rift between my son and daughter was boiling over and my husband and I decided to go on a cruise on short notice. I ran out of time to complete the pieces and abandoned the whole project for a few months. When I came up for air, I started looking around for other, similar events, watching for calls to artists. About three weeks ago, I saw one that appealed to me. The day I posted, I had just submitted three pieces for an exhibit that opens this Saturday. Yesterday, I was notified that all three have been accepted. I delivered them to the venue today. It's been kind of an overwhelming day for other reasons (I spent most of my day at work frantically trying to prepare for a presentation to other trainers of a new summer program curriculum I've been working on for several months), so I haven't really had time to decide how I'm feeling about this. I also still have no idea whether there was any actual "selection" process for the exhibit at all. But I am pretty pleased to have accomplished my goal, and I'm looking forward to attending the reception on Saturday and seeing something(s) I made hanging up in public for any and all to see.
  26. 39 points
    I will do my best not to be too harsh. The problem isn't you, it's your DH. What I am reading is that he has things he's supposed to take care of, but then, he doesn't. So then, knowing that he isn't doing what he is supposed to/what he said he was going to, he makes it seem like you are the one with the crazy problem. I think they call that gaslighting?
  27. 39 points
    Mines has 2 career days a year where a number of companies come to campus to market/interview. Ds had several on campus interviews, several away from campus interviews (including one an airplane ride away), declined a few airplane rides away interviews (due to rural locations), and was rejected by a few companies he wanted. Two days ago, he was offered a job at a company that he likes that is local to him. He is happy to stay in the area. The salary is average for someone with his degree (mechanical engineering undergrad and engineering and technology management graduate) according to Mines salary outcome report. The offer comes with all the standard benefits. He accepted today. He will start in June after graduation in May. A terrific Xmas present for us all. I was a little worried because he never worked a summer internship, so I'm relieved it all worked out. For those who have followed the ups and downs of basketball over the years, he made it through to Xmas with no injuries. Yay! (2 of his 5 years, he did not) I really need to change my signature. I hate to give up my beach gal, though.
  28. 39 points
    I have a younger brother who's about 35 years old, never married, no kids. For lots of reasons, my dh and I decided he's the best choice if both of us get hit by a bus and perish. I asked my brother about this decision yesterday in text. My bother lives in Turkey in a small city in an apartment. Oh yeah, he;s legally blind and can't drive. My minor kids are 16, 13, and 10 Me: We're discussing end of life decisions. Would you consider allowing us to name you guardian of our three minor kids if dh and I kicked the bucket? Bro: Do I get to star in a sitcom? 3 wisecracking kids and their bumbling uncle? Me: Why yes, of course. The kids have talked about that very thing. Have you ever seen Despicable Me? Sort of the same concept. Dd 16 drives now, so you're all set. But she does get lost a lot. Bro: Well, obviously, that is one of the story lines. The others involve ds10 getting into shenanigans as a DJ of a popular YouTube channel. Dd13 trying to set me up with the aunties of all her friends and dd 16 getting us lost everytime we go some place. It practically writes itself. But, yes, of course I would be happy for them to be my guardian. I mean. To be their guardian. I're not planning to off yourselves any time soon are you? Me: Don't forget they come with two enormous dogs and three cats. Bro: You're not planning on staging your own deaths so you and dh can start a new life in the Adirondacks in a Winnebago? Me: Oooo. I hadn't thought of that. Great idea! I'll write it down. Me: They do come with a sizeable life insurance policy. Bro: Would that fund my dates with the ladies. Me: Dog food. Just dog food.
  29. 38 points
    My little guy will be 1 next week! I can't believe it. I had to share 2 pictures because I can't pick. I won't leave the pictures up forever.
  30. 38 points
    I am sitting here bawling like a big baby, having read all of your messages of love and support and kindness. But not all tears are a bad thing. I am feeling so blessed to have such a network of wonderful people out there thinking about me and praying for me. Every single word you wrote is an absolute treasure to me. Thank you all so very much. ❤️❤️❤️
  31. 37 points
  32. 37 points
    Okay, here’s my 18 month old - she’s like a joey, she loves to be in my “pouch”! Daddy calls her his sugar cookie!❤️
  33. 37 points
    Well, I guess I would hypothetically purchase an apron for him and let him know that I've enjoyed cooking for the family, but if I'm not trusted to plan and set up my own work space, I would absolutely not be cooking anymore....effective immediately.
  34. 37 points
    Please go back and read your posts. Your stepson is not your son. They are two different people. Your son doesn’t have a weight problem, but that doesn’t make it fair to keep comparing your stepson to him in such a negative way. The boys aren’t biologically related to each other in any way. Your son is naturally slim. Your stepson isn’t. They have different appetites and different attitudes toward food. I doubt your stepson will ever be slim like your son, and I do understand that you worry about his health, but he’s reaching an age where he needs to make these decisions for himself. If he is still asking for your help, that’s different, but if he’s not, please stop comparing him with your own son and just try to accept him for the kind and sweet young man he is. His weight doesn’t define him as a person.
  35. 37 points
    Even Newer Update: We have 85 people signed to attend and the facility is cutting us a deal to feed them all pizza. Other Group Leader has cancelled the contract for her group to attend and made them refund her season passes for the facility. They aren't very sad to lose her business.
  36. 36 points
    Tell her that you are suing her for the $175 and all court fees, but since you are doing it prayerfully, she should understand. /Sarcasm I am sorry you are dealing with this.
  37. 36 points
    I've known for a while that my ability to read what I type is going really downhill - IOW, my brain will still read a sentence how I meant it to come out even if what I actually typed is completely wrong, especially if I read it again while the information is still fresh in my brain. Anyways, I went back and re-read a final report I wrote for a class (because I'm stalking the website for my final grade). For context, this document is going to be shared with every professor in the department because it's dictating my projects from now until I graduate. I meant to say Large Hadron Collider (the particle accelerator)....but what I wrote was Large Hardon...
  38. 36 points
    I am going in the middle of the night tonight. I am going to be kid-less and DH-less for 6 whole days 🙂 I am going to look after my grandmother for 6 days while her partner has surgery and is in hospital. I am so excited. I have only had in the last 25 years overnighters away from everyone (not including time in hospital) and that has only really been for specialized training for the twins My grandmother is pretty excited as well.
  39. 36 points
    Autumn & Clemetine A local lady was raising an abandoned litter of farm kitties. It’s too cold for them to be outside without a mama to snuggle. What a shame! So they’re snuggled in with us for the winter, and as the grand babies are moving closer in the spring so they won’t be spending the night, I’m hopeful these two will be able to just stay in the house.
  40. 36 points
    I was just coming here to try to find this thread to glad that I didn’t have to search for it!! I had a second CT scan and the results were much better. This CT Scan was just of my chest and it only showed one (barely) swollen lymph (they are concerned when they are over 1cm and my swollen node was only 1.1cm). The radiologist report suggested a follow up in 3-6 months. Then yesterday I received my biopsy results and they were benign!! So so thankful for that. Finally today I saw a different ENT in Columbus, OH (I already had the appointment scheduled and decided to follow through with it). After looking at my CT Scans and examining me, he feels strongly that my body is just fighting off some type of infection. He suggested that I see my local ENT to discuss my biopsy results and then he thinks that I should have a follow-up CT scan in about 6 weeks. Luckily, I was able to get in with a different local ENT who I feel may be better than the one that I saw originally and I’m seeing him Friday. I feel kind of crazy seeing so many ENTs, but the original one just made me feel so uncomfortable. Today’s ENT did say that if the swelling doesn’t go down soon, they could have to do surgery to remove the lymph node in my neck (that is the only definite way to make sure that it is benign). I can already tell that it is somewhat smaller, but it is still there. I am praying that it goes away on it’s own and that no surgery is required. I asked him if there is a chance that the benign result of the needle biopsy could be incorrect and he said yes, but it would be a very low chance So I’m feeling good today. Well, other than the fact that the ENT put a scope up my nose!!! That was so crazy uncomfortable!!! I’d never had anything like that done before and hope I never have to again Thanks for checking up on me and for the prayers @Penguin any updates from you?
  41. 35 points
    So the update: It went way better then could be expected. My 3 yo napped through the whole thing. The big boys were great---vibrant, happy, obedient, and obviously smart. They nicely played mouse trap with my mother. We invited her right in she sat on our couch and talked to us for 1/2 an hour. Mostly she was satisfying her curiosity about homeschooling, and commiserating about how stupid the complaint was. She asked us a rapid fire list about risk factors: drugs, alcohol, spousal abuse etc. We talked briefly about rules & discipline. She never had any interest in leaving the living room. She only talked with the children when they initiated conversation. She was fascinated by homeschooling. This is the text of the complaint in red, to give you an idea of how truly stupid it was: Caller reports that dh (34) & Ananda (33) are parents of ds9, ds6 & ds3. According to the caller the children are homeschooled. The caller reported that ds9 wears a pull up (like this is a habitual thing). The caller stated that they believe ds3 also wears a pull up, but it is unknown if ds6 wears pull ups. The caller did not speak with the parents as to why ds9 wears a pull up. Why is this person so obsessed with pull ups? When the caller was asked if they had any other concerns, the caller stated that the children have difficulty listening to directions, which is typical for children who are homeschooled; (You guys are going to love that.) however, the children exhibit behaviors of not following directions beyond the norm. The caller stated that they didn't have any other concerns at this time. Then they provided mangled DOB's for the children. Based on the complaint, I am certain this is someone from the YMCA, probably an employee, but maybe another parent. So . . . that is a thing. I am just so flabbergasted at the stupidity. You can see why she wasn't at all concerned. Apparently, nothing about the call concerned CPS. She said they would have told off the caller. But they emailed the state department of education just to close out their file. The department of education replied, in blue: I do not have a filing under the last name (dh & dc's last name). Basics such as potty training would be considered child care and parenting responsibilities, not a curriculum choice. That is the best part. The department of education being like wtf! She said that she had to follow up & do the whole she-bang because the department of ed didn't have a record of us. This is because the YMCA mangled the DOB's and our homeschool is registered under my (different) last name. Apparently, though, most people cooperate with her. She seemed really taken aback when I told her that many people would have refused to talk to her, to allow her access to the children and to enter the home. She said that she couldn't get a court order, but it would raise her suspicions. Apparently the only people who have reacted that way have been horrifically abusive or drug addicts. She would have kept coming back until our case expired. Anyways, 5 days of torture because someone at the YMCA is weird about pull-ups. Thanks. Ananda
  42. 35 points
    Still in ICU, but stable. I can't handle ICU by myself; I've worked out that I have to take another person with me to stop from feeling sick with stress. In laws arrive tomorrow. I just keep falling's not a helpful stress response...I've gotten nothing done this week other than visit and update other people and nap. In good news, my ds turns 15 tomorrow, and we're having tiramisu...I did go to the concert with my sister also, and it was fantastic, and once feeling guilty at being out and enjoying myself wore off, it was a good mental break. Thanks for the thoughts x
  43. 35 points
    30+ meals to put in the freezer...... Where is that fainting emoji when I need it. So it's been 6 weeks and here is my update...... I LOVE having these in the freezer.... see my notes what is left below. We;ve ordered pizza or sushi a couple times and I made fish or shrimp a few times. We are not a fan of typical freezer meals, so I came up with ones using the meals we usually eat. Some I've made before, some not. Here's my list: Chili - 2 bags + 1 for dinner tonight 1 bag left.... yummy... will make again 2 ravioli bakes with homemade meat sauce One of the best... all gone <insert sad face> 2 bags Moroccan Lentil Stew for crockpot 1 left... not the kids favorite , DH likes it and good for leftovers for lunch 1 - crockpot Asian lettuce wraps filling wasn't a fan of the recipe 2 - Crockpot kung pao beef yeah, no.... 1 left, sadly.... 2 - crockpot Hungarian goulash Awesome as usual.... love it... all gone 1 - Crockpot Salsa Verde Beef for tacos .. all gone, pretty good 2- Crockpot zesty orange beef yeah no, maybe as a stirfry, but not in the crockpot, all gone 2 -steak bites with fried potato skillet kits (I marinaded the meat and froze in 1 bag, then par boiled the potatoes to skillet fry and put those in a separate bag) awesome recipe, will make again, all gone 2- fajita kits... 1 left, always a hit 2 - beef kabob bags both left, been to hot to BBQ.... 3- meatloaves with sauce 1 left DD12's favorite 4 bags of premade kafta (I can bake or grill) 1 left, this is a huge hit and big help 2- Garlic pepper steak stir fry kits (each component frozen separate) all gone, AWESOME, should have made more... 2 bags marinading shawarma (to stir fry or roast or grill) all gone, AWESOME, should have made more... Then tomorrow I need to finish the hamburgers and meatballs (14 pounds of meat). Still have 8 burgers left and 2 bags of meatballs... Then I'll do the meatless meals: stuffed grape leaves and spinach lasagna roll ups. We ate all the grape leaves in one setting, I can never make enough of those and I skipped the roll ups as I ran out of room With leftovers, this should last 6-7 weeks, I hope.
  44. 35 points
    I have more than one friend. I don't compare them. Some of them have husbands, I don't compare them to mine. I have 11 children. They are individuals and I do not compare them. Because it doesn't matter what the coulda woulda shoulda be is, if they are or are not, they need me to love them where and how they are. Not where or how their sibling is or was at their age or how I was or their father was or the other kids we know are or whatever might be normal. NO ONE needs that comparison at home. They do it enough in their own heads. We don't need anyone we love and who loves us to tell us how stupid our choices are or how fat we are or what we need to do to compare better to how we should be. We don't need it because the entire world is primed and waiting to beat us and our children's hearts and souls to crap. For the love of God, let our family be our respite from the beatings of the world and the fickleness of life.
  45. 34 points
    UPDATE: dd’s bf, who is like a son to us, got the fees reversed! He got an Affidavit and stood in dh’s place at the Show Cause hearing, and, though he reports the hearing did not go well and they rushed him and acted like they didn’t understand, nonetheless, they sent him a message that they were reversing the fees! I feel like this was an unlikely outcome and I am just electrified that it turned out so well!
  46. 34 points
    Well, I think the girls were right to speak up, and the counselor was wrong. Unless the girls did it in a mean way. The boy with autism probably didn't realize that he was crossing boundaries and making the girls feel uncomfortable, but that doesn't mean it's acceptable for him to keep doing it. Someone needed to tell him to knock it off, and it was within the rights of the girls to do it. I would want the girls and adults to tell my son with HFA to cut it out, if he were the one doing it. Instead of reprimanding the girls, the counselor should have worked with the boy to help him understand expected boundaries of behavior. There is often not a way to tell when someone has HFA, unless they reveal that themselves, so I don't think teaching them to look for signs of autism would prevent this kind of thing. Instead of talking about autism (though I realize it has been brought up in this situation), it may be more helpful to explain that some people have trouble understanding social boundaries. If they are in such a situation, again, and telling the guy to stop does not make it stop, the next step is to ask an adult for help.
  47. 34 points
    DS accepted at Hamilton!!!! He's had 5 waitlists and 1 rejection over the past week, so we really needed this one to get him out of his funk. And one of his top choices, so even better!
  48. 34 points
    Happy Thanksgiving from my family to yours. For Thanksgiving lunch we had wheelchair Grandma, my 2 girls, my son, his bio brother, brother's fiancee, their 4 year old, and bio brother's adoptive brother (who just happened to have been one of my fosters when he was a baby) . Hence we have "your brother's brother's brother"... Or just a brother as I claim them all.
  49. 34 points
    See, these people have just saved me a fortune. Because I am never going anywhere again.
  50. 33 points
    We went on our first trip alone in 23+ years last week! We went back to Oregon to see friends and because it was such a happy place for our family when we lived there. (2010-2014) So, I wanted to do a trail. It was kind of my last hoorah and we ordered my power chair a few weeks ago. I still walk right now but something like this was huge emotionally for me. The 1/2 mile trail took about 2.5 hours. Short Sands Beach in Oswald West State Park is, in my opinion, one of the most beautiful spots along the coast. Did he say I couldn’t do it? No. Did he complain? No. Did he walk that trail six inches at a time? Yup. I’m going to keep him.
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