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  1. 128 points
    Bye, bye breast cancer. I had my last radiation treatment today. Let’s hope cancer’s butt is sufficiently kicked that we don’t meet again for many decades, if at all.
  2. 121 points
    Hard to believe our sweet little Alex is 4 months old already! The novelty has not worn off yet. Mr. Five still covers him with kisses sixteen million times a day. He is a very jolly baby, very content and easily entertained by watching the crew. He is all about shoving toys and burp cloths and anything else he can grab into his mouth and then giggling. I adore him so much and still sometimes can't believe I have him to cuddle all day long. Here are a couple of recent pics.
  3. 101 points
    UPDATE: Greta has beat the odds and has had some reduction in the size of her tumors. She had her husband have had a wonderful second honeymoon to the most romantic of cities—Paris—and have found the way to love one another and life while squarely facing this serious illness. She’s connected at her parish with frequent gatherings, and, of course, connected with her medical community with frequent meetings. Greta calls herself most blessed to have this time with her husband, daughter, family and friends. Recently, she has developed really loud tinnitus, so she has joined me in the hearing-aid-brigade, which lets her play white noise into her ears that at least distracts from the tinnitus. And podcasts too. :0) It's not curative but it does help. Going into this diagnosis, 9 months ago, the "expectancy" was stated as 12 months. Without raising her hopes or projecting doom, her doctor told her that she is healthier now than she was 12 months ago, and recent tests revealed "nothing new." (That's called "good news" in this milieu.) Please keep praying for her. She is going to try to read the posts here, so if you want to chime in, feel free. (Just between us chickens, Greta has found and displayed amazing grace in a most unexpected place and experience. We should be so happy to call her one of "ours." )
  4. 87 points
    I got to spend my morning today with a WTM member who lives not very far from me. She helped me restore order to my homeschool room. She is also terrific company! She didn’t even make fun of my disembodied manequin heads for displaying knitted baby hats, although I think she did agree they are more pleasant and less Stephen King when they actually have a knitted hat on. She didn’t criticize me for having 900 colored pencils and a lifetime supply of Sharpies. Everyone here should be so lucky as to get to know a Hiver IRL. I know she would not seek accolades, but I just want to thank @Garga publically. She’s a gem!
  5. 86 points
    ...and I'm only telling everyone I ever met and all their friends and family keep it to yourself. Local-to-Kirkland/Bellevue WA-Peeps--You are invited if you would like to come! This is my first exhibit, and Windermere Real Estate in Kirkland is my sponsor. I'm excited and a bit of a nervous wreck. That watery first photo is my "signature" photo--it's called Water Colors and I use it on all my marketing materials. Anyway, I'm pretty excited. I told my dh I am Miss June and expect a tiara and a sash. :0) (Mercifully for all, there will be no bathing suit competition.) There are twenty wall-size photos that will hang in their office for 2 months. I'm hoping a few will sell. :0). I've already sold one... Yay! If you want to see the full publicity, it is on Facebook, Windermere Real Estate Kirkland (They also go by "We Are Kirkland" as their marketing phrase.) Anyway, that's my news. :0) ETA: BUT please don't use your phones--the phone app is not working right at the moment. It WILL--trust me--I've got that look in my eye. This info also added in update 5/22/18 at about 4:40pm.
  6. 82 points
    This could mean anything, right? In this case it was coming from DS5. DS5 is my youngest. He has, at minimum, a speech delay. He may or may not qualify for an ASD diagnosis. DD7 has one, but she barely qualifies and her speech delay was the biggest factor. He is much less delayed, in all areas than she ever has been, so I just don't know where he would fall. I feel like if I pushed FOR it he would qualify, if I pushed AGAINST it, he would not qualify. Regardless, I am well aware of his strengths and weeknesses and more. Today, he surprised me. Out of the blue, after he was totally ready for bed, jammies, teeth brushed, etc etc. He walked into the front room and said "Mommy, Daddy, I have somfing to tell you. Thank you. Thank you for helping me." Then, he came to me, climbed in my lap and said "Fank you. Fank you for helping me roller skate. I wuv you." And he hugged me and "smackered" me on the cheek. THEN, he got down, went to DH and crawled into his lap and said "Fank you, for helping me protect my sisters." Then, he got down and finished his chores. UM, HUH? I am like blubbering at this point lol. We continued with nighttime chores and bed time routine. THEN, while he was waiting for the toilet to be free for the "before bed, EVERYBODY go pee!" He climbed back into my lap and said "Fank you for being there for me." Like literally actually his words. I have no idea where these thank yous came from. So I will take them as sincere. They are just so far more than I ever expected out of my 5 yr old.
  7. 80 points
    Emma turned one month old yesterday and I've been meaning to share a photo, but I had exceeded my attachment size limit and only got around to deleting some old photos today. It worked out because dss just sent us this picture last night. We're a boy-heavy family with 2 sons and 2 grandsons, so we're all pretty excited to finally have a girl join the crew. She'll be the last grandchild until ds 21 has kids (if he does), and we hope that won't be any time soon! Emma has Down Syndrome. Fortunately thanks to positive changes, she'll have much better opportunities in life than if she was born even as recently as 10 or 20 years ago.
  8. 71 points
    If you remember I started the thread saying I was considering doing childcare to bring in extra money. Well, I wound up responding to a Craigslist ad about an 88 year-old man that needs help with cleaning and food prep 3 days a week and I got the job. This is a much better situation for my family and I am very happy with it. Thank you for your ideas, encouragement and prayers.
  9. 69 points
    Update! I had an ultrasound today and at 8 weeks they saw the flutter of a heartbeat so we are cautiously optimistic it will stick! ❤
  10. 68 points
  11. 68 points
    I have been sitting on this news since June, unable to announce on social media (though I'm terrible at secrets and some of you know, and I've been dropping hints all over the place)--We are moving to Jerusalem in October! Back in March, as I did share, my husband was sent an email detailing an available position as Dean of St. George's College in Jerusalem. He interviewed in late May but, although one of two candidates, did not get the job. We were saddened and a little stunned, because so much about it seemed to be right, but I was also a bit relieved. My husband told me he had a feeling things were not "finished," and just to stay tuned. He said he had a picture in his mind of a ball on a pool table, aimed for one pocket, missing, and rolling allllll the way down to the corner pocket and going in. lol We are big on metaphors and such here. That's exactly what happened. 2 weeks after the rejection for the Dean's job, the Archbishop sent an email to my husband offering him the position of Chaplain to the Archbishop. It is a job on the cathedral/clergy side of things instead of the academic side. (The cathedral close houses the church, the college and the accomodations for the pilgrims.) He accepted, and we are currently getting ready. We fly out on the 15th. It should be interesting! My feelings are mixed, but I do feel this is right. Thanks for letting me share!
  12. 67 points
    When I was into my homeschooling journey people told me over and over "You need another interest, you can't make your kids your whole life, what will you do when they are grown? How will you let them go after centering your whole life around them??" Years after homeschooling is over the answer is easy. Grandchildren. Grown children. I am blessed enough that our three boys live within 2 minutes or 20 minutes down the road, and our two daughters 90 minutes away. My "other interests" are things that include the kids. Horses, gardening, living on a farm. We have big family dinners once or twice a week for anyone who can make it. I have the grandkids as often as possible. I do things for the grown kids when they need me, whether it's help finding a lost kitty or cooking dinner for 20 people because you lost a poker game. I'm not trying to brag on myself, I just want to encourage young moms who center their lives around their family. Keep it up girls. There's nothing better. Relax and enjoy.
  13. 66 points
    I've been here a long time, and today, I just feel like calling out another long-time poster, Lori D. I go on a lot of the boards, but esp college and chat now. I frequently see these truly helpful, amazing posts by Lori D. She gives incredible lists of literature, movies and even games, tailored to people's requests for their children. She has a scholarship list and a list of schools that give 100% merit aid. She is, quite simply, one of the most useful sources of homeschooling info, and beyond. So I wanted to say, THANK YOU, LORI D, for all you do for us boardies. You bring light and cheer, information and peace, and you are just a wonderfully supportive member of this very special community.
  14. 66 points
    Your wish is my command! ? Initial pathology is very good. For those who like the technical details: Stage 1, Grade 1, ER+ and PR+, HER2-. For the layman: early, slow-growing, most common profile, 95% remission outlook. Still on the docket: sentinal lymph biopsy, MRI, genetic workup. Of these, the genetic workup is the slowest report and treatment partially hinges on that. That is a two-week-wait and it hasn’t been done yet. IF those workups don’t reveal unpleasant surprises, I can skate out of this with a lumpectomy and radiation. I’m hoping for this outcome; I do not want to go double mastectomy and reconstruction route unless the baddies lurking in my genes strongly suggest that route. Lots of appointments coming up! Feeling positive though and and SO relieved to hear the “slow-growing” and “early” parts of this report.
  15. 63 points
    Meet the newest hive member! She just missed having a 4th of July birthday by a few hours. She’s a little chunk at over 8 pounds!
  16. 62 points
    So, I have news!!!! (recap was I have friends, but no Catholic friends, and really no Christian friends, and my kids have no Christian friends, and I'd like to meet some, but the mom's group at Church said I couldn't bring the kids with me because they were too old) Anyway, I posted on a Florida Catholic Homeschool facebook with a question about a particular umbrella school and in one of the comments someone mentioned something their pastor said on Sunday. And MY pastor said that too, so I asked and yes, she goes to my parish. And then another mom piped up and said she does too. And then one of them messaged me and they have a small, informal group of 7 homeschool families that meet during the school year!!! And I am welcome to join. In fact, the mom that messaged me has kids exactly the ages of my two middle kids, and had just asked one of our priests to pray that she'd find more Catholic homeschool families and I posted the next day. ?
  17. 60 points
    I was near the dairy case with cheeses when a young man said, “Excuse mom wants Parmesan cheese, but I don’t that the stuff you shake out of a can?” I chuckled and said, “Well, usually that’s what people mean here when they say Parmesan.” I pointed him towards the correct item. Then, he says, “...Also, what is *light* mayonnaise?” I said, “Well, probabaly just looks like Mayo but will say ‘Light’ on it. Like lower calories.” Then - the funniest yet - he said, “And also, my mom said ‘chicken’. What does she mean?? Aren’t there lots of kinds of chicken?” Lol! “Yeah,” I replied, “there’s lots of things she might mean by that....does she often bring home the fully cooked rotisserie chickens? They do have those here. But she might mean pieces, raw. Or breaded patties. Or a whole, raw chicken. You might need to ask...” 😂 I’m betting he just recently got his license and his mom was like, “awesome! Go get the groceries!” Poor thing had no idea...
  18. 60 points
    I love being a grandmother. It's totally living up to the hype and she couldn't be more perfect. This picture shows her on her quilt I made for her. I'm a very slow hand quilter so it took me over 200 hours just to hand stitch swirling hearts.
  19. 59 points
    It's been a long haul, with two extended periods of absence-on-leave due to illness. He will graduate in three weeks. He is job searching - he has found one part-time gig already and has been invited to interview for a full-time position. Onwards and upwards. Very relieved.
  20. 57 points
    Paint by numbers! I used to do them as a kid, but of course it was just the cartoony puppy or horses or whatever. But now I have discovered that they have some really beautiful options! The canvas it is printed on is high quality. I did buy my own paintbrushes as I read the ones that come with the kit can be cheap. For someone like me, who can't even draw a stick figure, this has been so much fun! I usually get a glass of wine and set up my audible book when I paint. It is so relaxing! Below is the one I am working on. Sorry the picture is so big. I don't know how to shrink it.
  21. 57 points
    Dh and I have spent most of yesterday and likely today rearranging and getting rid of crap. I’ve been slowly doing it all year but hitting it hard this weekend. Moving beds and furniture and going through every bit of clothing and toys and STUFF. Ugh. It’s frikken everywhere. Five black trash bags of boys clothing that isn’t used for whatever many reasons. If my youngest boy outgrew it, I’m no longer keeping it for any next kid. Same for baby girl. 42 pairs of boys shoes donated. Probably double those trash bags in stuff thrown away. Furniture I don’t want around anymore. I’m just tired of all the stuff that needs cleaned or put back or doesn’t quite work right so has that not really a big deal but always a minor irritation to deal with stuff. I’m not selling much, I just want it gone. So donations. A few things I might sell on FB. The children are disgruntled but not complaining too much. Dh is none too happy since he is tearing down beds and rearranging them in different rooms according to my requests. But whatever. It’s the first thing he’s done around the house in years bc normally I do literally everything house and kids and errand related. I’m going minimalist. Not because I care about being minimalist but because I’m just tired of dealing with it all and frankly I’d rather spend the money on a vacation. And because while I hope I live at least another 50 years, reality is I probably won’t and I for sure won’t take all this crap with me for most of it. It’s just stuff. It’s not important to me so I don’t want to spend energy and money and time on it. Anyone else spending this week jump starting new year goals and plans?
  22. 57 points
    It is so much fun! I had a lovely lunch today with @Penguin. She gets around and has met with other boardies on other continents, but I am privileged to have her living practically in my back yard. 😊 So here we are together today.
  23. 57 points
    Thanks to all for your support over the years. I just popped back in to answer a question on the chat board. While I'm here: Hobbes got into his first choice university. It was a bit of a drama because his results were not good enough to study English and French (his school was pretty rubbish at foreign languages) so he had to decide whether to try to go to another university for English/French or drop the French and go to his first choice. He did the latter and they let him in. I'm really happy - I don't think he has a good foundation in French and it would have been a struggle. He's been at university for a few weeks and seems to be doing well.
  24. 56 points
    Bear with me, and maybe this is a JAWM post, and I still have jumbled thoughts about this. Seems like there is a backlash against high-achieving kids. Over and over, I'm reading posts about "not all kids can achieve at the level that is recognized so we should not celebrate those achievements". I read one just yesterday and how it hurts a mom to see the MVP Award or the "breaks school record" award in freestyle, or the spelling bee champion, or whatever. Yeah, we should celebrate the kid with ASD who asked for juice in her cup, but can we also celebrate the kid that did break the record? I spent much of my last kids' high school years flying under the radar in our hs group because the only other mom with high achieving kids gave up and sent hers off to fancy boarding school back East. When moms would ask what my kids were up to (as they rarely came to things because they were off at the uni) I was expected to downplay what they were doing. I was castigated by a Scouting family because surely "T isn't actually taking the REAL SAT tomorrow as a 9th grader", Yeah, he was. Ran into a fellow awhile back that made it very plain that I was bragging when I said what ds was doing. No, I wasn't. Simply stating the fact of what he IS doing when I was asked. No, my kids aren't "lucky"--they've had a lot of adversity, but they've worked hard. Your kids are working hard too? So, let's celebrate that. Let's not denigrate the kid that is the National Marbles Champion (who knew there was even such a thing, but there is, and the kids work insanely hard to get it!). Let's ooh and aah over his crown (it IS pretty cool!) with pride of place on his mantel shelf. Kid is Concert Master? Yay! Let's quit acting like those kids who have achieved stuff have "pushy parents" and "well, MY kid could have done that if I'd paid for it", etc. Let's celebrate ALL achievements, whether it's getting through the grocery store w/o a meltdown or playing at Carnegie Hall!
  25. 56 points
    Today was the first day of recitation for Intro Chem which is a required class. The instructor started pretty basic, and the kids behind ds in the class were making somewhat-loud, rude comments about the class being useless, and why did they bother to show up, etc. After class, two of them went up to the instructor and said to him "next time, why don't you just tell anyone who knows anything about chemistry to leave. This class just wasted my time. etc" He said it went on for at least a minute or two. DS waited for the kids to leave the class and went up to the instructor and said "Thanks so much for teaching this recitation. Looks like you have a pretty tough crowd here, but I appreciate you being here." The instructor then asks his name and they get to talking. DS has been working in a chemistry lab this summer and apparently they have been doing the same type of research in materials science and really hit it off. DS came home and called me to say not just how he couldn't believe how rude the kids were, but that he felt good about making the effort to fix it.
  26. 56 points
    DD was launched yesterday. She went from our home in Cali, Colombia; via a connection in Fort Lauderdale, to the Raleigh-Durham International airport and to her dorm at UNC in Chapel Hill. She was able to check into her dorm in advance of the normal check-in day and is OK. With the exception that she couldn't get the Red Pocket Mobile cell phone service activated while waiting in FLL for the second flight, everything went extremely well. She got the cell phone service to work this morning. I was very impressed with the Spirit Airlines Check-In process in the Cali airport. Their Check-In process was about as good as it can possibly be. When we made the reservation (early in April which is much farther in advance of when I usually book, which is 30-90 days ahead of departure) we paid for a Carry-On bag and also for one checked bag. About a week before the trip, she realized that the Carry-On bag was going to be an issue, during her very long layover (6 hours) in FLL. Like if she went into the restroom, where would she put her Carry-On bag, because she also had a personal item, which was her backpack, with 2 Tablets and lots of important things? The decision was made to check the Carry-On bag, as a 2nd checked suitcase. We had to pay $23.80 USD extra, which I believe was for excess weight. The 2 checked bags weighed 30 Kilos which is 66 pounds. We had also paid extra for "Big Front Seats" on both flights, which makes the experience of going on Spirit Airlines much more enjoyable than their normal seats. Thankfully, with the Internet, and the cell phone service, we can communicate with her and being "Empty Nesters" will be easier. WhatsApp, etc.
  27. 56 points
    I got an email from Greta this week...she's been battling an infection, which is difficult when you are already undergoing cancer treatments, so recovery is slow and energy is low. Still, I sense strength through fatigue. She was moved to know of so many messages and of the continued caring people have for her. :0)
  28. 55 points
    So, in another thread, I babbled about fulfilling one of my personal goals for the year (having a couple of pieces of visual art I made accepted for an exhibition happening this weekend). Meanwhile, my daughter -- who has been juggling multiple part-time jobs since moving to Brooklyn almost four years ago in order to (more or less) make her rent and (come close to) paying (most of) her bills -- interviewed for a full-time job last week. Within just a couple of days, she got a message l(etting her know that they had gone with another candidate, but wanted her to come in and interview for a different, higher-level position doing the thing she had said during the first interview that she'd like to eventually grow into doing. She did the second interview on Thursday and got a call that same afternoon telling her she would receive an offer letter e-mail by close of business today. She received the official offer a couple of hours ago, and it involves almost doubling the combined income she has managed to scrape together in each of the previous few years, medical, dental and unlimited paid time off. They also have flexible hours and have already promised they will accommodate her schedule when she begins grad school this fall. It's not exactly the kind of work she hopes to do in the long term, but it has her working for a company that does work she appreciates, with people she likes and admires, and the salary and schedule should make the next three years of part-time school a whole lot more manageable and comfortable for her. It's a fantastic surprise, and I'm so grateful and happy for her I could just cry.
  29. 54 points
    So my CA ID expired on my birthday at the beginning of July. CA is attempting to align its standards with TSA standards by 2020, so you can either renew the easy way & go in to the DMV with your old ID and get a new one that will not be TSA compliant by 2020, or you can renew the hard way and go in to the DMV with a stack of documents that ID you as you and get what is called a REAL CA ID. I decided to get a REAL CA ID, so I looked at the list and gathered my birth certificate, my SS card, a bill in my name that shows my current address (this was difficult,) my expires in 3 days old ID & off to the DMV I went. Apparently if you are a married woman you can not get a REAL CA ID without a certified copy of your marriage license even if you didn't change your last name. After 3 hours at the DMV I got to go home. At home I couldn't find a copy of my marriage license anywhere. Not in the fire safe with the other documents or the file cabinet with the copies. I went online to the website of the county recorder's office, I downloaded the official form, took it to a notary to be notarized (did you know your license is expired, Ma'am?) and sent it off with a check and a self-addressed stamped envelope. Three weeks later I received (in my self-addressed stamped envelope) a letter which explained that no record of my marriage or my having applied for a marriage license could be found in the year that I claimed to have been married. They would be keeping my payment because they tried. Because I indicated that I had been married in a different county, perhaps I should try that county. I went to a different website for a different county recorder's office, downloaded the form, took it to the notary who looked at me with suspicion. Why did I need another copy of a marriage license from a different county? Why am I trying to get multiple marriage licenses with an expired ID? Again with the self-addressed stamped envelope and check payment. 5 weeks later I received a call from that county because they also have no record of my marriage. The lovely person I spoke to is someone with whom I attended high school. She informed me that she looked in the month before and after the date I put on the form, but she just couldn't find it. She told me she found all 3 of my sister's (not sisters') marriage licenses, but not mine, which was so strange because she thinks that her cousin was at my wedding, or at least at the reception. She remembers that I got married to that boy I was dating in high school, right? The one on the football team? And am I still married to him? She asked me who was responsible for turning in the paperwork after I got married. I told her it was my mom. She told me I should ask her if she hand carried it to the recorder's office in the county where I got married or if she mailed it to the county where I was living at the time. I told her that would be difficult because my mom is deceased. She blessed my heart and let me know that the county would be keeping my check because the payment is for the search and by golly she had searched. I was at a loss. I started having dreams where my Dad called me to say, "So we finally moved the furniture out of the bedroom and you'll never guess what we found in a big white envelope behind your mom's nightstand!" Maybe I wasn't even married. Maybe these past 28 years of "married filing jointly" taxes have been a lie. What now? Should Dh & I have a re-commitment ceremony? I think I have seen this sitcom. Four months after my ID expired, I received a letter from the county I started with, saying a clerical error in the spelling of my married last name at the time of the search caused my record to not come up on the computer, but now it has been found and if I would like to submit another notarized form and payment I can get a copy. Maybe I will find a different notary..... Amber in SJ
  30. 53 points
    I posted awhile back about my decisions to stop being a grumpy Christmas lady. Umm. Something weird is happening. I bought a tree the Monday after Thanksgiving. In the past, I'd always waited because we do a real tree and that's a long time to keep it alive. That meant that in the two weeks before Christmas, when we have 2 birthdays, I was also trying to shop, celebrate birthdays, and buy and decorate a tree. So I thought if I get it done early, maybe it wouldn't be so bad. So I bought the tree and put it up in the sun room (this makes me happy because it's not hogging up major space in the corner of my living room. ) We took our time decorating the tree. It's a big tree and it took 3 days to finish but that's okay. We worked a little at a time. I found Christmas music that I didn't hate before Thanksgiving. This is big. It includes lots of Pentatonix, and Piano guys. Instrumental is good. I also prefer Christmas music about the religious aspects over other more cultural celebrations. No I do not want to Rock around the Christmas tree, nor do I want a Hippopotamus for Christmas. I figured out several nice gifts for my dh. I also found some simple gifts for my dad and brother. Each year, I stress out looking for the PERFECT gift when I just need to find something nice that says I thought of you. My kids are NOT IN THE HANDBELL CHOIR this year. I had no idea how running back and forth to rehearsals and performances was sapping my joy. I also declined to participate in our church Christmas program. The last few months have had some major stressors (not related to holidays) and I just don't have the energy for it. All that to say, I'm not dreading the holidays. At least not entirely. Yes, there are still aspects that I won't enjoy, but I'm digging deep to find joy in some stuff. So yesterday, it was icy and cold since we got some freezing rain. We were looking out the window at the ice and it began snowing, large fluffy flakes. I said. "Oh look! Snow. How pretty!" My dd looked at me and I clapped a hand over my mouth. I said. "What just came out of my mouth!" Dd said "You don't sound like yourself. What in the world? What's the matter with you?" So my Joyful Christmas Project is doing something. Strange things are happening around here.
  31. 53 points
    My sister completed a triathlon today. Her first. She places something like 275 out of 315. My BIL has a condition called polycyththemia. Basically, too many red blood cells. His is a rare form related to cancer that, as I understand it, has no cure, but can be chronically managed with treatments and healthy living (Basically, blood draws as needed and meds for vitamin deficincies as a basic healthy diet that includes healthy foods, little to no alkie and no smoking...) BIL was a smoker. It took years after he was diagnosed for her to get him to quit smoking. Beyond that, she started a garden. My mother and I have been gardening for years now, we have been encouraging her to do so but only in the last few years has she started. Before the diagnosis........she would NEVER garden. Now that he's stopped smoking....she's getting more and more into walking/running activities. And although it's good for her, the reality is that he WON'T exercise for himself. At all. BUT, she asked him to help her train for this triathlon. And he did. I could share all sorts of stories about "honest bob's personal training' and 'eagle attacks' and a bunch of other inside jokes. BUT...all those inside jokes aside, the ultimate result is that he was walking with her, biking with her, to "help her train" And the end result is, he is healthier. His condition requires less treatment. She completed the triathlon. He might have added another year or two or five.
  32. 52 points
    I can't believe our little rainbow baby is three months old already! He is the sweetest. He has recently started giggling at us, and he shoves burp cloths into his mouth. We adore him so, so much. Mr. Five cannot get enough of him. A thousand times a day, he comes up to say, "I love this baby too, too much. I need this baby. Let me hold the baby." A few weeks ago, he told me, "This is the baby I always wanted." Baby gets covered with a lot of kisses. (And in true Mr. Five fashion, he still very often reminds us out of the blue that he is a double big brother.) It is such a beautiful gift to have him and to be able to pick him up and cuddle him whenever I want. His little face smiling at me in the morning lights my world.
  33. 52 points
    ...and there was a "+" sign. I am not ready to tell anybody in real life about this (other than DH obviously) and even if I did I wouldn't get the info I need because I know precisely one person ever who has had a baby after age 45. We definitely weren't trying to get pregnant, but I figured my fertility is not what it used to be and I'm getting to the age where I am just. so. over. condoms. and so we weren't exactly being careful either. I am so so so excited ? and also so so so terrified ? I know some of you have been in this situation, so please tell me this baby will keep me young, not make me old!!! ETA: Oh yeah, and oldest DS starts college tomorrow
  34. 52 points
    Last night, I helped ds24 pack up his car for his cross-country move. This morning, we said our good-byes and wished him well as he sets off for his grown up adventures ... entering his PhD program at UConn! It is has been a journey. It took 2 years to find a program that would take him. In that time, though, he was able to work, buy a car, and leave with money in the bank so he'll be able to buy a bed and necessary furniture. He is actually going to be a grown up. I'll be booking plane tickets to see him for his birthday in October.
  35. 51 points
    The long awaited update. I am sorry it has taken so long. It took until late this evening to get full resolution. Long Story Short: Homeschool Group lady approached facility as she has in past years. She signed a contract for an event BUT was not able to guarantee enough people to meet the facility cost. Facility decided to make a homeschool day and invite multiple groups to make it worth their while. Apparently Homeschool group lady was either A) unaware of this at all or B) wanted to dictate exactly what groups were invited. We originally chose to move to another day but at the end we WILL be attending on Homeschool Day and if the other group has issues with it, they were going to be given the choice to A)attend, B) move to a different day C) not come at all. The facility has been fantastic and accommodating. I wish I could say the same for some of my group members, but unfortunately, you can't always win them all over.
  36. 50 points
    My granddaughter Emma turned one year old yesterday. She has been doing amazingly well since her heart surgery at 5 months. Just like everyone said, once that was fixed she went about the business of being a baby and reaching milestones. She doesn't crawl yet but is trying (and she rolls over). She babbles. She receives both physical and occupational therapy, and is finally starting to take some solid food. She also communicates in her way. She opens her arms wide when she wants to be picked up, and she lets her brothers know when she's enjoying their antics and when to back off.
  37. 49 points
    On his kindle google search I did find “can u win Nobel if xplled frum skol” and “Nobel winners homskol” so at least he’s got a plan. 😂
  38. 49 points
    My dd found this dress on clearance back in August-- pretty-- but the lace 'blobs' were tattered and just did not look right. We found some silk hydrangeas, pearl beads, gold ribbon and some tiny gold butterflies-- and she LOVED the result! I used the scraps to make a headpiece and her date's boutonniere too... Prom was this past Saturday-- my oldest dd is a professional photographer and took the prom picts! Not a bad dress for just under $100! First picture is trying it on at store... notice lace 'blobs'...
  39. 49 points
    GUESS WHO FINALLY LEARNED TO SIT AT 22 MONTHS OLD?! Oh yes, Benjamin baby did! He also managed to break his hearing aids two days ago but we will take what we can get ?
  40. 48 points
    Part of me would say to you, as I would to any parent, don’t do for them anything that they can do for themselves. But the other part of me thinks, just baby them. Brush their hair. Let them feel their mama’s hands against their scalp and her voice behind their ear. They will adapt as needed. They’ve already shown you that. So don’t worry about that part.
  41. 48 points
    UPDATE on genomic testing: NO GENETIC INVOLVEMENT! ? So “the girls” will be staying put although Lefty gets a penalty (lumpectomy). Also very happy that this will not be passed on to my kids!
  42. 48 points
    This time we were there to (a) try and get my weekly alimony increased because he is making $100K more this year than last year and (b) to have the alimony taken directly out of his paycheck because for the last year and a half he has not personally sent one check. It all has come from his half of the profit of selling our house. It was a weird day. We did not have our usual judge, we had a new interim judge. She seemed a lot more engaged in the details so perhaps that will be good. My STBX met with his lawyer before we went into court, and I think that is when he told him that he has not paid alimony in the last 5 weeks because his share of the profits have been depleted. I think that is also when his attorney realized my STBX owes him close to $30,000 for legal fees and has not paid yet. His attorney seemed all flustered and uptight. He did a terrible job presenting their side. He had to say that he did not know my STBX has not paid me for 5 weeks - that just makes him look bad in front of the judge. I would not be surprised if this lawyer fired my STBX. His last lawyer fired him for not doing what the court ordered and for not paying her. One of their more stupid and unkind arguments is that my STBX has only been making this level of salary for the last 10 years or so, but for the majority of the marriage he was not making so much and that I should not benefit from his continued hard work. REALLY?!?! I just can't even believe in this day and age that argument is still being used. I finally had an opportunity to speak though! One of their arguments is that my STBX paid the college tuition for our younger daughter and that I was supposed to pay half of that and didn't and therefore owe him $18,000. The judge pointed at me and said "I want to hear about this $18,000." I stood up and said "Yes, he paid the tuition, but I paid her monthly rent at $540 a month, her utilities, all her uninsured health costs and once she graduated she lived with me for 6 months and I paid all the expenses. It totals well over $15,000 and I have the documentation to prove all of it." When you tell the truth there really is no need to "prepare" an answer or be ready for tricks. The truth is the truth and can be explained plainly. I did find out where his is living -- he has a beautiful apartment in the city, close to his job, with tons of windows and two balconies. But when I got home last night I looked around my small but cozy home, with my sister living next door and my cat snoozing on the couch, and know that I am so much happier and at peace than he is. He just reminds me of the term "failure to thrive". He looks gray and pinched and very, very angry. So now we wait for her ruling. It could be a week, it could be six weeks. But she did admonish us for this case taking so long. She made a point of saying it has dragged on for too long. Perhaps, maybe, just possibly this will have an effect and we could wrap things up? I don't know...... narcissists do not give up until everything is ruined. I heard a beautiful quote over the weekend that I kept repeating while I was sitting in court. I am not doing the quote justice because I don't remember it verbatim, but I went something like "God knows you are out of strength, He knows you are weary and cannot continue the fight. He is not asking you to be strong. He is asking you to be still. To be still and know that He is God." Update: The interim judge denied everything (the increased alimony and garnishing his wages so I can get a weekly alimony check.) I think she just rubber-stamped it through because it is such a balled-up mess. I am not so concerned about the increase in alimony because this is still just temporary order stuff, but I was really hoping she would request that the alimony be taken directly out of his paycheck. Now I don't know when I will get a check. I guess now I have to take him back to court AGAIN and ask for contempt charges. The interim judge did order us to participate in mediation with a retired judge, but I don't know if that is a "have to". I worry that a new judge will make a stupid decision. I just can't believe he has gotten away with not personally paying alimony for so long. Update #2: just received notice that his 3rd lawyer has now dumped him. I don't know if it is because he owes the lawyer $40,000 or because he refuses to listen to and follow the lawyer's professional advice. I don't know how this will affect everything except for just causing more delays. ?
  43. 46 points
    funny story. DS17 took the ACT and got a great score. You can tell he is different from me because 17 yo me would have said 'woo-hoo I'm done w/ standardized testing for college entrance forever'. DS though ''s good, but what if some college likes the SAT better so I should ALSO take the SAT.' Wishing to avoid hearing him be all stressed out for the next month while he preps for this exam I don't think he needs, I suggested he call the admissions board of a few colleges he's interested in and just ask them. So he did. Discission w/ CMU's admission person went something like: DS17: Hello. I'm very interested in attending CMU. I'll be applying this fall. I just took the ACT and got a 35, but I was wondering if you have a preference for SAT over ACT so maybe I should take that too. CMU Admissions: that's a very good score. congratulations. No, then don't care. Wait....what department are you interested in? DS17: Econ CMU Admissions: nope, they don't care. DS17: and Musical Theater. CMU Admissions: <pause> oh honey. They SO DON'T care. <snicker> He was honestly pretty insulted. 😛
  44. 46 points
    Potentially, ya'all will think I'm crazy. However, I loved this. 😉 So, DH is taking this class. And it's often faster if, while he works, I read the text aloud. So, yesterday we're working through this grad course on logistics, quality, and capacity. The question is that if this line is supposed to produce only 1,000 widgets, but it's continuously maxing out at 700 widgets, what's wrong? Well, obviously there are ways to seek improvement. However, it is not realistic that the machines will ever consistently produce at maximum capacity. "The term capacity implies an attainable rate of output, for example, 480 cars per day, but says nothing about how long that rate can be sustained" (Jacobs, p.112). Further, "To avoid this problem, the concept of best operating level is used" (Jacobs, p.112). Definition of best operating level: The level of capacity for which the process was designed and the volume of output at which average cost is minimized. At which point I shouted, "Oh my gosh! This is motherhood in a nutshell!" We get so irritated with ourselves because we don't perform at maximum capacity. So, while on our best days, our output might be incredible, the fact is that it simply isn't sustainable in the long term. We need to learn to congratulate ourselves on a stellar day, but not raise our expectations that tomorrow will be a duplicate. Just simply revel in the day, then move on to accept the next day's mediocrity. Motherhood is not lean. Moreover, the capacity for which we are designed is not at maximum capacity. It's at best operating level - and the amount of output we produce has cost and while it would be lovely to minimize the costs (to ourselves and our families) while producing maximum output, it doesn't work like that and we aren't machines. Geek time over. But you get a pass at taking a day off and having mediocre days!
  45. 46 points
    No. In fact, I find it abnormal and selfish for a married man to insist that he must be in the bathroom while his wife is using the potty.
  46. 45 points
    The wedding went very well. Since they hadn't thought about ushers or seating parents, dh and I started out the wedding procession by walking down the aisle and seating ourselves in the front and the oldest brother was grabbed to escort the bride's mother to her seat. My son asked the photographer to get a photo with all of our family including dh and I, grandparents, and all the siblings and their SO. It was interesting because my son and his new wife spent much of the evening having a good time hanging out with his brothers (instead of his groomsmen) and he even danced with his little sister. Overall, it was a very nice evening.
  47. 45 points
    Back in 2017, I asked for help naming our boy Max. Unfortunately, we lost him suddenly this February to acute hemolytic anemia. I was devastated...he was my shadow. A couple weeks ago, I mentioned to dh that I was finally to a point where it didn’t hurt to think of losing Max, and occasionally I would glance at the shelter sites. Wednesday I saw this guy, and I fell in love. I showed dh, and it was the same. We brought him home Wednesday evening, and he’s made things interesting since. 😆 Meet Jukka...pronounced “you kuh”. Dh wanted a name that meant gift from God, and something about that name stood out. He’s a 9 week old Australian Shepherd.
  48. 45 points
    We're back. Dh ended up seeing my GP, who is very good. He did a thorough check. Blood pressure was high, but on the low side of dh's high. Pulse and blood sugars OK. Lungs sounded clear, and the GP wasn't worried about heart either. He was concerned about general debility, which he explained was partly due to symptoms of long term high dose prednisone, some of which I didn't know about before, and also the not eating due to the ulcers, also due to steroids. He was able to prescribe various things for troublesome symptoms, and tweak some meds which will let dh eat (hopefully) and be generally more comfortable as he waits for his specialist appt. He also probed into mental state, and I was able to have a frank discussion with GP about that; he said the renal nurse will be able to link dh to psychology dealing in kidney disease. I felt much better being able to share all my concerns, ask questions, and get the GP to address everything I was worried about. Dh has agreed that I will come to the appt with the renal nurse. I have an if-then list to tide me over till dh sees the specialist again. So, goodish news. I am just about to ring around pharmacies; the mouth numbing liquid isn't on the PBS, and is $100 plus! Ouch.
  49. 45 points
    Thank you all for your prayers. A couple of the kids in the group that was meeting to take pictures implored her to meet them and they would give her a ride. So, with 30 minutes before they were meeting, I finished dd's hair and she got ready to go. Here are pictures (pose inspired by SquirrellyMama's dd.) Sun's out, Guns out!
  50. 44 points
    Aurora is thirteen months old now. Holy crap. I can't believe I already have a toddler. I swear I was pregnant yesterday. ETA: This is from a couple weeks ago. Obv. Because it's like forty degrees here now. *grumble*
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