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  1. 39 points
    Thank you for prayers. So far it seems like a best case scenario. Basically an overgrown cyst. She told my husband no signs of cancer. Left an ovary. Hopefully trauma doesn’t turn it off. I’ve walked 3-4 laps of the hospital block but still feel wonky and dizzy, probably from anesthesia. Pain is under control so far but may get worse as spinal wears off. Interestingly, surgery team was all women. Have to fart and/ or poop to go home. No bowel sounds yet. Prayers and thoughts still appreciated. Still very sad about loss of uterus. I know that is silly but it is what it is.
  2. 30 points
    Unbelievable. Absolutely unbelievable. I have been learning the Wahls Protocol for the past couple months and have been working really hard to fit in 7-9 cups of vegetables. My neuro is out for June so I went to my GP. I’ve lost 19 pounds. That’s a lot for me. I’m barely in normal ranges for iron, despite taking three different high quality supplements. My MCV level is above normal range - indicating very low B12. (It was normal last fall.) He didn’t test B12, but this is more telling anyway. The labs were run on Friday. Friday AM, DH had to have an MRI, a steroid shot in his back, and DS went almost an hour away to bale hay and pick up rocks. We had a grad party in the evening, so when DH got done we were in a hurry to pick up DS so we ran through Taco Bell. Nothing was compliant and I gave in and ate an enormous thing full of protein - dairy, refined beans, black beans (all banned on Wahl Level 3) and steak. On Saturday I felt pretty decent for the first time in a few weeks. DH blamed the diet. Test results came back. He went and bought sardines, lol. (Essentially, you can have iron available and low B12 can dampen your ability to utilize it.) So - instead of just focusing on the veg., I’m tracking protein too and I’m fitting in at least one high B12 food each day. It’s only Tuesday. I feel shockingly better. I don’t know why my B12 is so readily depleted... Regardless, I thought I’d share. I really can’t believe the impact. Thank you all for the prayers. This has been one amazing week for us.
  3. 25 points
    BABY!!! I'm an auntie! Woot! (I have two nieces and a nephew on my husband's side, but this is the first child of my only sibling. I'm excited!!!)
  4. 24 points
    When I was ages 7-11, my mom used to take us kids to Friendlys for ice cream. We rarely got food, just ice cream. When I was 11 we moved to Indiana and there are no Friendlys in Indiana. And all of my siblings and I were unimpressed lol. As we all grew older and became adults and parenting our own kids, and vacationing with them......eating at a Friendlys while on vacation was a thing. When planning a vacation, or any sort of trip really, we would research if there was a Friendlys in the area. Sometimes book the hotel's that much a part of my childhood. When DH and I were preparing to move, one of my FAVORITE things I was looking forward to was being near one. AND THEY CLOSED THEM ALL. Less than 6 months before we moved. All of the Friendlys in the state of Ohio. ( They can of course still be found along the east coast.) Today is DH's birthday. We do celebrate adult birthdays in our family but especially random adult birthdays (this is his 49th) tend to be really low key. We take the kids to buy gifts, special dinner (that he usually grills per his choice) and that's about it. I asked him weeks ago what he wanted to do for dinner, he chose to grill. I asked him for a list of gift ideas, he sent me two specific things exactly to walk into Cabelas with and tell them, "I need THIS." Ok, fine. In an effort to make it special and to have the kids more involved, I decided on a whim today to get him an ice cream cake. And I got some Happy Birthday candles to go with it, and had the kids help me set it all up to sing happy birthday to him and stuff, which I knew he would enjoy. So when I went looking for the ice cream cake I found the perfect one, a Reese's Peanut Butter Cup cake...Reese's Peanut Butter Cups are his favorite candy. Excellent. I put it in the cart. That's when I realized it was Friendlys brand. OMG. I actually took pictures of it to send to my mom lol. So anyway, we eat dinner, sing happy birthday, give DH his fishing pole, he's happy as a clam, the kids are so happy they made DH happy. And then there's me. Have you seen Ratatouille and the scene where the food critic eats the Ratatouille and it flashed back to when he was a kid. That was me sitting there eating my DH's birthday cake lol. I considered sneaking off in a corner and eating the rest of it all by myself. I felt 9yrs old again. It was absolutely awesome. It tasted EXACTLY the same as the sunday did some 30+ years ago. Yeah, probably simple things for simple minds lol. But I still had to share. lol
  5. 23 points
    And you know, just because I don't have enough going on, I got a call today for a job I didn't even apply for. They found my resume in their district application system and thought they would like to interview me. They called me and said they wanted to interview me either this week or next and I explained that I am going to the West Coast from Wed-Wed. They immediately said, "Well, what about tomorrow?" 😮 I just hope this isn't a, "We know who we want but we have to fill our quota of interviewing at least 3 people first" type of thing. High School, larger district, pays better, better hours, closer to home. So, here is hoping.....
  6. 21 points
    MRI and CT scan tomorrow. Would appreciate prayers and positive thoughts. Had my 6th round of THCP chemo on Tuesday. I opt not to have a port so all 6 was through IV. Next up is MRI, CT scan, Ultrasound mammogram, pre-surgery appointment, surgery then tentatively a year of Herceptin. ETA: Both the recent echocardiogram and the first echocardiogram three months were okay. Next echocardiogram in three months time.
  7. 21 points
    We are having new flooring installed so it is a good opportunity to sort through stuff as it all has to be moved and then put back anyway. I had decided that there was no reason to hold onto all the yarn and knitting/crocheting accessories since it had been about 15 years since anyone in the household had tried this hobby. I had not yet mentioned this to the family and I had not pulled it out to discard it. A few days ago, both DDs started knitting/crocheting projects out of the blue! Argh. I'm doomed to live with clutter.
  8. 20 points
    I’d say you are absolutely depressed. Not mental illness depressed that is caused by a chemical imbalance, but sad and appropriately grieving depressed. You are still able to carry out the functions that need to be carried out, but you are also carrying a heavy load of grief as you go about your day. It hasn’t even been a year. I do think it’s normal. To call yourself lazy makes me cringe. You are not lazy. You are actively grieving and that saps a lot of energy. Please, please do not call yourself lazy. You are not lazy. I do not think that you can get motivated and “fix this”. I don’t think you’re broken and need fixing. I think you’re going through a difficult time and it will naturally pass/change as time goes on. I don’t think trying to force a motivation is necessary at this point. And I also think it’s quite a shame that your IRL people are acting like it’s taboo to talk about this. It need not be taboo. It’s actually part of the healing process for you to be able to talk about your mom and your feelings for a good two years or more after the fact without feeling like you have to keep silent due to a taboo. Is there any friend that you have that is a gentle soul who will listen to you talk without acting like it’s taboo? Are you sure it’s a taboo? Are you sure you can’t just start talking about her? People might be uncomfortable because they’ll immediately think, “Uh oh! I have to come up with something clever and comforting to say!” And they worry that they’ll fail you. But if you let them know, “You don’t have to try to comfort me. It’s a comfort simply being able to talk to you about this. Don’t worry about having to say anything back,” then they might be just fine listening to you talk. Would you like to tell us some stories about your mom? We will listen! You are normal. You are not lazy. You are not unmotivated. You are grieving. Your mama must have been a wonderful person for you to miss her so very much. She must have been very precious to you. I am so sorry that she is gone. Even though her last day was so upsetting, that’s all over now. It was one bad day in a lifetime filled with many good days. That one bad day doesn’t negate all the joy she must have felt when she was raising her little girl and when she was being cared by you during her last year here.
  9. 19 points
  10. 19 points
    I'm . . . still not sure. What part of this was an accident, just the bit where she didn't put the firearm away before she left for school this morning? Because if a 7th-grader was directed to protect the family by sleeping with a loaded gun on their nightstand, I'm sticking with 😱
  11. 19 points
    This morning, I requested and got permission for my daughter to participate in the public school's cross country conditioning. In fact, the coach added that she can also participate in the season if she wants to! Really? I am excited for her and for me! Her other option was a very inconvenient schedule at the Lutheran high school. I'm liking this public stuff already ....
  12. 19 points
    Or there is a higher moral issue at stake (like maintaining a good relationship, traditional notions of hospitality, etc). Or there are other factors involved that limit their ability to offer the most nutritious food (like there not even being a consensus on what is nutritious these days anyway). So, someone comes over to my house and I offer soup beans and corn bread (made with GMO cornmeal and white flour no less!) because that's all we can afford but it's lovingly prepared and served are they really going to assume that I'm making a decision to harm them just because they're on a low-carb diet and I'm not serving a sous vide prepared streak and cauliflower? For that matter, if I serve steak instead and the cauliflower has a buttery sauce and the guest is convinced that fat is evil I'm somehow morally at fault? And if my Aspie cousin who only eats frozen pizza comes over and that's what I serve him because I want him to feel at ease and welcome I'm just rationalizing? Or for that matter, when I have my baby I know there are certain people who will send me a casserole made with canned cream of whatever soups. I can't imagine being anything but grateful and think well of the thoughtful hands that prepared it and I will definitely serve it to my family! Come on, seriously? Excuses?
  13. 19 points
    I think our culture is unnecessarily obsessed with food, diet and with trying to control other people. Additionally, food choices are seen as moral choices, when much of the time they are personal preference or financial choices. I'm sad we mock people about food and weight, no matter where they fall on the weight spectrum. I'm so tired of having this conversation, it comes up over and over and over. People need to get over food, period. Food is fuel. Figure out how to fuel your body as best you can, leave everyone else alone, unless they don't have any food to eat, then give them some of yours instead of just talking about how someone else needs to help them. Yes, I practice what I preach.
  14. 18 points
    Ok, they are floored. They have no idea what happened. There is plenty of money in that account. They will get it taken care of Mon. It must have been a bank error.
  15. 17 points
    Since you both have similar views on things, I'd be frank: "Hey, did you know that Bob has a loaded handgun on his nightstand?" And if she says yes, then go from there.
  16. 17 points
    I hear you. Loud and clear. But I don't have any answers other than I think we all need to get over ourselves. Everyone thinks "their" way of eating is the right way, and anyone who doesn't do it their way is wrong. If you (generic) aren't avoiding or downright villifying some food group then you're not trendy. Get over it. It's truly not hard to say "this is what has worked for me" and then let it go. Be encouraging rather than beating people over the head to do it your (unproven) way. As far as I can tell about the only two things that are widely agreed upon are that (1) eating lots of veggies is good and (2) limiting/eliminating ultra processed food is good. Beyond that -- one can cite a study or guru of the month to support any way of eating. That doesn't mean it's right, and I really don't think lauding your WOE or guru of the month as "the" one to follow is impressing anyone or affecting their choices. For most people it's just making things more frustrating and complicated. We need to get back some common sense and sense of moderation. But I fear those things are as gone as the dinosaurs. Here's a related opinion piece from the NYT titled "Smash the Wellness Industry." One of my favorite paragraphs highlights the fact that the diet/wellness industry certainly has its own agenda, and is perhaps as damaging and dangerous as big corporations pushing their unhealthy processed foods:
  17. 17 points
    There's a lot of freedom in being uncivil. 😛
  18. 16 points
    It's hard to read intent online, but it feels to me like you are interpreting Lanny to be saying, "What were they thinking, disabled boys can't do scouts!" and I really don't think that's what he meant, based on many comments I've read by Lanny these last couple years. I think he meant, "What were they thinking? Was observation-as-participation the best/only option for the boy, were there arrangements that could have been made ahead of time to facilitate inclusion, could one of the parents have served as aide/facilitator or helped give ideas to the leaders? Were the parents there to observe a meeting or two, and then be able to make a plan for inclusion?" That is, he was asking an honest question, not a rhetorical one. I hope I have simply misinterpreted your intent, but Lanny is such a seemingly nice guy, I wanted to speak up.
  19. 16 points
    Personally, I'm skeptical of the push to follow the latest craze in eating. It's mind-numbing, and these things tend to boomerang. If people want to judge my food choices as moral or immoral, they can keep their opinions to themselves. I do my best to best to provide a variety of fruits and veggies, whole grains, good protein, meals from scratch, etc., so it's quite irritating to have someone pronounce my decision to serve a homemade pie some kind of immoral act. Obviously a junk food diet is not going to be good for anyone. But the idea that most people (absent a food-related health condition) have to agonize over every.single.mouthful. is absurd. If you're going to do that (general you), please don't come to my house.
  20. 16 points
    When your dd gets married in a few years, send the paper invitation to the old address. They’ll never get the invite but you can honestly say you sent it. “What? You mean they don’t do address forwarding after 4 years? My sorry you missed the wedding...” 😄
  21. 16 points I think it is depression. It is situational depression. It is the 4th stage of grief. I don't think everyone goes through each and every stage and we all go through the process differently, but what you are describing fits. It might be helpful to meet with a counselor who deals specifically with grief and the grieving process.
  22. 15 points
    I have a big chicken coop, a small one and one that I refer to as the Duplex. Tonight while trying to round up some chicks I inserted myself into a doorway that no sane person would ever even think about entering. No one was home, I didn't have my phone (wouldn't have been able to reach my pocket anyway) and I did not react calmly. Finally I realized that if I got in I should be able to get out. Tomorrow the chicks move to a coop with a bigger door. Door on the right.
  23. 15 points
    I find myself really, really disturbed for this young girl and the responsibility being placed on her shoulders to potentially determine the need to use deadly force. I've lived in really and truly dangerous circumstances, in a situation where we had an armed guard with a semi-automatic rifle riding our school bus with us every day, and for a few weeks under direct threat to my own family that necessitated a 24 hour armed guard on our home. That's the only period in his life when my dad--who grew up in hunting culture and was trained in firearms as well for his job--carried. No one ever put the weight of regularly carrying and potentially using a deadly weapon on one of us kids. That psychological burden alone, even aside from the issues of potential accident or suicide, feels profoundly wrong to hand to a child. A 7th grader may be adult size, may feel grown up and be flattered by the responsibility. She is still very much a child. Even soldiers deployed in combat zones do not sleep with a loaded gun beside their bed.
  24. 15 points
    This. I think this another iteration of one of the same core problems of your relationship with your dh. You could change the facts to be a different scenario, but you've posted several versions of I want to do x for our child. Here's how much it costs, and where x is located, and how we could make x work. Child does not need x. We can't afford x. We can afford x. If you didn't spend money on y, we would have money for x. I don't think you should do x. And, I'm going to prevent your ability (either spoken or unspoken through his actions) to do x by withholding transportation or by withholding supportive childcare. Swimming lessons should happen for both or for neither. Promising them to a 4 yo last summer out of guilt was probably not the best parenting move. There's also no reason an 11 yo, NT or no, can't sit poolside in a chair while you work with your 4 yo. Your 4 yo could hang out in a life jacket while you work with your 11 yo. (Like, literally I floated my 4 yo in the pool beside me while I worked with my older (not-NT) child who needed some additional support in learning how to swim.) In your shoes, I would probably drive weekly to a real pool with the kids and just work with them one on one. I'd bundle my weekly big shopping trip into that and odds are that the cheaper groceries from being in a real town would offset that 4 gallons of gas that you used. I cannot imagine my husband telling me I couldn't do a thing. I trust him when we counsel together and I think one of your core relationship issues is that you can't trust each other in making decisions together. I think that's driven by a number of factors (anxiety, executive functioning, rigidity in thinking)---but ultimately, Heart, I think you need to start finding a way to do what you want and need to do and to be thinking about long-term plans.....keeping your own car working, getting your own bank account, providing your own income, and finding a happier/healthier/more functional way to live. Maybe that's with him, maybe that's not, but this isn't working and likely the only thing you can change is you.
  25. 14 points
    It would have been great if they would have prepped your son ahead of time and said that " so and so can do .........but needs .........". Letting your son know if he understands everything but can't talk, uses a communication device, can speak normally, etc and we f he has ant cognitive impairment. Is it possible for your son to ask his supervisors before his sessions tomorrow morning? Or ask the parents? Inclusion is great, but really works best with proper preparation.
  26. 14 points
    Do they live in a particularly dangerous area or something? This kind of “training” seems bizarre if they live in an average neighborhood. Sorry to seem so shocked, but do people really do “drills” like that with children and guns? I can’t even imagine expecting a child to be at all responsible for protecting the household from an intruder. And a gun in a kid’s bedroom? No. Just NO.
  27. 14 points
    I'm glad you brought up the issue and mentioned the bio trigger lock. But, wow, I would so not be ok with that. That's not a responsibility that you give to a 7th grader, no matter how good of a shot they are. You don't keep a handgun at home unless you are willing to take a life to save yours or a loved one's, and that's not an emotional burden you place on a 12 year old.
  28. 14 points
    One more thing - if you can't gently tell your friend "I'm not comfortable with this" and expect her to have concern and respect your boundaries, she is not your friend. Friends can have hard conversations.
  29. 13 points
    My comment should have been that I believe the parents of the boy in the wheelchair should have discussed his issues with the people running the camp and what he could or could not do, etc., and that the people running the camp should have communicated that to the DS of the OP who was caught by surprise and had no clue. Lack of preparation. Lack of communication. Sad for the boy in the wheelchair. Kudos for the DS of the OP.
  30. 13 points
    There are SO many things I could list. I feel baffled by others a lot of the time. One... why do some guys spit so much? Not tobacco. Just spit. Open the car door & spit while in traffic. While standing on the sidewalk. Walking down the street. Before walking into a building. Just everywhere (hopefully outside). Is it excess saliva production? Or something? 🤔
  31. 13 points
    The two articles are pretty good, thanks for sharing them @Pawz4me & @PrincessMommy Especially the one on individualized eating plans is important because it really highlights the fact that food is very personal. I used to think that vegan diets were always bad (WAPF propaganda) but recently I've been coming across quite a bit of research that shows that there are some people who really cannot digest meat very well in the same way that some have problems digesting grain. There's also a lot of research, and both articles touch on this somewhat, about how gut flora is as important as the actual food we consume as far as health issues go. This topic is on my mind a lot because of elder care and because I have my own health concerns that I've struggled with over the years (not to mention baby fat!). I think one of the things that really bothers me about the health and food industry and all the laymen who become evangelizers for this or that diet or anti-diet is the fact that things are presented so dogmatically and rigidly: as if health and food is the purpose of man's existence or as if it really doesn't matter at all and we have no control whatsoever. Please don't misunderstand: I'm not belittling health and trying to get healthy, I'm not in anyway downplaying the role food plays in our health/quality of life: I just think that we live in a fallen world and people will have health issues. And sometimes other human goods trump even health concerns. One of the things that have been brought up on this thread - and it is a big concern - is people belittling/mocking each other's food choices. When I think about this I think the issue actually goes beyond food and really highlights how broken relationships are. I mean, I'm sorry, but rudeness is always rudeness and crossing boundaries is always crossing boundaries no matter if it's about food or parenting choices or whatever. Now that I'm a little older (and have more children), I cringe at times in the past when I thought it was perfectly acceptable to comment on x, y or z in a friend's or relative's life. I still struggle with tact, but I'm hoping that at least being aware of it now will help me progress in the right direction. To address your original concerns, @soror, about the health epidemic in America: as in the case of people making inappropriate comments, I think it actually goes beyond food. For whatever reasons, American culture oscillates between extremes: villanizes tobacco, but legalizes marijuana; crusades for environmental causes while promoting a hedonistic lifestyle; works to downplay traditional religions while creating new ones to fill the void that is left. The list goes on and on. We live in a culture that values pleasure, convenience and ease (sometimes to the point of over anything else). This can be seen across the entire population and spectrum of religion/politics from the holdover from the 50s housewife who won't let go of her boxed cake mix to the yuppie who goes on about environmental decay but wants Alexa to deliver his exotic ingredient and newest kitchen gadget next day (definitely guilty of this and I'm not young nor urban nor professional). And changing these things takes time and generations and a multi-generational outlook, which this country also seems to lack. It requires teaching patience, moderation, mindfulness, common sense and tact. That sort of change is a lot harder than slapping an organic label on something that is essentially the same unhealthy product and carrying on with business as usual or declaring food a, b, or c evil and untouchable. Just my rambling thoughts as I avoid folding the laundry and getting started on those freezer meals I meant to prepare today... Sorry for the dissertation.
  32. 13 points
    I will just validate that yes, your dh's habit of always questioning and criticizing your judgment is not a healthy relationship habit. You take care of the children on a regular basis, he shouldn't be questioning whether you can adequately supervise them at the VBS venue. As for the flat tire--it may or may not have been an error in judgment to drive on it, but if it was that's OK--we all make imperfect decisions sometimes and spouses should not be criticizing each other for imperfect decisions, especially ones made under stress. Both dh and I have done dumb stuff at times that has cost the family $$ or time or caused other problems; no one gains anything if we criticize and nitpick over that stuff. Learning to let people be wrong on most stuff is a great relationship skill.
  33. 13 points
    Funny ‘difficult wedding guests’ story—a friend of mine in college had a lot of relatives who would get very obnoxiously drunk if they had the chance. So at their wedding reception there were two bowls of punch, implying one was spiked and one was not. I tasted them both on behalf of my date, who was Filipino and couldn’t tolerate any alcohol at all. I drew what I thought was a reasonable conclusion, and we both drank the non-alcoholic one. About half an hour later my date told me he thought that I picked the wrong one because he wasn’t feeling well. So I took the groom aside and asked him straight up which was which—and neither had booze. He had adjusted the proportions to make one taste more sour than the other, but it didn’t actually have an alcohol in it. My date had psyched himself into thinking he was drinking, and actually nobody was. It was pretty funny.
  34. 13 points
    If there is literally no where to swim where you live then I would not bother with swimming lessons since it’s a financial burden. (Personally I think learning to swim is a life skill, however if you can afford lessons and there are no low cost lessons in your town there’s nothing to be done. ) Maybe your finances will improve in the future and the swim lessons will be feasible. In my experience swim lessons without extra time spent swimming in the pool are a waste of time. The kids need to practice to be any good. If there’s no public pool, ymca, a friend with a pool, beach, river, or pond to swim in there’s no point. It sounds as if your children will never be exposed to a swimming opportunity at this point anyway. I’d also would have my son turn down any invitations to pool parties etc if he was not a solid swimmer.
  35. 13 points
    So, we almost went with Sunny, but my oldest pointed out that people might think it was Sonny, a boy name. So we went with "Sandy Streudel the Goldendoodle" as her official name - Sandy for short 🙂 She's here, and a bit confused but SO good and sweet. And she and my Tracker, the hound, are in love. He is SO happy, and I'm happy seeing him happy after being in such a funk after our first foster weim left. And also, I hate to admit it, but man I'm glad the 2nd foster weimaraner is gone, bless her heart. Sandy hasn't knocked over a single child, stolen any food, growled at any of my dogs, jumped on my counters, gotten in the letterbox, or pooped or peed on my concrete patio - all things Stella the weim did in the first hour here (and continued to do until she left). Totally worth the high (to me) rescue fee we paid to get a dog who was a known quantity. She's just as she was described by her foster family 🙂
  36. 13 points
    True story--I had lunch last Saturday with my best friends. We've known each other for decades. One friend and I chose the salad bar (and although it's irrelevant the other two got pizza). My friend has always struggled with insecurity issues. About everything, not just about food. She's only ever been mildly overweight at most, now she's quite thin. She weighs in at WW regularly. She commented on my salad bar choices the whole time, comparing them to hers. She asked me why I chose Romaine and passed on the field greens (I don't really like them, and they tend to stick to the inside of my mouth). Then she commented on the dressing. "Oh, you got oil and vinegar. I should have." I don't know what kind of dressing she got--I wasn't paying attention to anything but myself--but I assume it was something less healthy/higher calorie. We went back for seconds and she got some banana pudding and I got a bit more pineapple and cottage cheese. I got them because they were what I wanted, not because I was avoiding the desserts. And she commented on that, bashing herself for her "bad" choices. I so wish she could have just enjoyed her own food rather than comparing. As far as affordability -- The study about an ultra processed diet versus a minimally processed one that came out a week or two ago concluded that the minimally processed diet cost forty percent more than the ultra processed one. Forty percent more. And from what I remember their minimally processed foods weren't extravagant by any stretch of the imagination. That would be a difficult to impossible stretch for many food budgets. And while I know some people claim they can whip out a super duper healthy, home cooked meal in thirty minutes w/o breaking a sweat I don't believe most people can achieve that. I know I sure can't, and I think I'm a fairly skilled cook. I think the time factor is a huge deal for many people, especially in the majority of families where both parents work. There are many sides to the problem, and the biggest obstacles probably vary from person to person/family to family.
  37. 12 points
    Most people don’t know this, but 80% of people with Cerebral Palsy (a common dx for those in wheelchairs, but definitely not the only possibility) have NO cognitive impairment. I think your son did the best he could given the circumstances but I would encourage him in the future to assume that he can speak normally to any child who appears to be severely disabled. Being physically excluded may be inevitable but we can always interact socially with disabled kids (and usually that’s the part they really crave). Kudos to him for wanting to do better next time!
  38. 12 points
    Or the child is more likely to commit suicide with the weapon than need to use it in self defense. About twice as likely, if the statistics I've read are correct. My heart breaks for children being raised in such a fear based environment.
  39. 12 points
    Why is it your responsibility to bring it up in a careful way and not your husband's responsibility to remember that your emotions aren't an attack?
  40. 12 points
    Not worth it, imo. Tons of kids have outstanding AP scores, she has plenty of other stuff and a few AP tests are not going to make a difference. Plus, the point of an AP class is to verify that a course taken in high school is equivalent to a college course. She is TAKING the college course, so . . . For a kid without other stuff going on, maybe. For a kid looking at a "we love APs!" school like UG, maybe. But I think her time is probably better spent elsewhere.
  41. 12 points
  42. 12 points
    Ohhh. Wonder if they got their cash stashed in one account and write checks out of another and forgot to transfer the amount for the check? We have this set up so if someone gets a hold of our bankcard or account number, there is a limited amount of money available to steal. If the realtor and title company have proof the cash is there, I am sure it is... somewhere. 🙂
  43. 12 points
    You are currently pregnant so that would be the first no for me. Adding in the first year if homeschooling along with a newborn, a huge no. And the places I know that do pay a stipend, it is very little. Instead, take this time to enjoy this stage. Maybe in a few years but not right now.
  44. 11 points
    I babysat for a boy with severe cerebral palsy for a year when I was in college. He was in a wheelchair with no ability to control his body, and non-verbal, but did not have any mental retardation. So how do you let a 5 year old boy (the age of the child I worked with) be 5 in that situation? Here are some things we did: - Took him out of the wheelchair as much as possible, and literally hauled him through playground equipment. It was a great workout for me. 🙂 We did slides and bridges and swings, I walked on the cement curb balance-beam style like kids do, etc. - We got down on the floor and played with toys, and I would tell silly stories like a kid might tell to accompany the actions of the figures or animals or legos or whatever it was. - We did activities in the kitchen that allowed for sensory input, things like washing and tearing salad. I had to put my hands over his and do it for him, but he was still touching and feeling the water and the salad and the tearing sensation. In your son's situation, it's almost too bad that they are rotating through stations. For that child, it would be great to have a dedicated team of leaders to work with him and find out what he can do. Some examples might be for one of the counselors to run the courses with the boy on his back or in his arms (if that's safe), carry the boy on a military stretcher and have the other cubs (under supervision) do this as well, etc. BUT... I would not have your son do any of those things without getting explicit consent from the parents that yes, this IS what they were thinking about when signing him up for cub scouts. Only they know their son, only they can decide if they are comfortable having another person physically handling their child, etc.
  45. 11 points
    Gosh, if I have to open a screen to knock, I close it and then take several steps back. I'd find it super intrusive/creepy to be *right there* when someone open the door. And I can't stand when people are in the phone in public restrooms. Makes me want to carry a whoopie cushion in my purse so I can make obnoxious and disgusting sounds.
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    Good Morning, Happy Hump Day. Woke up with a sore back again today. I almost feel like it was before we got the pad for our mattress. I wonder if it needs to be flipped around. Things are really happening at the science center. I have a signed contract for the school assemblies in January, looks like at least one week of camp will be completely full, I just got an email for a birthday party (may be too many kids for my space though, I have to consider), and registrations are already coming in for next year and once class is already almost full (and not one of the classes that usual fills). It's very exciting.
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    The bugs here have armor. In Oregon you'd tap them and they'd be mush. Here you jump off a trampoline, put your full weight into the landing on a common house fly and they fly away laughing. It's a little embarrassing.
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    Brought it up and it went well, thankfully things weren’t quite as they appeared and everyone was amenable to discussing.
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    Good morning, croaked the toad. I need to get hopping and write my wrists off. I am 5000 away from hitting 20K on two novels in a month, and I am going to get it today! I am using June as my marathon writing month to complete one series and get ready to hop back in another before I write the third book in the trilogy that is on submission right now. My agent now knows that I have another series almost complete in first draft form, and so I'm supposed to revise the first book of that in July for her to read and critique, so I can get it ready to go on submission sometime this fall if possible. And then I have a standalone book to write in November. Plus other projects to bring to a boil. The boys head out of town with grandparents, so I'm looking forward to a solid week of writing without requests to go to the lake, river, etc, although I'll probably go by myself to relax a time or two! Have a lake trip planned for this afternoon, so I need to bury myself in words and burrow until I get my 5000 on the page.
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