Jump to content

What's with the ads?


Popular Content

Showing content with the highest reputation since 10/21/2019 in all areas

  1. 54 points
    Are you homeschooling or b&m schooling? I'll tell you my story and you can take it fwiw. Honestly, the "good time to fail" around 6th grade is the exact thing the PS told all of us parents and I can tell you that they were dead wrong. 6th graders are still very much children with a ton of other brain fog going on thanks to hormones. They aren't mini adults, or mini high schoolers. They told us if we didn't let them fail that they'd never be able to handle high school, much less college. It was so ridiculous in hindsight. Had I known then what i know now I would have taken the Failure Speaker to task on the spot. But we all sat around and let our kids fail because the school told us that's what we were supposed to do as good parents. Do you know what failure tends to do to 6th graders? It tends to roll into despair and apathy. Not, "let me pull myself up by my bootstraps and show them they're wrong! I'm not a failure!"(And that's NT kids that aren't dealing with ADHD on top of it.) In my experience, if you have a 6th grader who is failing school projects it means you aren't providing enough scaffolding. I'm not saying they don't need to take responsibility for some things, but a kid who is failing despite scaffolding clearly doesn't have enough of it. Yanking more away isn't going to solve anything.
  2. 37 points
  3. 32 points
    They've jumped on the "I'm looking for something online that my kid can work on independently" bandwagon. From a business perspective, they're keeping up with what consumers want. Honestly, it kinda looks like Time 4 Learning. There is so much junky homeschooling out there now, it bothers me. My son has several friends who homeschooled up to high school and then the parents put them in public school. They were educated with the "just teach yourself online independently so your parents can do other stuff" technique and they were complaining so much to my son about it. They felt like they didn't get a very good education and they're a little resentful. And I think it's one of the reasons this forum has a fraction of the traffic it used to have. Classical education is something the parents have to put together and be interactive with. I'm not changing the way we homeschool. 😞 I have one starting college in January and one starting Kindergarten in January. So, I get to start all over. It just seems lonely, now, because no one homeschools like we do anymore.
  4. 30 points
    This is one you absolutely, 100% want to get. It's out there, extremely fatal, extremely fast.
  5. 28 points
    this Thanksgiving if my sil says she is going to bring her dressing. There is no way I'm going to serve that mushy, sluicey, gooey goop this year. Last year son in law could barely stand the smell of it on the table. It's nasty, got oysters in it. Her mother made it too. Enough years of this. It reminds me of cat hairballs. "No, thanks but someone has already asked to make the dressing this year." I guess it won't really be a lie because I'm asking to make it myself!!!
  6. 22 points
    Your DD might be able to finish last minute and get an awesome grade. Many very smart kids are able to do this. Many kids who enjoy a "rush" or who are thrill-seeking are able to do this. Now imagine a very smart, thrill-seeking kid who does this...what does he learn? It'll be OK to wait, and I'll still get a good grade and it feels GOOD to rush-rush-rush at the last minute. IMO, it is as dangerous as failing, but in different ways.
  7. 21 points
    If schools were a private company, they would refuse to serve a large chunk of their students. They'd cherry pick the ones with no learning disabilities and supportive parents. Then they'd tout their awesome test scores and brag about what a great job they're doing. Unfortunately for their statistics, public schools have to take everyone. I honestly doubt that even a third of students were "college ready" in the class of 1949 or 1979. But there were other options so no one was particularly worried about that.
  8. 20 points
    I thought my son was upset with us for saying he couldn't go over to BFF's house ever again AND the kid wouldn't be coming over for a long while, and even then, only in the open parts of our home (no closed doors). But last night he told my middle son all about it and said he thinks we are being fair. He didn't admit that to us! 😂 But it made me wonder if he was really looking for a way out of dealing with it.
  9. 19 points
    I am not a big fan of the whole 'I'm going to take some time to work on myself' spiel. How hard is it to know that you shouldn't harrass women ? Does it really take a whole lot of introspection ? I'd rather hear that people like this had decided to volunteer for organisations support domestic violence or something. Couldn't he do some shows and donate the proceeds to rape crisis centres or something ? Or could he go visit schools and talk to boys about how not to be a d*ck to girls ? Or even, ya know, just go and make amends to the women he harmed without any publicity ? Anyway, being Christian has nothing to do with it. Christians aren't hypocrites any more than people in general are hypocrites, and religious men don't behave any better/worse than secular men. It's not as if you wouldn't find areligious or atheist men doing the same type of things.
  10. 19 points
    Finished my radiation treatment yesterday. Mine was 15 treatments so time went by fast compared to the chemotherapy stage. Now all I have left is echocardiogram every 3 months, oncologist visit and herceptin (trastuzumab) IV every 3 weeks. For autoimmune blood tests, only my ESR was slightly elevated. The ANA, C3a and C4a are all in standard range while the RH factor is negative. I have joint pains that started a few weeks before lumpectomy so those blood tests were done four weeks ago but the C3a and C4a results came back after more than three weeks.
  11. 17 points
    It says it is for interns, people working at the polling station. It is not directed at voters.
  12. 17 points
    So, here's an idea to try. When he comes home for the weekend, sit him down & explain that this week, you will be available on Wednesday from 1 pm to 3 pm (for example, insert your own times) to check his work. If it is not ready for checking, you won't be doing it at the last minute like you normally do. You can add a half hour to the evening if you know he will need a second check, but the important part is to lay out what time you will give him 100% attention and STICK TO IT. (This is the most important part.) And then let him deal with getting 0% this week if it comes to that. If his procrastination & last minute work means he's not ready, don't budge from your stated schedule (but if you told him he could have 30 min Wed night, give him exactly 30 & that's it). If he works hard during the week & needs a few extra minutes, I'd give him those. I would expect that this decision will be clear to make this week. I would likely give him clear hours he should work on Saturday (and/or Sunday) and not allow gaming/friends on those days if he doesn't work on his schoolwork. I would have a morning & afternoon meeting with him each day to see where he is on all his work and help him figure out what he should be doing each school day. But otherwise, do NOT nag or mention the Wednesday time deadline outside of those meetings. Evaluate how it went once he leaves for his co-op next week & decide what you will do for the following week. One thing separate from the above, if his dad had undiagnosed LDs, it is possible he does too. What you see as laziness & bad time management might actually be something else. Now, maybe not. But he might have been able to get by in the past because he's bright and able to get around poor executive function issues. The level of these classes could be making those issues really pop to the top, and it bothers him so much that he is avoiding/putting off the work and making things even worse. Something to keep in the back of your mind.
  13. 16 points
    Wee Mousie went for a ride in a car. Wee Mousie has a tail to tell.
  14. 15 points
    NOW is the time to break out your therapy light box!!! I've been more and more exhausted, grumpy, and plain miserable lately and finally realized that although it is still super hot and humid here in florida the days have already gotten shorter. Yup, my SAD is flaring up, bigger and better than ever. So I half heartedly got out the light box but forgot it has to be within 2 feet of your eyes, and so just set it on a shelf in the kitchen and it didn't do squat. Today is day 2 of having it in the right place, and I'm hoping the end of my "must hibernate! Leave me alone so I can eat ALL the food and then hide under a blanket until spring or I will bite your head of" phase.
  15. 15 points
    It becomes normalized to the point that even middle class families with a SAHP send their preschoolers off for hours a day to a preschool. Full day kindergarten isn't just for kids who "need" additional instruction time. Last I heard, none of our regular elementary schools in our city even offered half-day because there isn't enough demand. If schools are open for additional child care hours for the at risk kids, more and more parents will choose it just because it's there and because child care (even for your own kids) is hard. As a society we need to put more value on in-home care and the benefits of a stable, loving 2-parent home where children can learn valuable life skills. When 5 year olds spending 10 hours a day in a government institution becomes "good enough" we're all screwed.
  16. 15 points
    We are in the process of tramsitionjng my son to a new piece of medical equipment that has the potential to make a significant difference in his quality of life, but has also been triggering a lot of anxiety. Last night was the first time we tried using it overnight and it was, as predicted, hard, there were lots of tears, but we made it through. We’re trying again tonight, but with the added challenge that my husband won’t be with us, as he’s working tonight. My kid consistently responds best to Dad when he’s scared, so tonight is probably going to be harder for for him. My father in law is coming which is an enormous help, but still not quite the same. So, if anyone has a moment to pray or send positive thoughts his way, please ask that he finds some peace tonight.
  17. 14 points
    I had a former principal who was a retired Marine Boot camp sergeant, and I think I learned more about structuring a classroom for success and breaking down skills into little steps and teaching and reinforcing at each step from him than any education class or workshop I'd ever done. This was in a very, very rough inner city school-the kind where drug dealers usually didn't do deals on the school grounds, but the playground at the park across the street was fair game. The first morning, he started out with the entire school in the cafeteria, and taught the kids, step by step, how to line up and walk in the halls. And he drilled it, and practiced it. The same happened when they came to the cafeteria, at dismissal. He expected papers to be headed the same way, and that we would actively teach and drill it. You were expected to teach HOW to put materials away and where they go, and practice and drill them. A lot of teachers felt it was a waste of time. But you know what? Teaching those skills, and having them be consistent through the school made a major difference. As the kids got older and added things like planners, or changing classrooms and getting materials from lockers, that was taught explicitly as well. And the expectation was that if someone in your unit was struggling, you helped them-so if you had the child with ADHD at your table who struggled to get their assignments in the planner, the other children were taught to step in and help and support and scaffold, but not do it for them-and that, in another setting, that child with ADHD would be the one helping, too. There were still kids who struggled more than others with EF skills, but overall, everyone improved because it WAS so consistent, and academics followed. He explained that in the Marines, they didn't expect anyone to come in with any specific skill "the Marine way", so they taught from scratch how to, say, make a bed, or shine your shoes, or run a mile "the Marine way". There was no censure for NOT knowing how to do it "the Marine way" before it was taught, but once it was taught, it was expected and NOT allowed to slide. He felt the same was true with kids in a school situation. They didn't know how to do it the school way, so teach them "the school way" and expect it, and reinforce it. Because not everyone will be able to do a page of multiplication correctly. But almost everyone can take out their math book and math notebook and put them on their desk along with a pencil when prompted after they've practiced it a few times. And then you practice turning to the correct page. And practice opening your notebook and copying the page number. And then practice where to place and copy each problem, and how to line up numbers within the problem. All those steps before you even START to teach the math and do the math. And when the page is organized and everything makes sense and everyone is looking at the numbers, at least you know which children truly are struggling with the math, and can work with them where they are there. And, when every teacher in the building is consistent, it is far easier for the kids when they change classes during the day, or change grade levels. Also to add-this was the same school where all teachers were trained in Slingerland, that got a lot of kids because they were struggling in reading. I have a child now a couple of days a week, and she's under a lot of stress. Her EF skills, and her academic skills, have basically flown out the window (like she would sit looking at a 2nd grade level math problem and literally be unable to begin, despite testing on grade level as a 6th grader a year and a half ago). But, if I break down and teach those specific steps for a task, and teach it "this is the way that you do it here", without any expectation that she knows how to do it "my way" or censure for not doing it "my way", and recognize that each little step IS a step in and of itself and that she needs those steps, it seems to unlock the rest of the skill that she already had, but was so emotionally stressed and shut down to be unable to initiate. So, while I can provide a lot of love and support and encouragement, in many ways I also need to provide boot camp.
  18. 14 points
    I want to address the bolded particularly. Extending the school day for this reason smacks of the school system becoming an orphanage in all but name. I'm not sure that helping kids in bad home situations by putting them in school for longer days is the way to fix that problem. I'm not saying you thought it was an okay reason either, I'm speaking to society as a whole.
  19. 14 points
    I'm not sure you understand what we do here.
  20. 13 points
    Dd16 tells me that 90% of her dreams involve karate. This is not surprising as 90% of her waking thoughts also involve karate. Speaking of dd16 we met the Arabic tutor yesterday and liked her.
  21. 13 points
    Knowing that if he doesn't finish in several weeks there will be a consequence WILL NO WORK for a kid with ADHD/Executive Function issues. It has to be daily. Seriously, i you don't have the discipline to sit with him and make him do it how do you expect him, a child, to have the discipline to do it with no one making him??? At this point, I don't care what time he wakes up. He does wake up. So after he wakes up and eats, have him do his school work, whenever that is. Also, have DH watch TV in your room at night and lock the door so DS can't wander in and watch. keep other screens off, rooms dark. You can be on your laptop or read a book or whatever. But for that hour at bedtime have it be boring as heck so he will sleep. Oh, and I'm not above giving kids a low dose of melatonin an hour before bedtime. Makes a HUGE difference for my kids. HUGE. But even if he sleeps until noon, do school work right after that. One has nothing to do with the other.
  22. 13 points
    Both Harry and Meghan are focused on mental health issues. Part of that requires honesty and transparency about their own issues, I think. It might not be the cultural norm, but that’s part of the point. Showing how the cultural norm isolates people and keeps them from getting help. I don’t get some of the animosity towards them. If their approach, personalities etc don’t speak to you then ignore them. But they do speak to some people. They do inspire some to have difficult but honest conversations. And they do a lot of work for the benefit of others.
  23. 12 points
    I've enjoyed starting a thread like this in past years. From 2018: Here we go again .... Have you encountered a unique gift? Post it here.. From 2017: Encountered a unique gift ? Post it here. From 2016: Have you spotted a unique gift? Post it here. From 2015: Have you encountered a unique gift? Post it here. You know you want these .....Shoes with rubber duck heels Please post your finds. Regards, Kareni
  24. 12 points
    These are what I’ve been working on while the kids are in rehearsals. (Flour sack dish towels)
  25. 12 points
    I want to add a more positive note (been feeling down and I know it shows)-- For several years, we collected our displayed Christmas cards after the holidays and put them in a basket on tbe table. At dinner, we pulled one and added a quick prayer for that family/person during grace.
  26. 12 points
    Thanks everyone! It’s morning and we’re still home and in one piece! He slept more than he cried last night, which was an improvement over the night before! So, he’s clearly moving in the right direction.
  27. 12 points
    I've been reading along, but haven't written yet because everyone else has been saying all the things I would say, but I wanted to tell you how happy I am that you and your DH had that conversation. I could've written a lot of your posts even as recently as tue beginning of this year. Two years ago I was writing here, and receiving a lot of the same responses you've received. I want to encourage you, in this crossroads you're in right now, that there is most definitely hope. As previous posters have said, there will be times that it feels like you're not making progress or even going backward. Keep your plans in mind, and keep working on your goals. But I think you're brave and kind to keep trying despite the hurt and the amount of work required to relearn positive behavior patterns in your relationship (for you and him). My details aren't important (though I'm happy to share if you think it would be helpful - send me a PM), but I will say that my husband had to realize I was serious before any changes happened. For us, that meant I actually left, twice, over a two year period. He did eventually realize I meant what I was saying, and he has put in a tremendous amount of effort to make our marriage and family work. He's now my best friend and a truly wonderful husband and father. We've even decided to have another child together, and our fifth baby will be born next month. There is hope. I'm praying for you and your family.
  28. 12 points
    So, did I mention my husband is out of town? Last time he went out of town I cut down a tree. This time I bleached my hair. Poor man is going to be afraid to leave town!
  29. 12 points
    Minors. This case is about denying nutrition to minors, terminal or otherwise. I am strongly of the opinion that you keep going with palliative care and hospice (so food and pain meds) until a child’s body passes on it’s own. This is something we had to think through and talk with the hospital about, and even with a child in a vegetative state nutrition won’t sustain them forever if the brain isn’t functioning, organs do deteriorate and autonomic function gets progressively worse. Our brains aren’t all we are. And NG/G/JG tubes just aren’t particularly bad. Even parenteral is hardly the end of all good things. Like, at all. As a tube feeding parent I hate when they’re cast as some horrible affliction that makes life not worth living just because you have a condition and are NPO. Even with multiple other things going on, starving/dehydration is a horrible way to go. And I’m absolutely not in favor of child euthanasia. Withdrawing life support in a situation with brain death is one thing, but otherwise it’s worth it to keep trying. I cannot tell you how many children I have seen in the past few years regain some good quality function after the machines are turned off. Enough that I’ve entirely changed my perspective on how much you try with a child, anyway. Adults have more perspective and autonomy on this, and generally less fight in them when it comes to organ recovery and neuroplasticity, so that’s a separate discussion. But nutrition should have NEVER been stopped on a grade schooler who was still responsive prior to the feeds being discontinued, and showed A responsive EEG. I can’t even.
  30. 12 points
    Oh dear! Unless the 20yr old is going to rave over supper, I might give that a minute. Poor thing won’t know what hit him, lol!
  31. 11 points
    Ds9 wrote an essay about snakes:
  32. 11 points
    I've been contemplating the original statement about sixth grade being a good (or maybe better than other options) time to fail. In the sense that grades at that time won't affect high school transcripts, that part is true. I suppose in theory that lessons learned at that time could be applied to positive effect in high school classes. That said, sixth grade is also a time when adolescence is going into full swing. I say proceed with great caution as to the nature of the failure being allowed. ADD in girls seems to often go along with anxiety and depression, and I can't say I've seen too many, if any, that really thrived from these tough love lessons, including one of my own former sixth grade daughters. A lot of ADD kids have the experience of being called lazy/disorganized/difficult, and it is easy to internalize that message. I think the outcome can be better if the child has solid professional guidance as far as coping mechanisms. That sort of excellent guidance is tough to come by though. In hindsight, I wish I had provided a lot more structure and guidance, not less, for my ADD kid. I also realize now, having raised three daughters into and past the teen years, that sometimes you have to provide help even when they protest. It IS a fine line though between providing appropriate help and being an overbearing parent. I'm not sure we figure out which side of that line we are on until we are looking back on the parenting years 🙂 I'm laughing about Fuzzy's comment about the parents on university-specific boards. I do feel pretty laid back in the face of what appears to be some serious helicoptering there. One woman upset when a spider showed up in her daughter's room, someone else wanting to get laundry service for the kids. Then there are people who call me controlling. All a matter of perspective, I guess. 🙂
  33. 11 points
    Y’all have convinced me. I’m sending them out. I am going to cut down on some of them who never send or who never give feedback indicating it matters to them. But probably still around 50. Part of it is that I know if I give up, I am essentially agreeing to never have Christmas cards anymore, even if it would take a couple of years for it to come to that. I simply do not wish to hasten the coming of Christmas card extinction.
  34. 11 points
    Good morning! I'm in bed pretending to be sleeping until the kids race in at 7:00 for the traditional Birthday Morning Tackle. Today I am 50 years old! Coffee!
  35. 11 points
    PonyGirl -- Virginia Wesleyan (Swimming, Honors College, Academic Scholarship); Liberty University (Honors College, Academic Scholarship -- Swimming TBD) Two down, 5 more to complete (we should hear from VMI and have an idea about the two Service Academies next... and Ivies are all RD, so awhile to wait there).
  36. 11 points
    I AM ALL DONE WITH THE DOGS!!!! (Neighbor/ dog boarding business owner gets in tonight from her trip.)
  37. 11 points
    Hello there! I visited here a long while ago before life took a series of crazy turns. I’ve been catching up a bit and was pleased to see so many familiar faces. This still seems like the happiest place on the internet. I hope to be checking in more frequently. It’s nice to know there is a friendly place to go when I need a quick break from the crazy.
  38. 11 points
    I’ll start! My ds went to a new church this week without a worker and did ok!!! I had scoped it out several weeks and lined things up but still it was amazing. And he made a little friend and wants to try Awana! We’ll see how that goes. That’s a harder stretch with his language disability. He now has a friend for play dates and is beginning to ask for breaks really well. Good stuff! Dd is taking 5 classes, 14 credits, so that’s going well too. It’s better living through chemistry, haha, but she’s doing it! Checking out a new BCBA today, so we’ll see how that goes.
  39. 11 points
    Oh I think something small would be a nice gesture and I would send just a little something like a hostess gift. A plate of cookies, a bottle of wine, something consumable or handmade with a card. Here's hoping Christmas 7 is a winner! LOL.
  40. 11 points
    I would personally struggle with this so hard if it were my child getting judged and shunned. I will always pick my kids over over other relatives including my parents. Assuming no one is breaking any laws or anything like that. So I can understand the sister's point of view too. It's hard to know without knowing how sound of mind they are. If they wouldn't tolerate a wedding over this, will they tolerate the holidays? I wouldn't necessarily want to bank my holidays with my own kids hoping that it works out either. I think it's more hurtful they just didn't show than had reached out prior and talked to your sister about it. I would not want to do holidays with them without a pretty deep conversation prior. I was raised in a family where the elephant in the room was just ignored and the most meek in the group were taught to stuff their feelings. That is so emotionally unhealthy. Anyway Quill, so sorry you're in the middle! I would definitely not be volunteering to host both sides at the same time! I think choosing not to attend a wedding you really could easily attend sends a loud message. Be sure you're ready to live with life long ramifications before you chose to do it. 😥
  41. 11 points
    it's like, the end of an era. I had it for nearly 20 years and there are a lot of memories of long car trips (stopping at the rogue river on our first trip to yosemite - and getting back to the car to find the only open seats were the 3rd row bench. 2dd had parked herself in the driver's seat and she wasn't budging. stopping at Costco and getting tapes of the HP book, to listen to while we drove, that came out the day after we left home.), the boys repeatedly reclining/sitting up the rear bench when I'd pick them up from school . . . all the things I hauled in it. trees . . . . . 4x8 sheets of plywood/drywall laying flat. lots of furniture. I bought furniture off craigslist for my mom's condo. the guy had two suvs, including a larger one (smaller than a suburban). he was very skeptical I'd fit it all in, since he couldn't have put it in either of his suvs. "just watch". I need to replace my sofa - 2ds suggested I take a picture with the sofa in the van as a demonstration of capacity (and have them take the sofa with the van.)
  42. 11 points
    Matt (husband) does the leg work and I do the clerical work. We inspect office buildings, apartment complexes and occasional oddities such as department stores or parking garages on behalf of banks, verifying the location's claims. Is it up to code? Did they do the repairs? Is it green (you can get lower rates for low flow plumbing, proper electrical work, etc.)? It was supposed to be his full time job but a few days before our arrival in Texas the company that he worked for decided they no longer needed him so he drives for Uber and Lyft while trying to build this up. Since getting here he's gotten Freddie Mac and Fannie Mae certified and is now getting HUD (housing and urban development) certified. Each certification means that every inspection is at a higher rate and that he's eligible for more inspections.
  43. 11 points
    We get this plastic-ey, shrink wrap kind of stuff from the big home improvement stores to put over the windows. It comes with double stick tape for the edges. Then you heat it with a blow dryer to shrink it. It really helps with the drafty windows.
  44. 11 points
    I discovered I do have a hobby: being on here!! Yea me!
  45. 11 points
    Some of the earliest paintings of Mary with the infant Jesus depict her breastfeeding or with her breast bared for feeding. That is the best direct data we have with regards to how early Christians viewed breastfeeding. More generally, prior to the modern marketing of commercial infant formula it was simply not practical to view breastfeeding as anything other than normal and natural. I am aware of no evidence at all suggesting that any culture prior to the past century considered a woman breastfeeding a child to be something obscene or unfit for ordinary company or public situations. I've seen a contemporary drawing depicting a large conference of my own denomination in the 19th century with multiple women clearly breastfeeding infants in the middle of the congregation.
  46. 11 points
    But, this makes banishing the nursing mother and her baby OK because someone else is uncomfortable? If it makes someone uncomfortable, then HE can leave, he can avert his eyes, or he can just deal. We need to stop putting up obstacles to breastfeeding. If people can't deal then that is THEIR problem, not the nursing mother's problem. I haven't nursed a child in 16 years and I am terribly sad that this is still a conversation. I long for the day when nursing in public is so commonplace that nobody notices.
  47. 10 points
    Day 12 logged and executed.
  48. 10 points
    I hope you get all those things!
  49. 10 points
    So sad. 😞 I appreciate what his TobyMac wrote about his son's faith: "Truett always had a soft spot for God. The Bible moved him. His heart was warm to the things of his King. He was by no means a cookie cutter Christian but give me a believer who fights to keep believing. Give me a broken man who recognizes his need for a Savior every time. That's who Truett was and how he should be remembered."
  50. 10 points
    I think this is a gross generalisation. A good friend of mine is a professional actor of great skill. He seeks no more publicity than is required for finding work. He is one of the kindest, most sincere people I know. His livelihood depends on his portrayal of other people, not himself.
  • Create New...