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  1. 15 points
    Are you homeschooling or b&m schooling? I'll tell you my story and you can take it fwiw. Honestly, the "good time to fail" around 6th grade is the exact thing the PS told all of us parents and I can tell you that they were dead wrong. 6th graders are still very much children with a ton of other brain fog going on thanks to hormones. They aren't mini adults, or mini high schoolers. They told us if we didn't let them fail that they'd never be able to handle high school, much less college. It was so ridiculous in hindsight. Had I known then what i know now I would have taken the Failure Speaker to task on the spot. But we all sat around and let our kids fail because the school told us that's what we were supposed to do as good parents. Do you know what failure tends to do to 6th graders? It tends to roll into despair and apathy. Not, "let me pull myself up by my bootstraps and show them they're wrong! I'm not a failure!"(And that's NT kids that aren't dealing with ADHD on top of it.) In my experience, if you have a 6th grader who is failing school projects it means you aren't providing enough scaffolding. I'm not saying they don't need to take responsibility for some things, but a kid who is failing despite scaffolding clearly doesn't have enough of it. Yanking more away isn't going to solve anything.
  2. 12 points
    I've enjoyed starting a thread like this in past years. From 2018: Here we go again .... Have you encountered a unique gift? Post it here.. From 2017: Encountered a unique gift ? Post it here. From 2016: Have you spotted a unique gift? Post it here. From 2015: Have you encountered a unique gift? Post it here. You know you want these .....Shoes with rubber duck heels Please post your finds. Regards, Kareni
  3. 12 points
    These are what I’ve been working on while the kids are in rehearsals. (Flour sack dish towels)
  4. 11 points
    Ds9 wrote an essay about snakes:
  5. 11 points
    I've been contemplating the original statement about sixth grade being a good (or maybe better than other options) time to fail. In the sense that grades at that time won't affect high school transcripts, that part is true. I suppose in theory that lessons learned at that time could be applied to positive effect in high school classes. That said, sixth grade is also a time when adolescence is going into full swing. I say proceed with great caution as to the nature of the failure being allowed. ADD in girls seems to often go along with anxiety and depression, and I can't say I've seen too many, if any, that really thrived from these tough love lessons, including one of my own former sixth grade daughters. A lot of ADD kids have the experience of being called lazy/disorganized/difficult, and it is easy to internalize that message. I think the outcome can be better if the child has solid professional guidance as far as coping mechanisms. That sort of excellent guidance is tough to come by though. In hindsight, I wish I had provided a lot more structure and guidance, not less, for my ADD kid. I also realize now, having raised three daughters into and past the teen years, that sometimes you have to provide help even when they protest. It IS a fine line though between providing appropriate help and being an overbearing parent. I'm not sure we figure out which side of that line we are on until we are looking back on the parenting years 🙂 I'm laughing about Fuzzy's comment about the parents on university-specific boards. I do feel pretty laid back in the face of what appears to be some serious helicoptering there. One woman upset when a spider showed up in her daughter's room, someone else wanting to get laundry service for the kids. Then there are people who call me controlling. All a matter of perspective, I guess. 🙂
  6. 11 points
    Y’all have convinced me. I’m sending them out. I am going to cut down on some of them who never send or who never give feedback indicating it matters to them. But probably still around 50. Part of it is that I know if I give up, I am essentially agreeing to never have Christmas cards anymore, even if it would take a couple of years for it to come to that. I simply do not wish to hasten the coming of Christmas card extinction.
  7. 11 points
    Good morning! I'm in bed pretending to be sleeping until the kids race in at 7:00 for the traditional Birthday Morning Tackle. Today I am 50 years old! Coffee!
  8. 10 points
    Good morning! It's a Very Special Day today!!
  9. 10 points
    Day 12 logged and executed.
  10. 10 points
    I hope you get all those things!
  11. 9 points
    You don’t drink it straight. You put one teaspoon into a whole glass of water. Apple cider vinegar is the best kind.
  12. 9 points
    My bathrooms are still dirty. I took some baby wipes to the worst things. I kinda don't care anymore. Dave did all the laundry and cooked all the meals today so I could lay around on the couch and watch movies with the kids. 🥰🥰🥰 Why didn't I teach my kids to clean the bathroom when I was smaller and had more energy? Oh, right, because I was teaching them to make basic breakfasts and lunches and how to do dishes and laundry. Okay, I stand by my choices.
  13. 9 points
  14. 9 points
    Morning. I poured syrup in my tea this morning instead of honey. I hope that's not a sign of how this day is going to go. Dh was making pancakes while I was making my tea.
  15. 9 points
    So, a few follow ups. I did have the conversation about procrastination / sleep and it was so enlightening that I'm so so so so glad I kept my mouth shut for once. So, first of all, she had already prepared her entire script in PPT in Spanish before she started filming. I don't know if the teacher scaffolded this, but I was really pleased with that. I talked to her about losing sleep, and she admitted that it would have been better to finish earlier, but that the only way that would have worked was on the weekend, and she didn't remember it on the weekend. I told her that if I were in her shoes, I probably would have chosen something simpler that didn't need to "prove" for 2 hours. She had an absolutely brilliant response. First, she said that she wanted something that matched the Dia de los Muertos theme of the class. Second, she said she got more points for having more complicated ingredients to translate. And third, she said that it didn't really matter what it tasted like because she just had to do the video, not actually bring in the food. It seemed to me these were all very wise choices in retrospect. With respect to putting the videos together into iMovie, frankly, she probably could have done it on the bus ride. I don't love that because she gets motion sick, but I was floored at how quickly she was able to do that. Clearly I'm an old fart who is slow at technology. I keep checking for a grade, or trying to find the grading rubric, and I haven't been able to find it. She has had trouble turning it in because of technology, and I've been reminding her to follow up on that daily, but I usually can still find the assignment on my end. So it's weird that I can't. We usually do our planning / calendaring discussions on Sundays, but I'm realizing that with some of these more complicated projects, we need to do them on Saturday mornings so that we have a chance to work on the weekend if needed. Long story short, in this instance, I learned far more than she did, likely. I hope she gets an A (assuming what she's telling me about the grading rubric is true). I feel like my parenting wins are so few and far between, and I so often over-talk and over-lecture instead of just taking a step back and seeing where it leads me. I told her I was so proud of her. She showed me the video fully edited and it was absolutely adorable. She had some scenes of time-lapse, and she added sound over them, and was just generally brilliant. She got her middle sister to help, and even the 5 year old's hand waiving an American flag (because..why not?) appeared in the background and made us all laugh.
  16. 9 points
    Well crap, I lost a whole long rant, LOL. Short version is that the maids decided to come a day early and I am not happy about it! Our whole living room is Project Central for something we need to assemble tonight. I don't want to move it just for one day! Also the kids' rooms are trashed ... again. And I have a lot of deadline work to do today! I seriously hate that the maids come so often. If it wasn't insulting, I would just pay them to stay away half of the time! To make matters worse, they will probably come late (they usually do) and cut into the time we need to work on our AHG project, homework, etc! Grr.... Done: Kids up (early to finish homework) and off to the school bus on time (barely). Cleaned kitchen. Caught up with social media, news, emails. Texted with sister. First cup of coffee. To do: Work work work. I want to finish my 11/15 deadlines today due to being very busy tomorrow. AGH email(s). Clean for the maids, ugh!!! Kids' work - hopefully homework is at a minimum! AHG project work - planning, shopping, assembling, making signs and such. Whatever else gets done.
  17. 9 points
    This discussion reminds me of this essay on late bloomers by Malcolm Gladwell--though he was talking specifically about late-blooming genius. But I think that it has wider relevance, particularly this bit here: This is the final lesson of the late bloomer: his or her success is highly contingent on the efforts of others... We'd like to think that mundane matters like loyalty, steadfastness, and willingness to keep writing checks to support what looks like failure have nothing to do with something as rarefied as genius. But sometimes genius is anything but rarefied; sometimes it's just the thing that emerges after twenty years of working at your kitchen table.
  18. 8 points
    I am thinking that Cheeto is probably larger than a cheeto by now...
  19. 8 points
    I had a strange problem yesterday. This is what I told a friend: I'm doing a presentation for the online mom conference again (January), putting in a speaking proposal for the NMAEYC (March), and the state homeschool conference (June). I'm also writing the brand book, the family language course, and a workbook for the course. I have so many words in my head, I can barely communicate verbally anymore. This can't be normal. Is this normal?
  20. 8 points
    Good Morning! Happy Wednesday! Time to get the day started!
  21. 8 points
    I was thinking about this related to another issue, but actions mean so very much at a time like this. I've had a lot of difficulties in the last ten years, but I really remember the meals, people who helped with heavy chores, people who had me over for coffee, etc. etc. It's the actions that really stand out in my mind.
  22. 8 points
    Praying for you. Judgment is the last thing moms raising challenging kids need. I hope you find only support.
  23. 8 points
    Sorry! I had to add one more. This was taken shortly after we got Teddy. She immediately took over the house...including our much older dog’s bed! When he was lucky, Teddy would allow him to share the bed...just a little bit.
  24. 8 points
    Good Morning! Pink and Green Mom, sorry to hear how last week went for you. Taking tests with 103 fever sounds truly awful! Get better soon! Coffee done, breakfast, meds Plan Thanksgiving food Dentist appointment put in dry cleaning schedule hair appointment call supplemental insurance and argue pay allergist for missed appointment and reschedule invite my son over laundry dinner book club watch Man in the High Castle
  25. 8 points
    I feel you. For years, I struggled with Christmas - we are immigrants, and I got very homesick each Christmas and kept missing the Christmas traditions from my home country (worked so hard to recreate them without success.). At some point, I realized that there is no way to recreate the magical Christmasses of my childhood because I'm the MOM now and I'm the one who has to make the magic happen. I also realized that I was the one who had all these expectations, and the family couldn't have cared less about most of the stuff. So we pared down; I asked them what traditions were important to them, and we scaled down dramatically. Finally, I realized that I can totally do Christmas MY way and just do things I enjoy doing. That felt like a tremendous freedom. We hang out and eat well, enjoy each other's company and being together - without pressure to do Christmassy activities.
  26. 8 points
    Well sure! You've got the entire ITT along with access to the vast ITT staff, so access should be no problem at all! Bruce is usually available to deliver various DVDs by stealth 'copter.
  27. 8 points
    So hypothetically speaking, if you wanted to order a curriculum that usually comes with dvd/video access but you found reviews on WTM that said that you really don't need the DVD/video access and your kid absolutely HATES DVD/video programs (odd since he's definitely visual) and it cost twice as much to get it with the DVD/video access, would you check off the little box that says you have access to the DVD/videos so you could order just the workbook? Hypothetically speaking if I searched far and long enough, I probably could find someone with access that would show it to me.
  28. 8 points
    Maybe she is, but I've never thought to reverse image search her and find her facebook. :)
  29. 8 points
    Homeschool mum 16 yrs I actively do NOT want to be the person who my college aged kid with dyscalculia calls. I don't want her to hash out her essays with me. I don't want to have her relying on me to help her through her stats assignments. I don't want it, because I'm burned out, and because it isn't some sort of natural progression for us. Of course I provided some hand-holding in the first semester, and she knows that if she's really tight on time, I'll run an eye over an assignment, but I am happy that this is minimal. I expect it to be even more minimal in third year than it was in second year. By the time she's in honours year, I expect it to be nothing or as close to as to make no difference. My kids were intensively, seriously, and fully parented and educated by me for a huge chunk of my adult life. It's OK to reach a point of being done. *obligatory disclaimer - it's also OK to not be done, and to help in ways that benefit you and your kids for as long as that both works for you. But it's not some homeschooler vs brick and mortar schooler thing! Even dedicated and loving homeschooling parents with kids with learning challenges can reach a point of being finished.
  30. 8 points
    That was a lot of ketchup. Congratulations on birthdays and belt tests and everything else. :) I missed y'all.
  31. 8 points
    My son has had 5 consecutive nights of good sleep, something that feels like a miracle. So, my Christmas wish is many more nights that are the same.
  32. 8 points
    I think you’ll enjoy him much more after boot camp. in the meantime, I’m finding that we’ve turned a corner at 17. I’m enjoying ds more than I have in years. Hang in there!
  33. 8 points
    I've read bits and pieces of this thread. The one thing I feel I have to contribute is that none of us is going to be a perfect parent. Maybe we will assist too much at some point where a child would have been better off figuring a thing out on their own. Maybe we will fail to offer assistance someplace the child really needed it. We don't have a crystal ball to see all the future implications of every decision. Most of the time, kids are going to overcome whatever stumbles happen because of our imperfect parenting. Sometimes, maybe many times, there never was a perfect option.
  34. 8 points
    I've told my kids It's my job to make them do things they don't want to do. 😜 they came to appreciate it. I was trying to get one woman's children to help clean her apartment, and they wanted no part of it. one of them threatened to go tell everyone at church how mean and terrible a person I was. "go ahead - my kids will agree with you." took the wind out of his sails . . . . he basically sat in his room and did nothing.
  35. 8 points
    I have to admit, this thread even makes me laugh a little. I feel like most of what is being discussed here is pretty basic level supports. Mostly checking in to make sure things are ok. My kid was texting non-stop those first weeks he was at college and it's much more hit and miss and mostly bantering now. I do want him to know we're on his team, we are here to help and if he needs some tools, direction or advice, so be it. That doesn't enter anywhere on the classroom side for him. Usually more like the occasional reminder, hey, don't forget that if you don't do X, Y will happen. I don't plan on doing it forever but I have parented long enough to know that you don't always know how things will evolve over time. My parents provided some over the top supports for a sibling of mine I can't ever imagine providing. It makes me laugh because I'm also on a parent board for my kid's school. You want to see helicoptering? We have parents complaining non stop and up in arms about not fast enough snow plowing, cold weather, their child not liking the dorm food, their child having a TA/prof that <gasp> speaks with a foreign accent and is hard to understand, their kid doesn't know how to meet people, roommate conflicts etc etc etc to the point where they are problem solving on the board for their child with a bunch of other parents and moderators. I can see having a conversation with your kid and troubleshooting with them about many of these things. Going on a parent board and demanding a group of parents stand up and go to administration to complain about something like foreign accents? Umm ... hard no. Send your kid to CC if you want a less "worldly" campus. The OP can do what she wants. Some people have just explained how and why they may have made a different choice. One size does not fit all. If your child lives or visits home regularly, most of these types of supports are just built into day to day conversation. If your young adult lives with you, that's a huge level of support by default.
  36. 8 points
    cool. 1dd is getting an Australian labradoodle puppy for Christmas (13th) - the younger full-blood sibling of her 19mo (now full size at 18") puppy. (the breeder rarely breeds the same pair twice.) he's been great. she was one of the first on the list, and asks for temperament before confirmation. I will be getting them both in the morning, and dd will pick them up from my house. she's taking Christmas week off.
  37. 7 points
    Thank You, Jesus! I'm so glad it went well and validated so much of what you already knew and tried to communicate to them. Are you concerned about the ARD meeting? Did today's meeting allay your fears? I'll keep praying peace and direction over your family until after the next meeting.
  38. 7 points
    I'm not sure I'd even consider it a failure to not become a lifeguard on the first try. It's GOOD that the standards are high. If this is something he truly wants to do, he can and should try again in the future. It sounds like he learned a lot this time around but has more to learn. I absolutely wouldn't call in and try to persuade the person to pass him after he failed. That's unethical. I would try to give him space to have these feelings and try to redirect those strong emotions into his next attempt. It's a huge life lesson to keep going after you've been knocked down. There are going to be things you need to attempt more than once before you enjoy success. Yes, it hurts, but what do you do next after you feel that sting?
  39. 7 points
    Sadly, they're probably statistically more likely to have a teacher initiate an inappropriate relationship with them at the school than be kidnapped at the public library, but guessing the school board wouldn't be thrilled with that observation either...........
  40. 7 points
    you will be reporting which courses the students takes in senior year. Taking AP classes demonstrates rigor. OTOH, I would never choose a class only so it can look good on the transcript. There have to be other motivations.
  41. 7 points
    iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii There (hopefully grin) are 60 candles for you to wish on. ()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()()() And 60 hugs for the countless hours of escape, emotional release, connection, joy, learning, and community you have given us all by making a place for us to share our book lives with each other. Those sharings ripple out through the orher people in each of our lives, too. You are making a big impact in a lovely nonjudgemental way. I hope all those ripples eventually work their way around the world back to you to buoy you up when you need it. Happy Birthday, dear Robin! Nan
  42. 7 points
    When there are a lot of people in a house, and they need quite a lot of stuff, then it becomes a storage issue rather than an issue of "minimalism" in my opinion. And when these people grow and need different sizes of stuff, there is a need for more stuff. Is this mom on the youtube channel someone who leads a life-style very similar to your's? Do you have realistic goals, or are you getting tired of clutter? Reality check: there will always be clutter in a home where people actually live. They even add clutter to make museums more realistic. You can have a minimalist life-style, but maybe not right now when you still have growing children living in your home. It may be a lot easier to do this when your children and husband are away most of the time. I could be so minimalist if I lived by myself. 😂
  43. 7 points
    Hugs to you, Maize. None of mine were anxious about me leaving (at least, not in a major way) so I'm not experienced with that, but DS12 has many sensory-related quirks that really impacted us out in public when he was younger. It can be hard, especially if you are also dealing with adults who aren't understanding about it. I'm glad you can stay with little kernel. ETA: It's a Snuggle-em-while-you-still-can Booyah!
  44. 7 points
    Wood! I'd've switched her to violin. No I got a sweet deal on a pre-owned Bobelock, made in the Phillippines, much nicer than the Bam cases which are plastic for the same price new. There was a significant scratch but Wee Girl added her own promptly.
  45. 7 points
    Don't die? It seems like it should be, I say it a lot...
  46. 7 points
    And probably 80% of this thread is general comments on the topic of EF dysfunction and/or responses to people other than the OP. Threads take on a life of their own and meander far and wide. It's not like this whole thread is one long harangue at the OP.
  47. 7 points
    EdPo Announcement: QUIET BOY HAS DECIDED ON HIS PATH!!! 🎉🎊 Only took forever and way too much back and forth. He picked BJU dlo subbing Saxon Math. Can we just order and get on with it now? SHEESH! As for The Girl, she hates CLE Math. She has done several levels (more than once in the case of Math 100) and wants no part of it. She therefore has decided to SUCK IT UP and copy the Saxon for now. Science-wise, we either will just float it or do BJU dlo. I need it to get done, y'all. That's right, I'm copping out. Call the Homeschool Police. ASD Boy's meeting to go over his evaluation results (not the ARD) is next Wednesday. You know I will share/vent about it after. I think he is doing rather well school wise. Captain is on Day 3 of unders during the day. He had a few accidents yesterday because we were all distracted and forgot to take him potty. He isn't yet where he will tell me he has to go. Today is cold and rainy-- a right Scots Day! so we will go shopping tomorrow. The cake I made last night for our guests is barely being eaten. I think I may freeze some of it. Dinner tonight is likely leftovers or chicken patties and tater tots with veggies on the side. I'm cold. I still have to pay bills. I am putting it off but since I like heat and internet, guess I better do it.
  48. 7 points
    I hope it works, I love your post. I think part of what bothered me about that thread was that I like a lot of the people posting and I felt they were being very judgmental and harsh about people's choices. I was surprised to see it from some of them.
  49. 7 points
    DS is a varsity athlete at a huge public university and has access to a multitude of free resources — none of which deal with EF issues. If you're a freshman football player struggling with a basic math class, you can go to the athlete "study table" 5 days a week and sit with a math tutor who will walk you through every problem, explain every mistake, show you which types of problems to focus on for tests, etc. But if you're an athlete who's been taking taking 300 & 400 level major courses since freshman year and getting the highest marks in the class, and you don't need help with course content or the kind of basic "study skills" tutors help with, you're SOL. DS's university even offers free "academic coaching," separate from tutoring, but when he explicitly asked for help with EF issues he was told "we don't do that." He asked the Disability Office for help with the same tasks (which his documentation clearly shows he needs), and got the same answer: "We don't do that." He has no problem advocating for himself and asking for help — his current problem is that there are no supports for someone with EF issues there. He uses me for support because right now its his only option. Sure I'll be dead some day, but hopefully by then he'll be older and more experienced, he'll need less support, he'll (hopefully) have a supportive spouse or partner, and a career that capitalizes on his many strengths and mitigates some of his weaknesses. Also, the idea that a student with EF issues who can't manage college without some level of support will never be able to manage a job is BS. I've never had a job that involved having 5 or 6 different bosses at once, all of whom were replaced every four months by 5 new bosses, all of whom had totally different schedules, different ways of doing things, different management styles, different expectations, totally different ways of organizing their material, etc., and none of whom coordinated with each other in any way. And then add in a totally separate "job" (varsity sports) that involves lots of travel and tons of scheduling conflicts with other parts of the job.
  50. 7 points
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