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  1. 49 points
    Life has been interesting (isn't it always?) for my family this past year. DS graduated from college and is working FT. My college cut the tennis program and I am (technically) unemployed. I will be opening up a small tennis coaching business this fall (as soon as I am able to be near athletes and customers) so I'll be a business owner soon. We are remodeling our kitchen after 13 years of being in the house. Demo began the week the SIP order was initiated and we have not had a kitchen since mid-March. We finally started up again last Monday and then stopped on Tuesday as the electrician found multiple code violations with the previous remodel (completed in 1975). The cost of the remodel just went up. I can't wait to be able to prepare meals in a full kitchen again; maybe in August. The best thing DD and DSIL had a baby in June! Baby and mom are doing well. Baby is the reason we are all following social distancing and strict disinfection protocols and why I cannot yet open my business. I love being able to go see my DD, DGD, DSIL, and the new DGD.
  2. 39 points
    Our society needs kids to be in school. Our economy sure as hell needs kids in school full time. Many kids need to be in school, for a wide variety of reasons. But kids in school is only safe, and only WORKS, if community transmission levels are low. We aren't at that point. Now, if we did stuff like universal masking and social distancing and didn't open bars or eating in person restaurants, would it be safe for first graders to get in person reading instruction? Probably. But, as a society, we didn't make that choice. None of the schools will be open for more than a month. It will be a disaster, because teachers will get covid, even if kids don't. And there will be no subs, not even if nobody gets covid. But even if teachers just have virus of the week, they won't be able to get a sub, because nobody wants to risk their life for $50-100 a day. It just flat isn't going to work. And the reason it won't work is because we decided we cared less about children going back than we did about going to bars or our freedom to not wear a mask.
  3. 34 points
    I, on the other hand, am completely fine with being sent anonymous gifts. If anyone has been considering it, please, go right ahead.
  4. 28 points
    Okay, we can compare the states of the US to the countries of the European Union, and the whole EU to the US. It's got an even higher population, and it doesn't have a more centralized government than the US. Right? Yes, it's smaller in area - about half the size. That means 100 million more people in an area half the size, with a less centralized government than the USA. So, it's more densely populated. It's harder to control spread when things are denser, right? Isn't that what all the rural states keep saying about why NYC got so bad but it won't get bad there? So why do these charts look like this, again?
  5. 25 points
    As someone with a HS kid who had to take more than a year off for a health emergency, I find it dangerous to talk as if missing a year is catastrophic. That kind of talk leads to suicide or suicide attempts and it's not true. There are many paths to success and we really need to teach our kids to have flexibility about what path they need to be on. Rigid, all or nothing thinking is common in teens and it's dangerous. I think we can acknowledge that taking a year off can be harder for some and work to address it, minimize the risks, and actively reduce barriers as a society. I can guarantee that telling kids experiencing crises that their lives may be ruined and they'll never make up a year is the absolute worst thing we can do.
  6. 25 points
    I agree with both of these. It seems so obvious to me that the only way to “open up the economy” (which is clearly something everyone wants and needs) can only really happen when people wear a mask in public (indoor or crowded) spaces. Honestly, I just can’t see how it’s even controversial—protect each other so we can formulate a new reality together. Why is so damn hard for some people? (Rhetorical question. I know the answers) The rest of the world must really pity our foolishness.
  7. 24 points
    I think honestly, we should have looked hard and prioritized what we wanted open the most. If it is schools, and elective medical procedures (reasonable priorities) we should not have opened restaurant dining rooms, gyms, and bars. Every time we add more exposure to large groups, we increase spread. We should have done better picking which large groups we wanted.
  8. 24 points
    I see this wording with some frequency, and it comes across and being purposely chosen to be demeaning. Maybe you don’t mean it that way, but it’s been used so frequently by people who think this is “just a flu” and anyone wanting to decrease their risk is a ridiculous pansy that it comes across that way.
  9. 23 points
    Honestly, president's tweeting will make some states open up schools and some less likely to. What actually worries me is that he's bullying the CDC into revising their guidance about what is safe. Far fewer districts will feel like they can ignore the mandates of the CDC, even if they're clearly changing their policies in response to what the president has ordered. I see changing CDC guidance, and the fact that we may not be able to trust the CDC for guidance on what is safe, to be far more devastating to safe opening of school, besides having a devastating effect on public trust.
  10. 23 points
    Beaches are probably open because scientific studies have shown that the virus is destroyed within seconds of being exposed to UV light. Also, science has shown that a person is at risk when exposed to a viral load for at least 15 min., and not so much when passing an individual, or when in the open air. Finally, there are no shared surfaces that anyone could touch (in a normal beach situation.) The openness, breeze, lack of shared surfaces, and the UV light of a beach scene do not promote a dangerous situation. It’s not totally safe, of course, but the science is on the side of leaving beaches open. ETA I should have said that the virus is destroyed in minutes (2-3) and not “seconds.”
  11. 22 points
    Wow, Richmond VA isn't pulling any punches...
  12. 22 points
    Where, pray tell, are teachers supposed to get these N95s?
  13. 22 points
    re flag shorts Bit of sidebar here, but I've always been... troubled isn't quite it, but surprised... by the notion, that obviously a great many people do hold, that "wearing" the flag to cover your man parts (or on a beach towel to park your sandy butt, or wipe off your sunscreen, or etc) signifies "patriotism." I mean, First Amendment, rock on, but to my mind it trivializes the meaning of the flag. Literally LOL to the bolded. "Mannerless frat boys" = a rather common term here for a certain very common type who take up far too much space, physical + verbal + in financial and political circles. re Karens - for "the rules" or agin them? This. At the core, Karens are about (white) entitlement. The most recent, very telling Karen is Amy Cooper, the white woman who called the cops on the black birder in Central Park. He was birding; she had let her dog off leash; he asked her to leash her dog. (Except in very contained very well marked very obvious dog runs) the rules are dogs in Central Park have to be on leash. He was asking her to follow the rules. She was outraged, she got furious, she threatened to call the cops and tell them that "a black man is threatening her life"... and then she DID call the cops and reported that she was being "threatened by a black man." There's a lot to unpack in this incident about race. She threatened what she threatened because she knew the threat was powerful: she knew, upfront, that even though her characterization of the circumstances was false, she could depend on LEO believing her white-woman account over his black-man account, she knew that, he knew that, she knew he knew that. She could and did weaponize that mutual knowledge that LE would hear her first and believe her more. Her threat -- to lie to LEO -- was powerful because she could depend on Law and Order!! would support her. They both knew that a single jittery nerve or bad mood on by the LE who happened to take the call, could leave him dead. Law and Order for her; no functional access to Rule of Law for him. That is structural racism. But the origin of the story is: SHE was the one breaking the dog-leash rule... yet SHE felt so entitled to let her beloved pet stretch its legs, she was so infuriated by his request to follow the rule that she lapsed -- instantly, unthinkingly, she's a "good person," I absolutely believe her apology -- to that weaponization of structural racism. That's a Karen. And to @happysmileylady concern about SM shaming of lesser dopey irritations: yes, I do see that wrt to the trivial stuff. We've become very simultaneously very thin-skinned about the trivial stuff; and also very quick to overshare our indignation. Neither serves us well. But the video documentation in the Amy Cooper incident is the only reason it played out as it did: the black man is alive to go birding again, she was yesterday charged with filing a false police report. Without the 8:46 video of George Floyd, there is no way at all that any officers would ever see consequences. So while I do agree that there we're a bit quick to "catch them being irritating" and livestream to Insta... I am ultimately deeply, deeply grateful that the life-endangering incidents are being captured. And Quill wasn't catching them being irritating. She was catching them being constructive, and acknowledging her gratitude for that. There's a significant difference IMO.
  14. 21 points
  15. 21 points
    I think there are no good answers, and that things are likely to get very bad no matter what measures are attempted to make schooling in person safe. I feel sorry for everyone involved, and I'm incredibly thankful that my boys are grown and we don't have any school aged children in our extended family right now. As far as the use of the word "fear" -- I've gotten to the point that I pretty much dismiss the comments of anyone who uses that word. It's become such a loaded term and everybody who's paying attention should certainly know that, so I assume they're using it intentionally. Logical, evidence based concern does not equal fear. There's no reason the word "concerned" can't or shouldn't be used instead, assuming the person wants their comment to be taken seriously.
  16. 21 points
    This might be in my top 10 so far:
  17. 20 points
    Currently, I have about 4 months worth. We could make that last longer if we were really careful. Side note: My dh gave each kid a roll of TP and told them he'd give $5 to the person who could make theirs last longest. (My kids are 12, 15, and 18 so I felt pretty confident that they would not leave skid marks in the drawers) My 18 yo looked at the tp and said. " I lose." Some sacrifices she just wasnt willing to make.
  18. 20 points
    Here’s my horse Lightfoot playing in the water while getting a bath.
  19. 20 points
    When your country's curve looks like Europe, you get to open schools. When your curve looks like the US, it's a bad idea. If you believe in and use science (wear masks, test, do contact tracing, get numbers down before you open up), you get the nice curve. If everyone does what they want when they want, you get the exponential curve. No school for you. ETA: and this is an old graph--we're hitting 50k now!
  20. 20 points
    Of course everyone wants schools to be back to normal. They want life to be back to normal. But pretending it will all be normal if we just put all the kids back in school doesn't make it happen. If this president placed a high value on schools being open, then he should have made decisions differently so that our curve would look like Europe's instead of the exponential stuff taking off like crazy that we currently have. For traditional schooling to work, we should have all been wearing masks since April. We should have real testing in place--how do you open schools when you can't even do testing and contact tracing to keep outbreaks small? We should not have been so quick to open bars, restaurants, and everything. We should make decisions based on science and understanding and not what DT thinks is needed for his re-election campaign. I work in a public high school. We know spring distance learning didn't work. Our educational leaders have been working hard to try to come up with a plan that gets kids some time in the building without putting everyone at a huge risk. And there's no money for extra teachers, extra subs, extra supplies--our budget is being drastically cut due to state income tax revenue dropping like a rock. We're looking at kids either opting to do online only or a hybrid model with 2 days in school each week. And even that smaller exposure terrifies staff. It's the staff who are at a very high risk if schools go back to full capacity 5 days/week. Medical workers at least get PPE. This plan just puts school staff in a petri dish and hopefully everything will be okay because we want it to be okay. This president does not care how many people die or how many people don't die but have ongoing medical issues, huge medical debt, etc. He cares only about himself. Let's keep these decisions local where decision-makers have to answer to the community that is affected by their decisions.
  21. 19 points
    I don’t know if this is a COVID side-effect just like increase in prices for ground beef and chicken wings, and the fact you can’t buy a fishing pole anywhere, or if this is just the natural outcome I predicted a few years ago, but dog ownership is turning into something you can’t expect to do unless you have a nice cushion of disposable income. Sometimes when I’m daydreaming, I go to sites like Lancaster puppies or puppy spot and I look at a couple breeds I’m interested in: German Shepherds, Labs, Aussies and Border Collies usually. Sometimes I go to Petfinder but for real, guys, there is hardly ever any dog that isn’t a Pit mix or a hound mix. Yesterday I saw one non-Pit on there - it was a Collie or herding dog mix - and it was five hundred dollars. For a rescued, adult dog. Sometimes, they do have a non-Pit and they say ridiculous things to scare off anyone who might just think, “Hey, what a pretty dog!” Like the Belgian Malinois mix puppies I saw recently that said nobody would be approved who didn’t have “a forty-foot fence topped with razor wire and with coyote rollers installed”. Or like the Great Pyrenees I just looked up which they will not adopt out to anyone who has no experience with GPs. Basically, if you want a freakin Pit mix or a hound, you’re in great shape. But any desirable breed or mix, nevermind! On the puppy sale sites, almost all breeds I look at are well over a thousand dollars and many are more than that. Even mixed breeds that would have once been listed in the Pennysaver for free or for $10 good-faith payment are many hundreds or thousands of dollars. For, say, a Border Collie Mix. We also know someone who breeds Doodles (I don’t condone it but it’s not like he asks my permission). He sells them all over the east coast for over $2,000. He did just tell dh, though, that he’s moving the price to $3,000 because every puppy is spoken for before they are even born. He’s retired from his original blue-collar business and just does dogs now because he can live a nice life just on dog profits. Aaaaaannnnddd...I’ve only been talking about acquiring the dog to begin with, which says nothing about the other elitist-like assumptions that are made about how you will care for the dog going forward. I’m really just feeling a bit dubious about having a dog ever again. My best dog of my life was a little sheltie/Spitz mix named Nika, offered up Free to Good Home when I was 16. She was seriously just the best dog ever - smart, trainable as heck, calm disposition, peaceable manner and beautiful to boot. She lived to be 16yo and never had a health problem until the last year or two when she went blind, deaf and senile (? I guess? Is senile the wrong word?) I feel like, as a society, we said we don’t want backyard mutt accidental litters of puppies - and I am glad we’re not euthanizing homeless puppies like we used to - but I think we have the consequence now that you can’t just get a nice mixed-breed puppy from your piano teacher or the lady down the street anymore. And keep in mind that I’m saying the puppies on Lancaster puppies, which many people no doubt find dodgy as a source, are $2,000. So just forget any thoughts that I would rather go to a more legit source, particularly if we were getting a Lab or GSD, but I think, ummm, no; gonna be a no for me, to spend several thousand dollars for a puppy we would have to reserve before it is even born. If you read this whole pity party, thank you for listening. I’m feeling like I just don’t like what having a dog seems to have become and I’m sad about it.
  22. 19 points
    I don't know if it will change, but the pharma industry ingredient sourcing and manufacturing definitely needs to change in light of COVID. There are lots and lots of shortages going on right now and I think a bunch of people are being affected or about to be on their everyday run of the mill maintenance meds. Letting other countries produce the vast amounts of ingredients was a super stupid play that goes back many administrations and is a HUGE national security risk.
  23. 19 points
    While the lemmings yell about their constitutional right to walk off cliffs, or how cliffs aren't real anyway, or that cliffs are everywhere and we just need to learn to live with them.
  24. 19 points
    Yep, they all opened schools with 'no problems' (except not even they are all back full-time for all grades, with shifts, distancing, and other things, so notquitereally) But... let's see what else might be different: New cases, yesterday: Germany: 298 Denmark: 10 Norway: 11 Sweden: 57 United States: 55,442
  25. 19 points
  26. 19 points
    we got a puppy in May and I happen to think she’s pretty cute.
  27. 19 points
    Then go ahead and compare the European Union to the US. But whatever the reasons are that the US reported 186 times as many cases and 90 times as many deaths as Germany yesterday despite having only 4 times the did. That's the situation we're in right now while we're trying to reopen schools and the president is tweeting that we can do it because Germany did.
  28. 19 points
  29. 19 points
    My main issue with the thought of sending kids to school is my lack of trust in people and their impacts on others. If we, as a whole, were taking the precautions in all other areas of our lives, I might not worry so much about kids in masks in schools. But, since “we’re” having parties, going to bars, getting our hair done, etc., no, I’m not comfortable with “my” kids sitting in rooms with bunches of “their” kids, and can say the same for teachers/staff. But I’ve seen how reckless people can be and how many people they can hurt. I hav to do extra to avoid risk because some others won’t do the minimum.
  30. 19 points
    Because being outside, even with relatively a lot of people, isn't a problem vis a vis the virus. Please, can everyone stop being indigant or scared or angry or...whatever...about people using public spaces outdoors? Please?
  31. 19 points
    I'm not Methodist, but the Virginia Methodist....diocese?...the bishop has declared that if a pastor is conducting worship and anyone removes a mask, gets closer to a non household contact than six feet, or otherwise breaks the rules, the pastor must immediately give the benediction, dismiss the service, and the offender isn't allowed back on church property for a couple weeks. Warnings are given ahead of time. I was impressed.
  32. 18 points
    When you adopt from a rescue, though, you aren't really "buying" a dog, you're donating towards the expenses of rescuing, vetting, spay/neutering, etc., all the animals they save. So comparing the "price" of a shelter pet to a purebred, as if shelters are charging an outrageous price for a low-quality "used" product, misses the point of working with a rescue.
  33. 18 points
    Regarding *shudder* irregardless, there is this note in the FAQ section of its Merriam-Webster page: "Remember that a definition is not an endorsement of a word’s use." I choose to take some comfort in that.
  34. 18 points
    You mean, irregardless of how I feel about it becoming one?
  35. 18 points
    Whenever I have a drink with ice cubes, Tigerlily sits and stares intently at me until I give her one.🙂
  36. 18 points
    M My sweet Lucy wants a treat!!
  37. 18 points
    There’s something I think you should know. Your participation in this forum has had a measurable effect on me. I can drift towards snippy in an instant. And yet you, in particular, whenever I read your posts, cause me to think, wow, I wish I were genuinely as kind hearted as Mercy. Not kidding. More than once I’ve typed a reply, then thought to myself, Mercy wouldn’t say it like that, and reworded or deleted a message. Your tender heart shows through time and time again. So my vote is not sociopath. I do believe that you are hurting right now, and I encourage you to engage with someone IRL who can help you walk through what you’re experiencing and feeling. Praying for you, dear one.
  38. 18 points
    I feel like I've been screaming "We tried uncontrolled spread in NY already! You don't want it!!" on these boards for months. And quite a few people on here replied with "Don't worry, we're not NYC! We don't have transit! It won't happen here!" People don't seem to be learning from experience.
  39. 18 points
    And let's be real here, we SHOULD have known that transmission is airborne for months now. All of the outbreak studies out of China and Korea and even the Washington choir case suggested that!! It doesn't even matter whether it's "droplet" or "airborne" -- we've known that there's transmission via air, especially recirculated air. At least, I've known that since March, and if I know this, all the real professionals should, too.
  40. 18 points
    If it was so impossible to get the spread under control by now then why was every other wealthy country in the world able to do it?
  41. 18 points
    So, looked it up. SARS, over the 1.5 year period it was active, infected 8096 people worldwide. And it killed 774 people, worldwide. That case rate, which includes 'probable' cases, over a year and a half, is less than the current case rate for Covid in ONE DAY just in Florida. And that was worldwide. Where did this teacher live that so many people were dying? China? It had the most fatalities. 349 people died, TOTAL, over the year and a half. In all of China. (Source, WHO website) Population over 1 billion. Amazing that she knew so many people who died. Today, in ONE day, in the US, with a population about 1/4 that of China, counted 769 deaths - more than twice what China had with SARS-1 over one and a half years. (source, Worldometer) More than SARS-1 killed over the entire course of its run. In ONE day. But yeah, it's so stupid that people are more worried about this virus. It's just the same with a '2' on the end! And I'd love to know how this teacher managed to know so many people who died of SARS-1. Btw, ZERO people died of SARS in the US. Zero.
  42. 18 points
    Yes, you're missing a lot of obvious. The purpose is most absolutely NOT to cut down on travel. It will increase travel and cruelly punish people who want nothing other than to get an education and improve their lives - and ours - international students subsidize our very expensive universities, and many are in brain-strainy tech and science fields American students seem less interested in pursuing, who then stay and are a great driver to our economy. Things are up in the air for the fall semester everywhere. Many classes may or may not be online. Housing has to be arranged, dorm contracts signed or leases paid for. How do you do that when you don't even know if you'll have a visa? And they're also saying that you will lose your visa mid-semester if classes go online? Break your housing contract and get a plane home? Many of these students come from halfway around the world where the time difference can be off by 12 hours or so. All their classes are now in the middle of the night? (Ask how that's been going for lewelma's kid. Fortunately he's a US citizen and has family he can stay with in the same time zone). Some countries have grid or internet reliability issues. And some people are building their lives here. My dd's girlfriend is from India. They've been together for 2 years now. They share an apartment. She has been planning on finishing her degree, and there's also been a visa program for students to work for a couple of years after. She's already been worried with the threatened cancellation of the after-college visa work program. Now she may be forced to evacuate mid-semester or risk suddenly being an illegal immigrant? India is not allowing people in. Lots of Indians here for work have been wanting to go home as it's gotten bad here. Can't get flights. She hasn't even been back home in years. Besides her parents are weird and controlling - it's not just US students who don't always have a good domestic situation to easily return to. Heck, even last year when Covid hit, many colleges left dorms open for students (domestic and international) who didn't have somewhere safe to go. But again, even if she was told she had to leave, she might not be able to even get a flight home or be allowed in. Then... could she ever come back? Her life is here. She and dd have thought maybe someday they'd get married, but they have thought now they just might have to do it to protect her. But then your whole life comes under scrutiny to make sure you're 'really' a couple. Dd is beside herself that she could lose her girlfriend, possibly forever, in an instant. If she just stays here in spite of the new rule (currently she does have one in-person class, but of course that could change at any time), that could impact her ability to get residency later. For obvious reasons, they also can't just move to India. They've thought about moving to Canada, but they won't take anyone now either. It's putting so many people in impossible situations. My other dd's roommate last spring is from South Africa. She had to evacuate in March; she lost her on-campus job and couldn't pay rent anymore. We went to bat for her to get her out of the lease. She hopes to come back for the fall semester; dd would like to room with her again, but everything's up in the air. Would she have to leave again? She's obviously hesitant to sign a lease at this point. She's a music major, and does have at least one in-person class, but if that changes? She loses her visa? In this case, this is not a wealthy student. She does not have the money to break leases and take last-minute international flights over and over. This creates more travel during a pandemic, not less. Many, many international students stay here over the summers. These are people who have done everything 'right', played by the rules, are a huge benefit to our economy, and they're being threatened with deportation overnight if their classes change to online because of a virus???!!! Cruel, heartless, punitive for no reason. These are people's lives. And it will bankrupt the universities and harm the US economy, so also short-sighted and unbelievably stupid. The only thing I'm hanging on to is that the universities are going to rise up and squash this. International students are their bread and butter. Those are most of the people paying the full ticket and subsidizing the US students' scholarships. If this happens, a lot of these students are going to just not come back. New students are not going to enroll. It's bad enough that we've got the highest cases of Covid in the world and going up - that's enough reason for people not to come here. The last thing the universities need is for international students not to be able to be here at all. As if the universities didn't have enough problems right now, this would be the nail in the coffin. Harvard is all online in the fall (freshmen are allowed in dorms, but their classes will be online, so no visas for them?). The entire CA state system will be online in the fall. None of their international students will be allowed visas to come here? Or in many/most cases stay here. College is 4 years; grad school is even more. These people have lives here, might have been living here for years and have no place to live back in their home country. Yet they're supposed to just book a flight and leave on a dime. It's breathtakingly cruel and stunningly stupid.
  43. 18 points
    Ummmm, bubonic plague exists. In the US. Every year. This is not some freakish new occurrence.
  44. 18 points
    I'm really angry at the number of "Good Christian women" I know that are happily lying about a "medical exemption" to avoid masks. I also figure it's a matter of time before someone starts their own church and declares that mask wearing is against their religion.
  45. 18 points
    Canadians aren't spread out evenly across the country. Most of them live in the Southern part of the country, and many of them in large cities. The fact that the Yukon is full of wide open spaces doesn't impact the way the virus spreads in Montreal or Halifax or Winnipeg where people live close together. Canada is doing better than the US for the same reason most of Europe is doing better than the US. Or Australia is doing better than the US. Their governments are behaving rationally. They aren't politicizing it. They waited until positivity and R0 were very low, and then opened slowly and carefully and were willing to take a step back. In other words, the question isn't really what Canada did right, it's how many things the US is doing wrong.
  46. 17 points
    Man, this idea that states WANT to shut things down and as a result have no money is just amazing. It boggles the mind how irrational that is.
  47. 17 points
  48. 17 points
    The fact is that it doesn’t matter what anyone’s preferences are. Given the current levels of community spread, it simply won’t WORK. It won’t be POSSIBLE. Teachers will get sick, and there won’t be any subs. You can’t run a school without staff. The question is do we wait for them to get sick and die first?
  49. 17 points
  50. 17 points
    Jumping in real quick: Karens do not necessarily enforce rules. Karens are about being entitled and rude when they do not get their way. They see themselves as being better than others or more deserving, and use this (to them) weapon order to get their way even if it hurts others or breaks rules. They will abuse "the customer is always right" mindset, for example, to get returns or refunds on things that are obviously out of the terms. Karens only reference rules when in their favor.
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