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  1. Looks like he is cooking after all. Which one of you called him and chewed him out?
    7 points
  2. I could write a book on this topic. Read the Explosive Child Ross Greene and implement the strategies ASAP. This was the most helpful thing for my hard kid. Also, if he's that emotionally torn up, he needs to maybe start going to bed a little earlier. Don't underestimate the amount of sleep that growing boys need. Have a standard response for emotional drama (Go to your room until you can talk to me without the emotional spewing.) Lots of time outside working hard. My 12 yo weed eats the whole yard (Ours is huge so he has to do about 15-20 minutes a day with a lightweight electric w
    7 points
  3. I am SO tired of idiot political texts!! That is all.
    6 points
  4. My oldest was, by far, my most challenging in terms of behaviour as a teen. Dh and I joked, "If T isn't happy, nobody is happy!" I really regret it was like that. In retrospect he needed us more than we realized. And he needed meaningful work. The few times we went on hikes and he was able to lead, he was amazing! He needed responsibility - real responsibility, not made up busy stuff. Not to say that such things are not useful, but he wanted/needed to do big things and get the intrinsic reward for a job well done. Love him, talk to him, have positive meaningful conversations with hi
    6 points
  5. “More involved” means he takes stuff off your plate. More involved does not mean interrogating you like a reporter looking for dirt. It doesn’t mean he gets to micromanage everything you’ve been doing for years without actually doing any of the work himself. How much do you want to bet that if he takes over coat purchasing he spends more than you would. 🤣
    6 points
  6. There are going to be mistakes on both sides of that. Some COVID deaths will be entered in as "not COVID" because they weren't tested. Some non-COVID deaths will be entered as COVID because people were careless. Unless you have evidence of systemic issues, I wouldn't take a single data point as all that meaningful. This is why "excess deaths" is always the best statistic. Excess deaths suggest that we're undercounting and not overcounting COVID deaths, which is almost always the case, anyway. It's hard to count everyone.
    5 points
  7. And, yes, I am still planning science labs... :)
    5 points
  8. Haven't updated in a while! Last week got in 4 days - did a NW/sprint on Mon, 2 days of OT, and then called stacking a cord of wood with dh exercise for Saturday, as we spent the rest of the day moving dd in, which was probably a lot more exercise. This Monday I did a shorter OT workout plus 25 min of rowing - a 10 minute block (bit over 2000m), then a bunch of 100m interval sprints. Yesterday more helping dd at apartment, but just unpacking boxes so no real 'exercise'. Today I tried to help move a sofa (I helped get it inside from the trailer, but it was too heavy for me to lift my en
    5 points
  9. I have not been to Idaho. I think I've driven through it. I've been to Montana. I went water skiing on that Lake. I don't know what like it is but if you know anything about Montana you know what lake it is. That's where my step family lives and my cousin taught me how to climb trees there. That is my Montana experience. I hear Idaho is stunningly gorgeous.
    5 points
  10. DH and I disagreed about how to load the dishwasher, but since it was primarily his job I just put things in his way when I partially loaded it so that he wouldn't re-do it. When he was out of town and I knew I'd be doing the whole thing I did it my way. Fifteen years into our marriage we got a new dishwasher installed and the guy who did it explained to him how to load it for most efficient washing. And that night he called me over to show me the new way we needed to start loading the dishwasher. Lo and behold, it was the way I was taught to do it when I was eight and have been doing it my
    5 points
  11. When we were first married the kitchen was an issue that caused some serious strife. I was very competent in the kitchen and didn't need or welcome input on how to cook, which of his mom's recipes I should be cooking, what pans to use, what dishes to serve in, what serving utensils to use, how to wash dishes, etc. (I'm not kidding--at times I'd have something ready to serve to company and turn around to find it transferred into another serving dish. ) Eventually we settled on some language to signal boundaries were being crossed. I would just smile and say "Get out of my kitchen" and he'd
    4 points
  12. The grandma and grandpa aged couple next door just about died over Isaac.
    4 points
  13. Yes, that one was particularly excellent. Basically, all your Covid posts. They have been so informative.
    4 points
  14. See, this part I had to let go. I know that if I were shopping, I would do my best to think ahead and buy enough of everything so I wouldn't have to shop again until we ran out of milk or fresh produce, AND I would have a price book and shop sales aggressively and stock up on things on sale to stash for later use. And DH just does not think this way, not at all. He pays a lot, and he will run to the store for one thing over and over, which I find wasteful. But you know what? Aside from making really good lists and emailing them to him, I can't control the price thing, and so I jus
    4 points
  15. I started a topic on the Gen Ed board:
    4 points
  16. My MIL is a packrat and has saved every last thing my husband has ever laid hands on. She saved the bowling ball he used when he was 14. WHO SAVES A BOWLING BALL FOR 35 YEARS?! Then she gave this stupid, stupid bowling ball back to my husband, who then gave it to my son because I-dont-know. Then my son was stuck with it in his room for 3 years, because anytime I suggested we get rid of the "35 year old, too heavy for our kid, and the bowling alley closed down anyway" bowling ball, it was like I was personally destroying a part of DH's childhood, his bond with our son, AND his bond with
    4 points
  17. Okay. Now he's cute again.
    4 points
  18. Apparently Slache is saving the best for last. :)
    4 points
  19. I stayed in a giant pyramid and got to pet a tiger. It was really cool!
    4 points
  20. Children think most places are really cool.
    4 points
  21. Since the weather is nice I scrapped my indoor cardio workout for a nice two mile run with one of our dogs. I'll probably also do a walk/jog with all the dogs later.
    4 points
  22. No wise words to solve this from me. I'm currently still irked because my husband breezed into the office last night and asked "Is there any particular reason you do irritating-but-inconsequential-thing? Because I've noticed that you always do irritating-but-inconsequential-thing". I was nice, and did not respond with my first thought, which was "Probably for the same reasons you do other-irritating-but-inconsequential-things". I am glad my husband is home, but also tired of how he sometimes adopts this King of the Castle attitude. Like, you do things that annoy me too, dude. I
    4 points
  23. I'm sorry for your loss. :0( I think it makes a big difference when one's personal experience matches the public narrative. In my life, there is a lot of dissonance--I personally know one person who has had COVID, and yet I have a LOT of experience with people who are depressed, out of work, lonely, or sick-with-life-threatening-cancer-and-are-all-alone-in-their-struggles because of the lockdown/shutdown and all that has come along with it. Another example: My friend's cousin entered hospice, dying of cancer, and within a week contracted COVID, and a week later her cause of dea
    4 points
  24. I have a vent I can't really share with my real life friends. I have worked as an election worker for many many years. We are well trained and dedicated to making sure every registered voter gets a chance to vote, the ballots monitored and tallied accurately. The urban myths my friends keep sharing about the 'rigged' system are driving me crazy especially regarding mail in votes. I just want to yell, "if you think it is so poorly run why don't you come try it".
    4 points
  25. I may have been known to hand a spatula to my dh and go sit down to read a book.
    4 points
  26. "My wife and I play this fun game during quarantine, it's called Why Are You Doing It That Way and there are no winners." Eric Spiegalman via Twitter, I copied this to my dh so fast I almost got whiplash 😄
    4 points
  27. Your description reminds me of one of my kids, and I'm not going to lie -- parenting well was not enough. Medication for ADHD, then later additional medication for anxiety made a difference. It doesn't magically change everything, but it makes my child less impulsive and more willing to listen and less eager to cause disruptions, which makes a huge difference. Plus we do counseling, which in theory could be effective, but I'm not sure it helps much in our particular case, because my son does not participate well with it. I know that some families won't consider medication, which is their
    4 points
  28. Yup, and we are going through a little of that here too. The other day he was all up in my business about the way I hang the laundry on the clothesline. Yup, for some reason, 20 years in he is now invested in my clothesline... I'm sorry I don't have anything more than sympathy. I hope you can work things out.
    4 points
  29. Yes, it would and does irritate me. I have a similar situation with my dh. For years, he has gone to work during the day while I stayed home and educated the kids and took care of the household. Now that he works from home, he's constantly coming behind me and second-guessing what I'm doing. Yesterday we had a semi-argument over a crock-pot meal. He asked me in the morning if he should put the meal on before before he headed downstairs to his office. I said, "No, that one only needs a few hours to cook or it will fall apart. I'll put it on at lunchtime." Which I did. On low heat. The same way
    4 points
  30. There is a segment of the population that has no choice but to buy very inexpensive clothing and does still feel very positively about symbols of American patriotism. Is this a crime? Sounds like perseverance to me! This comment kinda made my blood pressure go up. My knee jerk response--whether right or wrong--was: elitist, condescending...even the word "dehumanizing" came to mind as I was reading it. Can you clarify? I totally get that it's almost impossible to infer tone and truly know your intentions from just this one comment. I'm sensitive to it because there are people that I l
    3 points
  31. 3 points
  32. I think I figured out my log in problem! If I log into the WTM general/store and THEN click community, then it seems to let me in. So while I still don't know why I can't directly log in to the forum- if I try I either get the error page or the circular log in page that never ends- at least I guess this is a work around. Sharing in case someone else has the same issue.
    3 points
  33. Well, I think the protesters have all of our missing canned goods- the leader of the free world has repeatedly told his rally-goers that they’re throwing cans ( it morphed to tuna cans a couple days ago) of food instead of bricks.... Our Aldi has a limit of 2 cans on tomatoes.
    3 points
  34. Memorize poetry, begin foreign language, be really conscientious about formal nature study, do some logic puzzles or chess. Have her free read twaddle-free books for a set amount of time without narrations.
    3 points
  35. I wonder where all this money's coming from.
    3 points
  36. 3 points
  37. I understand your point. I'm saying that when that 20 car pileup starts happening in every town you frequent, things change. Rapidly. We haven't hit that point yet. Give it another 400K deaths and we may be there.
    3 points
  38. I'd be LIVID! What a hassle! Can you buy those giant jugs of water at Walmart or something?
    3 points
  39. Yes, I think people are attending this church now because it's the anti-mask church, even though it's not supposed to be because that's not what the bishop instructed. All of this is going to lead to more divisions between people. I point a lot of fingers at leadership. They could have done more to bring us together but they were just are partisan as everyone else. Honestly, IMHO this is a result of the culture-wars, us versus them mentality that is so prevalent in churches today. There are people in this church who refuse to allow their kids to wear masks, even if mean
    3 points
  40. I'm embarrassed to say that my son is lazy. I know he is looking for a job, but I need a little more help around here. He was supposed to cook dinner for dh tonight, but he is "so sleepy". I'm pretty fed up. How did I end up with a lazy kid?
    3 points
  41. Ha! Ok, now that I know this is a “thing” I feel better. Kinda like when I found out other people’s 3yr olds cry about things like not having an S in their name. I’m much more able to internally roll my eyes and deal, when I know it isn’t just me.
    3 points
  42. Lots and lots of physical activity. They need WAY more physical exertion than we think or is built into most modern lives. And food. More food than you can imagine possible. Being hangry is a thing. A timely feeding has averted much misery.
    3 points
  43. All of the above. It took me forever to realize that my first ds’s daily meltdowns at 14 we’re bc of hunger. But he was so wound up, he wouldn’t eat when I suggested it. So I would open a protein bar, put it in front of him and walk away. It was like magic. The other thing that has worked with both my sons is to look them in the eye and say gently,”I am not the enemy.”
    3 points
  44. Also, use caution about assigning nefarious motives to behavior. This instantly puts kids on the defensive. What I mean is rather than "I can't believe you'd be so selfish!" say, "Can you turn this around and try to look at it from your sister's point of view?." Kids are often self centered, and they have to outgrow it. Turning things into a deficit of character vs. emotional immaturity just blows things up out of proportion. They don't make messes and act mouthy because they're trying to punish you. They're just immature. And 12 yos need a million reminders about chore
    3 points
  45. How about “The Song that Never Ends” or the Barney song? Invest in good earplugs for yourself , though. 😁
    3 points
  46. Install your own sound system. Something pretty loud. Play the same song on a loop until they stop. I suggest Rite of Spring, but Baby Shark is good too.
    3 points
  47. Yes, I would be greatly annoyed. The way it would go here is that I'd say, I'm thrilled that you want to be more involved. However, I am not a subordinate at your work. This is my work. I have been fulfilling my duties for years without difficulties. I do not need a supervisor to check the minute details of my workflow. In fact, I am the supervisor. Now, if you'd like to completely take over a few areas yourself, that would be great. Let's choose. If he thinks too much money is being spent on clothes, that's a separate discussion about the budget. I would do all I can. But if I don't fee
    3 points
  48. speaking of names. . . The Seattle Lake Union Trolley. . . . . no one thought that through. It wasn't even opened before someone was selling t-shirts that said "ride the s.l.u.t."
    3 points
  49. I have another-I need to lose weight in the worst kind of way. I have lost 14 pounds, but in the last week or two I have really struggled. Well, struggled is not the right word. I have given in to temptation too many times. Today I stopped at Albertson's to buy salads for lunches and picked up ice cream treats to eat on the way home. Two Packages. I ate one package and part of the second, but managed to throw away the biggest portion of the second package. Why do I sabotage myself like this????
    2 points
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