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Not such a good morning here. I took some sudafed last night, for relief from sinus pain, forgetting that it gives me insomnia. Zero sleep. A tiny bit of dozing. Listened to a bunch of podcasts. Gotta get up soon. Thankfully, nothing hugely pressing that I need to do today except drive Ds to things and grocery shop. Note to self: sudafed only in the daytime!

Praying.

Still praying

I love how people don't understand the difference between offending without knowing it and blatantly offending. Apparently Gen something or other is offended that we Gen X folks use punctuation in our text messages. They said the thumbs up was aggressive and that punctuation was showing anger or some such nonsense. I think I would like to have said to her, "Sounds like somebody needs to find their safe space."

I just commented on something on tiktok because the dad of a 6 year old girl used the F word multiple times to the daughter! I got roasted. People came on there, tagged me, and said the F word over and over again. The content creator made an entire video with my comment and said the F word over and over again and told me to F off. I blocked everyone involved, but THIS is why we can't get anything done to kids in the schools. The parents are rude, in your face, cussing, telling you "You blankety blank, don't you tell my angel what to F-ing do! This isn't his F-ing fault!" People. It is just horrible out there. ANd I love the comment about the illusion of power. 100%

I'm so sorry, but glad you're moving forward. Xdh not being involved or paying support is a crime and so stressful. Great! I'm sure you know this but I'll just say it again: boys in puberty need a lot of food and a lot of exercise. I know there have been threads here or on the chat board asking for easy, inexpensive, nutritious meals and snacks for those years. I remember making 20 refried bean, cheese, salsa burritos for the freezer per week and my boys eating endless jars of peanut butter on endless loaves of bread. Exercise is not optional for that age, they have to sweat every day. Sweating socially is even better if there are kids they like to ride bikes or play sports with. Working with their hands while volunteering such as for church or a community organization is also really helpful for burning off that puberty angst. A couple of clarifying questions: are you totally committed to homeschool or is public school an option? Do they want to stay home? What have you been using for the one entering 11th and can you reuse their 9th materials for the entering ninth? Is there a local co-op or homeschooling community where they could do some of their classes? I'm thinking of the Oak Meadow curricula (secular) which span all the grades and all subjects. They have very clear learning guides, teacher/answer books, and incorporate arts-based activities if desired. You can pay for teacher support from the company or not, and it's fairly easy to find used sets of the grades and individual courses.

Please don't bump old threads unless there's a really good reason for it.

NOPE! I have 26, 24, 20, and 6 Yup, I said SIX! DH even mentioned that maybe we should adopt another child closer to his age. AW HECK NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yes, he gets bored. OH well.

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It's the American Way. Our fine healthcare system at work. The war on drugs, helpful as always. Only the privileged and rich can get treated. No telling how much money all these tests will take and all the coordination. But hey, that's fine, pile a bunch of tests of questionable benefit and stick patients with the bill and hassle of making all these appointments. I see reasons for some of these requirements, but not all. I don't see a reason why he needs to get tested multiple times within a few months with the same doctor. I don't see reasons for half of these blood tests. The drug tests aren't even testing for the drug he's taking. The form for opioid abuse doesn't even apply because Vyvanse isn't an opioid. My son stopped taking meds in upper high school (he's a freshman at college now) because he decided it wasn't worth the side effects. He could skate by enough to pass (even though he performed well below his ability). He tried multiple different meds and the Vyvanse had the least side effects but it still left him with reduced appetite and not great sleep. Believe me, it wasn't the first choice as it was $300 a month. Now, he's in college and it requires more of everything and he can't skate by as well.

Just seeing this and praying they have been able to find the cause and fix it!

My 20 and 21yos don’t speak to one another. My 21 and 13yos speak to each other constantly. My about-to-be 17yo and 13yo are the tightest two of my 5 kids. I know 4.5 years isn’t 6, but still. I don’t really speak to one of my sisters (3 years younger) but have a very strong relationship with the other (7 years younger.) I think it’s important to remember we’re creating individual, complete, unique human beings and it’s a very big, lifelong responsibility. There are plenty of other ways to entertain a child for a few years. That said, I’ve loved being a mom of 5!

In my view, luck is more like a magnet that's attracted to positivity, preparedness, and perseverance. It's about putting yourself in the right place at the right time but also being ready to seize the opportunities that come your way.

Update: she had a really good talk with the head of student support office who was so kind and motherly and smart. They've given her an "emergency" room in a different dorm that they apparently hold in reserve and today she'll meet with residential life to find a room for the remaining 5 weeks. So she feels well supported and heard and I think her panic is receding. Dh is traveling relatively nearby and will swing over there to help her move and stay for a day. She's fiery and fierce but also deeply sensitive and prone to physically incapacitating panic attacks. She called yesterday afternoon with one and we talked while she walked over to the office, it was gone when she emerged. It's so sad to me how many folks here or their children have had similar experiences. Thanks for listening and support, onward to the final weeks of our dc's first years!

I'm sorry to hear that too. Will he attend the one where he is accepted or start over?

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Thank you for all of the advise I received above - I wanted to give some feedback. Dd has gone for two sessions with the Psychologist and she really likes her. I eventually decided not to talk to the therapist myself, but I did walk Dd through what she should tell her when asked why she was there - that she is autistic, needs help with relationships, and how to handle the feelings about the ones that went wrong. It sounds like she did that. I can hear in the things that she has said in the last two weeks that the therapist is really making an impact. The boy who was brave enough to tell her that she was too intense and he 'needed distance' for a while, did reach out again and she is open to giving their friendship another chance - which is huge for her. She would not have forgiven the slight before. She's been invited out three times now with the new group she met a while ago. They have another group outing planned to watch a cricket game this weekend. She met one of the girls, who lives close to her new apartment, through a friend. The new group sound like a nice wholesome, and somewhat nerdy bunch. I'm pleased that she's being included. She is diving into these friendships again, but except for the friend-through-a friend girl, there is no one on one texting and calling from the get-go. They have a WhatsApp group where they organize their social events and share memes and jokes and have included her. Holding thumbs that these friendships do blossom, but slowly, and that they accept Dd for all her wonderful qualities and are tolerant of her quirks. I'll be holding my breath.

Praying for you

Thinking of you all!!

You'll be on my mind and sending you love. Stay strong.

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Praying here.

I put myself on H1 and H2 in the thick of the pandemic when seeing a doctor wasn’t really an option. Thankfully we have more better choices now! If it was my kid I would totally get a doctor involved first.