@HomeAgain How was Disney?

Requested antibx from my doc. Started dinner. Placed a grocery order. Unloaded the dishwasher. Printed the form for Ds’ sports physical. His school is providing the exams for free in early May. Hooray for free and no extra trip for me!

@Condessa You have a busy day! Hope it all goes well.

I agree. I’m also a feminist and have loved being home and homeschooling, even the cooking and the cleaning. Things look pretty 1950s at my house, except I expect my husband to be a full partner, involved father, and participate in the minimal amount of housework that I don’t do while he’s at work.

I think this actually going to contribute to radicalizing more men. As women’s standard have risen or changed and more women are ok with just being single, not enough men are changing with them. Those that don’t will find themselves involuntarily uncoupled and some of them will get really mad about it. Frustrated, lonely men cause a lot of problems for society in general and for women in particular. It’s going to become an issue. Im not saying women shouldn’t have high standards, because of course they should! I’m just seeing the potential unintended consequences of that. Not all men are going to rise to the challenge and the ones that don’t are likely to be a problem for all of us.

What kind of bear? black bear, usually aren't an issue. . . . Grizzly - no freaking way.

Feed baby pump milk wash pump feed toddler make boys eat, dress, brush teeth dress baby and toddler, brush his teeth hopefully fit in a bit of homeschooling fold a load of laundry make dinner feed baby Get lunch stuff together for boys to eat in car pack lunch, diaper bag, tablet, toddler leash, milk pump and little cooler with ice pack, and double stroller in car, plus cello and judo gear in case we run late or get stuck in traffic apply lidocaine cream to ds’s arms drive to city lab draws for ds appointment with ds’s oncologist, hopefully good news drop off stuff at kid store (skip this if appointment ran late) feed baby pump milk in car drive back either take kids home, leave toddler with dd and grab dinner for boys to eat in car, and head to cello, OR go straight to cello and then get drive-through during the lesson for the boys, OR (if traffic is really, really bad) call to cancel cello, get drive through, and go straight to drop boys off at judo Pay for end of year award dinner go home feed baby pick up boys from judo make kids do evening chores & get ready for bed feed baby put toddler to sleep (unless he slept in the car late, in which case he will be up half the night) pump milk family video call before my mom’s surgery tomorrow

This problem will solve itself if you just wait until recent events fade into the background of her memory/awareness. You can pick up potty training again in a few months, and it will be like nothing happened. Don't beat yourself up. Nobody has a really positive reaction to getting urine on themselves, no matter how it happens.

There is zero way that I have time to be there to offer that level of support to my adult kids in general. The only exception has been with our autistic ds and that is simply bc he absolutely lacked the skills to function as an adult and has had to have direct support to not only navigate but also be micromanaged to learn the skills (over almost 15 yrs). My other kids only get peripheral support once they graduate from high school and zero academic support. They have to learn to manage all of those balls on their own. Our dd who has lived at home had a time to learn how do them all gradually. But, I have no clue what goes on in their college classes other than just simple 30 sec sharing. (ETA: emotional support, otoh, is always available 🙂 )

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I have a grown HGish son with dyslexia, adhd, dysgraphia, and dyscalculia diagnoses. We applied for CB accommodations for him as a homeschooler back in 2012 (I believe it was). So this was before they changed things. We were told that it was going to be difficult to get accommodations as homeschoolers, and that we needed a paper trail that included showing a history of disability as well as accommodation, preferably in an official setting, such as a school. He was in fifth grade when he was diagnosed with dyslexia, and we used that to get him a 504 plan with the local district. We then had him take a standardized test each year using those 504 accommodations. About six months before we needed to apply for CB accommodations, we had his reevaluated by a team of doctors who specialized in dyslexia, giftedness, and had ample experience with the CB. One of the things the CB was looking for was evidence that the student actually needed extended time. This was done in several ways. The first was straight processing speed on the WISC. Apparently they were looking for a score below the 2nd percentile. They also wanted to see a discrepancy between achievement and fluency. So, for example, my son's WJ math problem solving score was at the 99+th percentile, while his math fluency was at the 5th percentile. Another thing they did was to give a reading comprehension test under both regular timing conditions and with extended time. Because he is gifted, they had to use a test that was hard enough so that there would be a discrepancy between the two. The test they used was the Nelson Denny, which contains college level material. He was at the 50th percentile timed and 97th percentile with extended time. It was also suggested to us not to have him take any CB tests without accommodations prior to asking for them because if the CB saw that he was able to score in the average range without accommodations, they would probably deny our request.

I'm sorry. Like I said, hit and miss. I got a $75 Japanese dictionary for $4, a $150 curriculum for $7, and gotten scammed. I think it's worth it if you average it.

Do you have testing that shows more than two standard deviations between his processing speed and his scores on other submeasures? That may be helpful.

I agree with @lewelma. Mine was certainly lacking in all skills other than academic and has been learning slowly. Now almost finishing up his freshman year, he can do a lot he wasn’t able when he started out (from vacuuming to attending an office hour). He hasn’t been away from home prior to college.

The first comment… “People would believe me if I said I was attacked by a bear.”

Good morning! I was awake most of the night again so brain is not quite functioning. The idiot brush truck just sped by my house without taking the branches I had out for them. Why were they driving so fast? 😡 Little Pup got ahold of Big Pup's harness and chewed off the buckle 🙄 There are probably things I need to be doing but I haven't yet had enough Coffee!

First, I should say I cry easily over movies and books. I just watched the trailer and it made me teary eyed. Can't wait to watch the whole movie. Thanks for the rec.

There’s a TikTok going around asking if a man would rather leave his daughter alone in the woods with a man or a bear. The conversation afterwards about how women feel daily, even with something as mundane as walking to their cars at night, is fascinating. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPRwjunUa/

A couple stretches that help me. First, back up to your kitchen sink. Keeping upright, not arching back, lean your upper body over the sink. The goal is stretching the muscles along the front of your spine. It’s a subtle movement, 1 or 2”, and when you find it, repeat. It’s remarkably effective. For the second you need a higher backed upholstered chair or sofa. Back up to the seat, preferably near an arm to grab for balance. While standing, raise one foot behind you so your foot or ankle is up wear your head rests. Lean in, so your knee rests on the seat where it meets the back. Lean forward so your chest is towards the floor. This is a really effective hip flexor stretch for the leg behind you, and a decent glute stretch for the weight bearing leg. The two combined usually give me quick relief.

Ds has a high score for our state, and we are confident that he will be a semifinalist, but nothing yet. I've been obsessively checking college forums to see if the initial letters recognizing Commended+ students have been sent out, without much success. His College Board account states that he meets eligibility requirements. (There's a chance that the HS where he tested registered him as one of their students instead of using the homeschool code, so I wouldn't be recognized as the principal)

I don't see that our right to even consider traditional roles has been abrogated. I'm a pretty rabid feminist who made the choice of a traditional role, homeschooling, etc.. The difference made by the women's movement is that I had the choice versus not having the choice. If it hadn't worked out I have an escape hatch, courtesy of the women's movement, to get a job, run a business, have a credit card, etc.

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I wonder if it's more expensive for them to take it back as a return than to just send it to you. I've had used book errors where they refunded the money but told me to keep the book.

I seriously thought I had covered all my bases. I have a kiddo with dyslexia, adhd, autism, and dysgraphia. I did my paper trail: I have multiple neuropsych evals, dyslexia assessments, etc. I have notes from a multiple psychologists recommending educational accommodations, particularly extra time on tests (for the dyslexia and adhd) and a testing environment with fewer distractions (for the adhd and autism). I submitted all of it to the College Board, even highlighting the relevant recommendations, and they wrote me back saying it was insufficient to qualify for the requested accommodations, and what I NEED to submit is timed academic scores in different subjects, RTI reports, detailed teacher evaluations or surveys, performance reports, etc. It feels almost like they want to deny him because he's bright and he's not "failing" his IQ testing, despite having very clear deficits in attention and phonological stuff related to the dyslexia. And I don't have the requested reports and tests from schools or teachers, of course, because we homeschool. I worked hard to get all my ducks in a row for the last ten years, and I confess I'm pretty discouraged at feeling like he won't actually have a fair shot at performing to his potential. I've no doubt he'll still do "well enough" without any accommodations, but it doesn't seem fair. Any suggestions for what we can submit in order to argue our case?