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  2. Thats’s not critical. It’s incredibly helpful. Thanks. You gave me good advice.
  3. She sounds sad. And 81 years old, I would imagine she is tired. I only wish I could go back in time and have more sympathy for my mom when she would be down like this. If I were you, I would have compassion. I am only in my 50's, but I have felt the slow down in the last couple years. It is really getting me down and I think I am finally "getting it" on how much more I should have been patient and compassionate. It is too late for me with my parents, but you still have time.
  4. I think you're doing just fine with your difficult person. You still come around, but you limit exposure and refuse to buy in to her worldview. I know it bugs you, and it might always be that way because you don't have the same worldview. Good for you. You might come up with a catchphrase to repeat, just like the complaining about age/everything is her catchphrase. "Yes, Mom, I see that getting older has been hard for you." or "Yes mom, I see that it has been difficult for you to age gracefully."(might be a touch snarky). Or, "I see that going out in the rain has been stressful for you." She's trying to pin the difficulty with aging (or anything she complains about) on you. I'd put it right back on her. That it's her difficulty. She won't change, and you may not want to engage, but it might help you deal with her.
  5. Here, most cardiac patients have shorter hospital stays & do go home and then do outpatient rehab. The sternum has to begin to heal before they can do extensive exercise. The cardiologist told my husband that the “broken bone” takes longer to heal than any other aspect of the surgery. We are blessed to live in an area with great hospitals and rehabilitation programs. Following his bypass surgery, DH spent less than 24 hours in CTICU, then 2 1/2 days on cardiac intermediate care, then discharge to home. He started outpatient cardiac rehab several weeks later. For non-cardiac events, the rehab process often begins much more quickly as they aren’t waiting for bones to heal. A good deal of the time they are targeting brain function, where access to early therapy is important.
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  7. I would guess it depends on when your student gets to the Advanced Mathematics text. If it is in the senior year, then that might be a problem for achieving a tippy top SAT score. That said, the vast majority of tippy top scorers are going to be doing calculus in their junior or senior year, so perhaps if a student without Advanced Math has the material through Saxon Algebra II down solidly, that might make up for a lack of knowledge of certain topics. If your daughter struggles with math, I'd use what works for her and not worry about the SAT. You're not looking for a tippy top score in this case, just a score that reflects her ability. Note that if you're expecting her to learn the math on her own with a textbook (any textbook), that is probably contributing significantly to her struggles.
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  9. I think you would benefit by not taking anything she says personally. No, she’s not kind to you. She never has been and she isn’t going to start now. This is going to sound like I’m criticizing your posting, but I’m not, I promise. Over and over you post threads that are “Can you believe my mother did/said ______. Yes, we all can believe it, because that’s who she is. It’s glaringly obvious to anyone who reads your threads. I hope that you will get to the point where you don’t post this type of thread, NOT because it’s wrong that you’re doing it now but because you’ve made it to the point that you no longer need reassurance that she’s the one who’s “off” not you. My hope for you is that someday when she says these things you will snort to yourself “pfft, there she goes again” and have forgotten it by the time you get home and could post about it. Her nonsense doesn’t deserve the space it’s taking up in your heart.
  10. I was thinking he’d go to a step down unit first for a bit, not be discharged directly from ICU to a rehab. I know when my grandmother went to rehab nobody would accept her straight from home; she had to be in the hospital for a few days to get accepted. Rehabs in my area at least are all in skilled nursing homes and don’t provide much actual medical care; mostly strengthening and reconditioning to get the patient ready to return home after a significant medical event or surgery. I was thinking inpatient rehab; outpatient rehab is different and often doesn’t start until the patient has been home a week or two. But if the OP’s dad isn’t really moving much at all, inpatient rehab at might be appropriate.
  11. My mom was a bit like this. Do you remember that Debbie Downer character from Saturday Night Live? That was her exactly. ((hugs)) As she got older and meaner, the things I said to myself when I absolutely had to deal with her were "I can be kind. I can be kind." I only saw her or talked to her when I absolutely had to. Unfortunately, that was doctor appointments as dad couldn't drive her anymore, and she couldn't drive herself. She's dead now. Things are better.
  12. Good morning! Little Pup threw up his dinner on the front porch last night and some animal cleaned it up for us in the night. I'm guessing opossum. I think our little bunny Hazel is not long for this world. She's quite elderly. Her brother died a year and a half ago. Some People have left for tutorial, others will leave soon for work, and I will be home looking for our eclipse glasses. Coffee!
  13. I’m taking notes and paying attention to how mom’s negativity is affecting me. I find myself thinking …well, mom, you may not be around to see, but I will take care of myself and stay strong. I will get outside even if it’s hard. I will do what I can to stay active for as long as possible as I am able. You will not be able to say I told you so, even if only in my head, as long as I can do things to keep healthy. Yes, I am going out in this rain. In this heat. In this school traffic. And I will most likely be ok. There is no reason to let rain or anything else keep me inside. Mom, you have said many bad things about this person. But I am going to ignore that because you are not a reliable source. I am going to give this person the benefit of the doubt unless or when I see these things for myself.
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  15. DS worked scout camp. His most used items that summer were these. I'm not going to link things because his is 15 years old/bought in other countries. A good camp chair. Something with support that doesn't sag. Youngest ds had his eye on one that also came with a matching table (roll up top of hard slats, not fabric) A silk sleeping bag insert. It gets hot in the summer. The silk was breathable enough for him to be comfortable but also retained just enough heat. It was quick wash, quick dry. Microfiber towels - 3 of them. Again, quick wash, quick dry. One for bathing, one for swimming, one to alternate if they were being washed. Mosquito netting. Especially if she has a bunk or wants to create an extension of the tent as an outdoor spot, it's really useful. A thin welcome mat. I think ds got his at one of the dollar places, but we use a berber carpet style one for family camping inside the tent and a more rubbery one outside. There needs to be a place for muddy shoes that's not in the weather and not getting the tent filthy. Organizational containers. I bought ones like this from Ikea a long time ago, except ours are red/blue/green. They're about the size of shoe boxes, zipper bottom to lie flat, and are nylon to help keep from absorbing water. I bought them about 12 years ago, they're still going strong. In fact, they'll be used quite a bit this summer: family vacation and two different summer camps. It's nice to have something to store all the little things and keep the floor neat, and not have to drag out the trunk or bag each time. Lights. ALL THE LIGHTS. Bonus if you can get some solar power in there, too. The garden stakes with solar lights? They're perfect to mark the lines of the tent and keep folks from tripping.
  16. This is so true. I have physical limitations that I am constantly trying to improve, and if I ever get to where I can hike for miles without pain….well, I have told myself many times how I would waste no time on minor discomforts such as rain if I were physically free from my limitations. I would be too happy and joyous to let that stop me. 🙂 My mom does not go out in the rain. If she knows, even now, that I am, she might say, “But it’s raining. Why don’t you go tomorrow?” (This is why I could never leave the house much as a teen. Always some reason….weather, traffic, etc. why I could not go out). Today I still have an appreciation for being able to leave my house in whatever conditions or situations I need to or want to …at my own free will. Sometimes I think….yep, it’s raining! And look! I’m going out to the store and no one is going to stop me!
  17. Yes, they are different. What you’re describing is just part of what we call recovery in the US. Every patient I’m in a hospital gets appropriate nutrition, therapies and general exercise. However, hospitalization here is very short for most illnesses and procedures, so when they go home, patients still spend time recovering at home. Here, rehab is an intensive program undertaken following a hospitalization for a major event, such as a stroke, amputation, joint replacement, extensively long hospitalization or, like the OP, heart surgery. It can be inpatient, with the person staying at the rehab facility or outpatient, with the patient commuting from their own home. Rehab is a formal program with more PT, OT and ST than is an available in the hospital, and a social worker is sometimes involved as well. The purpose of it is to restore strength and function as close to the level that the patient had before their health event as possible. Patients are monitored closely by nurses, therapists and other aids, as well as electronic monitors (like heart monitors) as needed. Rehab programs last anywhere from a week to several months depending on what the patient needs, how well they progress toward their goals and what their insurance will pay for.
  18. Ive read comments on a few blogs that state the child will not have learned the necessary geometry in time. I guess most of geometry isn't learned until the Advanced Mathematics course. I'm. not certain of this, so I was wondering if anyone had any knowledge or experience with this. Also, my daughter really dislikes Saxon so I was considering my options anyway.
  19. I agree. I argued with Dh because I thought it all came down from watching the video.
  20. Well, I am glad to hear that but still looked awfully dramatic.
  21. Yes she has always complained. I don’t know whether she is actually depressed. She is not very receptive to treatment for her anxiety, and, if she were depressed, she would be dismissive of treatment for that, too. I have tried to have a few conversations with her about trying some anxiety meds. She won’t.
  22. I thought it all came down too but this shows that only a section did. https://www.cnn.com/2024/03/28/us/visuals-maps-key-bridge-ship-collapse-dg/index.html
  23. Good morning! Regular day here, mostly. Dd will be home for the weekend today. Wash Dd’s bed linens and remake the bed WITH the dig blanket on it. Prayer group Figure out dinner. Maybe Mexican bc I have avocados that need to be guacamole! Electronic chores - early! One important thing has a deadline this morning. Pick up boy from school. Take him to practice. There’s almost an hour in between, so he has time to change and get a snack. Read
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