SparklyUnicorn Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 I don't require much attention or watering. I'm kinda like a cactus. But lately my gawd he's been working way too much. At least his boss noticed and he earned 2 extra days off vacation. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEmama Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 Boo for being overworked, yay for extra vacation time! Where are you going to go? ;) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted February 23, 2018 Author Share Posted February 23, 2018 Boo for being overworked, yay for extra vacation time! Where are you going to go? ;) Oh I dunno if we'll go anywhere. That's the sort of thing that makes him happy though. More time off (not more money). 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 I figured you were going to follow it up with AND IT'S COSTING HIM BIG TIME. Go travel with all that money he's been earning being all workaholic. Go on a cruise. Or go buy something and take up a new hobby. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 (edited) I remember the years when DH was on the church board, his job got suddenly extremely stressful, the kids were small and clingy, and he was working on his master's degree. We were hard pressed to find the 60 minutes each week to watch Doctor Who together. We had to skip it every couple of weeks because he just Did Not have 60 minutes each week that he could give to me. :( During those 3 years, I learned to entertain myself and started enjoying my alone time. A lot. Do try your best to keep the connection going so that you aren't forced to grow apart in your interests like I was. It was hard on the marriage once his time was freed up again because I was used to doing things by myself and had trouble adding him into my day. Edited February 23, 2018 by Garga 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arcadia Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 At least his boss noticed and he earned 2 extra days off vacation. At least he has a considerate boss :) My husband’s boss remembers that we want to relocate and we might get a chance to do an internal transfer from a HCOL area to another HCOL area :lol: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 I remember the years when DH was on the church board, his job got suddenly extremely stressful, the kids were small and clingy, and he was working on his master's degree. We were hard pressed to find the 60 minutes each week to watch Doctor Who together. We had to skip it every couple of weeks because he just Did Not have 60 minutes each week that he could give to me. :( During those 3 years, I learned to entertain myself and started enjoying my alone time. A lot. Do try your best to keep the connection going so that you aren't forced to grow apart in your interests like I was. It was hard on the marriage once his time was freed up again because I was used to doing things by myself and had trouble adding him into my day. Yep. I love my husband and our marriage is solid, but he has been really busy for a long time, and when he has a break and wants to spend time with me I'm like, no, sorry, I've got a book I want to read. I don't say that out loud, and I do enjoy spending the time with him, but it's hard for me to make the adjustment. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted February 23, 2018 Author Share Posted February 23, 2018 I remember the years when DH was on the church board, his job got suddenly extremely stressful, the kids were small and clingy, and he was working on his master's degree. We were hard pressed to find the 60 minutes each week to watch Doctor Who together. We had to skip it every couple of weeks because he just Did Not have 60 minutes each week that he could give to me. :( During those 3 years, I learned to entertain myself and started enjoying my alone time. A lot. Do try your best to keep the connection going so that you aren't forced to grow apart in your interests like I was. It was hard on the marriage once his time was freed up again because I was used to doing things by myself and had trouble adding him into my day. Oh yeah when this would happen when the kids were little? Oh forget about it. I told him NO. Seriously...no. Not fair. I don't need to be entertained, but I am not a machine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 I feel ya. Dh's assistant priest retired, so he's solo with a minimum of help two times every two weeks for the next 6 months till he can hire someone. Sucks. Will your hubs take the two days soon? Does he want to be with you, or does he need the downtime alone? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted February 23, 2018 Author Share Posted February 23, 2018 I feel ya. Dh's assistant priest retired, so he's solo with a minimum of help two times every two weeks for the next 6 months till he can hire someone. Sucks. Will your hubs take the two days soon? Does he want to be with you, or does he need the downtime alone? I don't know when he'll take time off. He gets 5 weeks. He always wants to be with me, but we mostly engage in parallel play. :lol: 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 I don't know when he'll take time off. He gets 5 weeks. He always wants to be with me, but we mostly engage in parallel play. :lol: :smilielol5: That made me really laugh. I just took a test this past week that included types of play, and I've been doing early childhood observations and have had to note that, so you're comment gave me a big laugh. My dh, who has been working on several extra, out of job projects, as well as developing a possible new aspect to his current job, asked me if I thought he should serve (again. He had done it in the past) on a non-profit board. :tongue_smilie: :thumbdown: I said no, and he proceeded to try and convince me. He came back to it every hour. All night long. I am standing my ground on it. I'm in school full time and we still have these kids.......... :laugh: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kanin Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 My DH is extremely busy too. It's hard in two ways, hard because you feel sympathy that he's working such long hours, and hard because you feel lonely. It sucks! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kanin Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 My DH is extremely busy too. It's hard in two ways, hard because you feel sympathy that he's working such long hours, and hard because you feel lonely. It sucks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgiana Daniels Posted February 24, 2018 Share Posted February 24, 2018 (edited) Right there with you! We've been living apart since hubby's job transferred him to a new town, then once the kids and I sold the house and moved to be with him, the job basically transferred him back to our old town. Poor hubby has been living in a hotel since July. It was supposed to come to an end this week, but they want him another week and last night I was so furious that I let it all hang out. Hubby talked to the big-big boss today and he gets a few days off the week after next. Big whoop. But yeah....for the last 4 months we've started a new life in a new town without him, except for weekends. Trying to fit him into our life/schedule when he does have the occasional weekday off and is in the same town as us has been....odd. Man, I miss that great guy of mine. Edited February 24, 2018 by Georgiana Daniels Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarbecueMom Posted February 24, 2018 Share Posted February 24, 2018 Yeah, I asked DH when his work schedule would be light enough to take time off. He said, "September?" Uggggggh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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