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#51 chiguirre

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 05:33 PM

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 05:33 PM

:grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:  It's horrible and I'm so sorry.  When you can, update with what results you find out.  I'm wondering if the poor horse inhaled something it couldn't dislodge.  :grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:

 

 

Oh goodness, I am so sorry. My heart just goes out to you, your dd, and your poor horse. :grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug: What an awful heartbreak.

 

Horses are such fragile creatures and it can all go wrong in the blink of an eye.

 

Do you know what happened to him?

 

My horse colicked and died when I was 15 and it was so traumatic that it took me years to get another horse.

 

We aren't going to do a post-mort, because, well he was at least 20 (people we bought him from forged the vet papers and that was our vet's best estimate) and we just can't justify the $$. But my non-professional opinion though is that he colicked and ruptured. He's a chronic cribber, and on top of that the weather changes this time of year are always hard on him, but usually I can give him Banamine and walk him and he's okay. Two years ago this month we had a bad spell where the vet was up here most of the night and there were NG tubes and all that fun stuff, but he still came out fine, and I want to say we've gone over 6 months since his last spell. I put him on Purina Senior and it really seemed to help a lot........

 

But it just happened so fast today I'm guessing he ruptured- judging by what was coming out of his nose. He was fine and eating at 9:30am-ish and when I walked by the window around noon he was down. He died while I was on the phone with vet, so there was nothing they'd have been able to do anyway. 

 

I think my dd is holding it together now, but I'm taking her up to our old barn tomorrow to talk to her old instructor. Sometimes someone else telling you it's not your fault is better than your Mom saying it. Like you're saying Selkie, it was so traumatic. I've had a horse die of old age before, but it was nothing like this. 

 

Now I have my one left and I'm wondering what the heck we're going to do with him. He's Mr. Social, but I don't know if I can go through buying another horse again. But today, or this week it's the week to make choices either. It always amazes me how they know though. My daughter sat vigil over Ranger while we waited for them to come bury him and my horse came and stood next to her and would nuzzle and paw at his pasture mate. I think that made me cry as hard as seeing my dd cry. 


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Posted 13 February 2018 - 05:34 PM

I’m so sorry. Lots of grieving in TX today. We put my DD’s dog down this morning. It’s so hard for the kids, even harder when you feel like your responsible somehow. I hope your DD can find some peace.

Stefanie

 

I'm so sorry about your dog too.     :grouphug:



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 05:36 PM

Thank you all for the kind words and the hugs. They mean a lot. 


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Posted 13 February 2018 - 05:40 PM

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 05:58 PM

Oh, so sad. I hope your dd knows that it was just his time to go and there was absolutely nothing she could have done to save him. :grouphug:

 

It's so hard, though. I always struggle with feelings of guilt when one of my animals dies. They're so dependent on us for their well-being, and it feels horrible when we can't help them. :crying:


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#57 cintinative

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 06:33 PM

So very sorry. 



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 07:08 PM

I'm so sorry for you and your dd to have to go through this!

 

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 07:08 PM

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 07:14 PM

I am SO sorry. We lost our old mare this past year and I sobbed for days. We had her since my dd was 10yo so it was like a piece of her life was gone. Her heart was broken.

I’m so sorry it was awful. We didn’t have that to contend with, but I was with my sister a few weeks ago when she had to put hers down after a painful colic. It’s just heartbreaking.

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 07:20 PM

How horrible and sad for your family, especially your sweet daughter.  Sending much love and many hugs.....I am very sorry for your loss.



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 07:38 PM

We aren't going to do a post-mort, because, well he was at least 20  

 

I completely understand and thanks for the update.  It is so terribly hard when we lose them, esp when it's so sudden.  It takes a long time to get over a loss and I'm not sure it's ever 100% "over."  :grouphug:


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Posted 13 February 2018 - 07:38 PM

I am so, so sorry. Many hugs and love from here to there. I wish I could sit quietly with you and her. Please know that I am doing so in my heart.  :grouphug:


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Posted 13 February 2018 - 08:00 PM

I'm so sorry!   :grouphug:



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 08:02 PM

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 08:06 PM

Oh, I am so sorry.   :grouphug: to you and your daughter.



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 08:10 PM

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 08:44 PM

I’m so sorry. That’s awful. Big hugs.

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 09:33 PM

Oh man. Sounds like this was sudden and unexpected. 

 

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I had to euthanize my old guy and fell just next to him on the ground crying after the vet did her thing. 

 

So sorry. We have the privilege to enjoy the wonders, love and closeness of caring for such an awesome animal and with it comes the deep pain of losing them.


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Posted 13 February 2018 - 09:33 PM

I’m so, so sorry. My older two have their own horses and I so worry about how hard it will be when the inevitable eventually happens. Heartbreaking. I’m sorry it was so sudden and traumatic. Hugs to your dd.

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 09:37 PM

I’m sorry. It must have been terrible to watch and be helpless. 😔

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 09:38 PM

I am so sorry. :grouphug: Every time we lose an animal here, whether it’s a chicken or dog or whatever, I ask myself why we have animals at all, because it sucks so much to lose them. But they are worth it, of course. I will be praying for your family. Be gentle with yourselves for the next few days. :grouphug:
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Posted 13 February 2018 - 09:40 PM

I am so, so sorry. Many hugs and love from here to there. I wish I could sit quietly with you and her. Please know that I am doing so in my heart.  :grouphug:

:iagree: Jetta said it better than I could. Please let your dd know that many of us are sending hugs to her. Many hugs to you, too.  :grouphug:



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 09:54 PM

Oh, how terrible. So sad. Your poor girl. I hope the vet could assure her that she bears no blame. Many hugs for your whole family.

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 09:54 PM

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 10:23 PM

I'm sorry. :crying:

 

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 10:23 PM

I’m so sorry.

How old is 20 for a horse?

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 10:36 PM

I am so, so sorry. Many hugs and love from here to there. I wish I could sit quietly with you and her. Please know that I am doing so in my heart.  :grouphug:

 

Thank you Jetta. Although she wasn't in your class that long, we both think the world of you and those words will mean a lot to her. I forwarded her your post. Thank you so much. 


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Posted 13 February 2018 - 10:43 PM

I’m so sorry.

How old is 20 for a horse?

 

It's up there, but not near old enough. :( This is my first horse to die before the age of 28 and the Arabian dd learned to ride on lived to be 34 and was zipping about until the end. I really expected another 6-10 years out of him easily. But that was not meant to be. 

 

I just want to say thanks again everyone. I don't have enough likes to like posts, but please know we've read every single one and I can't say enough about the community here being very real and tangible, especially when there are things like this that happen. Please know we appreciate every single one of you that replied and thank you for the kind words, prayers and good thoughts. 


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Posted 13 February 2018 - 11:18 PM

I’m so very sorry.

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 11:24 PM

It was decades ago, but I'm tearing up just remembering what it was like being a young girl and losing my horse. Prayers for your daughter.  :grouphug:



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 11:25 PM

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Posted 13 February 2018 - 11:31 PM

I’m so sorry.

How old is 20 for a horse?

 

 

It is "older" but I knew several horses closer to 30 than 20.



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Posted 13 February 2018 - 11:42 PM

I’m so sorry she lost her much-loved horse and that she witnessed it. :(

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Posted 14 February 2018 - 12:11 AM

I'm so very, very sorry.  My horses are getting up there and I can't think about losing them (especially my mare) without tearing up.  Hugs to you and your daughter and family.



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Posted 14 February 2018 - 12:19 AM

Oh, I’m so sorry. My best friend’s horse died of colic when we were 14 or 15. It was so sudden. Sending you a lot of love.

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Posted 14 February 2018 - 12:20 AM

Poor kid :(  Survivor's guilt is so hard to deal with and yet a very natural and common reaction to a death in someone you were close to.



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Posted 14 February 2018 - 02:04 AM

 

Now I have my one left and I'm wondering what the heck we're going to do with him. He's Mr. Social, but I don't know if I can go through buying another horse again. But today, or this week it's the week to make choices either. It always amazes me how they know though. My daughter sat vigil over Ranger while we waited for them to come bury him and my horse came and stood next to her and would nuzzle and paw at his pasture mate. I think that made me cry as hard as seeing my dd cry. 

 

 

They have tremendous "insight" or whatever you want to call it. I have worked in therapeutic horseback riding programs and it is nothing short of amazing to see a horse bond with a emotionally or physically impaired human.

And because they are so big, could trample us and bite us terribly but instead choose to put their huge heads in the crook of your arm and let you rub their heads, I always felt privileged to have earned their trust.


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Posted 14 February 2018 - 02:16 AM

I'm so sorry. How sad!

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Posted 14 February 2018 - 05:23 AM

Hugs for both of you. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Posted 14 February 2018 - 06:40 AM

I'm so sorry

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Posted 14 February 2018 - 07:09 AM

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Posted 14 February 2018 - 07:33 AM

:grouphug:   So sorry, that sounds terrible.



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Posted 14 February 2018 - 07:49 AM

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Posted 14 February 2018 - 10:09 AM

I'm so sorry.  :grouphug:

 

I hope your daughter's not still blaming herself. 



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Posted 14 February 2018 - 10:12 AM

:grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug: For you and your daughter. I lost my one and ever horse when I was a teenager, and it still hurts to even think about it. Wounds can be raw for a long time.



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Posted 14 February 2018 - 10:14 AM

This brought tears to my eyes. I'm so sorry for her loss, and for yours. 



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Posted 14 February 2018 - 12:56 PM

Just seeing this.  I'm so sorry.  :grouphug:



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Posted 14 February 2018 - 01:04 PM

:grouphug:  I am so sorry. 



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Posted 14 February 2018 - 03:29 PM

I am so, so sorry. Your poor baby! Please let her know that it's not her fault. It sounds like Ranger was colic-prone, and the sad reality is that it can't always be helped. Even if she had called immediately, it was probably so badly blocked that there was nothing to be done. I don't know that it will help right now, but maybe eventually. And please also tell her that she was very brave to stay by her friend while waiting for him to be buried. It would be understandable for her to run away and hide; for her to stay by him was a lovely thing and probably helped his stablemate tremendously.

 

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