My daughter is 12 and the hormones are hitting hard at our house. She's so easily frustrated lately and then starts crying and then yelling at me and our relationship is starting to suffer from the daily battles over math. The thing is, she's a good math student. She's done BA 3-5 and moved in AoPS prealgebra. We are through Chapter 11 out of 15 and she's done well aside from the drama. Part of it is that she's a perfectionist and is really angry if she can't get the answer right and pretty quickly too. Obviously AoPS is not designed to be that kind of program and we've talked about that too. But you know, hormones and perfectionism and just... She's so angry and I think she's starting to feel like maybe she's not so good at math which is soooo not true. I suggested maybe we take a break from AoPS and we try something else for a little while and she likes the idea. But...

I can't find anything I like. I had a copy of Lials Basic College Mathematics that I thought we'd just fill in the remainder of prealgebra with and move onto algebra. I opened it up to the Chapter on Geometry and we worked a few problems and it is not a good fit for us. This kid wants to know WHY something works and HOW it works which is why Beast Academy and AoPS were a decent fit (thought less so right this moment). We opened it to the chapter on geometry and the lesson for figuring out the area of a Trapezoid can be summarized as: here's the formula. Plug in these numbers and you'll have the area. Here are some problems for you to do. I'm NOT ok with that. And honestly, she's not either. She's not great at memorizing things, even if I were ok with it. That's just not a skill for her and it's never been the way we do math.

So... I own Jousting Armadillos and I gave her all of the chapter tests as a sort of placement and she passed them all 90% or better. I purchased a copy of Foerster's Algebra 1 and I don't like it. It also feels more like memorize this formula, and now plug these numbers in kind of thing, so I'm sending it back. I've already looked at Lials BCM and if the Algebra 1 book follows a similar teaching method, that's out as well. I have Jacob's Algebra and I'm getting ready to take a closer look at it.

I need AoPS but less stressful--Like AoPS light. Does that exist? Please help me. Selling her to the gypsies is out and I can't afford the counseling I'm going to need to get through this as things stand right now.

If you've made it this far, thank you!

Teresa