My daughter is in the 2nd grade. She does very well in school and is somewhat of a perfectionist. She has a spelling test every friday with 15 words. They are required to do 4 spelling activities during the week in their spelling notebook to practice for the test; e.g. write the words on the sidewalk using chalk, type the words with different fonts, etc. One of the activities is a mock spelling test which we always do on thursday night. As part of the activity, they have to write every word they have miss 3 times.
My daughter cries every thursday night unless she spells every word correctly. She doesn't like having to write the misspelled words 3 times.
The teacher has asked me if something is distracting my daughter because she is not doing very well on her spelling tests lately. Before Christmas, she would only misspell one of her words on average. Since coming back from Christmas break, she's misspelled about 5 or 6 words on average. She has misspelled words that she spelled correctly on the mock test and had not issues with through the week. Their words are getting harder to spell; e.g. this week is "eigh" words. This is Catholic school so they always have at least one religion word which are usually hard to spell; e.g. conscience, Reconciliation. She often spells the hard words correctly and misspells the easier words. I think this is because of anxiety. But could also be because the words are getting harder.
I told the teacher that my daughter is doing her spelling activities every night at home and that I think she's anxious during the test. I also told the teacher that she cries every thursday night.
I've not said anything to my daughter about her spelling tests because I don't want her to get more anxious about it. I don't care how she does on her spelling tests in the 2nd grade. But I don't want her to feel nervous and feel bad about herself for missing so many words. She told me the other night that she needs extra help in spelling and could never win the spelling bee.
Any advise to help her deal with her anxiety? Should I continue to play this down or help her to do better on the test so she can get her confidence back? If the best course is to help her to prepare better for the tests, what's the best way to help a young child prepare for a spelling test?