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#1 EmilyGF

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Posted 11 January 2018 - 03:32 PM

Any suggestions for something I could read that might help me get a grasp on my gifted kid who likely has some level of ADHD? (If it helps, I am gifted, too, and, in retrospect, have a lot of the same character traits she has.) 

 

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Posted 11 January 2018 - 03:44 PM

I don't know what you need specifically but the two book, Smart But Scattered and Why Smart People Hurt have helped me tremendously.

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Posted 11 January 2018 - 11:04 PM

It is coming up because we're part of a multi-age coop and DD11 interrupting (ADHD) the high schoolers when they talk about Shakespeare to correct them.

 

So we've got the ADHD thread and the gifted thread causing problems. Basically, at a coop meeting when we were trying to troubleshoot a variety of problems, someone said, "Basically, if we can get your DD11 to toe the line, everything will run much more smoothly." Which is true. I wasn't offended. She interrupts all.the.time and I would hate being the high schooler on the other end. 

 

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Posted 12 January 2018 - 07:23 AM

Ah yes. My oldest is ten and I just don't leave him anywhere. He was in co-op yesterday and I had to remind him thrice in ten minutes that someone else was speaking and everyone was trying to listen to her.

 

Definitely not a long-term solution.

 

I recently referenced this article to help with an ADD adult in my life. It may be helpful.

 

Said ADD adult used to have a teacher that silently made tally marks on the corner of the board every time they interrupted someone in class. Only the two of them knew what she was doing. They briefly spoke every day before class, with the teacher reminding them that interrupting is a problem and telling them that she expected them to do their best to have as low a tally as possible. It helped. They *knew* they shouldn't interrupt, and why, but they couldn't help it. Each time they want to interrupt it's like it's the first time. 

 

At a certain point it gets to be sort of.... as with any kid, all we can do is our best to teach them but they are going to be who they are. So at that point, they just need strategies to get through their days while being as polite as they can be, with the instincts they have. I know for my child, he needs to tell me EVERYTHING, even more so than usual, after a period of needing to sit still and listen to someone. It's crazy to me because the mathematical relationship defies logic :laugh:... If he spends 15 minutes sitting quietly, it somehow ends up with a thirty minute brain dump.  But better he do that with a trusted person all at once, than in class piecemeal.



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Posted 12 January 2018 - 01:18 PM

Not sure if you know, but ADHD is commonly misdiagnosed in the gifted.

 

Short article by James Webb, who studies hundreds of gifted children...

based on his book: Misdiagnosis and Dual Diagnosis of Gifted Children

 

There are a lot of difficult issues with gifted children as a result of their overexcitabilities. (psychomotor, intellectual, sensual, imaginational and emotional). I've read articles that suggests that higher the IQ, the higher number of OE's. I have to say that this is the thing that clinched it for me that my youngest was gifted when he was only 6 months old, and testing bore it out.

 

I didn't realize until I had kids that many of my issues are intertwined with giftedness. Some days, I think it would be nice to be able to block some of it out, and "If this is giftedness, can I regift?"

 

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