I have to delay because I have very little proof of anything and it just looks like a clear cut case of a lazy and neglectful mother right now. :'( besides feeding my kids, which wasnt easy due to special diets, he took all my time and energy.
I have no experience with divorce or abuse, but the highlighted part sounds like your husband has you brainwashed. He likely uses that same statement over and over to describe you, convincing you that's what you are. But what you've told the women here who here is enough for them to tell you to get an attorney. You don't hear them telling you you're lazy and neglectful. Your words on this forum don't sound like a lazy or neglectful mother, they sound like someone who has some things she needs to do to get out of an abusive marriage. Don't believe what he tells you; do what you need to do.