I know the term Aspergers is really not used officially anymore, but I have a quick question for anyone with a gifted child that has aspergers. I have always heard that children with aspergers will fixate on a certain topics like trains, space, etc and want to talk about it all the time. With aspergers, does the topic always stay the same for it to be aspergers? Or can it change? My 5.5 year old son is obviously ADHD (runs in family and its been obvious since he was in my womb), but also shows some other symptoms. He fixates on certain books/stories/shows for a week or few at a time and then switches. Today he interrupted his piano lesson, for example, several times to tell his teacher about characters from Toy Story (his latest fixation). He has also started vocal stimming a lot in the last few months. He spends much of the day chewing his baby blanket. He rubs his mouth with his hand a lot, etc. and other things. Trying to wrap my mind around the fact that my 5.5 year old read five chapter books at the 3rd/4th grade level just last week, but needs a checklist to get dressed! (Checklist just tried today after too much arguing about the need to wear pants in the winter.)
On another note...feeling alone as a parent. Every time I try to talk to someone about what we struggle with at home (which in the big picture is not that bad I know..could be much worse), I get some talk about not labeling or recommending more exercise. I find it very dismissive and condescending at times. (Exercise can't cure ADHD...it might wear out a child without ADHD though..) When I don't label him, I get more frustrated and feel like I am a worse parent for it. When I label him (internally of course), I start to problem-solve, research strategies to help him, have more realistic expectations and am a better parent I think. When someone just tells me, "I just give my son lots of exercise" or "Some kids just need more time to grow up more..." or what have you, it comes across as being condescending as if they are telling me I'm naive and inadequate for feeling overwhelmed by an average child. Anyway...thats my own issue I guess I have to deal with...some people don't like labels and it really helps others I guess. Sometimes my son is so intense at the end of the day my husband and I are just trying to catch our breath...we do have our calmer days too.
Can anyone relate?