My dh’s siblings who are in their 50’s and 60’s are still bitter about their parents who micromanaged their career choices. They have been successful but I am not sure that is all that it’s about.
That's not what it's all about, but pursuing personal interests with no thought to the future is also not necessarily what it's all about. Like most things, a bit of moderation is needed.
Edited to add that The Hokey Pokey is now stuck in my head.
He is truly living the life he dreamed of. He started dreaming of this career when he was about 12, and he is truly living and breathing what he has dreamed of doing. We had out doubts about it since it is a VERY unusual field, but he is thriving.
We're going to need more information that that
I wonder if the lack of trust in young people’s decision making ability is another manifestation of helicopter parenting?
Funny, I think of making those decisions for them as very old-fashioned, something from the olden days!
My stance is that we work it out together, like anything else. Talk about it. Discuss possibilities.
My youngest is a senior who is currently planning on a visual arts major. That's fine, but she knows that we expect a carefully chosen minor at minimum, possibly a second major. She also has to spend some time as a working artist, not just an art student. Why? Because being a working artist is not just about creating art, it's about selling it and promoting yourself as an artist. If you dislike or can't handle some of the ancillary activities, you might as well figure that out now. We are fine with her studying art for her own purposes (and not for a job), but she needs to be learning and exploring as she goes along, not creating art in a bubble for four years and then trying to figure out what to do with it.
Even the most pure and passionate of vocations have practical sides to deal with. If you love history and want to research instead of teach, you will need to actively seek funding. Constantly. You will need to deal with the same politics that go on in any office. If you want to work in theater, you have to build your connections just as you would in the business community. You have to look at all aspects of the job. You can be a fantastically talented singer, but if you hate staying up late or traveling, you're going to have a hard time of it, lol.
If a student does not have to work long hours, a double major or carefully selected minors are very doable in most cases. I've seen many students work long hours while in school full-time, sometimes full-time work AND full-time school, so I'm not super-patient with people who insist they must do Impractical Major only.
Edited by katilac, 07 December 2017 - 06:28 PM.