SquirrellyMama Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I really don't like my kids' choir concerts. I'm sure it makes me a horrible person. I can't understand the words when more than 5 or 6 people are singing. They also hold your kids hostage so you can't leave when your child is done :( I don't care if other people leave when their kid is done. I get it. My child is special to me, not them. And, tonight's concert is combination of 2 districts. I was so excited that it was only going to be 6th and 7th grade. Then I get here and find out there is another school district singing with them. That'll add another 45 minutes to my torture. Anyway, I'm a whiner tonight. There must be someone else who doesn't like these things. I can handle dance recitals, plays, swim meets, cross country meets, but not their choir concerts. I brought a book to read. I'm going to sit in the back. I like listening to music while I read. Maybe it will help. I never bring a camera so I'm not going to miss out on pictures. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I know the waiting is a pain. I've BTDT. However, the kids are giving a performance. You may not care about someone else's kid. Someone else may not care about your kid. But the kids ALL get an opportunity to perform in front of a group. If everyone left with their kid, the last few would be performing in front of no one and that's not a great experience. But yeah, it's hard to sit politely. I'd go for sit in back. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SquirrellyMama Posted November 15, 2017 Author Share Posted November 15, 2017 It probably doesn't help that I'm not at all musical. I'm here, I'll smile and clap politely. I promise I'll be nice :) Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 (edited) I am not a particular fan of most children's choir concerts because, frankly, most of them aren't very good. Choral music is wonderful when performed by a strong ensemble and quite torturous when performed by a poorly trained group. A good children's choir will work on diction so that words should be understandable to the audience. However, I need to weigh in on the leaving when your kid is done. It is good that your organization does not permit kids to leave, for two reasons: first, it is incredibly disruptive to performers when people continuously get up and leave. It is very hard to keep focus, especially with young performers, but even for adults. It's just rude. Second, even the last group performing deserves to have an audience. That's the point of a public performance. It is very demoralizing when the last group performs only for their own parents. ETA: Reading a book is fine for a young child who cannot keep quiet otherwise and needs to be distracted. An adult reading a book during a concert sends the very tangible message that they don't give a fig for the performance. It's not very nice towards the people on stage. Edited November 15, 2017 by regentrude 19 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 Yeah, I get it. I don't like those things either. Agreeing with those who say there are good reasons that everyone is asked to stay till the end. Everyone watches everyone else; that's just the way it goes. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth86 Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I haven't been to a choir concert, bit I definitely see your point. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wendy not in HI Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 That's why I started knitting. Orchestra concerts that go on for.e.ver! At one point I had multiple concerts at 3 different schools for orchestra, band and choir. How did I survive??? I've got a simple project on my needles ready for upcoming holiday concerts. Best wishes!! 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SquirrellyMama Posted November 15, 2017 Author Share Posted November 15, 2017 I get why everyone has to stay, and I will. I found a neighbor and chatted with him for a while, and I feel better. I apparently hadn't talked enough today :) Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SquirrellyMama Posted November 15, 2017 Author Share Posted November 15, 2017 (edited) Although, if they let people leave, getting out of the parking lot would be easier. My dd is in 7th so she'll sing last. All those 6th grade parents would be gone :) I know, I know, I'm being selfish. Kelly Edited November 15, 2017 by SquirrellyMama Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SamanthaCarter Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 (edited) If you can't understand, the choir hasnt been properly trained in diction. It should be enjoyable. Edited November 15, 2017 by SamanthaCarter Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Tick Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 Aww, Squirrelly, I get you. I felt the same way at our last piano recital. It was a sad revelation, "Wait a minute, I don't enjoy this one bit!" I felt like scum of course, but once the revelation has occurred it can't be un-revealed. Good tip about getting in enough talking before the show. Hang in there! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 Aww, that’s too bad. When my DD was in a choral group, going to the performances was literally one of my favorite things that happened all year. The singing was SO beautiful, it would bring tears to my eyes. I also assist with a homeschool chorus now and hearing the kids sing makes me tremendously happy, even though I no longer have a singer of my own. Now -if you want to talk about going to WRESTLING TOURNIES, where you had to wait six hours for your own child to wrestle for two minutes, then okay, I’m with you there. I hated that a lot. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theelfqueen Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 But I love wrestling and martial arts tournaments and choir concerts (I'm the vocalist in my house lol but DH is not a fan ... I require him to attend anyway lol) Middle school band I could do without but I like orchestra in general. My son's fiancee is an instrumental performance major - single player recitals are not my favorite. Sent from my SM-G930V using Tapatalk 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I used to dread my kids' band concerts. They just felt so long and boring to me and all the parents were jammed together in a hot gym on uncomfortable bleachers. I am relieved we are done with those! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teachermom2834 Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I have not been through the band and choral performances but I am there with dance recitals. First hour is fine, second hour I get antsy. Every minute over two hours I am increasingly cranky. Why are they so very long? My dd dances, my nieces dance, friends invite us to recitals. It is a lot for something I am not very interested in beyond supporting loved ones. I am going to my first Nutcracker of the season this weekend. I don't know how many Nutcrackers I have watched and I've got probably 15 more years at least :) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emzhengjiu Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 My daughter sings with a large chorus with 6 different levels. Even though they perform in a concert hall, sitting through all of it gets hard with multiple performances each year. I volunteered originally to chaperon because additional adult help was really needed, but now I'm so glad. A side benefit to chaperoning is keeping busy until my daughter's chorus is on stage! Chaperons have reserved seats near the stage, too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I love choir concerts and go to many. However, I don't care for them when they are super long. And school concerts can be kinda "meh". It would be very rude to leave early though. So that they don't allow that I absolutely get. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I don't like concerts much either, especially if my child has already performed, I have a bunch of wiggly kids with me, and the concert lasts two hours. Plus, it's an hour drive home and the littles are up way past their bedtime. I think we have snuck out an intermission a time or two. :leaving: I also hate when they have an Ensemble of Everyone as the last piece. The kids perform for 10 minutes and then have to wait for over an hour to sing We Wish You a Merry Christmas. :svengo: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 (edited) When they were smaller, my kids participated in our church's Christmas Eve concert mass. Day of the 4pm mass, we had to have the kids there by 2:30 (they did more practice and had snacks before performing). Every parent got there starting at 2pm....to be sure to grab a pew and throw down coats to hold it, then after checking kids in downstairs Mom, Dad or a grandparent or grumpy teen had to sit with the coats to hold the space. By 3pm most of the pews were filled by space-savers and early birds, as this mass was the most popular time-wise AND thanks to all the families attending since their kids were in it, jammed-backed. Anyone showing up by 3:30 had to stand. Hubby would come with our boys (only the girls wanted to be in the kid choir) at 3:30 as otherwise it got too hard to hold their seats. OK. I have been sitting in church since 2pm. Boys are cranky about being there half an hour early. Tensions are rising as folks who thought they could stroll in at 3:55 and get a seat (as they could most other Saturdays) are cranky they have to stand. Then lights dim, candles are lit, Mass starts, and it is very long since so many songs are stuck in. Thing is, NONE of the songs are familiar - I think the person running the show wrote half of them - and they are slooooow. Kids act out Nativity - that is always good, can't go wrong with a kid's Nativity - then more sloooow songs, sung in monotones, and finally it ends - and THEN the kids finally sing a proper Christmas carol - Joy to the World. Everyone joins in, and then we rush home to check NORAD. Edited November 15, 2017 by JFSinIL 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluegoat Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I find some of these difficult as well - to me it mostly comes down to, the kids aren't very good yet. Violin concerts of beginners are the ones I dread the most. Ugh, it is an instrument that sounds like a dying cat if you don't play well. 100 of th little darlings in unison is 100 dying cats. I think in many cases, the other problem is the concerts are longer than is really optimal. Two hours is great for something that really is holding your attention and the seats are comfortable. Beyond that it is touchy. About an hour for very amateur presentations or bad chairs. But I know it's difficult for the organizers. My son's ballet school has divided its end of year show in two to keep down the length, and it still runs to a little over two hours. And it would be difficult to fit three shows in a day, so dividing it again would get complicated. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiguirre Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 When they were smaller, my kids participated in our churches Christmas Eve concert mass. Day of the 4pm mass, we had to have the kids there by 2:30 (they did more practice and had snacks before performing). Every parent got there starting at 2pm....to be sure to grab a pew and throw down coats to hold it, then after checking kids in downstairs Mom, Dad or a grandparent or grumpy teen had to sit with the coats to hold the space. By 3pm most of the pews were so filled by space-savers and early birds, as this mass was the most popular time-wise AND thanks to all the families attending since their kids were in it, jammed-backed. Anyone showing up by 3:30 had to stand. Hubby would come with our boys (only the girls wanted to be in the kid choir) at 3:30 as otherwise it got too hard to hold their seats. OK. I have been sitting in church since 2pm. Boys are cranky about being there half an hour early. Tensions are rising as folks who thought they could stroll in at 3:55 and get a seat (as they could most other Saturdays) are cranky they have to stand. Then lights dim, candles are lit, Mass starts, and it is very long since so many songs are stuck in. Thing is, NONE of the songs are familiar - I think the person running the show wrote half of them - and they are slooooow. Kids act out Nativity - that is always good, can't go wrong with a kid's Nativity - then more sloooow songs, sung in monotones, and finally it ends - and THEN the kids finally sing a proper Christmas carol - Joy to the World. Everyone joins in, and then we rush home to check NORAD. I know you live in another state far, far away, but you've described my parish's Christmas Eve Mass to perfection even down to the timing. Do you think it's actually mandated by the USCCB? (I am so glad Trinqueta has moved up to the adult choir!) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SamanthaCarter Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 (edited) I find myself wondering what these recitals are for. I accidentally found myself at one last year because it was branded as the end of year ceremony for co-op. My kid was in one class (IEW). I sat there for over two hours trying to keep the two younger kids still while we listened to little kids play hot cross buns and twinkle twinkle little star, and voice students sing badly to overproduced recorded accompaniment. What was the point? Same with ballet and tap, why get 4, 5, and 6 year olds up there in overpriced outfits to show almost zero skill? I feel like we are not encouraging excellence with this type of stuff. (I'm not including competitions btw, like wrestling, swimming that type of thing, I get that.) Edited November 15, 2017 by SamanthaCarter 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vonfirmath Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 (edited) My parents are NOT sports fans at all. They went to 6 years of football games because my sister or I was playing in the band. (And two of those years there were extra games because the football team went to playoffs -- at least once all the way to state and we got to march in the Astrodome. Edited November 15, 2017 by vonfirmath Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I find myself wondering what these recitals are for. I accidentally found myself at one last year because it was branded as the end of year ceremony for co-op. My kid was in one class (IEW). I sat there for over two hours trying to keep the two younger kids still while we listened to little kids play hot cross buns and twinkle twinkle little star, and voice students sing badly to overproduced recorded accompaniment. What was the point? Same with ballet and tap, why get 4, 5, and 6 year olds up there in overpriced outfits to show almost zero skill? I feel like we are not encouraging excellence with this type of stuff. Recitals are a way to get children used to public performance give a goal and motivation provide feedback from an audience give a sense of community when they are included in a mixed age ensemble performance provide role models The instructor should encourage excellence by setting high, age appropriate standards. Yes, the young singers group of age 5-8 will never sounds as good as the auditioned children's choir of ages 10-14, which probably won't sound as good as the collegiate level choir. But it is important that the younger singers have an opportunity to perform and experience the benefits. If instructors do not teach students to perform at an (age appropriate) strong level, use expensive costumes or low quality accompaniment, it is the instructor's fault. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmilyGF Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 What I dislike more than choir concerts is dance recitals... Man, that was one terrible day. And it cost $20/ticket. Ouch. We quit dance after that. Emily Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrissiK Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 (edited) I know the waiting is a pain. I've BTDT. However, the kids are giving a performance. You may not care about someone else's kid. Someone else may not care about your kid. But the kids ALL get an opportunity to perform in front of a group. If everyone left with their kid, the last few would be performing in front of no one and that's not a great experience. But yeah, it's hard to sit politely. I'd go for sit in back. I agree. I've sat through a 2 hour recital for a music school my kid was in and about tore my hair out. But I think it's a good discipline to develop to be able to sit politely and respectfully, even when you are bored out of your mind. Patience is a virtue that is not developed at all in our society... We are not patient with each other, we do not give each other grace and forbearance. It is rude to walk out of a performance before it is done unless you are sick or have a coughing fit, and I hate to get on a soapbox, but it's these little attitudes, these small demonstrations of rudeness that added all together make a society such as we have now. Small acts of kindness and patience - at sporting events, at school events and recitals, at the grocery store and the stop sign can add up to make a difference in how people treat each other as a whole. Edited November 15, 2017 by KrissiK 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SquirrellyMama Posted November 15, 2017 Author Share Posted November 15, 2017 When I get bored during our 4 hour dance recitals, I take off my glasses, and they all look like dancing oompa loompas :) Kelly 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shawthorne44 Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I get it, I totally do! I used to have a boyfriend that was on a big choir that won international competitions. I hate choirs. They always sounds discordant to me. Basically, if you can tell that more than one person is singing, it sounds 'off' to me. It killed our relationship because I didn't even want to sit in the audience. So, you can imagine how enjoyable I find children's choir performances. My technique so far has been to focus on my child and try to make everyone else's voices background noise. So far 12 has been the biggest group she was in, so that is doable. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluegoat Posted November 16, 2017 Share Posted November 16, 2017 I find myself wondering what these recitals are for. I accidentally found myself at one last year because it was branded as the end of year ceremony for co-op. My kid was in one class (IEW). I sat there for over two hours trying to keep the two younger kids still while we listened to little kids play hot cross buns and twinkle twinkle little star, and voice students sing badly to overproduced recorded accompaniment. What was the point? Same with ballet and tap, why get 4, 5, and 6 year olds up there in overpriced outfits to show almost zero skill? I feel like we are not encouraging excellence with this type of stuff. (I'm not including competitions btw, like wrestling, swimming that type of thing, I get that.) It should really be a chance to practice performing in public, and a goal to work towards. I think the people who manage them often lose sight of the real purpose though, and then they make poor choices. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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