We moved last year, but used to live in a nice school district in Kansas. My older son -- I knew something was wrong partway through K, and then by the summer was doing some things to actually help, and he started private speech, etc.
Anyway, he did read on grade level part way through 2nd grade and then he was reading well part way through 3rd grade.
This whole time I knew someone whose son also had trouble reading. I promise he was less severe than my son just bc my son's speech. This boy did also have ADHD but his mom handled it extremely well. But she didn't want to do anything outside school, she thought it was too much stress on him (which is fair). He got some piddly intervention through school. My son got some piddly intervention through school but also I feel like school really helped him in 1st/2nd grade.
But my friend's son (my son's classmate) did not make much progress. Finally he went to summer school 2 hours/day the summers between 4th/5th and 5th/6th and he got serious tutoring then.
So after years of going "they just aren't actually doing much for him to make progress" finally he made serious progress at that point.
But my son had already been reading well and didn't have to deal with being behind at those older ages where it is harder.
His handwriting has been an issue but when that is the only thing, it isn't so bad.
But yes it is frustrating! And really hopefully your daughter does get good intervention and doesn't have to deal with this, but that doesn't change it for other kids, and it is such a waste.
But in the end my friend's son did get help through school! It just seemed to be at a glacial pace.
If your daughter has more of a dyslexia profile I have hope things will be a lot less severe in a lot of ways as far as the auditory issues. Not to minimize and it is frustrating for sure, but I have a son on the autism spectrum also, and the auditory and language issues there are just a whole different can of worms.
The thing with auditory processing I think is that for some it is just auditory processing, for some it is related to dyslexia, and then for some it is related to autism. And then I think you will hear things from all three perspectives.
It is strange to say "just dyslexia" as it is a lot to deal with, but personally I think it is a lot more limited in scope than autism.
Autism is considered global, but dyslexia is a specific learning disability, with a lot of strengths and then just some weaknesses. There can be strengths with autism too, but it is just more global I think.
Another thing to keep in mind with auditory processing. There are some people who do not want an autism diagnosis or an ADHD diagnosis. They just don't want it, there is some stigma or the diagnostic criteria has changed a lot for autism in the last 10-15 years.
So it's like, some kids really truly just have auditory processing difficulties. But then there are kids who either also or primarily have autism or maybe ADHD, but their parents won't deal with it, or people doing diagnosis are people going "he makes eye contact so he can't have autism" or "he has a deep emotional connection to his family he can't have autism" even though that is not where the autism diagnosis has gone in the past 10-15 years."
It just muddies the waters sometimes with some things, and auditory processing is one where I think you have to keep in mind, some kids may really have a different primary diagnosis but the parents don't mention it or don't have a 2017-style diagnosis.
And yes it is that subjective lol. But that's how it is. I think they (psychologists) do a good job of deciding what framework to use to group people into different diagnoses, but it is very subjective in some ways and it changes over time.
When I just had my oldest son and I saw "right brain learner" stuff I thought "right brain learner" basically meant a dyslexia profile, and I would think some things were so bizarre.
Then I realized "right brain learner" can also be code for autism and then so many things clicked and made sense.
But some people talk about "right brain learner" and mean dyslexia, some mean autism profile, and some mean just a personality/learning style, maybe some mean ADHD; it is confusing if you think it just means one of these, but really people mean different things. And it is still useful if you are sifting through the information so it applies to your child as well as possible.
Edited by Lecka, 18 November 2017 - 08:23 PM.