In OT today, my daughter mentioned to her therapist that "Mom is teaching me to read and write!" I clarified that she has been resistant and she has asked for me to teach her "on her birthday", no other day.
Anyway, he decided to pull out a Mystery Alphabet Box game. She was supposed to pull items out of the box, say the name, and put it on the letter that it starts with.
That went over like a lead balloon. I knew it would be a disaster.
We did the activity and aside from the letters A, O, R, X and Z, she had to sing and touch the alphabet to figure out where the item needs to go. I hated how frustrated she was.
He decided to test her and see if this was a short term memory issue.
He would remove random items off the alphabet mat - like he removed umbrella, bike, yarn, mailbox, and hose. He would ask her where each item was and she could identify the spot where it was. Couldn't say the name of the letter, but definitely knew where the items went.
He kept this up until the board was blank, THEN he asked her all 26 items. Except for confusing V and W, she got them all correct.
I wanted to cry. I just do NOT get it. I don't understand how she can memorize the placement of these items, easily name all of them (except for ones she wasn't familiar with), but knowing the names of the letters is just beyond her.
At the end he said, Wow. She's got great short term memory, but you're right. There is definitely something keeping her from retaining the names and sounds of the letters. I honestly don't know what we're working with, but we'll figure it out.
I think he finally saw that it's not me and lack of instruction.
My heart just hurts for her and I wish I could figure it out.
I just want to cry.