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talk me down....(update, he's home)


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Update: he came home, thanks everyone!

 

Over an hour ago, I sent my oldest off on a bike ride. 

 

He's struggling with anxiety & mild depression/stress, came to me with some concerns, which I talked through with him, and prescribed a dose of sunshine & exercise in the form of a bike ride to recalibrate himself....but he was not in a super fantastic state of mind when he left and now I kind of feel foolish pushing him out the door. 

 

Our neighborhood isn't that big, and he's not home yet. 

 

I shouldn't be worried, right? (you can tell he gets the tendency to be anxious from his parents....). 

 

Normally when he goes for a bike ride, he's gone 30 to 45 mins....he's been gone an hour & 15 mins, maybe an hour & 20 mins so far. 

 

Worry? Calm down? Text him in case he took his phone? Go look for him? Chill out?

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Hopefully your "prescription" had the desired effect and he's lost in his "zone" - completely ignorant of how long he's been gone.  :grouphug: I've done the same with my kids, and sometimes they'll just sit on a corner for a bit, still angry that I've made them go for a run/ride before they actually GO for that run/ride. That may account for his being long longer than a usual bike ride. 

 

If it makes you feel better to go look, DO IT. Peace of mind is no small matter. 

 

If you can manage to take it down a notch from that, send a harmless text like: "Hey, thinking about __ for dinner, lmk when you plan to be back" (or something.)

 

It's easy to say "chill out" but that's not so easy to do! So cross that one off of your list. I might set a mental time clock - say 30 more minutes - at which point I'd begin to address my worries. I'd start with a text, give it 5-10 minutes. If I hadn't heard back, or if it began to get dark, I might go looking. If I did find him, I'd drive home without even letting him know I was out searching. Then I'd go home and drink a tall glass of wine! LOL

 

 

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