My girls' grandparents, none of them give the girls the time of day. They don't call, they don't write. If we don't call, they don't talk.
My mother worships my son (he is almost 18, and is finishing up high school out there) and completely ignores my girls. My DH's mother only calls when she needs money from us and never asks about the girls.
It bothers me immensely. I've accepted that I don't have one of those cozy families that I always fantasized about having, but I don't understand how people can so completely disregard their own grandchildren. I grew up with the best grandparents, and I had lovely step-grandparents as well, both of whom I spent a lot of time with. The majority of my happy childhood memories involve both sets of grandparents.
I've talked with friends and a therapist about this, but it fills me with piercing sadness and anger that my parents and my MIL can't step up and act like caring grandparents on a limited basis. We don't live close to our families (their behaviour was one of the bigger reasons we moved).
Any suggestions for getting past this? Please no flaming - I understand that as problems go this one is first-world, but it breaks my heart on a regular basis that my girls don't have anyone else (besides their dad and me) in their lives who loves them so unconditionally.