Eh. You said you considered him stable and a good example until now. I'm not as horrified as the rest of you. Sorry.
I know someone (not me) who decided, as a teenager, that she wanted to marry a man in their very conservative church who was almost 20 years older than her. He had no idea she was interested, but her father approached him. The man in question initially wasn't sure if it was the right thing, but apparently everyone in their church thought it was a good match. Beautiful family. They've been married many years now and have lovely, mature, intelligent children and a thriving business. They're very happy and I'm happy for them.
If they really are both immature, that's not a good thing, of course. That would be the thing that would most give me pause. If it's meant to be, they can wait. (I met my husband as a teenager and we waited for six years.)
It's a little weird now but not strange at all historically speaking.
I wouldn't support anything illegal.
If it were my daughter, I think I'd encourage her to wait several years and then see.
ETA: Thought about this some more. I think he should have waited several years and THEN expressed his interest. Now is not the time.
Edited by MercyA, 15 October 2017 - 09:37 PM.