My DD9 has mild SN (ADHD, SPD, GAD), that necessitate a lot of hands-on from me. We struggled a lot through 1st and 2nd grade, so sent her to PS last year, which turned out to not work. I have been so thrilled this year because her and I have gotten into a great routine and we have been doing amazing. We are keeping up in all her subjects, we identified and changed out wrong-choice curriculums quickly, and she's not having major meltdowns every day.
However, I've been letting DD5 fall through the cracks. She is a very stubborn child and I don't like to force school time at 5, I consider K to still be a partially optional year. But we report through a charter and need to be making some progress to receive funding. And she is clearly ready to read and wants to learn, so I don't want to leave that hanging. She's also excellent at math and could be making a lot of progress there. It just seems like most days, we simply don't get to her work.
I feel like I have to go back to DD9 so frequently, that there's never a good block of time to sit with DD5. And if I try to make use of those small blocks, most of the time she's in the middle of something (like a puzzle or cutting and glueing something from a Kumon book) and wants to finish first. Sure I could make her stop to work with me that second, but it would not be worth it. As I said, very stubborn, and I don't want to create those negative feelings around school time. But we lose most or all of my few minutes letting her finish up. If she happens to not be in the middle of something, AND I have her work right there ready to go, we can get started. But I spend half of our time reminding DD9 to pay attention to her own work, not her sister's. I can't send her or us to another room because she will absolutely not stay focused, plus she has anxiety and gets upset if left alone.
So it doesn't feel like we can make good progress. I say one thing to DD5, then have to get DD9 back on track, then back to DD5, then DD9 is watching us again.... back and forth. If I just sit nearby and casually watch, or get on my computer to work on something, then she can stay focused a bit better, plus it's not interrupting me if I do have to get her back on track. She doesn't get as distracted by DD5 playing on her own. And that's just those times we're able to start in the first place.
Any suggestions, advice, or BTDT?
(PS, I feel like I'm totally missing something having such a hard time with this when I see so many sigs of people homeschooling several kids and I can't get it down with 2!)