Can I ask you ladies for a huge favor?

[fraidycat]

For market research/book/article writing purposes - to be used in the general/aggregate sense, not individual. 

 

 

As a MOM:

 

What would you say are the top 3 negative emotions that you experience the most?

 

 

 

In LIFE:  (motherhood, marriage, housing, homeschooling, etc.)

 

What would you say are the top 3 most stress-causing events or circumstances?  Can be ongoing or one-off big events.

 

 

 

Answers can be very vague and general - I'm looking for commonalities, not details.

 

Emotion - guilt, and Stress Event - In-law visits or child/spouse/parent medical event/hospitalization are detailed enough for my purposes.

 

 

Thanks!

[sassenach]

fear, guilt/shame, inadequacy

 

Money problems, health problems, and to a lesser degree, being over-scheduled

[Heatherwith4]

Guilt, anxiety, and inadequacy (not trying to copy you, Sassenach) ;)

 

Events: anything financial, buying/selling house, death of family members

[regentrude]

most stress causing events:

 

long distance marriage

overseas move

[mmasc]

Frustration, worry

 

Events: frequent moves, extended family drama

[bluemongoose]

Anxiety, frustration, discouragement

 

Events/circumstances:

1. Mental health issues within immediate family. (not myself-but dealing with them on a daily basis) This causes me anxiety because I never know when or how long the next "episode" is going to be. 

2. Not getting to do things or have things work out the way I had envisioned (usually due to working around the issues in #1)  Frustration and discouragement. I used to be more free spirited. I love to go places and travel. I feel stymied by those around me. I feel like tension is common within our family, and that is now how I had envisioned it to be.

3. Having an Aspie. He is a joy, but I also find the challenges sometimes overwhelm me leaving me anxious for his future, frustrated with the issues, and discouraged that it seems like nothing I can do helps. 

 

[TravelingChris]

Anxiety, sadness, anger (not at people I know, at world events and people who do things like harm elderly)

 

Events/circumstances  medical issues of all

[MeaganS]

Frustration, annoyance, weariness

 

Moving, husband's work struggles, children's health struggles.

[Loowit]

Stress (anxiety), anger, sadness

 

DH's cancer diagnosis, children with special needs, medical bills

[foxbridgeacademy]

For market research/book/article writing purposes - to be used in the general/aggregate sense, not individual. 

 

 

As a MOM:

 

What would you say are the top 3 negative emotions that you experience the most?

 

Frustration, I get frustrated when they don't get "stuff" done and I have to repeat myself over and over.  How long can it possibly take to get your clothes changed and come unload the dishwasher, for DS 16, apparently an hour.

 

Pretty much every other negative emotion I have, anger, disappointment usually stems from frustration.

 

In LIFE:  (motherhood, marriage, housing, homeschooling, etc.)

 

What would you say are the top 3 most stress-causing events or circumstances?  Can be ongoing or one-off big events.

 

Moving, we've done it a dozen times but it always stresses me out usually because it comes after a lay-off, career advancement, or because of some other unforeseen upheaval 

 

DD's mental and emotional issues are not severe but they are chronic and the daily battle wears me the XXXX out.  But I have to keep going because one she's my kid and the most important thing in my life and two because I think it would be 1000 times worse if I gave up.

 

A friend/family member who visits us occasionally is an alcoholic and it always ends up badly.  I told them this last time and they weren't allowed to come back.  I think they thought I was joking, Im not.  

 

Answers can be very vague and general - I'm looking for commonalities, not details.

 

Emotion - guilt, and Stress Event - In-law visits or child/spouse/parent medical event/hospitalization are detailed enough for my purposes.

 

 

Thanks!

 

Edited September 15, 2017 by foxbridgeacademy

[Scarlett]

For market research/book/article writing purposes - to be used in the general/aggregate sense, not individual.

 

 

As a MOM:

 

What would you say are the top 3 negative emotions that you experience the most?

 

 

 

In LIFE: (motherhood, marriage, housing, homeschooling, etc.)

 

What would you say are the top 3 most stress-causing events or circumstances? Can be ongoing or one-off big events.

 

 

 

Answers can be very vague and general - I'm looking for commonalities, not details.

 

Emotion - guilt, and Stress Event - In-law visits or child/spouse/parent medical event/hospitalization are detailed enough for my purposes.

 

 

Thanks!

Irritation, anger, exhaustion

 

Money, blended family, health

[BarbecueMom]

As a parent: anxiety, frustration, inadequacy.

 

In life: health issues, upheaval/insecurity, relationship issues (not with spouse/kids for me personally, but I have trouble with basically everyone else under the sun)

Edited September 15, 2017 by BarbecueMom

[Guest]

As a parent? Anger, exhaustion, frustration.

 

Top three stress causing events: money trouble, moving, imbalances and disagreements with people you love.

Edited September 15, 2017 by Arctic Mama

[Monica_in_Switzerland]

Discouragement, burnout, overwhelm

 

Marriage struggles, medical problems, current events

[ErinE]

Emotions: anxiety, frustration, stress

 

Events: moving long-distance, unemployment, children in their toddler years

[fraidycat]

Thank you all so much!  Please take my "likes" as a huge "Thank You!" and not as me liking all those crappy circumstances and emotions. For those, I'll give these :grouphug: :grouphug: .

[happi duck]

Fear of making an irreparable parenting mistake, overwhelmed by responsibility, exhausted both mentally and physically

 

Loss of community, death (especially sudden/unexpected), mental health struggles

[Melissa in Australia]

Frustration, anger, guilt

 

 

 

Since we took on sibling of twins I feel I have become mentally unhinged. He has moved on over 2 months ago, but if someone yells at me I go into a uncontrollable rage and start screaming and yelling at them. It is absolutely awful and I am filled with intense shame afterwards. I have been a increadably quiet person my whole life until now.

[goldberry]

Guilt, exhaustion (wanting to give up), impatience

 

Stressor: job loss/financial, death, extended family conflict

[myfunnybunch]

Frustration, exhaustion, guilt

 

Marital difficulties, juggling so many things with too little time, physical issues (ex:thyroid)

[iamonlyone]

Parenting

• Pressure to perform (mine—to be wise, loving, balanced, cheerful, to give them the support/direction/etc. they need me to)

• Discouragement (about my "performance" and things in their lives)

• Irritation (much less now that they are older—but definitely a factor when looking back at my 22 years of parenting)

 

Life

• Accidents/serious illness (physical and psychological) in the family

• Lack of dh's home upkeep (needed repairs—major and minor that could be done or hired to be done)

• One-sided relationships with family (detached/Aspergerish husband; narcissistic mother)

[lllll]

nm

Edited September 21, 2017 by lllllll

[fraidycat]

Thank you so much ladies, I really appreciate all the input.

[Ausmumof3]

Anxiety, overwhelm/exhaustion, frustration

 

Scheduling conflict, clutter and mess, sibling rivalry.

[Ausmumof3]

Frustration, anger, guilt

 

 

 

Since we took on sibling of twins I feel I have become mentally unhinged. He has moved on over 2 months ago, but if someone yells at me I go into a uncontrollable rage and start screaming and yelling at them. It is absolutely awful and I am filled with intense shame afterwards. I have been a increadably quiet person my whole life until now.

:grouphug:

 

I know that's not the point of the thread but I'm sorry...

[dancingmama]

Frustration, anger, anxiety

 

Medical issues

Mental health issues

Familiar issues/communication problems

[nixpix5]

As a mom:

Fear, worry, exhaustion

 

(I don't feel alot of negative feelings about motherhood but I do have fear for the world my youngest three are inheriting, worry about my two oldest and the most common negative feeling is just being tired because mama life is busy :)

 

3 life stress causing events

 

1. My daughter's hearing loss diagnosis at first

2. When I was trying to work 40+ hours and be a mom to five. Feeling like other people got the best hours of my beloved children.

3. Death of my dad

[Guest]

Sense of failure, depression, resignation

 

1. Trying to balance doing stuff for family/others and doing something for me

2. Money

3. My inability to cook

[Barb_]

Not reading prior responses.

 

Anxiety and irritation.

 

When I had littles boredom was number three. With teens it's fear. If that messes up your statistics, use fear.

 

Three top stressors:

 

Bad boyfriends

Holidays (thanksgiving, Christmas, birthdays)

Constant interruptions

[maize]

Stress causing circumstance: spouse does not carry equitable share of family duties.

[Kalmia]

Parenting: Frustration, feeling of being confined in my role, worry

 

Stressors: 1. Frustration: Having to tell every other person in this house over and over and over to do things they are perfectly capable of knowing they should do and hounding them to do them in a timely manner instead of them cooperating for the greater good of the household. 2. Confinement: Not having time to do my "work" as household work and parenting takes up all the available time. 3. Worry: Having a non neurotypical teen with anxiety who is going to struggle with being independent.

[Corraleno]

Negative emotions as a mom:

1. fear/anxiety (that something bad would happen to them)

2. guilt

3. exhaustion

 

Stressors:

1. divorce

2. mental & physical health issues of various family members

3. feeling like my brain is the communal property of far too many members of my immediate and extended family, all of whom expect me to organize their lives, manage their finances, fix all their problems, and basically handle all the tedious difficult stuff they can't be bothered with

[SKL]

3 top negative emotions as a mom:

• Feeling of helplessness / uncertainty of path in addressing certain problems.
• Disappointment over my failing to always "be the adult."
• Just being sad that my kids will have to deal with some unhappy things in life.

 

3 most stress-producing things in life:

• Work expectations, especially heavy deadlines and conference calls.  :)
• Conflicting demands from different people / responsibilities.
• Procrastination.

[Donna]

Negative emotions: Overwhelmed (with everything I have to do regarding work, home, and dd), exhaustion (no time to relax), limited (due to time constraints and everything going on in life I don't have time to do some things I'd like to do)

 

Stress-producing things:

Work demands

Unknown things- trying to sell home and move so unable to plan some things because don't know where we will be in the next few months

Life changes

[EKS]

As a MOM:  What would you say are the top 3 negative emotions that you experience the most?

 

Fear, frustration, and anger.

 

 

In LIFE:  What would you say are the top 3 most stress-causing events or circumstances?  Can be ongoing or one-off big events.

 

Realizing that something is wrong with one of my children, stopping homeschooling, child moving away from home.

[J-rap]

Sadness.

 

Dh's health and resulting loss of dreams (mostly his, but ours as a couple, too).  Adult children's life disappointments.

[Barb_]

Sadness.

 

Dh's health and resulting loss of dreams (mostly his, but ours as a couple, too). Adult children's life disappointments.

:grouphug:

[Nan in Mass]

Emotions - Fear, Regret, Sadness

 

Events - Long distance relationship, parenting teenagers, parenting adult children

 

Nan

[Nan in Mass]

Frustration, anger, guilt

 

 

 

Since ... now.

Hugs. Healing takes time. You would "over react" if you had a broken arm and someone grabbed you by it, too.

 

Nan

[Cecropia]

As a MOM:

What would you say are the top 3 negative emotions that you experience the most?

 

frustrated, angry, harried

 

In LIFE:  (motherhood, marriage, housing, homeschooling, etc.)

What would you say are the top 3 most stress-causing events or circumstances?  Can be ongoing or one-off big events.

 

chronic lack of sleep, children being careless in dangerous situations or potential-for-danger situations, mental health issues in the family

[SparklyUnicorn]

when my kids go through things that stresses me to hell (summed up as worrying about my kids)

 

anxiety (sometimes over nothing I can pinpoint)

 

boredom

 

 

[Seeking Squirrels]

Anxiety, being overwhelmed (could maybe be lumped with anxiety?), frustration. I'll add guilt if we lump being overwhelmed with anxiety. 

 

Housework, finances, understanding SN

[Guest]

As a mom, 3 negative emotions: disappointment, anxiety, frustration.

3 top stressful situations: economic pressures (both wider society and personal situation), kid having a major struggle, interactions with FOO (his or mine).

[mom31257]

What would you say are the top 3 negative emotions that you experience the most?

 

fear, frustration, insecure

 

 

What would you say are the top 3 most stress-causing events or circumstances?  Can be ongoing or one-off big events.

 

health crisis of yourself of a close loved one, financial crisis (such as loss of job), mental health issues of loved ones

[Zinnia]

Frustration, disappointment, inadequacy

 

Financial woes, learning disabilities/struggles of kids, and extended family drama

[Joyofsixreboot]

As a mom-fear, time pressured, frustration

 

Mental illness in child

Physical illness in child

differences of opinion between spouses

 

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[fraidycat]

You guys are amazing! Thank you so much for sharing.

[Katy]

-Anxiety about the life & health of DH & kids (ER trip for one of them last night).

-Fear that I'm not giving kids the right balance: IE am I holding the baby too much for him to learn to self soothe, or does his background justify focusing mostly on him right now?  Does this tween need more sheltering or less?

-Annoyance with little things that inconvenience me but are not a tragedy.