I feel extraordinarily blessed to be so privileged, most of the time.
BUT it is a reality that there is a huge disparity of wealth and opportunity in our country and world.
It is delusional to think that a kid born to millionaires and one born homeless have the same opportunities and advantages. I think those types of thoughts only help to assuage pride and guilt. Pride to think that your kid or you are where you are only due to your own merit and guilt that you have it easier than others.
I don't think it is good to dwell on these thoughts and the what ifs. But if we keep ignoring these facts the wealth disparity will continue to grow. It is fine and well to tell people to be happy with the life they have when you are living it up.
My grandma worked in a cotton field, backbreaking work yet she was still lower class. My mom worked multiple jobs, as did my dad and they vastly improved their situation, they moved up to middle class. Rich people need to stop thinking that the only rich people work hard.
So rather than reminding them that happiness does not depend upon wealth and making real suggestions on how to see about improving one's lot in life, we're supposed to say, "You're right, it sucks, be miserable and hope that maybe somewhere in the future life will change and someone will give you that winning lottery ticket?"
My brain doesn't work that way. My brain looks at reality, the situation at hand, and tries to see how one can improve it living in the real world we live in. If there's ever a vote for universal health care and free college education, I'll do my part, but I'm certainly not going to join the pity party nor encourage others to do so. It's not an "either/or" situation.
I'm sorry, and this is going to sound bad, but you have no experience here. Your husband does. You did not take the oath. If he joined the military JUST for college, or JUST for medical care, or JUST to look nice, he did it for the wrong reason. Period.
Evidently then, so did I. Oh well. Too bad. I have no regrets. I had some meaningful years where I learned a lot, got most of my education paid for, and served. I wouldn't have done it without the education aspect TBH.
Be as judgmental as you want. Many of us joined (or still join) for the perks - whether it's education or sign on bonuses.
The ones who complain about the economic inequlities of the rich, are usually not willing to put in the 20 hours a day, 6 or 7 days a week work it takes to get there. Anyone spending on hour a day on this website is not in that category. (Me included). And if it seems the elite kiddos are not spending that much time getting ahead, I am sure someone in the economic genetic lineage did. Getting ahead takes some serious time.
Back in the day when I was destitute, it took 3 jobs (1 full time and two part-time), full-time college, all while raising a baby to get out of poverty. Then, 13 years later of education, I dare anyone to say it is unfair that my kiddos have a luxury start to life. I dare anyone to complain about my cars or house as being unfair. And, I would love to see him survive the hours and stress it takes even still to pay for this unfairness, even now that I have some weeks I can enjoy my time off. DH has not had a whole day off in 5 years. Yep, he has worked 1500 days in a row!
Finally, if anyone said my DS had an unfair advantage while he endured medical school, became the chief resident of an entire hospital or became an ER physician, I dare him just to stay up once for 72 hours while keeping multiple people alive. Or, if anyone says my DD17 has an unfair advantage becoming a grand national champion dancer or when she obtained a contract at a large computer company, I would just ask him to take off his shoes. Oh, I see there are toe nails. Then, obviously, someone has not worked as hard as DD. And, oh, working 24 hours in a row online over and over again as well as 6 or 7 hours every single day to get a contract is not in the schedule, then quit complaining. The only advantage she had was being a homeschooler so her schedule was flexible. But, even if she was not, she still would have found a way to achieve success.
Yes, life is unfair, no doubt. But, in the US, at least, there is a certain fairness to it as well.
You sure see a different (and small) segment of life compared to what I see. The wealthy kids I went to school with (and know from our own area) don't have parents working as much as you claim. They have very enviable vacations - the daughter of one doctor told me their family goes to Bora Bora (my own dream destination) every year - on top of other places. They've certainly had a number of days off in the past 5 years...
Now the mom I know (who works 3 jobs) at our favorite Taco place rarely gets a day off. She took half a day off for her birthday recently and was very happy to be able to do - nothing. They aren't terribly wealthy. Maybe that will change in the future, but I wouldn't bet on it. She is, however, always quite happy when we talk together and keeps on her son to do well in school.
Oh geez people. I couldn't care less about ivy schools. This isn't about getting low income kids into Ivy's schools as some sort of status symbol due to their parents envy.
And no one is talking about wallowing in self pity and not even bothering to try.
And yes, obviously I'm not posting this message from some third world ghetto where I can't even get clean water.
One should hope we can raise the bar a bit for our society instead of just patting shoulders and telling half or more of our citizenry they should learn to just be glad they aren't as bad off as whatever horrid example trumped up and quit complaining bc it's just irritating to the higher classes.
And I disagree that everyone wants the things I've mentioned. I think a significant part of our society thinks low classes deserve to be lower classes. Even though they refuse to state such bc that's distasteful, their actions state otherwise.
Sometimes when I read your posts (or similar ones on this thread), I get wondering. It honestly seems like those who "make it" have a different attitude.
I saw your later post on things you want (we both want), universal health care, access to education, etc, but those aren't here now and aren't likely to be coming soon, so do we wallow in a pity party or do we encourage people to enjoy life while working to change what they can?
I don't have time to post thoughts right now, but I've been reading on a theme this year of social mobility, inequality, etc. Maybe I'm trying to come to grips with the trajectory of my life until now, lol.
I highly recommend the "trilogy" of Hillbilly Elegy, Evicted, and The Broken Ladder.
Success is just that, but looks different based on circumstances. Mobility requires personal and social sacrifices, in both directions. Social and economic inequality deeply affect both.
I'm reading The Hillbilly Elegy now... it's ok, but honestly I liked the Glass Castle more, so if you haven't read that one already, it's worth picking up.
We aren't going to ever get rid of the poor entirely and there's always going to be some inequality, but we should strive to reduce it as much as possible.
We could start by offering a universal healthcare and quality education programs. No one should ever have to choose work based on whether their employer will pay for medical care. No child should be denied a genuine quality education bc they had the poor luck to be born in the wrong zipcode. Efforts should also be made to desegregate communities based on income. Housing should be required to have a mix of low income, medium income and high income zones mixed in together. These wouldn't fix all the problems, but I firmly believe it would be a solid good start.
Exactly whose houses/land are you taking and who are you forcing to move? Do we now assign housing to people - at what age? Are we trying for "The Giver" as our ultimate lifestyle?
And again, do we all sit around twiddling our thumbs while we wait for these things to happen or do we point people in directions to assist themselves with what IS available, reminding them they don't need to wallow in self pity along the way showing them that plenty of folks are in their situation, so they aren't alone?