Can we talk about getting your kids to bed at a decent hour when both parents have a full time job outside of the home and the child attends school and has homework?
I keep repeating to myself, "one week left of school....one week left of school...one week left of school..."
My DD is just now going to bed and it's 9:44. She's 7 and a half. I know it's terrible. Tonight has been a disaster. DH got tickets at the last minute to go the baseball game so I'm by myself. I told DH that I didn't mind if he went to the game so I can't blame him.
DD usually finishes most her HW in afterschool but she didn't do any of it today because she was too busy playing. I don't begrudge her playtime so I told her that she meant she needed to finish her HW before she could go play with the neighborhood girls. I made the mistake of stopping at Panera for dinner. I was tired and couldn't face the idea of cooking since we were by ourselves. I should have known that was a mistake when DD admitted she hadn't finished any of her HW but I already had the idea in my mind and didn't want to cook.
We actually didn't home too late and I told DD to start her HW. I think it took an hour before she actually started doing her spelling. We have a new puppy and DD has a hard time not focusing all of her attention on the puppy. Maybe I should have said the dog has to be in the backyard until all of the HW is done? She never got to go outside to play with the neighborhood girls.
It probably took about 30 minutes for DD to write 15 spelling words which should take about 5 minutes.
Then she had to do her reading comprehension questions. She usually does this assignment in afterschool all by herself. Because I was there she claimed she didn't know how to answer the questions and wanted me to tell her the answers. There were tears. That took about another 30 minutes.
Before I knew it, it was 8:30 and DD hadn't even read anything yet. She read and then she was hungry and ate her snack while I read to her and went to bed at 9:45.
I realize that this is all of my responsibility. I should have taken more control over the situation.
I read all of the time online about kids older than my DD going to bed at 8:30 and I can't even fathom it. How can a reasonable bedtime be achieved when a child has HW in the evenings? Should there be consequences if HW is not finished in afterschool?
These late evenings take a toll on both of us. She's tired and cranky and takes it out on me. I get frustrated with her being up too late and take it out on her. It's a really bad cycle that I don't seem to know how to stop.