Several years ago, I posted over here about my dd, now 9. Here’s a super brief recap:
At a very young age, I started to expect something was off. At 3 I had gone to the doctor 3 times for behavioral help. They said it was age, it was normal, it was fine. It wasn’t fine. I started taking her to a local play therapist-this was provided to our rural community from a grant that has since run out and is no longer operational. It was helpful for both of us, but mostly I think, because it gave me a twenty-minute break.
2 years ago my oldest son was sent to a licensed child phycologist for an evaluation (he’s fine, just rather… intense, at the time.) For a long time, all 4 kids were in the room. Then my oldest took my younger daughter to the bathroom down the hall. The moment the door closed, the doctor asked if my dd had an evaluation. She thought she had Asperger’s. Someone (qualified) said outloud what I had been thinking for YEARS. Everything fits, including it being often overlooked in girls because it manifests differently in girls than boys AND how we (as a society) respond differently to boys v. girls (not trying to start a debate about this, it’s simply what I read when I went searching for information on why she hadn’t been diagnosed).
We did not get her evaluated. I don’t know if I see the value in it. But at that same time, that doesn’t mean there ISN’T value in it, just that I am unaware. If we were sending her to the ps, I would actively pursue this prior to enrollment (mostly because she would likely need some kind of an IEP). But she isn’t going into ps, she’s at home and always has been and unless something drastically changes in our local school ps is not an option.
What is the advantage of seeing someone? How does that change us? Her? Is it helpful, or would it just be a label that doesn’t help in anyway (I don’t mean that a label would harm her, but would it HELP, kwim?)
She is quirky. She has things that aren’t normal, but they are subtle. Does it matter? Or do we just keep on keeping on? Advice please from those of you that have btdt, please!