I had good responses to my "using Ps resource room as a homeschooler" thread.
Currently, I'm leaning heavily to just enrolling dd in school for 8th grade, since I want her to attend for high school, or at least the vo tech program in grades 11/12. And I'd like to see what they can really offer & how she responds in 8th so I can make an informed decision for high school.
We'll let them update her testing & meet for her IEP & see what classroom options they have & suggest for her.
In the meantime, I'll have her visit & shadow a day before school gets out to at least see what she'll be getting into.
She's ready to get out of the house away from the littles every day. And do school with someone other than me!
What else should I ask about/ consider when sending a kid to school for 8th?
Obvious stuff like resource room style, self contained options, AIS, I know what to ask about IEP specifics (I used to teach 7-12 special Ed),
But what am I forgetting about the transition from homeschool to school? For a kid with severe LDs?
(Likely needs self contained for at least math, maybe ELA, not push in services)
I have a friend who is a counselor there I'll try to hook her up with too.
How do I prepare her? How do kids get used to getting so much less sleep?- bus comes at 6:30, she usually sleeps from 10Pm- 10AM, obviously go to bed earlier, but she can't go to sleep at 5PM.
She won't want to do sports (she dances instead) or after school clubs since dance is her thing. (& she may have to cut back on dance next year as she adjusts). But I do want her to become part of the school community.
Stupid question maybe, but I don't think she'll be able to remember a locker code. She can't learn our phone number. A aggghh... I'm starting to freak out.
Any tips appreciated
My son is finishing 8th grade at local public school after 6 years of homeschool. Our situation is different, but I can tell you some plusses and minuses or tips from this experience.
For us, the school is a very small rural school, and his class is unusually small even for this school (around 10 students in his grade). He'd had an IEP in past and then moved out of it, and I did not seek IEP or 504 thus far. They know some of his issues, but the main things they could do like give him more time to complete things (test, assignments) is the last thing he wants since he basically hates the academic part of school and would rather have zero time on that, not extra time.
He was offered a chance to start at around now last year when all he'd have pretty much would be the end of school fun stuff and nothing really expected of him. He did not want to do that, but I think it would have been helpful as a way to transition in. If that is an option for your dd you might want to consider that.
But I'm glad that he went in 8th rather than waiting for 9th as the transition was not smooth. ... I think starting in High school would have been much more stressful.
My son's "thing" is/was ice skating, but he joined track (cross country and track and field) as a good way to meet people and have some more social connection at the school. I strongly suggest that you find one or two things at the school that your dd can join. As it turned out, my son is a very good runner (better probably at running than skating), so that turned into a major focus and energy area, which is both good and bad. But at least for the social aspect, I'd say it is 100% good, and also helps him to have something to drain off excess ADHD-like energy and where he can excel so that the things that are harder are not the only thing going on. Trying to do both skating and running was a severe drain on me (as chauffeur), however, and that may need to change this next year. It was worse than it might have been due to the skating having a big problem with nasty people, so that emotionally that was a big drain on me also.
Anyway, at least here, joining a sport or club or band or similar group is really very key to fitting into the school community. Running was a pretty good choice since there is not a whole team depending on everyone and if there was an important skating event it could be prioritized or vice-versa. And the cross country team is a small group that at his school (and at least two others I know of) seems to have pretty tight social bonds.
Sleep and getting up was surprisingly easier than I thought it would be. My son also tended to sleep in during homeschool, and I doubted he'd be able to handle early rising for regular school, but he gets himself up at 5:30AM for going to public school. Practice ahead of time did not work, but excitement plus an alarm got him up the first day and nearly every day since. He usually goes to bed at around 9PM, and then sleeps more on weekends. He can nap or eat on the bus if he wants. Hardest have been when he has gotten home really late due to away track meets.
DS could remember a locker code, but had trouble with the turning of the dial to the right spots and getting it to open. After trouble on the first day with dressing down for gym and not doing it fast enough to please the gym teacher (who told him he'd have a detention if it happened again-- so that he came home with the question, "Mom, what is a detention?" (so explaining things like that "detention" "tardy" etc. may be necessary--we've just dealt with things as they arise), he seems to leave his lockers unlocked, and keeps valuables with him, generally --- or valuables can be checked into school office. So far that seems to have worked out okay, amazingly. He has trouble with dating his papers, but at least manages to get his name on them usually.
Lack of being able to move around a lot frequently has been difficult. He could do homeschool while moving, swinging, up a tree, etc.: that can't be done in regular school. He seems to need many hours of down/alone time after he is done with school, which is a problem for homework and chores. I think a plan of how to use time, set up in advance and agreed to, might have helped--especially given the 2 sports situation.
Keeping track of what he needs to do when has been difficult for him and extremely frustrating for me. He has a ton of zeroes due to work not done, or done but not turned in. And in homeschool if something seemed like busy work for him, he did not have to do it, or otoh if he needed more time on something to learn it, he could have that. In regular school he is expected to do everything on their schedule. I tried to set him up in an organized way in terms of planner and binder system etc., but he basically refuses to deal with any of that and just wings it. If you could work out organization systems that will work and that your child would use, I'd say that would help hugely, hugely, hugely! And let her know that some of school is sort of just a "game" where you have to play by the rules even if they seem arbitrary.
Letting go of what he is doing in school after 6 years of homeschool is hard for me--especially when he is underperforming what I know he "could" do, or when teachers contact me to let me know he is goofing off or not turning in his work etc.. Letting him own what he does (or does not do) and the consequences is a new thing for us both.
The sports helped some there since if he did not get at least a C average he lost sports eligibility. As with not understanding what a "detention" was, sports eligibility rules were new for him--and also for me..he was on "academic probation" for quite a while before either of us understood that. It seemed to me like he was back to doing nothing on his academics again, so I asked him if he was going back into a trouble area with that and he said it didn't matter since the track season was over for him due to sprained ankle. I told him it does matter because his grades now will affect his eligibility for next fall. This seemed to be a surprise to him. But at least he has something to care about in terms of academics for sports eligibility sake rather than for its own sake.
Part way through the year, my son started to seem to have extreme anxiety and similar issues, and I started him with a therapist (which became yet another time and chauffering issue). I wish I'd had someone lined up just in case ahead of time, or maybe even better, someone who he was already used to so as not to have to achieve getting comfortable with someone at a time of distress. I'll be working on improving this over the summer since we found someone who could see him soon after the problems came up--but I think we need some better answers, and family dynamic help, not just someone for him to talk to.
This year he has had no free period for a study hall. I plan to make sure he has a study hall slot next year as I think that would help a lot with the issue of homework and study time.
Probably not an issue for your dd as a dancer, but being ready to handle things like a school dance or other social situations could be important.
My son had not had sleepovers experiences for various reasons, and in the summer before starting school he did a week of intense camping with a youth corps group, which I think helped him. Then when there was an overnight track event with school, that was not a big deal.