Mrs.W Posted May 7, 2017 Share Posted May 7, 2017 (edited) Thank you, ladies, for all your support. Your comments and private messages have been so helpful and comforting. My heart goes out to everyone in similar situations -- you're in my thoughts and prayers. :grouphug: Edited May 9, 2017 by Mrs.W 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted May 8, 2017 Share Posted May 8, 2017 I am so sorry. I can only speak to one aspect: college. Her instructors need to be contacted and she needs to request a grade of Incomplete as soon as possible. This allows a student who cannot finish the semester for health reasons to receive an extension on completing the remaining work and exams, depending on school for a semester/school year. All work done up to that date is "frozen", so she does not have to retake any class for which she is not able to do the final. Generally, colleges have a variety of services to assist students. The counseling center can work with students directly on their issues. Our college also has a case worker who acts as a liason between student and professors. She assists in contacting instructors and setting up plans to help the students succeed despite their obstacles, sends out notices of a student has a prolonged absence etc. This would be a person to contact and ask for help in handling this situation. You and your family are in my thoughts. I wanted to post this instead of pm since it could be helpful for others. I can delete if you prefer. 12 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MerryAtHope Posted May 8, 2017 Share Posted May 8, 2017 No advice, but praying for your dd. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoodGrief Posted May 8, 2017 Share Posted May 8, 2017 Been there. Contact the school now and find out the procedure for getting incompletes for those classes in which she is missing finals. Do not assume that the hospital will be super helpful in arranging follow up care. In fact, be aware that the hospital will not talk to you in much detail because she is an adult, and legally, they cannot. You need to start looking and figuring out what your options are for ongoing followup therapy, and what your insurance will cover. She needs a therapist and a psychiatrist. My daughter ended up in hospitals for about 3 months. Hopefully your daughter's case is less severe, but be aware this can be a long road, and recovery takes time. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MysteryJen Posted May 8, 2017 Share Posted May 8, 2017 Been there, going through this right now. Ds1 was diagnosed with bipolar I a month ago. He was hospitalized for a week. He took incompletes for all his classes and has a year to make them up. There is definitely fallout from the manic episode and he is repairing some personal relationships. He is home now, not happy about the direction his life has taken, and is trying to find a new path. Medication seems to be working and the manic episode was traumatic enough that he is absolutely committed to staying on it. Graduating on time is absolutely the least of our worries. And, thank God for your dd's roommates. We wish there had been similar care for ds1. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamberry77 Posted May 8, 2017 Share Posted May 8, 2017 I prayed for your precious daughter this morning and will continue to do so. Have hope! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisabees Posted May 8, 2017 Share Posted May 8, 2017 Hugs to OP and others going through this. Thinking of you all. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Woodland Mist Academy Posted May 8, 2017 Share Posted May 8, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: What a blessing to have such caring roommates... My thoughts are with your daughter and family. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gratia271 Posted May 8, 2017 Share Posted May 8, 2017 (edited) My thoughts and prayers are with you! :grouphug: I wanted to add for the benefit of anybody with adult kids at school, it is a good idea for them to execute a durable health care power of attorney/medical POA etc. This enables any medical providers to discuss your adult child's care with you. Edited May 8, 2017 by Gratia271 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MysteryJen Posted May 8, 2017 Share Posted May 8, 2017 My thoughts and prayers are with you! :grouphug: I wanted to add for the benefit of anybody with adult kids at school, it is a good idea for them to execute a durable health care power of attorney/medical POA etc. This enables any medical providers to discuss your adult child's care with you. We were very fortunate to have done this at Christmas. This made everything connected with ds1's hospitalization easier. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gratia271 Posted May 8, 2017 Share Posted May 8, 2017 Yeah, we thought of these things because in my previous life as an attorney I did business succession and estate planning. It's not something most people would ever think of for their kids. It's so surreal having a daughter who just turned 18. It's like one day you can take care of them, and the next day they turn 18 and you have to execute legal documents to be allowed to care for them in the event something happens. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nan in Mass Posted May 9, 2017 Share Posted May 9, 2017 Holding you all in the light 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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