I really think that it is vitally important that if thy safety is close enough to have a regular relationship with, it might be wise to take middle schoolers plus high school freshman and sophomores for cultural and academic activities before the "where to go to college talk" begins. Fostering a bond with the safety is not a bad thing.
Our financial safety for the kids offered free concerts, plays, musicals, board game nights, astronomy nights, math game night, you name it. All of it free to the community and run by students, staff, and faculty. These events were great fun for our kids, and the added bonus was that they developed a friendship with their safety long before they had to make that fateful decision.
For dd, she got into her number 1, as did elder ds but the safety was actually more accommodating of his bad leg issues than any of the other schools on his list. Due to not being disappointed with choosing the safety, he has blossomed and carved out many neat opportunities for himself.
Ds the middle also would have been happy to attend his safety, but squeaked out a just barely big enough scholarship to make his top choice affordable.
Youngest may end up at the safety because he is really having a hard time choosing between math, physics, aerospace, robotics, or aviation. Since the freshman year prerequisite tend to be the same for all of these - calc one, college physics, college writing, health and wellness, a history class - he may actually end up starting there at the lower cost, getting his feet wet in college life, while doing more research about his options. He will be the first potential transfer student we have in the family, but that is A okay with us, and frankly, with three boys in college at once that year, the cost savings might be a relief. Eldest ds will graduate that year, so if youngest wants to go elsewhere sophomore year, it will be financially easier to manage. This is also my first child who did not know early into the process what he wanted to major in so the path probably needs to be different.
Build that happy relationship with the safety early on if you can.
Edited by FaithManor, 04 May 2017 - 06:18 PM.