I need suggestions.
dudeling is 12. he has been formally diagnosed asd, apd, anxiety - along with some odd and maybe add. by the child dev clinic associated with the medical school.
I've been taking him to a ND and he's made phenomenal progress. he is in public school because he gets support there I can't give him at home. (and he's exhausting) he has an IEP and teams of at least four teachers/paras/specialists working with him. (and they find him exhausting) his teachers last year were phenomenal. this year, things have changed, and he's havinga harder time. he's also 12 and we're seeing physical signs of puberty - so, hormones.
he fights and fights and fights about school. we can't get him to do anything without sitting with him and going through things step by step. it's exhausting to encourage and cajole just to get him to cooperate. he works himself into a tizzy thinking things are going to be horrible. usually, they're not nearly as awful as he thinks it will be.
I'm thinking about add rx. . .his ND will refer. there does seem to be a focus problem that is out of his control.
I've wondered about a counselor - I'm seriously afraid of even mentioning that one to my dh. $$. we spend a lot on him already. I've also thought about breaking down and getting him a cat (he's always wanted one. we have cat allergies.) If I thought it would make a big improvement - I would live with the allergies and tell dh tough, we're doing this. but I don't know. the humane society does have a "30 day trial" as encouragement to get less desirable (re: older) animals adopted. I'm thinking of that. I also read something about cat food without any wheat can reduce allergens.
any suggestions please, I want to help this little boy. he's a sweet kid, but he has his challenges.