I don't need advice. I know all the advice,
The friend thing is STILL a problem for us this year, after last year, when ds' friendship group imploded.
And it is contributing to a consistent low mood.
School is an answer, but not the answer, kwim ? Pros and cons there, lots of 'em.
The annoying thing is, that if I could just fast forward ds a year or two, there would be more opportunities to do things like join a gym, or volunteer. Things that are good for mental health. But right now ? Nothing, unless I create it and I am overwhelmed already.
Soccer season is about to start, which is good. It's not helping that training was supposed to start a fortnight ago, but it's been raining consistenly so training keeps getting cancelled.
It's not helping either that ds seems to have grown out of that kid stage of just doing whatever activities look fun. He's into soccer, fitness and traning, and he wants to work at stand up comedy (!!) and he wants to 'hang out with people who have goals and are mature'. He doesn't want to go to a h/s activity just because other kids are there.
Ugh. Another thing not helping is that I am currently seeing a family member adjust beautifully to school - even though all the things I loathe about school are still there - and oh my, the guilt.
On the plus side, I observe carefully and I don't think it's ds. He seems genuinely nice, and that's the feedback I get about him from others. "Great kid!"
I think it's just environment. Not many teens homeschooling, still being shunned by former h/s friends, other kids in ps happy to be friends during activity, but either over scheduled or not wanting more friends outside of that. Limited opportunities to just get out there at this age.
He must be pretty sick of hanging with me.
So yeah, there are no answers out there I haven't thought of. And its very boring to keep having the same problem, I know. But I needed to verbalise it before I get on with my day.