Many have said that they think greater access to your child's completed work is a reasonable request.
But what you've been doing -
1. constantly telling your child that his parents think the teacher is wrong for not wanting their help with his studies,
2. going into Google docs and helping him modify his work without permission,
3. going over the teacher's head to the principal,
4. repeatedly criticizing her and giving her instructions on how to change her methods just for your child, and
5. making plans to be obnoxious during the parent teacher meeting,
THAT is what we think is control freakish and buttinsky-like.
Homeschool. That's how to be the teacher. Or find a way to desire, or at least accept, middle ground with the next teacher, in the fall. Probably all of your ships have sailed for this year, and you're wisest just backing off entirely while the teacher is still able to treat your child without bias.
Oh for the love of PETE! You are basing your opinions on a very inaccurate list of assumptions (and I might add, purposely trying to assign very negative intent) If you want to continue to assign intent here is a MUCH more accurate list of what we have been doing (AGAIN) for you to work from:
1) Asked to see child's work (both uncompleted and completed)
2) Discussed with family as to whether it is important for us to be able to have access to his work
3) We decide as a family that by golly yes - it would be MOST helpful for us to see his work and for him to have access to his own work for many, many logical reasons as outline in previous posts.
4) Met with teacher and discussed with principal afterwards (and there was not an obnoxious word to be heard, I might add)
5) Discussed with husband, then with family as a unit. Frank discussion by all. Respect for the teacher and school was emphasized even while we disagreed on this SINGLE issue. Discussed intent going forward.
6) Wrote letter to teacher and cc'd principal as a recap of issue (and to have documentation as to why we are requesting to see work).
7) No answer.
8) Opted to coach son through an ongoing project (teacher was aware as was principal) to hold him to a higher standard to which he was capable - but he STILL had plenty left to do in-class.
9) Teacher complained that son had nothing to do during set aside time to work on projects. To which I find out that son wanted to draw instead of continuing on with his projects.
10 ) we had talk with son about how he needs to use in-class time to do what the teacher wants him to do - even if it is just tweaking or reviewing project and not to draw. Cleared up any confusion and reinforced respect for teacher
11) Wrote back to teacher apologizing for the in-class drawing and assured her that even though son worked on it at home, he was was not done project (and should have continued working on it as she intended. )
12) Teacher had 2 more in-class project sessions for said project in which son continued to work on project in class
13) Son received A+ on project.
14) Still not seeing any completed work
15) Come to online forum to seek additional suggestions before escalating issue.
Steps not yet completed:
16) Due to feedback here about "in progress" work - will be contemplating this issue and discussing with husband (and possibly with son afterwards)
17) Due to not seeing ANY completed work (except for 2 math tests) - will be asking teacher to have completed and graded work ready to view during parent/teacher interview. And have decided ahead of time not to feel rushed in doing so. (thank you for that idea - you know who you are )
Nowhere do I continue to criticize the teacher. Nor do I constantly tell my son that his teacher is wrong. Nor do I have plans to be obnoxious during parent/teacher interview. Just plan on defending parental right to be a partner in my son's education - which would be satisfied simply by being able to see completed work!
Sheeeesh..... hope that about covers it!!
Once again - thank you everyone for your suggestions! I had planned on updating everyone as to the parent teacher interview outcome. But will have to rethink that due to the continued negativity shown here. To those who are genuinely interested, please DO feel free to message me (as many of you already have).
Edited by Momma2Luke, 02 February 2017 - 04:39 PM.