S/O farm or city thread: Here is why I don't like living in town...

[gaillardia]

Living in town is not my cup of tea! Most backyards in this neighborhood are privacy fenced. The yard in back of our yard has a trampoline and once or twice a week and sometimes for long periods of time on weekends, a few teens gather there. They're loud and crude and I turn up my music or patch into earbuds, etc. to drown them out. Maybe the parents aren't home during these times. 

 

Yesterday morning I found an empty soda can in our yard, obviously pitched by someone in that yard since it is way too far from the other properties.

 

Earlier today our dog threw up but I wasn't sure why. This evening I went out with the dog and noticed she was eating something in the yard.

I searched around and found a piece of cheese pizza less than a foot from the fence, which was what dog had been eating. I threw it back to their side of the fence.

DH was livid. I was like, whatever. Every time I find something on our side of the fence, I will throw it back over. He was ready to go have a chat with them...tomorrow. I think that unless it gets out of hand, we don't have to say anything. I'm just hoping that is the end of it.

 

We haven't had any unpleasantries between us. A random "hey," or a wave.

And out in our front yard several kids have been gathering to play football. Our yard is SMALL. DH motioned to them to go back to their own yards but when I saw them there the week before I waved and said hi. Maybe DH is thinking of broken windows. Oh, I did find a soccer ball in the back yard and a small play baseball (for dogs) last week, but I threw those back to the other yard (the one the kids crawl over the fence from to get to the trampoline yard).

 

In the other direction our neighbors are friendly and others are very quiet, but friendly. It's not like everybody is in your face in this neighborhood so it's not because we're not having coffee or beer with the Colby and Snicket families. I hope. 

As usual, looking for the hive input.

 

 

 

 

 

[Scarlett]

We live 15 min from a small town. We have an acre in a very very sought after area. We have no problems and it is very lovely. But the constant trips to town exhaust me. Even so I am nervous about moving to town for all the reasons you describe,

 

No perfect plan, that is for sure.

[Rosie_0801]

When we had to move from a country town back to the city, the thing that hit me most was billboards! Such polluting invasions of my personal space! lol

[City Mouse]

Sounds pretty typical for a surbaban neighborhood to me.

 

Balls and toys over fences just happens, but I think it is fine to say something if trash keeps getting thrown over. The kids might even think that giving the dog their left over pizza is being nice to the dog, so you might want to let them know that it made the dog get sick and that you would be happy to provide dog treats if they would like to give the dog something.

 

Teens will often be crude when they are together without an adult, you might try letting them know you are out in the yard. Say hi or something, they might be embarrassed to know you heard them.

[Squiddles]

nm wrong thread lol

Edited January 30, 2017 by Squiddles

[SparklyUnicorn]

Yep, typical.  You deal with noise, garbage, annoying neighbors, and people mostly keeping to themselves. 

I guess I'm just used to it.  Our neighborhood is pretty quiet, especially this time of year (because it's frigidly cold and nobody hangs out outside).  Thankfully we don't generally have issues with neighbors.  Only once had a bit of weirdness.  They were lighting off fireworks (they have no yard so this meant stuff was flying into our yard and on our roof).  Someone called the fire department (we didn't).  That created quite a ruckus.  Eh it was sorted out.  Not a huge deal.  Generally that neighbor is very quiet.

 

 

[SparklyUnicorn]

When we had to move from a country town back to the city, the thing that hit me most was billboards! Such polluting invasions of my personal space! lol

 

I was just thinking about the stupid ones we have.  I can't see any from where I live, but I drive by them.  They alternate messages from healthy living (don't drink too much, eat vegetables, call blah blah if you have trouble with gambling) to anything but healthy living (McDs, booze, come to this casino or horse betting place).  Ridiculous! 

[ErinE]

I would mention the can and pizza, especially since you're noticing trash getting thrown over the fence and it's making your dog sick.

 

The teens, well, there's not much you can do.

 

A few moves ago, my neighbor was the neighborhood enforcer. She would usually just sit outside quietly, but if teens were too noisy, speeding down the street, or doing something suspicious (we had a problem with vandalism of common areas), she'd shout out a quick comment: There's kids playing out here, watch the language. Or slow down. It was nice because she was generally sweet and kind to everyone, but she wasn't afraid to speak up.

[gaillardia]

I would mention the can and pizza, especially since you're noticing trash getting thrown over the fence and it's making your dog sick.

 

The teens, well, there's not much you can do.

 

A few moves ago, my neighbor was the neighborhood enforcer. She would usually just sit outside quietly, but if teens were too noisy, speeding down the street, or doing something suspicious (we had a problem with vandalism of common areas), she'd shout out a quick comment: There's kids playing out here, watch the language. Or slow down. It was nice because she was generally sweet and kind to everyone, but she wasn't afraid to speak up.

I just lost the message I had typed. :( 

Living in town, I will get over it. I'm can't imagine spending the rest of my life here, but then I couldn't imagine living here, and here I am.

Today I went out back to shake my rugs and run the dog. Our teen trampoline neighbor was there with her friend, scream singing their hearts out while jumping. I didn't care, kind of annoying, but honestly, it was cute.

I was puttering around in the yard, we had a tree taken out today. Someone was looking at me, I could feel it. When I looked over at her, she was waving to me and smiling every time she cleared the fence! I smiled and waved. My guess is that one of the dorky boys had tossed the items. I will never know, but if there ends up being a problem, I will be nice and I will say something. 

This is a clean, residential neighborhood. People don't throw trash out their car windows. Yards are kept in nice condition. No billboards in neighborhoods, they're out on the highway. 

(Over the years the amount of litter and trash that people leave, toss, dump and pile up has really horrified me. We should all be horrified at the disrespect for our land, water, air, cities and towns). 

[scrapbookbuzz]

I grew up in a small-ish town. We now live in the big city and I cannot stand it!

I'm tired of living right up next to my neighbors and seeing more and more apartment buildings.

Just get me out of here already!