I belong to an online parenting group, mostly of moms with one or two young kids. Like a lot of such groups, the parenting can seem oveblown, but ipeople are also remarkably helpful and keep their judgements to themselves. You can disagree, but nicely, and people take it that way too.
I head omething different there a few days ago, and thought about saying something, but couldn't figure out how to put it. I'm not going to now, but I am curious because it seemed like a common thing for these younger parents, but I had never heard about it at all. It also seemed odd.
The OP had complained that the carers at her daycare kept telling her when her child had done something, especially a "first" at daycare. She had asked them not to do that, because she wanted to experience those things with her child as if her seeing them actually counted as the "first".
Several people agreed how annoying that was, and another poster mentioned she had overheard a childcare worker in a public setting makeing fun of parents that did this with another worker, and she thought that was really beyond the pale. (Generally making fun, not naming specific people.)
My thought, beyond my initial surprise, was that there was something a bit odd about trying to make out like a significant portion of your child's life isn't going on at the place they spend the day, and also that it is probably hard for the workers to keep track of who want to know these things and who doesn't, and have to edit their comments in that way all the time. (I do childcare, and I don't feel the need to pass on everything, but I also don't want to think I have to police my comments when I say what kind of day a child had.)
I also understood why parents might find it disconcerting to think that childcare workers talk about parents, but also naïve and maybe even unfair to think they won't - I've never been in a service job, or maybe any other, where people never feel the need to vent/bond by talking about the quirks and annoying aspects of the people they work for. I'd have tended to assume that strange or otherwise notable parental behaviors would be a fairly common topic amongst childcare workers.
Have other people heard of this, and does it seem strange or odd, or perfectly normal?