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I've lost my potty training optimism.


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LOL.

 

Nine of eleven kids were potty trained by 25 months.  (Some did still have occasional or more than occasional accidents, but they were all in undies by then and solidly doing #1s and #2s in the potty.)

 

Then, with #10, I'd really lost my gumption.  We waited until she turned three, put her underwear, called it good.  It was a great experience.

 

Bubba is showing potty readiness signs.  He wants changed the MINUTE he goes - even potty.  He brings me diapers in the morning.  He wants to sit on the potty.  I'm probably going to regret missing my window.........  It's summer.  I could have him potty trained before we officially start school.

 

He'll be two in a couple weeks.  Heaven help me, I am not remotely interested.  Keeping in mind that I have always been pregnant or had a toddler since 1996, you would think I'd be more motivated to have diapers out of my house, wouldn't you?

 

But, alas, this old mom knows that if I get rid of those diapers now, I will inevitably have to deal with accidents.  I can't decide if I've just gotten lazier or wiser.  :P :D  I choose wiser?  Feel free to add your motivational thoughts.  Maybe it will inspire me.  ;)

 

Chuckling.......

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I only have 2 kids and my kids did occasionally use the potty prior to 2.  But I felt if I wanted them to consistently use it I needed to be trained to keep them on a regular schedule and take them to the potty all the time.  That is a different type of training than the 3 year old being trained and pretty much doing the whole thing on their own.  The younger method just didn't work for the life style we had at the time, so both my kids trained at about 3+. 

 

I always kind of laughed at the moms who looked down their nose at my non potty trained kids, while they were asking their child every 20 minutes to go potty and looked eternally nervous outside their home. 

 

I think whatever works for you is awesome!  They won't go to college (or even start kindergarten) in diapers!   :hurray:  :lol:  

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I only have 2 kids and my kids did occasionally use the potty prior to 2.  But I felt if I wanted them to consistently use it I needed to be trained to keep them on a regular schedule and take them to the potty all the time.  That is a different type of training than the 3 year old being trained and pretty much doing the whole thing on their own.  The younger method just didn't work for the life style we had at the time, so both my kids trained at about 3+. 

 

I always kind of laughed at the moms who looked down their nose at my non potty trained kids, while they were asking their child every 20 minutes to go potty and looked eternally nervous outside their home. 

 

I think whatever works for you is awesome!  They won't go to college (or even start kindergarten) in diapers!   :hurray:  :lol:  

 

Both of my kids trained this way at 33 months.  I was okay with that. I didn't want to deal with the accidents.

 

OP, I'd go along with your kid as long as it is all him. Change his diaper when he brings you the diaper, etc. You certainly don't want to discourage! But let it be just a stage if that is what he wants.

 

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My 2.5 year old is interested but I don't want to deal with the accidents either. So we're potty training AND he's staying in diapers. If he tells me he needs to go, I let him go sit. I ask him maybe once an hour or so. He is at the point where he knows if he needs to go, but often sits to no avail and immediately goes afterward. I'm not putting away the diapers until he gets much better.

 

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I had one who trained at 30 months and one who trained at 18 months. I could count the total number of accidents they had on one hand. When they are ready, they are ready. There is no reason to hold back because you fear accidents. I say if he wants to use the potty, let him!

 

 

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I was pretty laid back, and went with the idea that I'd know when kids are ready. They stayed in pull-ups while we worked out the kinks. That mostly worked, but DD was a bit different. She had #1 down, but not #2. We were at a doc visit, and mentioned it to the (beloved) doc. Doc said, "she'll do it when she's ready" and, really, I didn't think DD even heard - she was reading a book. That night, DD did #2 in the potty, insisted I call the Beloved Doc to share the news. She never wore a diaper or pull-ups again. :D

 

(I know people frown on pull-ups. Even with them, and my laid back approach, my kids potty-trained. I didn't ruin them. Really. :) )

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LOL, I agree, but then there is the Mom effort to weigh.  

 

 

Elizabeth potty trained at 18 months.  The child just never had accidents at all.  After Liz, I trained two 25mo (one girl, one boy) just a year apart from one anther. And while DS potty trained easier than almost everyone, the other had accidents regularly until she was six.  All of my boys potty trained easily (totally against what everyone told me) and I waited with my 3yo after I was SURE the problem with later kids potty training was that their mama had missed the signs and the compliance.

 

 

I suspect the common denominator in all of these came down to parental consistency.  And, frankly, while we have a routine right now that *could* offer good consistency I wonder if I want to.  I feel like I'm gambling - Cate has such an easy personality whereas William is just a bit more.... stubborn like a bull, lol. 

It's funny... The more I parent the more I realize everything I know I never knew.  

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I'd say go for it!  One of mine was ready, and I just didn't want to, I had Thanksgiving and Christmas to deal with, and just did not want to deal with Potty training.  So, I even put him in overalls, so he couldn't get out of them.

 

Well, after Christmas, when I was ready, he never had an accident.  Really, I should have let him out of diapers when he wanted, not when I wanted, less diapers that way.

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LOL, any potty training optimism I had went right out the window with my FIRST experience! Truly the most frustrating part of being a parent so far - my daughter is a few months into 3 and she's MOSTLY got it now, but once in a while she'll have a day or two with accidents everywhere. She gets so involved in whatever she's doing she forgets to pay attention to potty needs until it's too late.

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You can try, if there are a lot of accidents, give it up for a bit and try again later. that's what I did. More than one accident a day says they aren't ready, to me. Or switch to pull ups and do a combo of using the potty when they ask, and not worrying about if they don't. I did that with the last one, worked fine. One day I asked him if he wanted underwear while we were at the store, he said yes, we bought some, end of story. 

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Ha. My 17 month old it showing major signs of being ready and I've never even started this process until around 3 with my other kids. She takes her diaper off if I don't get it change fast enough for her.she'll sit on the potty at every chance she get. She comes to me right before she poops.

 

It would be the perfect time to just get it done especially since our next is coming in January. But I don't want to!! We have a brand new couch and I just know the second we start training she'll pee on it. Also, I'm lazy.

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I'd give it a try.  I'd give it 3 full days and then re-evaluate.  :)

 

Think of it this way - you are training either way.  Training him to pee in his diaper or in a potty.  I would choose the one I didn't have to un-train later.

 

If he's making you change him every time he goes anyway, it's probably not less effort than cleaning up a few accidents.

 

And just think - you could be done with diapers.  Done!  Totally done.  (Until the grandkids ....)

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