AnthemLights Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 I have a very complicated situation that I would love to get everyone's opinion on. BUT I would definitely have to share more than what I want out on the internet. So, could I ask, keep the topic up for a day or so and then delete. OR is that not allowed or maybe even possible. I think I read somewhere where you can delete a topic, yes? Thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 The only ones who can delete an actual thread are the moderators. They've said that they don't like to do it but I don't know if they have policies about when they choose to do so and when they don't. Some people post details, ask people not to quote them (though usually one or two people still quote) and then delete the details. I can't say that those are my favorite kinds of threads but you can generally get the gist from the replies. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 I think usually the topic won't be deleted. What we usually do is post with a vague-ish title, say your thing, ask people not to quote & then after a while, edit your original post & delete what you posted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternalsummer Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 If google caches the page while the OP is still up (before being deleted by the OP), does it stay forever in the cache page? I would imagine so but my computer knowledge is not great. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnthemLights Posted May 25, 2016 Author Share Posted May 25, 2016 The only ones who can delete an actual thread are the moderators. They've said that they don't like to do it but I don't know if they have policies about when they choose to do so and when they don't. Some people post details, ask people not to quote them (though usually one or two people still quote) and then delete the details. I can't say that those are my favorite kinds of threads but you can generally get the gist from the replies. Oh, okay. That's good to know. I am glad I asked. Thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 A good rule of thumb is: if you have even a moment's doubt that you need to delete it, you probably ought not to be posting it. Once it's posted, the internet is forever. Even if you delete it, the caches and the way-back machine have already got it. But then again... there are some people who will post so much TMI it'll make you want to chuck your cookies and they don't seem to have a problem with the whole world having detailed descriptions of every inch of their hoo-hahs and family lives for all perpetuity, so hey... if you're comfortable with that, then anything goes. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnthemLights Posted May 25, 2016 Author Share Posted May 25, 2016 I think usually the topic won't be deleted. What we usually do is post with a vague-ish title, say your thing, ask people not to quote & then after a while, edit your original post & delete what you posted. Yeah, I have seen where people have done that. It seems though like Jean pointed out, even if the OP deletes the original post you can still figure out a lot from reading the replies. So, yeah, not sure if I should go there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 (hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnthemLights Posted May 25, 2016 Author Share Posted May 25, 2016 A good rule of thumb is: if you have even a moment's doubt that you need to delete it, you probably ought not to be posting it. Once it's posted, the internet is forever. Even if you delete it, the caches and the way-back machine have already got it. But then again... there are some people who will post so much TMI it'll make you want to chuck your cookies and they don't seem to have a problem with the whole world having detailed descriptions of every inch of their hoo-hahs and family lives for all perpetuity, so hey... if you're comfortable with that, then anything goes. I usually don't consider myself this type of person. The situation is concerning legal issues/social services/welfare of a child. I really need advice. Maybe someone who knows how that stuff works could pm me? Although, I thought by posting the situation enough people would respond that I could be sure that I am not missing something. If that makes sense. "In the multitude of counselors, there is wisdom," as the saying goes. I'll sleep on it....maybe I can think of some way to make it vague enough. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnthemLights Posted May 25, 2016 Author Share Posted May 25, 2016 (hugs) Thanks, that's really sweet of you. :001_smile: And since you took the time to send me a hug, I'll take the time to say that I really like your name/avatar. It makes me smile whenever I see it. :001_cool: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 I usually don't consider myself this type of person. The situation is concerning legal issues/social services/welfare of a child. I really need advice. Maybe someone who knows how that stuff works could pm me? Although, I thought by posting the situation enough people would respond that I could be sure that I am not missing something. If that makes sense. "In the multitude of counselors, there is wisdom," as the saying goes. I'll sleep on it....maybe I can think of some way to make it vague enough. I am sure that if you posted a request for pms from people who have experience with those issues you will get some responses. But, I am wondering if perhaps it might be more immediately useful for you to call a crisis line for advice. Most allow you to remain anonymous. Just going by your username, I searched for crisis line https://www.bing.com/search?q=montana+crisis+line&form=EDGNTC&qs=AS&cvid=4ece81ac66d24e2d976bcca0253e55ed&pq=montana%20crisis%20line&elv=AFCXj70FZY9jUo*TUZU17*PgnRW9bQe02NxFHO1YrhBr There are many resources there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 If you suspect this might end up being an ongoing thing, or you need a discussion more than just a quick response, you might consider asking a very general question, seeking out those who might be interested in discussing this more privately, then you could create a temporary private social group. Easy to do. Invite those who have indicated they are willing to talk with you, have your private discussion (set the privacy settings on all options so it can't be searchable), then delete the group when you are done. The info is gone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alessandra Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Op I can't see how many posts you have, doesn't show up on my phone. But if you are new, you might want to consider changing your user name if it represents moving from one state to another. One state alone, fine. But the combination could be identifying. I'm not sure how name changes are tracked. Perhaps you would have to re-register using a different email? Someone savvier than I could answer that. Then, if you decide to post, you could keep identifying info at a minimum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnthemLights Posted May 25, 2016 Author Share Posted May 25, 2016 Audrey - See stuff like that. I would never have even thought of a crisis hotline. I don't *think* the situation calls for something like that, but if it did, I would never have thought of that. Alessandra - I would love to change my username. I've been uncomfortable with it almost from the very first. My understanding was that you couldn't. OneStep - I think that sounds perfect. I am going to look into doing that. Thanks everyone. :001_smile: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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