TechWife Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 We are enjoying having DS home this weekend. He arrived Tuesday night and will stay until Sunday. He did tell us he likes living better on his own than living with us. I told him that was perfectly normal and appropriate to his age, but that he's always welcome here. Bittersweet, KWIM? I think he's disappointed that the cats haven't been sleeping with him at night - they have gotten out of the habit. :crying: He said he needs a new winter coat - his is both too small and not long enough. I looked at it on him and I think he's right, so that's the plan for Saturday, to go coat shopping. He has gloves that he's going to take back with him, too. I think he needs waterproof boots, but he disagrees, so we'll wait on that. It hasn't snowed yet, so he hasn't experienced walking to class in the slush. How is everyone else doing this break? 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 Only middle son is with us. We feasted with extended family for the day's meal and have been playing games at Grandma's house. I got to ride with him to Grandma's house, so was able to catch up (just the two of us) on a bit of his life, plans for this coming summer, and his med school hopes/plans, etc. It's been a blast. We take him back Sunday, return home Monday, and resume normal life for us Tuesday. We also are hoping to speak to oldest and youngest sometime this evening. That might not happen until tomorrow though. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caroline Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 DS came home Tuesday afternoon. I picked him up 10 minutes after his last class let out. I was going to avoid ATL traffic. I didn't manage that. He ran a couple of errands for me Wednesday. (He tells me that being my personal assistant is his way of thanking us for paying for school. So I sent him to the UPS store to mail a package and to Publix for soda last night.) Today, he ran back down to school to pick up a frat brother who didn't get to go home. He had dinner with us, and now DS is returning him and will probably hang out at the house for a bit. All the brothers who didn't leave were spread out amongst the local brothers for Thanksgiving. We love having him home, but he definitely loves being at school and in that atmosphere. You know, where in the middle of the night they design something and then run to the MDRC and print it using the rapid prototype machine. (3D printer) Or some other cool academic discussion. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in NY Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 (edited) I am so thankful to have dd#2 home this week. Her school gave the kids off the Wednesday before Thanksgiving for the first time last year, so she lucked out in that regard and got home late Tuesday night. Last night she went to TaeKwonDo for the first time since her last exam and was promoted to second degree black belt (so proud of her for sticking with it!). Today we had a wonderful dinner with grandparents and skyped with dd#1 who is studying in Spain. Enjoying the time with dd2 and looking forward to having everyone home for a simple Christmas together in a few short weeks. Love seeing the changes and hearing about the adventures. And ds is beyond happy to have his partner in crime back in town. :) Wishing everyone a peaceful December... Edited November 27, 2015 by Jen in NY 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gwen in VA Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 Three out of four kids are away at the homes of significant others -- a good but bittersweet development. We get the whole gang, including significant others, for Christmas, so our house will be full to overflowing in a few weeks! But college girl didn't come home this break! So our Thanksgiving table had lots of adult friends but only two "young ones" (under 26)! Times change! 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gingersmom Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 My daughter came home Sunday and flies back Saturday. Too short a visit but she will be back in less than a month. She already made arrangements to work over December break to earn some money (worked there over summer). I'm happy she took the initiative to do that. She bought so much new stuff this visit it all won't fit in her luggage. Looks like some will be going back next trip. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 My son is "home" this weekend, but since he's going to school just 90 minutes away and is dating a girl who lives here, he's back for weekends pretty frequently. So, it's not as big a milestone for us as for some families whose kids are farther away, probably. Also, the quotation marks around the word "home" indicate that, although he is sleeping here and eating some meals here, spending time with the family at the old homestead isn't exactly at the top of his priority list. Our daughter did make it home from NYC for a few days, though, which is pretty special. This is the first time all four of us have been together since last Christmas. She arrived late Tuesday/early Wednesday and will be here until mid-day Sunday. She, too, is making some time to see a couple of local friends while she's in town, but we're getting the majority of her time and attention. One thing on my son's agenda for the weekend was making sure that he could introduce his girlfriend to his sister, because he was convinced (correctly) that they would get along well. That happened yesterday, and went as well as we had all expected. We had our usual relatively low-key Thanksgiving for most of the day. We watched the Macy's parade and ate bagels, then hung out listening to Christmas music (not allowed in our house until after Santa "arrives" at the end of the parade) while I cooked dinner. We ate a little earlier than usual, because my son was headed over to his girlfriend's house to spend some time with her family. While he was gone, my daughter and I worked on the gift she is making for my son for Christmas. And once he got home, being the nerds we are, we spent a couple of hours doing SAT practice questions for fun. I'm already dreading having the house empty out again on Sunday. But, for the moment, all is well. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 This is our first Thanksgiving without ds home (he works in Silicon Valley) :( His girlfriend flew out to visit him. They were invited to two Thanksgivings with my relatives who all live within two hours of Sacramento. My aunties were kind enough to upload pictures to facebook right away :) We took cousin pictures here with my kids and my sister's kids. Dbil photoshopped ds into a a few of those and into one of the pictures of everyone at table :lol: 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 (edited) DD is home. She and her friend got here at 1am Thursday morning. Stupid Amtrak was 45 minutes late (why oh why does this country have such a pathetic train service?), and the station is a two hour drive from our house. DH picked them up. It is lovely having her home. We had fin cooking a great feast and enjoyed eating and chatting with friends yesterday; dinner at 2pm, last guest left at 10pm. She has a lot of school work, problem sets and an essay. We will take them back to the train Sunday after lunch. Edited November 27, 2015 by regentrude 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 DD is home. She and her friend got here at 1am Thursday morning. Stupid Amtrak was 45 minutes late (why oh why does this country have such a pathetic train service?), and the station is a two hour drive from our house. DH picked them up. It is lovely having her home. We had fin cooking a great feast and enjoyed eating and chatting with friends yesterday; dinner at 2pm, last guest left at 10pm. She has a lot of school work, problem sets and an essay. We will take them back to the train Sunday after lunch. Definite bummer about the school work. Fortunately, middle son was able to get all of his stuff from Mon and Tues done before he left to meet us yesterday morning. He assures me that he has time to get the later stuff done when he returns. It makes for a nice break for him. After having had teens (and college students) myself, I'll admit I was pretty lenient with due dates when I was setting them for the full time job. I made them far enough out that kids had time to easily schedule what they wanted to do and when, so could easily work around sports, jobs, or family events. None have work due upon their return. What's due is due a couple days later - just in case they want the holiday as a break. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 (edited) Definite bummer about the school work. Fortunately, middle son was able to get all of his stuff from Mon and Tues done before he left to meet us yesterday morning. He assures me that he has time to get the later stuff done when he returns. It makes for a nice break for him. After having had teens (and college students) myself, I'll admit I was pretty lenient with due dates when I was setting them for the full time job. I made them far enough out that kids had time to easily schedule what they wanted to do and when, so could easily work around sports, jobs, or family events. None have work due upon their return. What's due is due a couple days later - just in case they want the holiday as a break. This is UChicago for you. They work all.the.time. and are never "done". One problem set is due Monday, another Wednesday, and the essay has a few more days but needs to be started. That's what weekends are for (snark) Her friend brought work, too. Edited November 27, 2015 by regentrude 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennW in SoCal Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 A few weeks ago my dh and I thought it would be just the 2 of us for Thanksgiving. Oldest always works on the holidays and for the last 3 years the youngest has spent the long weekend with friends instead of making the long flight home. But I guess senior year feels a different enough that the youngest asked about coming home. Thanks to accumulated frequent flier miles we were able to make last minute reservations! He arrived Tuesday and leaves Sunday morning. The oldest wound up working graveyard shifts this week, so we drove up to a restaurant near his place for a late afternoon Thanksgiving dinner. It was such an unexpected pleasure to have my little nuclear family together!! Youngest has work to do on his big senior capstone project, but I know he has appreciated having some time away from campus. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 It's been very nice. And so noisy! We had our honorary 5th child here from Tuesday to Wednesday and the house felt complete. Dd got here Friday and goes back tonight. I can't believe it's just a few short weeks and she'll be done with her first semester! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 Ds has homework which is typical. At mid terms in three of his five classes, assignments were made for the long weekend as soon as test time was up. So it is not surprising. Fortunately the workload is reasonale so he still has some down time. I am not with him however. I am in Albany with pregnant dd and hubby. I do know dh and ds went to see the new Hunger Games movie together Wednesday night. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caroline Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 I'm glad others are posting their kid had homework. Mine does, too, and has every Thanksgiving Break. I always did, and didn't think it was odd. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in NY Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 Mine has lots of homework, too... next week is the last week of classes and there are project reports, problem sets, and a paper due. She's found her old spot at the 'school table' and fits right back in. :) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 Mine has lots of homework, too... next week is the last week of classes and there are project reports, problem sets, and a paper due. She's found her old spot at the 'school table' and fits right back in. :) I love the bolded. Dd doesn't study much at home but when she does it's back to her spot at the kitchen table. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 I'm glad others are posting their kid had homework. Mine does, too, and has every Thanksgiving Break. I always did, and didn't think it was odd. My guy has work due. He was just able to get it all done prior to joining us for Thanksgiving. I'm thankful for that and glad he gets a mental break. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lolly Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 (edited) The new usual Thanksgiving. All sitting around working on assignments and studying for tests! I am so frustrated with dd21a's anatomy teacher. They have a week and a day (?) of school left. They still have THREE tests plus the final to go. He didn't line his teaching up very well. So, they have to just cram it all in by teaching it to themselves in a short time and take tests. That seems very, very unfair. Oh, and they took a test the last day of class before Thanksgiving too... Half the material for the class is being covered adn tested in the last two weeks. Edited November 28, 2015 by Lolly 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 ! I am so frustrated with dd21a's anatomy teacher. They have a week and a day (?) of school left. They still have THREE tests plus the final to go. He didn't line his teaching up very well. So, they have to just cram it all in by teaching it to themselves in a short time and take tests. That seems very, very unfair. Oh, and they took a test the last day of class before Thanksgiving too... Half the material for the class is being covered adn tested in the last two weeks. That is completely ridiculous. So there is no actual teaching going on during the last week, just testing??? Very strange. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Granny_Weatherwax Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 DS had quite a bit of homework, too. He didn't complete it, though. He slept a lot and played video games with his friends. :glare: Some things change, some things stay the same. He and I are leaving this morning to take him back to school. :driving: I hope to be back home sometime late tomorrow night. Where did the time go? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 It is very quiet in my house. Ds took his first train ride with ex to go see ex's family. It's the first time since the separation that he has seen most of them. He also took homework that is due Tuesday. I, otoh, have been working on my own homework. I have 3 papers due next week that I'm trying to finish this weekend. I'm also trying to finish Nanowrimo. I ordered a few Christmas gifts and have stayed in since Thursday evening. the sleet and freezing roadways solidified my plans. thankfully I bought a bottle of wine on the way home from my parents. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 Dd20 is at the end of the kitchen table writing her second paper of break :) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 We're waiting for everyone to be ready for our daily round of games. I'm on here (obviously). Middle son is setting up more doctor shadowing (continuing an e-mail discussion with times, etc). Hubby has been working on his projects (benefits of a portable job). As soon as grandma is ready... let the games begin! (Likely Rook) If the clouds clear up a little this afternoon, we're heading to Canada for our fish & chips treat. Upon our return we'll play more games. We're a game loving family... Tomorrow we take middle son back to school. I have Monday off school (first day of rifle hunting season is a school holiday in many PA rural schools, including mine), so we can return home that day. It's nice to be able to break up the road trip and not be on the road with oodles of other returning travelers. Less than a month until both college boys are home for about 3 weeks each. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 Ds had two huge projects due Tuesday and Wednesday this week. He has a bit of homework for next week, but has spent much of his time finishing up grad school applications. 3 are done. 2 more to go (but waiting for a copy of his transcript to upload.) He has some big stuff when he gets back, but nothing nearly as overwhelming as the last 3 weeks have been. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Penguin Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 We are in Europe, and so is DS21. He had classes Thursday and Friday, so we came to him for the weekend. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 Ds had two huge projects due Tuesday and Wednesday this week. He has a bit of homework for next week, but has spent much of his time finishing up grad school applications. 3 are done. 2 more to go (but waiting for a copy of his transcript to upload.) He has some big stuff when he gets back, but nothing nearly as overwhelming as the last 3 weeks have been. My guy just figured out yesterday that he'll have to plan to take the GRE in addition to the MCAT. Why? One of his top med school choices requires it for its MSTP (or maybe MD/PhD) program. None of the others seem to so I expected him to drop the school rather than lining up another test. Nope. This leads me to believe it's a very top choice for him... Time will tell. (And of course, there's that little "getting admitted" deal so we're not ordering the sweat shirt for Christmas.) We take him back today. Bummer. But in less than a month we'll have both younger boys home for the holidays. AND we were all making spring break travel plans already. These include both boys as we Skyped with youngest yesterday evening and he likes our idea too. We're trying to toss in as much time together as we can before other parts of life demand more time. I seriously thing more should have been done figuring out how to save time in a bottle in response to Jim Croce's song. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 On a different note... we had to remind youngest that his finals are coming up very soon. It seemed to surprise him. :glare: My three boys have all fully demonstrated that each of our offspring is a completely different individual, all well-liked and well-adjusted at this point in their lives, but definitely different in their academic (and other) pursuits. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom22ns Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 I've loved having ds home for the week. In fact, I loved it so much I haven't been here all week :). Like others, he was pretty swamped. He was writing 4 papers and needed a topic for a final presentation. He just has one week of class after break and then finals, so in 2 weeks I'll have him back! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 Just dropped middle son off after a tasty supper at Tully's and a shopping trip to Wegmans. (I really wish we had a Wegmans near us!) I'll admit to missing him already. Three weeks from tomorrow we pick him up at the airport... Less than two weeks until we pick youngest up. Gotta start Christmas shopping soon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 Well, this year Thanksgiving was the mandatory appearance in California for FIL's 90th birthday, so we have all been traveling. DD21 and her young man drove in on Wednesday. DS24 flew in from Texas on Thursday. They all left for home this morning. We have one more day here at the in laws before we fly home. It's been lovely visiting with everyone. Found out that DS will be able to come home at Christmas this year after all, so that was great news. DS19 has spent most of the vacation doing homework :( but we have played lots and lots of board games with the whole crew. It's funny to see people putting up Christmas lights on their rose bushes with the roses still blooming. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tokyomarie Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 My ds was home for a full week. It was good to have him here and connect with him about his plans for the next year or so. He has decided to apply for a study abroad in the country where he was born and lived for the first 5.5 years of his life. If that all comes about, I will have the chance to visit for the first time since we moved back to the States over 15 years ago! He had some homework to complete for his Computer Science classes, but the hardest part for me was that *I* had massive amounts of homework for my internship class. Coupled with hosting the extended family for dinner on Thursday and visiting with some other family on Friday, I didn't have as much time to do fun stuff and shopping with him as I wish I could have done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MerryAtHope Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 My son had homework too, plus a paper to work on. Unfortunately, he didn't make much progress on the paper because the hard drive in his new laptop died! Instead, we got to visit Best Buy on Black Friday (and, I *don't do* Black Friday shopping at all! I'm more of a Cyber Monday kind of gal, LOL!), only to find out it has to be returned to the manufacturer. We were out of town at the time, so we stopped on our way back home tonight at the BB in our region to have it shipped out. So, ds will be working on his paper at home and then studying for finals, which start on the 7th for him. Semester is winding down! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gwen in VA Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 Dd2 is at a conservatory which has classes end before Thanksgiving, finals right after Thanksgiving, and then two weeks of "Intensive Arts". What a weird schedule! So dd2 is facing two finals today and one tomorrow. She certainly didn't put in a lot of study time -- over Thanksgiving she studied approximately 30 minutes TOTAL for all her exams. She spent her freshman year at a very academic LAC and 30 minutes would have been just a drop in the bucket of her studying. It's funny how different educations can be, depending on the school and major, etc.! (Just to be fair, dd2 isn't a sloth -- she put in kazillions of hours practicing for her juries! But at her school the academics aren't the focus.....) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MBM Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 We had a very nice time with ds -- when we saw him, that is. His university is near our home, so he spent a lot of time meeting up with old friends from elementary and high school. A few of their get-togethers didn't end until 5 am, about the time I was waking up! Ds also invited two of his friends from university for Thanksgiving and after dinner we sat around talking with them until the wee hours of the morning. Again, way past our bedtime but we really enjoyed talking with them. Ds didn't do much studying to my knowledge because this week is Reading Week at his university. No classes, just a full week to prepare for finals the following week. However, tonight a Grandmaster is going to play the chess club. For those who don't know much about chess, each member of the club will have his own board and the GM will walk from board to board making moves. Essentially, the GM simultaneously plays everyone. Most likely, all of the games will be over in less than three hours. So much for studying tonight! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmilyGF Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 My brother is the one in college. He flew to our house for Thanksgiving break but complained of a sore throat. Later he had a fever. The next day he was diagnosed with mono and strep throat. He'll be taking some incompletes. :-( Either he was awake and miserable or asleep, the poor guy. Emily Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clementine Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 We brought our back to school yesterday. I accidentally said "I'm not ready to bring you 'home'." That was so weird!!! She didn't want to leave, but last night she admitted that it was good to be back, especially knowing there are only 2 weeks left in the first semester. I am so happy with how her freshman year has gone so far. She is happy, she has found her people, and she is making smart choices. I have no idea how her grades are because I refuse to ask. I never thought I'd say this, but I care more about her being happy than having straight A's this semester. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
school17777 Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 Ds came home with a hacking cough the Sat before T-day. He already had a dr's appt on Monday, but neither he nor his dad brought it up at the appt, so I had to take him in on Friday, when we were going anyway for his sister's appts. I think the prescription is working because I didn't hear him hack all night on Sat night and he woke up on Sunday looking like he finally got some sleep. I am sure his roommate will be happy because apparently ds has been coughing for a month! The washing machine was in use the whole time the kids were home. I think ds had only washed his clothes up at school once or twice. I told him I didn't think he needed to take back all the clothes he brought home since he is only there for 2 1/2 weeks, but he insisted he did. Dd is transferring after this semester, so she will be moving out when we pick her up in 2 1/2 weeks. I had her bring home what she could last week, but I think she still has a bunch of stuff left there. The other kids don't have school today because of hunting. Will be nice to get the house cleaned and decorated today without having to do any school. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in NY Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 We brought our back to school yesterday. I accidentally said "I'm not ready to bring you 'home'." That was so weird!!! She didn't want to leave, but last night she admitted that it was good to be back, especially knowing there are only 2 weeks left in the first semester. I am so happy with how her freshman year has gone so far. She is happy, she has found her people, and she is making smart choices. I have no idea how her grades are because I refuse to ask. I never thought I'd say this, but I care more about her being happy than having straight A's this semester. I love this. Ditto. :) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angela in ohio Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 Dd was home just over a week, Friday to Saturday. She worked our FIRST LEGO League event as emcee the first weekend, and then we did the Thanksgiving maintenance things: bought a winter coat, scarf, gloves, etc., got a haircut, did some shopping, went to the grandparents. She spent a lot of her free time here working on internship applications, too. And slept. :) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechWife Posted November 30, 2015 Author Share Posted November 30, 2015 I have no idea how her grades are because I refuse to ask. I never thought I'd say this, but I care more about her being happy than having straight A's this semester. I would be in shock if my son made straight A's, but I so appreciate this sentiment! I care much more about him being happy and getting settled into college life than I do about looking for particular grades. Honestly, I may not think that about next semester, but I'm right there with you on this one for this semester! 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I would be in shock if my son made straight A's, but I so appreciate this sentiment! I care much more about him being happy and getting settled into college life than I do about looking for particular grades. Honestly, I may not think that about next semester, but I'm right there with you on this one for this semester! If I cared about youngest's grades, I'd be really stressed! Middle son might care too much about his, but he has lofty goals where GPA is a major factor, so such is life. I certainly don't need to worry about his grades. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom22ns Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 (edited) I would be in shock if my son made straight A's, but I so appreciate this sentiment! I care much more about him being happy and getting settled into college life than I do about looking for particular grades. Honestly, I may not think that about next semester, but I'm right there with you on this one for this semester! This exactly. There is so much more to college than grades. Midterm grades looked good, not all A's but very solid. If he can maintain that at all, I'll be thrilled. As long as he passes everything, I'm ok. Really, learning to live in a dorm, adjusting to being independent and just getting the feel for college life are so much bigger than grades right now. Next semester I'll want to make sure he maintains the scholarship, but right now, I just want him to learn how to function on his own. Edited November 30, 2015 by Momto2Ns 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Granny_Weatherwax Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I have no idea how her grades are because I refuse to ask. I never thought I'd say this, but I care more about her being happy than having straight A's this semester. I love this. This is how I feel, too. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Granny_Weatherwax Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 This exactly. There is so much more to college than grades. Midterm grades looked good, not all A's but very solid. If he can maintain that at all, I'll be thrilled. As long as he passes everything, I'm ok. Really, learning to live in a dorm, adjusting to being independent and just getting the feel for college life are so much bigger than grades right now. Next semester I'll want to make sure he maintains the scholarship, but right now, I just want him to learn how to function on his own. :iagree: I am so happy to hear others feel the same way. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dhudson Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 We had our ds home for a week but he's only 15 min from home so it wasn't as big as if it was his first time home. He had Calc homework and a paper on how his family (up to 3 generations) have shaped and affected his views and lifestyle. I thought it was a very thought provoking paper but it required both his dad and I to spend a couple of hours each, talking through family trees and telling stories. It felt like last year when we were working on his college applications and essays. He has finals in three weeks so he had to stay on top of some things. The twins were so glad to have him home and he spent time with both of them talking through some of the things he has learned and he made it a priority to introduce them to the addiction that is BBC's Sherlock. I think they all missed each other. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MerryAtHope Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 I would be in shock if my son made straight A's, but I so appreciate this sentiment! I care much more about him being happy and getting settled into college life than I do about looking for particular grades. Honestly, I may not think that about next semester, but I'm right there with you on this one for this semester! I'm not looking for specific grades at all. Sometimes a subject is really hard for a student, and a B or C is worthy of celebrating too. I just want my kids to do their best and not worry if every grade isn't the one they wanted. I just want my student to learn, be challenged, enjoy hanging out with the college youth group, and choose a major, LOL! (Kids do choose majors, right? I'm not hoping for too much?!!) 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 Whenever he tells me a low grade, I think of a roommate who took Thermo 3 times, graduated in 5.5 yrs and has done just fine in her career. Younger has grad school in mind so is willing to work to get the grades. Have to stop him from taking max credits, as he wants to make the most of the smorgasboard plus do undergrad research as well as sleep. I have hubby as my example. ;) He liked some courses so much he took them twice... graduated in 5 years... barely made it with a low 2.something... and now owns his own business and has done projects on multiple continents as well as never needing to advertise locally. He never really cared much for being super academic, but he knows his stuff and can do it very, very well - plus he has great people skills (better than mine). I suspect youngest takes after him to a large extent academically. Middle son takes max credits (and even got permission to take more a couple of times), does research, is an RA, is or has been a leader in a couple of diverse clubs, participates in others, and still has a high 3.9 something GPA. I don't think he sleeps though. Totally different personalities. Both are lovable boys. I want them to graduate and be happy both along the way and afterward. Simple goal really. (Oldest already achieved that goal - and didn't have straight As.) 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 Creekland, my older two are just like your middle boy, and my middle boy is more like your youngest. He will be in college next year and I predict great effort in his beloved mwth and science classes,but not so much in the others. I am counting on the fact that his scholarships are all renewable based on GPA and he knows he cannot afford to lose them or he will be living at home and commuting to a school he really does not want to attend because it is affordable. I want them to be content in their fields of choice and take satisfaction from their work. Life is too short to spend it doing something you hate. Dd has not particularly used her chemistry degree because she chose not to attend grad school, but she sure loved getting that degree. Her true love ended up being paramedicine, but during the last few calls she worked in Jersey she injured her back badly dragging a very, very morbidly obese person away from a car fire. Now that she is pregnant and in terrible back pain, it is abundantly apparent that she cannot work as a medic ever again nor even as a nurse or ER tech because patient care will be a no no. So since h u man medicine is still her passion, she is becoming an I.V. technician. With over 2000 i.v. starts and a stellar reputation as the one who could get a start first time no matter how bad the patient's veins, she will be very good at it. Our hope is that it will adequately fill the void that no longer being a medic has left. Youngest is the type to set high goals for himself and meets them. If anything, the issue we worry about the most is burn out. He hopes to major in robotics engineering which is perfect for him. Hopefully he will learn to achieve some balance in his life. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kareni Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 Her true love ended up being paramedicine, but during the last few calls she worked in Jersey she injured her back badly dragging a very, very morbidly obese person away from a car fire. Now that she is pregnant and in terrible back pain, it is abundantly apparent that she cannot work as a medic ever again nor even as a nurse or ER tech because patient care will be a no no. So since h u man medicine is still her passion, she is becoming an I.V. technician. I'm sorry to hear of your daughter's injury but glad that she has come up with a plan to continue in medicine. Best wishes to her and to you. Regards, Kareni 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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