MedicMom Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 Their website is a little vague. Does anyone know anything about them? Is it something you can call weeks in advance and discuss with their photographer or only when they are needed? It is looking like we will not make viability as my uterus is splitting already at fourteen weeks. I am trying to make tentative and hopefully never used plans so I don't have to try to remember everything in those moments. Thank you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Girls' Mom Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 First, I'm so sorry :(From what I understand, either is acceptable. I've had photographer friends that do this, and a few that have had it done. I'm pretty sure that in most cases it is a call when you need them thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
busymama7 Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 I am so sorry :( You can call ahead and I would. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 My IRL friend knew in advance and had plans in place. Since it's a volunteer organization, each area operates a bit differently. I'd go ahead and make the call and see how they want to handle it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angie in VA Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy in FL. Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 I am so very sorry. Praying for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happypamama Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 I don't know, but I am so, so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 I'm so sorry. When my sister lost a baby at 21 weeks, the nurses took photos for her. They had a whole list of memorial things to do for the parents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 One of my friends volunteers for NILMDTS in her area. She has taken photos at scheduled deliveries because she has to arrange for childcare for her children. I'm sure it varies by area. She is in a very large metro area with a large volunteer pool. Calling would be the best idea. I'm so sorry. Thinking of you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Lulu* Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 (((medicmom))) I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caroline Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amira Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murphy101 Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 So sorry. I pray you don't need to use them either. Yes, you can call now. They are amazing for everyone I know who has used them. (((Hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slartibartfast Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 I'm so sorry... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrittanyM Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 I am so so sorry. When my son was stillborn my friend was a photographer with them and came and took photos so I didn't go through the calling. I would call now though so they have more warning. Those photos are my most cherished reminders of my son, so I hope you are able to have some as well! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OhanaBee Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 I'm so very sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted January 19, 2015 Share Posted January 19, 2015 Oh sweetie, I hope you don't need their services :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monstermama Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SageRebel Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 :grouphug: Prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I'm so very sorry. I would try to call, just to get to know someone in case you need her. I am hoping you won't need her. (((Hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I am very sorry! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GinaPagnato Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 :grouphug: So sorry... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Joyoustxmama Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 So very sorry and prayers you will not need their service. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elisabet1 Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I am very sorry!! (((hugs))) I am sure you can call them weeks in advance. I would definitely call them weeks in advance. And bring your own camera too when you have the baby. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elisabet1 Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 Can you get another opinion to see if there is anything else you can do? I know someone recently who was told it was hopeless. I told them to go to the children's hospital prenatal department and last I heard, they are still pregnant. I am unsure if this is something that can be helped. I am just so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I am so sorry. I pray you do not need this service. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I am so sorry. (((((Hugs))))) I hope you do not need their services, but, yes, I would encourage you to call and speak with them in advance. My dd had someone from NILMDTS come to the hospital when her 2nd baby boy was stillborn. I was one of the people in the room with her when the photographer arrived, and three years later I still thank G-d for the amazing young woman who came and took photos. I cannot even begin to describe what a comfort she was to each one of us in the room. She brought a hat and blanket, but we had both already........the teeny hat was actually sent to me by a wonderful woman on this board. I had been knitting the blanket and it was sadly just the right size. The photographer asked the baby's name, and her demeanor was just perfect: respectful, somber, aware, compassionate......I cannot say enough about her. If you have any questions, please feel free to pm me, or ask here, and I will check back. Thoughts and prayers are with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
applethyme Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomtoCandJ Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 Hugs and prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 Oh I'm so sorry. (((hugs))). I'll pray for you and baby. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mothersweets Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I had a stillbirth at 33 weeks and the nurses were so kind - they took several photographs of her for me. I treasure them and am so thankful that I have them to remember her by. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 My heart hurts for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hjffkj Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 Hugs!! My heart aches for you and your family in this uncertain time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 Praying for you. So, so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I am so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mominco Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 So sorry! Hugs and Prayers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechWife Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 :grouphug: - I'm so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I am so sorry. Praying that you won't need them. I believe you can call them ahead of time, but they are also accustomed to unexpected phone calls as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I am so sorry, and am praying for you and the baby. :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I am so sorry. Praying that you won't need them. I believe you can call them ahead of time, but they are also accustomed to unexpected phone calls as well. Yes......this is true. Without going into detail, the photographer who came for my grandson had been contacted by the perinatologist's nurse so she was aware that on a particular day, she might be needed. She was then contacted and she provided an estimated time of arrival. I remember it was blazing hot that day and it was June (I am sorry.......these are details), and she came to the hospital with her hair still wet from the shower. As I said earlier, she was amazing......she was 'there' but ''not there.' I think the word I am looking for is unobstrusive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alessandra Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 I am so sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmilyGF Posted January 20, 2015 Share Posted January 20, 2015 So sorry. We had NILMDTS come in June when our son was born with an almost-always-fatal genetic condition (he died that day). I called the coordinator two months beforehand to let her know my situation and then called her again the day I went into labor. It took the photographer many hours to get there. I think I am glad we had her come because it helped us to look at our son more closely. The photos turned out well. NILMDTS has a policy of generally photographing babies at 25 weeks and up, so you should call and discuss it with them if you expect your baby to be younger. They certainly make exceptions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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