MedicMom Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 I went to urgent care today and then got sent to the emergency room. I thought I was probably overtired and anemic. Nope, I'm 6 weeks 4 days. On top of everything else thats been going on with DH being injured and DS' needs. Also, I conceived my first two with fertility treatments, was assured I could never get pregnant naturally, AND I was on the pill to treat PCOS symptoms. Please someone just tell me it will be okay. Of course this will be a very loved baby. But right now I just want to cry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 (((MedicMom))) It will be OK. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momto10blessings Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Hugs!!! Congrats. Really, this baby will be a blessing. And it'll definitely be ok! Wishing you a healthy pregnancy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 That means you still have almost 34 more weeks to go. Lots can change for the better in 34 weeks. :) Congratulations. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Yes. It will be ok. ((Hug)) Congratulations. I can't wait for pictures in September. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MedicMom Posted November 24, 2014 Author Share Posted November 24, 2014 Thank you. I am due July 15, but I will deliver at about 36 weeks due to a uterine tear with the last baby. Did I mention that three weeks ago I finally got rid of the last of the baby stuff? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenn- Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Thank you. I am due July 15, but I will deliver at about 36 weeks due to a uterine tear with the last baby. Did I mention that three weeks ago I finally got rid of the last of the baby stuff? Well that's a sure fire sign you are going to get pregnant. I did the same thing and my surprise #4 kid showed up. Now all of his baby stuff will stay with me until menopause. It will be okay. It will take some adjusting and getting used to, but in the end, it will be okay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Oh my, so exciting! Congrats. :). And yes it will be ok. In a year you will be wondering how you could have lived with out this baby. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coffeegal Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Congratulations! And yes, it will be okay. Just take it one day at a time. Take care of yourself. Take care of your children. Take care of your husband. And remember to take care of yourself. :001_smile: Congratulations again! I love babies. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
school17777 Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Congratulations! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfgivas Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: wow, you must have been surprised!!! you can do this! :grouphug: ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: and congratulations. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: and best wishes. It will be ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TwoEdgedSword Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 It will all be good. Congratulations! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandylubug Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: it will be okay. I also conceived while faithfully taking birth control. Everything turned out okay! Congratulations! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Getting rid of the baby stuff means you are genuinely entitled to another baby shower... :lol: Congrats! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jewellsmommy Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Congratulations, and yes, it will be ok. ;) I have pcos and endometriosis. We conceived dd with the help of fertility treatment, and she was my only pregnancy despite going o'natural for many, many years. Now that I am content and over the whole the baby thing, dh and I joke that we are prime for a surprise baby. :lol: My doctor jokes that he is going to see me on the "I didn't know I was pregnant..." show. Who knows, I may be copying your post in a couple of years. Seriously, though, enjoy the ride. Find all the positives and focus on those. :001_smile: You'll feel calmer soon. edited Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 congratulations. from my personal experience babies never arrive at the ideal time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JessReplanted Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: It will all be o.k. And, it's o.k. to feel freaked out, upset, or however you are feeling. Our "super-duper-surprise" is about to turn one. It has not been an easy year, but she's amazing and I'm very thankful for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Congrats! I hope you feel better soon too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeganCupcake Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Congratulations and hugs. Last September, we discovered that our planned and wanted baby #3 was actually babies #3 and #4. I was upset, to put it mildly. :) Lots of tears, lots of anxiety, lots of changed plans. It took a little while to get used to the idea of *two babies* and to prepare for them, but it has turned out to be so wonderful--and crazy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 (((Hugs))) it will be ok 💙 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: It WILL be o.k. but you must take care of yourself. Do not feel selfish. You have to rest and do the best you can to just mentally walk away from the things you cannot do anything about. On a side note, I have a friend who's very stressed husband was in the middle of changing the diapers of their twin babies before he and his wife had to rush kids to school, the babies to the in-laws and both parents had to head off to work. She came in and announced to him that she had just taken a pregnancy test (positive). She was certain she was unexpectedly pregnant with the baby that wasn't supposed to be possible (since they were no longer doing fertility treatments). He passed out cold. :) But yes, things worked out for them, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HS Mom in NC Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Oh! My! Goodness! Go and have a good cry. Of course you're shocked and overwhelmed-anyone in your situation would be. Later you'll be thrilled and excited but it's hard to shift gears so quickly, so give yourself time to process one feeling at a time. My husband had a vasectomy after my life threatening pregnancy to both me and the baby. Even I had to sign the paperwork stating I fully understood that surgical sterilization done correctly has a failure rate and if I got pregnant in the future they were not liable. We didn't conceive afterward but we could've-other people do. Sometimes, things just don't fit the statistical norms. Knowing that doesn't make the shock less severe. Give yourself some time. And congratulations! It'll all be OK. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eagle Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: Things will be just fine. Congratulations! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reflections Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 I :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: It will be okay. I had a similar shock and reaction when I found out we were having Babyman. We had thought we were done with just Brotherman, and we to make some hard adjustments. Of course he's wonderful and we wouldn't trade him for anything...but yeah, definitely an adjustment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Huge hugs and also congratulations... It'll all be alright in the long run... Our bonus baby is the sweetest little person ever Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: What an incredible shock -- no wonder you are feeling like you want to cry! I'm sure you couldn't believe it when they told you that you were pregnant, and I'll bet the whole thing feels absolutely surreal right now. I want to congratulate you, but it may take a little while for that to mean much to you -- but I'm sure you'll feel happy about it soon, and I wish you an uneventful pregnancy and a happy, healthy baby. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: Luckily there are lots of different kinds of ok, so you'll be able to find one that suits. :) :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiwik Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 6 months and 4 days is very early on. But you may find this baby is exactly what you wanted deep down but would never have allowed yourself to do because you would have felt irresponsible. It will be fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomatHWTK Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Thank you. I am due July 15, but I will deliver at about 36 weeks due to a uterine tear with the last baby. Did I mention that three weeks ago I finally got rid of the last of the baby stuff? Oh, that's the best way to get pregnant. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
violamama Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: Give yourself time to adjust to that bit of news. Congratulations, and it will be okay. Take good care and go easy on yourself! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mumto2 Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 HUGS! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Congratulations, many hugs, and yes, things will work out. But you know, it is OK to cry and feel overwhelmed too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Hugs and congrats. And it will be ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarbecueMom Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 (((Hugs))) Yes, it will be okay! My 3rd is a post-V baby (long story, instead of "breaking" it, surgery actually "fixed" it, weird complication), and it took a long, long time for me to come to terms with it. I laughed for a long time because I'm too INTJ to cry over things like this. And if I'm honest I still have my days of guilt and disbelief and OMG I CAN'T DO THIS. I have chronic health problems (more testing next month for Celiac and Crohn's), DH has a permanent back injury, my oldest two are still quite young and needy. And for goodness sake the only reason I peed on a stick was to get rid of the last test before getting rid of the crib (and had already gotten rid of everything else). DS is 15 months now and so adorable, so funny, so bright, and so, so loved. Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 You will definitely be ok. There was a pretty good list of reasons for me not to have another baby and our little surprise just turned one and is trying to chew on my phone while I type this post. I can't imagine life without her. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MedicMom Posted November 24, 2014 Author Share Posted November 24, 2014 Thank you all so much. The idea of a baby isn't freaking me out as much as the idea of baby + DS's special needs + working full time to support us while DH deals with his injury and what that means long term for his career. I'm just pretty overwhelmed at the moment. I just keep telling myself I have a while to figure it all out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Lolly Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 With all of that going against the odds of this baby being conceived, he must have just been meant to be. When I found out about my last baby, I called my mother crying. She told me, quite calmly, that I didn't have to have it. That pretty much shut me up immediately and made me realize that I did want this child. He has been the best gift I ever received. (I don't really count the girls as gifts in the same sense. Getting them here was a lot of work!) Yes, it will be okay. It will be better than okay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Oh, that's the best way to get pregnant. :lol: This might be the real reason I still have my rocking chair! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I talk to the trees Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 I think crying is a perfectly reasonable response to your current situation! You go right ahead, and we'll all offer virtual hugs and chocolate, and of course...Congratulations!!! And yes, everything will be just fine! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 how wonderful...a good cry and a few freak out moments are perfectly understandable. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jrn Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 It will be wonderful but it might take a while. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Congratulations! Hopefully the tireds will pass soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El... Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Wow! I'm shocked for you! And my very best wishes for your sweet baby and your pregnancy. I think if I had to buy all the stuff again for a baby, I'd buy less. It would be sort of fun to gather the stuff based on what I know now... after I got over the shock and awe of it all. You have a lot going on, but what a nice surprise. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wapiti Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Yes it will be ok! Chalk me up as another PCOSer with a long history of treatments who has a surprise caboose. Oh I was so annoyed at the time - so much irony. I was pretty miserable physically and the next oldest sibling was 5 months. But, I had stopped-nursing-and-started-running-again at the same time, which apparently kicked the metabolism into proper gear. According to the early ultrasound, I somehow conceived the weekend that dh was staying with another ds at children's hospital. (Naturally, my ever-helpful mother said something to the effect that I must have finally "relaxed" :glare:. Right, I was so relaxed while my 5 y.o. ds was having surgery on his spinal cord.) I would never have guessed at the time, but as it turns out, my dd's entire personality can be summed up with "Surprise!!! I'm here!!! It's time to party!" :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 :grouphug: It will be okay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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