Susan in TN Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 If you have a teen daughter or son who is beginning to date for the first time, do you have any dating/relationship "ground rules" or advice that you give them? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 Not really. My only advice is to not be so strict that they feel like they have to hide a relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 Always Carry a cell phone when on a date or borrow (mine or a sibs) if yours is dead. Always carry enough cash to pay for whatever you are doing, even if your date is planning to pay. Free Ride Home - you can always call and ask for a ride home. Any time from any location for any reason at all. Phone Home if Plans Change - you end up going somewhere other than your original plans, call home and let the parent know, especially if it changes the time you will probably get home. These are the rules our older teens had when dating and we really didn't have any problems. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 The consequences of telling you something can never seem worse than the alternative. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 Young teen to mid teen: Your bf/gf is welcome on nearly any family event or at our home No closed bedroom doors - or other doors You are welcome to accept invites with bf/gf family as long as an adult is present, and I retain the right to verify If drama happens, please consider telling me so I can help coach you through it Don't let the drama play out on social media Dates with parents driving are allowed Older teen/young adult (who lives with me) Consider your sexual choices very, very carefully Use protection Be considerate. I do not ask about who, where and what time to be intrusive but because I deserve to sleep, not worry, and to anticipate the comings and goings of family members. I tell YOU where, when, and what time regarding my life. At this stage, you will not be able to have your bf/gf overnight or sleep with them in my home. Later, when you are older and committed, I will welcome you as a guest, adult couple. This may seem arbitrary. It may BE arbitrary, but it is my current rule. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 The consequences of telling you something can never seem worse than the alternative. :iagree: 1000000% Children should never be afraid to tell their parents something, even if Mom or Dad won't like it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 I've been playing it by ear. DD17 has her first real boyfriend. So far I'm pleased. He's a year younger than her. He lives a block over and has very involved parents. The kids see each other at school. They have four classes together, chamber choir, and play rehearsal. This is enough for my introverted daughter. They've rarely done anything outside of school since it started. In the summer they went to the pool, movies, or bowling with a group. They've never even asked to go out alone. There's a little kissing that goes on when they walk home from school. Thus far it all seems quite tame. She's only a few months younger than I was when I met her father, so I'm relieved that she seems much less serious than I was at her age. We've been leaving the decisions up to her and so far we haven't had to exercise our veto power. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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