Mandylubug Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 We've chosen to homeschool since 2011. We are committed to it for multiple reasons. During a conversation with a close family member, DH was instructed to TELL me to put the kids back in school and get back to work. I am shocked. For one, I am not a "little woman" needing to be put in my place. Secondly, it is a mutual decision of ours and thirdly: how RUDE! The conversation was braced around DH stating he had been working a bit of overtime to meet budget and hadn't had time to golf lately. I was in the room and it wasn't a complaint but a mere fact kind of comment... I know I shouldn't be shocked at the comment but I am. I have always felt we had a good deal of support from this person and never considered that they thought it was me alone wanting to homeschool and needing to be put in place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Geek Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 So what did your dh tell this person? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 Perhaps they were making a joke? (In poor taste?) That's pretty rude and more time on the golf course isn't something I would base an educational decision on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandylubug Posted July 29, 2014 Author Share Posted July 29, 2014 I heard Dh say "yeah, no. Well, I gotta go!" And he hung up the phone...so he got off phone and was really offended but didn't really tell the person he was offended. He just ended the conversation. And no it wasn't a joke either unfortunately. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 I would have been irritated about it, too, but your dh probably handled it the right way by saying no, and then ending the conversation. If the topic comes up again, I would expect your dh to be very firm with the person about the topic not being open for discussion. (I know you will be, if the person mentions it to you!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wintermom Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 I heard Dh say "yeah, no. Well, I gotta go!" And he hung up the phone...so he got off phone and was really offended but didn't really tell the person he was offended. He just ended the conversation. And no it wasn't a joke either unfortunately. I really like your dh's actions. He probably knows that a confrontation either isn't going to do any good, or this person was just having a really off day for some reason. Try not to waste too much time and emotion of one stupid comment. Family can sometimes do and say some really hurtful things, but it sounds like your dh is a very good guy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandylubug Posted July 29, 2014 Author Share Posted July 29, 2014 I really like your dh's actions. He probably knows that a confrontation either isn't going to do any good, or this person was just having a really off day for some reason. Try not to waste too much time and emotion of one stupid comment. Family can sometimes do and say some really hurtful things, but it sounds like your dh is a very good guy. He is a swell guy. I suppose the thought that someone would make assumptions as such hits an insecurity of mine. I feel guilty "working" so little when he works so hard for us but he has assured me time and again that he is 100 percent pleased with our arrangement and would of course support my decision if I chose to work but would prefer I not work and homeschool just as much as I. He is a great guy, though. He avoids confrontation with them because no matter what he ends up being the bad guy. My instinct is to come rushing out guns blazin' ;) he obviously keeps me anchored in sanity (most of the time) and I have held my tongue for 15 years. What's another day? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 :grouphug: Sounds like your dh knows when/how to pass the bean dip! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 Wow, rude! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlsdMama Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 So you could make him a hero cape today while he's gone right? ;) I find most people don't get that DH WANTS to support us and WANTS us to homeschool. He is the steadfast one, the calm, mild one. I'm a little more spontaneous so obviously the kook decision to do something quacky like homeschool is mine and he just goes along for the ride, right? LOL, just remind yourself that apparently these people don't know you all as intimately as they feel they do..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyS Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 We've chosen to homeschool since 2011. We are committed to it for multiple reasons. During a conversation with a close family member, DH was instructed to TELL me to put the kids back in school and get back to work. I am shocked. For one, I am not a "little woman" needing to be put in my place. Secondly, it is a mutual decision of ours and thirdly: how RUDE! The conversation was braced around DH stating he had been working a bit of overtime to meet budget and hadn't had time to golf lately. I was in the room and it wasn't a complaint but a mere fact kind of comment... I know I shouldn't be shocked at the comment but I am. I have always felt we had a good deal of support from this person and never considered that they thought it was me alone wanting to homeschool and needing to be put in place. Soooo....your kids are supposed to go to school and you are supposed to get a job....so your husband can GOLF? :smilielol5: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wintermom Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 Soooo....your kids are supposed to go to school and you are supposed to get a job....so your husband can GOLF? :smilielol5: No, so that her dh can golf with the relative. Maybe he has trouble finding a golfing partner? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyS Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 Maybe he has trouble finding a golfing partner? Probably has something to do with be an a-hole. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandylubug Posted July 29, 2014 Author Share Posted July 29, 2014 Y'all are hilarious! The comment was regarding me working so we aren't so tight budget wise and he isn't so tired on off days so he could golf..but even if he wasn't tired he would probably pass on golf. Lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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