Thanksgiving dinner is at my house every year with all the kiddoes who can make it here. I try to make it as easy as possible so we can enjoy the day with games and movies and not all day in the kitchen doing dishes.
DH is really fantastic and is standing there right beside me washing and cleaning up which is so helpful. Enlist your DH help in the clean up or use some festive paper plates and napkins and toss it away, saving your energy for the dishes and casseroles.
In your situation this is what I would do.
Make a list of must haves. THen pare that list done to what you can do ahead of time.
The potatoe recipe Ellie posted is fantastic. Make it whenever you have the energy between now and Thanksgiving day and freeze it. If you remember to defrost it on Wednesdasy, fine, but if not you can cook it from frozen. I choose a casserole dish that wil fit in my convection/toaster oven.
Gravy from a jar is just not good in my opinion, but maybe that works for you.If not there are make ahead gravy recipes online. I
Turkey breast is just as easy to cook as a whole turkey, but there is much less clean up afterwards. If you are a white meat family, consider that. Yes, turkey can be made ahead of time and reheated. Not perfect, but it works.
Maybe a roasting chicken will be fine for you.
Dressing. I doctor up stove top. Earlier in the week I fry up some sausage along with celery and onions. Thanksgiving day make up a box of stove top, add in your precooked items and pop it all in the oven for 45 mins or so.
Veggies. Choose oneor two you all love with the criteria that it is easy to cook. Maybe some frozen peas are fine, maybe you just want/need a can of corn. Whole green beans with some sliced almondsand a little bit of butter are perfect in my opinion. Easy and perfect. Cook some baby carrots in a small amount of butter. Add some brown sugar and a pinch of salt. Yum.
Sweet potatoes would not be missed by most of my family.
Homemade rolls are essential to me, but my kids think canned crescents are just fine. Or buy some from the store.
Dessert doens't have to be pie. There are not a lot of pie lovers in my household. Make something you can do ahead of time and freeze or buy a pie at the store and call it a day.Apple crisp or Better than Pumpkin pie dessert would be pretty easy and go well with turkey.
Cranberries are canned here as DH grew up on them. Easy.
Or go with some alternative. White Lasagna. Baked mac and Cheese and a ham is our Christmas dinner every year. Easy peasy and back to family time.
Pan fried Turkey cutlets, side salad, squash soup and bread would be fantastic.
Don't exhaust yourself over a meal that takes hours to cook and 20 minutes to eat. It's just not worth it.