Kim in Appalachia Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 My brother died from a brain tumor in 1979. He was 7, I was 9. It was such a long time ago, but I still miss him. His illness and death is one of the reasons I have 5 kids, and not a career (nothing against less kids or a career). I place a high value on relationships, and I always feel like our time together is too short. Anyway, I just needed a place to come share. I feel sad today, but there isn't time to be sad. I'm currently at violin, then my kids have orchestra and I have to go shopping. I want to sit home and just enjoy being. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 :grouphug: I hope you'll get some time to yourself this evening to reflect. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 Aww. Many hugs. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 My brother died from a brain tumor in 1979. He was 7, I was 9. It was such a long time ago, but I still miss him. His illness and death is one of the reasons I have 5 kids, and not a career (nothing against less kids or a career). I place a high value on relationships, and I always feel like our time together is too short. Anyway, I just needed a place to come share. I feel sad today, but there isn't time to be sad. I'm currently at violin, then my kids have orchestra and I have to go shopping. I want to sit home and just enjoy being. Aww. I'm sorry. I know how it hits you at the oddest times. My baby sister would have turned 50 this past year! Arrgh! I can't wrap my brain around that. Hard to even imagine them older than we remember them, isn't it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 I'm so sorry, Kim. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 I'm sorry. My dh lost his father in 1970 (he was only 32). He misses him terribly. He would have been 75 last month. The whole bad experience has made him a great father. He never neglects taking the time to enjoy the simple moments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Desert Rat Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: I can't even imagine life without my little brother. Sending you peace today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hoggirl Posted February 12, 2013 Share Posted February 12, 2013 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kari C in SC Posted February 12, 2013 Share Posted February 12, 2013 I'm sorry. My kids are still struggling tremendously with losing their brother almost 3 years ago. I know there are no words that help. Just know you are not alone. I'm praying for comfort and peace for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted February 12, 2013 Author Share Posted February 12, 2013 Aww. I'm sorry. I know how it hits you at the oddest times. My baby sister would have turned 50 this past year! Arrgh! I can't wrap my brain around that. Hard to even imagine them older than we remember them, isn't it? Yes, it really is. My brother was blond (my mom had a brunette, blond, and red-head), with blue eyes, but looked like my mom. Mostly I picture him as that 7 year old boy, but I can also picture what he would look like now, hair starting to turn dark, his eyes starting to droop a bit (the way they do in my mom's family). It can hit hard sometimes, and today seems to be one of those times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted February 12, 2013 Author Share Posted February 12, 2013 I'm sorry. My kids are still struggling tremendously with losing their brother almost 3 years ago. I know there are no words that help. Just know you are not alone. I'm praying for comfort and peace for you. I was actually thinking of you today. I still remember so clearly when that happened; I cried for you and for your family, and I thought how hard that pain is. Sometimes, when I meet people who have somehow never experienced that kind of pain, I am shocked. Shocked because I know they can't understand. I didn't call my mom today, because it felt like it would be so hard. And :grouphug: to you. As hard as it is to lose a sibling, I can't even begin to fathom what it's like to lose a child. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pod's mum Posted February 12, 2013 Share Posted February 12, 2013 I hope you have a chance to quietly 'spend time' with your brother on his birthday today Kim. Anniversaries are tough. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Kari C in SC Posted February 12, 2013 Share Posted February 12, 2013 I was actually thinking of you today. I still remember so clearly when that happened; I cried for you and for your family, and I thought how hard that pain is. Sometimes, when I meet people who have somehow never experienced that kind of pain, I am shocked. Shocked because I know they can't understand. I didn't call my mom today, because it felt like it would be so hard. And :grouphug: to you. As hard as it is to lose a sibling, I can't even begin to fathom what it's like to lose a child. I believe siblings are sometimes forgotten as far as grief. They are the ones that not only have lost somebody they love, but they are the ones that truly see how broken their parents are day in and day out. Others are kind and well meaning, but they are not there the way the other children are. It is a very tough burden for the siblings left behind. I try so very hard to not make our lives only about the child we have lost, but there have been times where I have not succeeded. It is the nature of this devastation, I guess. I wish I could do more for my kids, but in all honesty I just don't believe there is anything I can other than love them. Lots of hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PollyOR Posted February 12, 2013 Share Posted February 12, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted February 12, 2013 Share Posted February 12, 2013 I'm so sorry, Kim. It's very hard to grieve when life keeps humming all around you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*LC Posted February 12, 2013 Share Posted February 12, 2013 I believe siblings are sometimes forgotten as far as grief. They are the ones that not only have lost somebody they love, but they are the ones that truly see how broken their parents are day in and day out. ... It is a very tough burden for the siblings left behind. I try so very hard to not make our lives only about the child we have lost, but there have been times where I have not succeeded. It is the nature of this devastation, I guess. I wish I could do more for my kids, but in all honesty I just don't believe there is anything I can other than love them. Lots of hugs. I agree with Kari, that siblings are often forgotten in grief. Kari, hugs to you and your kids. To the OP, Hugs to you too,as I'm sorry about your brother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted February 12, 2013 Share Posted February 12, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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